April 8, 2018

Maureen Dowd has "noticed a weird pattern, in fiction and life, about sexual encounters..."

"Women decide they’re not attracted to a guy they’re nestling with. Limerence is not in the cards. But they go ahead and have sex anyhow."

Yeah, we all have.* And we all have our ideas about it. It's not that difficult to understand. The question is whether Maureen Dowd has found something new in the explanation or just an especially interesting way to talk about it.

Not really, she just found a woman she can interview about it:
I call Joanna Coles, the chief content officer of Hearst magazines and the former editrix of Cosmopolitan and Marie Claire. The 55-year-old Brit has a new book called “Love Rules,” a guide to avoiding the digital sand traps in relationships....

“There’s a new sense in which young women feel that they are now in competition with porn, and if they don’t put out, it’s easy for the guy to go home, log in to Pornhub and get what he needs there,” Coles says. “They’re sublimating their own needs to try and please the guy. Then they realize their needs weren’t being met at all.

“Porn sex is designed to get men off in six to eight minutes. Many men don’t know how to interpret female behavior in bed unless it replicates a porno film.”
Take it from a 55-year-old Brit with a book to sell.

By the way, do you find "editrix" jaunty and amusing, annoying and groan-worthy, or evidence that Dowd isn't doing feminism right?

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* I'm writing this footnote as I proofread the published post: We all have noticed. That's what I mean. Not, we all have gone ahead and had sex anyhow. I'm not accidentally and casually confessing to Cat-Personing.

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Inga...Allie Oop said...
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Inga...Allie Oop said...

“This whole subthread started because Mockturtle called out B.A.G. for saying something unkind sexually about MoDo. I figured that “she who is without sin should cast the first stone.”

To me, the fascinating thing is that you can’t see it.”

Not only DID I see it, I agreed with Mockturtle wholeheartedly. What is fascinating to me is that you seem think she committed some mortal sin.

mockturtle said...

This whole subthread started because Mockturtle called out B.A.G. for saying something unkind sexually about MoDo. I figured that “she who is without sin should cast the first stone.”

TTinV: As I remarked to B.A.G., I was being facetious, not calling him out at all. But you make a good point about Althouse readership and penis size. Maybe a POLL is in order! I'll start: Mine is <1cm. There, now don't you feel better?

Inga...Allie Oop said...

Anyone caught mocking the PENIS will be damned to an eternity of being called a feminist!

DO NOT MOCK THE PENIS!

chickelit said...

Ughs all around

tim in vermont said...

Wow you ladies are extremely nasty.

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