An article by Jared Lederman, a senior at Cornell, in The Free Press.
Lots of links to the University's sex guides, such as "Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist"."___ Being completely naked with a partner with the lights on
___ Having a partner be completely naked with the lights on
___ Direct eye contact
___ Being looked at directly, overall, when I am naked
___ Grooming or toileting in front of a partner
___ Having a partner groom/use the toilet in front of me
___ Having my genitals looked at directly
___ Having a partner talk about my body
___ Talking about a partner's body
___ Having some or all of a disability, identity or difference I have be specifically made
part of sex, sexualized or objectified
___ Having some or all of a disability, identity or difference a partner has be specifically
made part of sex, sexualized or objectified
___ Having some or all kinds of sex during a menstrual period
___ Seeing or being exposed to other kinds of body fluids (like sweat or urine)
Is that sex positivity? I think not. I think that's asking you to soberly contemplate what might happen and to fix in your mind, in advance, where your boundaries are. There's no way this list is designed to make you think I need to throw myself out there and experience all this. It's more: This could happen and it's not going to happen to me (not without real love).
@the.free.press How does Cornell teach its students about sex? Not the way you’d expect. Read Cornell student Jared Lederman’s full essay in our app or at TheFP.com.
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I'm really glad I'm not young in 2026.
Why don't these universities, you know, just teach? Like so much of the crap these schools engage in, it is activist driven nonsense that has nothing to do with creating well educated young people.
“___ Having some or all of a disability, identity or difference a partner has be specifically made part of sex, sexualized or objectified.”
Someone at Cornell has made a deep dive into certain porn genres.
My wife and I did most of that this morning as we prepared for the day. She’s still drying her hair. No ketamine involved.
…those are some limber moves for an old lady to give Cornell the benefit of the doubt. I don’t discount the ‘they’re liberal fuck ups’ theory one Ithacate…
"Why don't these universities, you know, just teach?"
I agree. Most students starting at the university are legally adults and it's not the univeristy's role to monitor or modify a student's behavior outside of the classroom. If a student is accused of a crime off campus, it's up to the Police and the Courts to determine if a crime has been commited and what the punishment should be.
ChrisC, what you are asking for is beyond the current curriculum and educating what have to be put in place of indoctrination.
• Planned Parenthood Generation Action Cornell (PPGA): The student organization has hosted fundraisers and raffles that included sex toys to support reproductive health causes (such as an event in December 2021). (Cornell Daily Sun)
• Campus-Sponsored Events: Official or residential programming on campus—such as "Sex Toys 101" hosted by Cornell Residential & New Student Programs and sex-positive educational events like "Sex in the Dark" at Appel Commons (which featured adult toy raffles)—have incorporated sex toys into sex education and wellness activities. (Cornell University)
• Cornell Health: The university's official health service has also distributed and provided educational materials, guides, and inventories that discuss or reference sex toys as part of broader sexual health and pleasure education. (The Free Press)
would
No class on group sex at Creighton University.
Cornell and Creighton were both founded by men who got rich during the telegraph boom. The Cornell guy, however, didn’t give his money to the Society of Jesus.
“[Ezra Cornell] began construction of a palatial Ithaca mansion, Llenroc, whose name was Cornell spelled in reverse, to replace his farmhouse, but died before it was completed. Llenroc was maintained by Cornell's heirs for several decades until being sold to Cornell University's chapter of the Delta Phi fraternity, which occupies it to this day….”
Wondering if group sex happens at Delta Phi.
I did not know Cornell is a land grant university. I thought that was limited to the great schools like Wisconsin and Nebraska.
"Direct eye contact"
Ohhhh no, not that. Especially after marriage.
“ My wife and I did most of that this morning ”
Careful, they put in a few ringers to see if everyone was paying attention.
"Is that sex positivity? I think not. I think that's asking you to soberly contemplate what might happen and to fix in your mind, in advance, where your boundaries are. There's no way this list is designed to make you think I need to throw myself out there and experience all this. It's more: This could happen and it's not going to happen to me (not without real love)."
It's certainly not "positivity." It's both a permission structure (read on in the "list") and a roadmap to absolute misery.
If you're not doing these things you are left out. If you are doing these things you need to very very careful every step of the way to make sure nobody's touching anyone else's "boundaries."
And if you do cross a "boundary" then you are either liberated or you've been raped.
…some schools lament their implied paternal role while simultaneously savoring the control and opportunity for manipulation…
You mean to tell me there are people out there who don't shave/trim/remove their partner's pubic hair??!!
I agree with Amexpat, but it seems Universities were given the authority to police themselves. That has been a problem for decades, but it does get constantly worse.
“ Careful, they put in a few ringers to see if everyone was paying attention.”
And I’m sure Althouse curated the list for the same reason.
"There's no way this list is designed to make you think I need to throw myself out there and experience all this. It's more: This could happen and it's not going to happen to me (not without real love)."
Back to ze drawing board.
Remember that it’s just “one section of one list” implying much more of the same banal crap.
Did they ever advise girls against consenting to drunken gang bangs?
…why the different font for the list? If it’s supposed to be an image of the list available to students the only reason for the underline before each item is for a check mark. They could have used bullet points but…
Planned Parenthood Generation Action? All's fair in lust and abortion. LOL
Whats wrong with these people?
Cornell is a grooming agent for RAATs and a friend of Planned Parenthood umbrella corporation. Wicked.
As bad as yesterday was for both Texas and Texas A&M football teams, their student fan base can still be proud not to be going to Cornell. Same for Begley’s Nebraska.
If you visit the dorm room of a member of the opposite sex, remember to prop the door open and keep three feet on the floor at all times.
They should penetrate the back... black hole... whore h/t NAACP at the intersection of racism and sexism in the transition of sex and gender. That's not rape-rape. Make Whoopi! LOL
Planned Copulationhood is PC. Just do it! LOL
At Michigan Tech in the 60s -- boy/girl ratio ~= 14 -- we could only dream of such things.
About 90% of the people in college right now should not be in college.
They should be having children, or learning how to build a boat, or install copper wire in a house.
Our University system is almost completely worthless right now. Modern college is a scam supporting way too many useless professors and administrators.
My daughter at Grove City College: If you have a member of the opposite sex in your dorm room, the door must be propped open with a shoe. College rule.
Cornell and progs generally want to have it both ways. Anything goes except it doesn't. Men and women are totally equal, but here are all the restraints men need to observe. Threesomes with strangers are fine, but if a woman has regrets, the men are at fault. It's almost as if sexual liberation and feminism in general left progs with a bad conscience, as they observe the harm they did.
Hannah Arendt’s phrase “the banality of evil” comes to mind. Sex and intimacy between a man and a woman, intended to be exclusive, procreative, unitive, has been turned into a bureaucrat’s wet dream.
After all that - become an on-line influencer and cry rape.
Then bash traditional family values and spray paint the tesla dealership. right in the eye.
Glad I went to a place that essentially ignored undergrads.
The 90% don't go to Cornell
Vive la sexual revolution! #NoJudgment #NoLabels
All's fair in lust and abortion? Maybe, baby, maybe not.
I'm not following the case. The details I've heard are more depressing than prurient. I get the vague sense that both the girl and the guys she was with behaved badly and, in the case of some of the guys, perhaps their bad behavior was criminal. I don't condone rape, but there's something wrong about ruining some adolescent's life because he got caught up in a stupid event. Whatever comes out of this case will not be justice.
#GenderFluids with a side of green/naive eggs and ham/gay repartee. 😆
Social justice anywhere is injustice everywhere.
Leave it to Cornell to turn sex into a list of checklists.
Allegedly - there are texts sent by "Jane Doe" that express her opinion that is was just sex and they should feel no shame.
I cannot verify.
Was it rape-rape, rape, or regret? Is she registered with Planned Parenthood? Receiving AZT or another AIDS therapeutic? Back... Black Holes... Whores h/t NAACP Matter.
I doubt that the quoted list is representative of the types of sexual activity that is valorized by those who thrust themselves to the forefront of the quest for the orgasm that demonstrates your transcendence of mere bourgeois breeding.
Letisha James (D) soviet fraud and hack - actually said that she didn't have all the information.... prior to her condemning the "Rape gang of 7".
Look what we’ve/they’ve done to cheapen what should be the most beautiful… meaningful act of showing deep devotion and unselfish caring between a man and a woman.
Leland wins.
i like that the stocklist allows you to say that:
it is WRONG for a partner to touch me affectionately, And ALSO SAY:
it is prefectly FINE for ME to touch a partner affectionately.
and ALSO SAY!
it is WRONG for a partner to touch me sexually, And ALSO SAY:
it is prefectly FINE for ME to touch a partner sexually.
i'd pay 2 dollars to see the gender break down on answers.
What exactly is Feminist Porn? Does it involve scolding?
William--read the original D.A.'s letter and report.
Sexual Harassment and You - Saturday Night Live
Back in the 1960s there was debate at the University of Wisconsin about whether it could or should act In Loco Parentis. There were those who cast it as In Loco Gestapo.
Now there is debate in some circles whether parents could or should act In Loco Parentis.
This is a strange time, where people are so quick to judge, while at the same time nobody holds themselves accountable. There is no shame, no real apologies, though they are constantly demanded. People are fired and cancelled, but never self-reflective. It's like a society of defiant toddlers.
Colleges, especially elite universities, long ago abandoned promoting an open dialogue and free expression except as marketing slogans.
Even so, the colleges found that marketing open underage drinking and illicit drug use and free unconventional sex, that is the "college experience" gets more paying students.
It's not new. Percy Marks exposed college debauchery in his 1924 novel, 'The Plastic Age', the film of which helped make Clara Bow the "IT" girl.
When students take these college orientation sex lessons to heart, they learn that the old moral condemnation is still out there among the social circles. After all, for college women, it's always been a popularity reputation contest on campus.
"n the 1930s, a sociologist gave the competitive system a name: the dating and rating complex. His study of a college campus revealed that the system was based on notions of popularity. To be popular, men needed outward, material signs: an automobile, the right clothing, and money. Women's popularity depended on building and maintaining a reputation for popularity. They had to be seen with many popular men in the right places, indignantly turn down requests for dates made at the "last minute," which could be weeks in advance, and cultivate the impression that they were greatly in demand "
--From Front Porch to Back Seat: A History of the Date, Beth Bailey, 2004, Magazine of History, Vol. 18, No. 4
But the competitors also engage in reputation destruction for a girl whose adventurism becomes too public
Back in the late 1980s one of our young admins complained that her father insisted on meeting the guys who picked her up for dates — and meeting them in his den, where his gun case was and his shooting trophies were displayed.
I read that today's young people are having much less sex than previous generations. Probably because they took all the fun out. With all the womansplaining, it sounds like another self-help fad. Just get a Thigh Master or a Shake Weight.
Funny: The spell check didn't like "womansplaining" either. It insisted on "mansplaining".
jim said...
The 90% don't go to Cornell
LOL
The elite think a lot of themselves.
Most of the people at Cornell are retards that should be making sandwiches or fixing HVAC.
We have built an aristocracy of DEI agents and HR managers that are worse than useless and they send their kids to bullshit finishing schools like Cornell.
The left need a story.
They always need a story they can use to bash Trump.
So. Soviet.
I don't know what is going to happen here, but this is "crisis" #2 for Cornell President Michael Kotlikoff. He and his brother Laurence, who used to get more of the headlines, are quality people and I doubt Michael has gone to the demoniac side.
Was it rape-rape or regret-rape or revenge-rape? Men do the first in real time; women create the other two in their memories and emotions and talk about it all.
The group of people who pay attention to popularity, being in demand, student government, and school sports celebrity is so foreign to me. It's like that whole group is a different species and in high school and college for a whole different reason. I didn't know them, think about them, or desire anything about that world. I was in a completely separate universe that never intersected with them. I would occasionally date a girl from that universe, but it was always short-lived and strange, like meeting aliens.
Compare and contrast with the University of Tehran, Lomonosov Moscow State University, or Tsinghua University.
The smart kids focus on education. Culturally this is usually folks from places like Japan and China.
The screen time - sex and drug American Hollywood generation focus on sex, drinking and popularity contests. Add in leftism and the kids are focusing on Grievance theater.
“ It's a long series of lists and you're supposed to react to each one.”
You have to remember that sex is like math. Reading about it is not the same as doing it.
"Most of the people at Cornell are retards that should be making sandwiches or fixing HVAC."
If you are a "retard" you should not be fixing HVAC.
This is a big piece of the puzzle, I hadn’t even considered.
“I did not know Cornell is a land grant university. I thought that was limited to the great schools like Wisconsin and Nebraska.”
Huh?
If a state has a vet school, they are usually the land grant school in the state. Cornell has a vet school. They are weird though since almost all of the other land grant schools are public. Cornell is private.
There is only one land grant school in each state. Except what look like Indian tribes, have them, on occasion. Growing up west of you, in CO, I assumed that the land grant school was the one with State in its name (Colorado State). Wrong. Nebraska can be your land grant school. In AZ, I had always assumed it was ASU. Nope. U of A. Here in NV, it appears to be UNR, which makes some sense, since UNLV didn’t exist back then. But they are kinda the same school, with two campuses.
Grew up around a bunch of Cornell grads, transplants to CO. Most were grads in Hotel and Restaurant management, but at least one was an engineer. One was the Arby’s king, with hundreds of franchises. Another ran food service for Martin Marietta. It was great - he would bring 50 gallon pots of freeze dried chili to our Boy Scout campus. He also designed the main restaurants at Winter Park and Copper Mountain ski areas. Got lifetime season passes for the family, and amazingly, 60 years later, the WP passes are still good.
Maybe a decade ago, daughter did her second physics REU at Cornell. She spent the summer playing with one of their particles accelerators. Great time, but wasn’t interested in staying back east. Or really in physics.
“ rylinski said...
Compare and contrast with the University of Tehran”
I assume that in the University of Tehran they have the guys rape random women and then stone tbem to death.
It's always been a thing where college seniors delude themselves into thinking that, because they went through the full education experience, they are now the experts and know everything that they need to know. (mostly because they're in a position of being at the top of the student body food chain.) What they don't realize is that they've only reached the end of college education. After you graduate is when you really start to learn about the realities of modern life. And as they say: The more you know, the more you know just much you don't know. And as they also say: "Every generation thinks that they invented sex." (College students doubly so.)
@William (among others upthread), then I think you SHOULD get acquainted with the details of the case.
Would it surprise you to learn that of the seven …
Three did not have any sort of penetrative sex with Jane Doe?
That of those three, two claim to not even have entered the room where the sex acts were taking place. But have no fesr, Letitia James will figure something out.
That the third merely kissed her?
A fourth received oral sex. As long as women have.these things called “teeth” I have a hard time accepting the concept of non-consensual fellatio.
Three of the seven did have coitus with Jane Doe. One of them — and only one — hit her hard enough to leave a bruise. As this individual has the same skin color as Letitia James, look for him to be offered a plea deal.
And do not forget that the police who interviewed Jane Doe at the time, based on her own testimony under oath, determined that the sex was consensual.
'...There is only one land grant school in each state....'
There are 106 land-grant universities in the United States.
“I did not know Cornell is a land grant university."
Several of the schools within Cornell are part of the SUNY system--state schools with lower in-state tuition for NYS residents. That includes the Vet school and ILR (Industrial and Labor Relations).
“ insisted on meeting the guys who picked her up for dates — and meeting them in his den, where his gun case was and his shooting trophies were displayed.”
When the guy comes to pick up your daughter, you walk in from the kitchen door with a shovel. And complain how hard it was to carry her last boyfriend.
"I assume that in the University of Tehran they have the guys rape random women and then stone tbem to death."
Planned Benefitshood. Rape, abort, then silently sequester the "burden" of evidence, state, mind. Occupied Iran is infamous for enjoying a forward-looking civilization infested with RAAT culture .
I'm pretty sure they lifted their "stocklist" from the categories tab on Pornhub.
Aggie said, "What exactly is Feminist Porn? Does it involve scolding?"
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It's called "A Handmaid's Tale". Also, yes.
Social liberal club is a Learing opportunity. #NoJudgment #NoLabels #LOL
Seeing or being exposed to other kinds of body fluids (like sweat or urine)
What sort of pathetic loser equates seeing sweat (which you will regularly see if your'e a functional human being) with seeing urine (which you should only see someone else's if you're a medical professional"?
"Was it rape-rape or regret-rape or revenge-rape? "
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Seems unlikely a woman would angle to return for more.
However, she may be getting raped by her lawyer.
Need a Venn diagram between this and the UVA rape hoax.
It's interesting that you, Prof Althouse, an older female, find that list "daunting".
I, an older male, find it a lot of fun
So Cornell teaches everyone to whore around and then are shocked when they all whore around and someone complains???
The first rule of social liberal club, is you don't bray about social liberal club. A little privacy, please.
All those layers of potential non-consent. “I told him to not look me in the eye! And he did.”
If you got a non-consensual sex experience, and that’s not what you paid for, can you sue the university that provided this unhappy experience to you?
In the future, Cornell will be providing sex robots.
I look at the list and ponder the administrative dollars that went into it.
The intro for a lengthy and thorough article in The Daily Wire:
“A slew of text messages from the Cornell accuser have now been released, and they erase all doubt about what happened: This woman, according to her own contemporaneous statements, consented to deviant sexual activity in a frat house, and after the fact, she firmly believed that no crime had been committed. She even stated that “everyone needs to grow up ’cause sexuality and sex … is changing,” meaning that she saw her behavior as enlightened — as a feminist expression of her own freedom and empowerment. Then, not long afterwards, she began experiencing shame and humiliation when the entire campus found out about what she did. She stated her reputation was “destroyed” and accused a fraternity member of telling everyone what she had done.
The breaking point came when the fraternity disinvited her from their big Halloween party. This was the single most important social event of the semester, and they made it very clear they didn’t want her to attend. And suddenly, hearing this, she decided that she had been assaulted, retroactively withdrawing her consent long after the fact. That was the moment she decided that she would go scorched-earth: the second she was barred from a party at the very fraternity house where she was supposedly abused. Think about that for a second. She was bitterly disappointed that she couldn’t return to the place where she was supposedly subjected to a brutal gang rape. The very notion is farcical, of course. But she understood that, at a Left-wing, female-dominated campus like Cornell, she could immediately regain the moral high ground if she lied about what she had done, even if her story made absolutely no sense. And she was right.”
And there you have it. It was all fun until it became clear that (1) her behavior embarrassed her sorority, (2) the story of what she had done had the gotten out and so embarrassed the fraternity that she was specifically barred from attending the next event, and (3) her disk via toon brought home to her that that her own reputation on campus was destroyed.
@Big Mike, maybe this is like a chef's kiss for the way that modern Feminism shapes young women, in the realm of building up the false confidence, the affirmations of Grrrl-Boss mystique, the beliefs that do not withstand the test of reality.
So now, she files suit, thinking this will somehow head off the social consequences. This is a very hard lesson indeed, an object lesson for the university environment. And I think it will shape up into a miserable experience for her, she'll wish she'd never done it is my guess. I hope she can move on from it.
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