"I was in my kitchen and he said something, and the minute he said it, I knew what he’d just said. And every window and door closed. And that was it… He knows what it is; I know what it is."

Said Sandra Lee, to US Magazine, quoted in "Andrew Cuomo uttered mystery remark to ex Sandra Lee that ended relationship, famous chef reveals" (NY Post).

This was a 10-year relationship, but he said something wrong. Sure, there were other problems, but there was that one thing he said that the minute he said it, she knew that was it —  every window and door closed.

Ever say something like that? You might have continued in the relationship, working out your difficulties, but then you went and said one thing. What was the thing? Do you remember the thing or have you shut every window and door on it? And is there one thing — never yet said — that if it were said, it would shut every window and door to your heart, even if it were said by the most dearly loved person in your life?

You know, it's pure chance that Andrew Cuomo came up in 2 posts this morning. Remember when he was idolized, when famous people called themselves Cuomosexuals, and when some members of the party that's supposedly "saving democracy" had the idea that the Covid emergency created a way to oust Trump from the presidency and install Cuomo?

Then, a year later, in 2021, we got things like "The ‘Cuomosexual’ phenomenon was disgraceful. We’re politicians’ bosses, not their fans" (by Alyssa Rosenberg in WaPo). And look at us today —  not me, but maybe you — fans of Trump/Kamala. 

At least some participants in the phenomenon, like writer Rebecca Fishbein, recognized that their affection for Cuomo was a kind of pandemic-induced Stockholm syndrome.

“I catch myself touching my hair (not my face!) when he talks about an increase in testing capacity. I swooned when he told a reporter he had his own workout routine.” she wrote last March. “You may think my brain is poisoned. You are probably correct.”...

Touching your hair and not your face — was that some kind of test of sexuality 3 years ago?! Or was that just about not catching Covid?

Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg became the object of an unseemly cult of personality late in her Supreme Court tenure.... Valuing Ginsburg’s principles as much as her person, her jurisprudence as much as her jabot, ought to mean respecting her enough to argue with that latter choice, especially. But the logic of fandom precludes holding its objects morally accountable even for their worst mistakes.

Yes. Unfortunately, we are idiots.