For two days we have defined our concepts of happiness and unhappiness.Yikes. Would it surprise you to learn that the female/male at these sessions ratio is 3 to 1?
We have paired off for exercises like the cheesy New Age practice of looking in a mirror and answering "What do I see?"...
It is two weeks since our third day on learning how to bring abundance into our lives...
We look at three types of happiness; joy, pleasure and satisfaction....
On day four, people shared their extraordinary abundance stories....
April 13, 2008
"You will never be happy as long as you are afraid of your sadness."
Happiness training.
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Yes, Ann I do find that a bit surprising.
I would have guessed about 6:1.
I can't believe there's a guy there at all, lol. The girlfriend must have made them attend.
I'm liking those odds!
Perhaps "you will never be secular liberals as long as you are bitter."
Men don't blame themselves when they're unhappy.
Sounds like attending those meetings would be a good way for guys and lesbians to meet women. If you meet the right person, that can make you happy.
Like a cheery version of Fight Club (in the beginning where Ed Norton keeps going to support groups).
Was that a Kinky Friedman song? I'm looking for a woman with low self-esteem...
Ill get it right this time.
Spending the equivalent of $690 on these sessions might tend to force the result for many, much like those who pay out of their own pocket (say for a quit-smoking course or pill). Versus, all of Oprah's staff who take the happiness course on her dime and time. They will of course be as happy as she tells them to be.
Then there are those who are addicted to this type of pocketbook masochism, and will keep coming back for more. Theres a great moveie scene between Bill Murray, Steve Martin and a dentist drill....
Cognitive behavior group therapy apparently works. I'll bet the female/male ratio changes when Holden does his corporate sessions.
[cynic type="selfish"]
Nah, 3:1 sounds about right. If it dropped to 5:2, there'd be too much competition for the cute ones to be worthwhile; at 7:2, the opportunities get too good to miss.
These are low-happiness women who are specifically being told not to blame others for their unhappiness. So they're both easier to pick up than happy ones to pick up and being inoculated against blaming you if they're unhappy in the relationship.
Plus, if it works, they'll be getting happier at the same time they're starting with you. That will subconsciously reinforce their desire to be with you and make them more pleasant to be around.
[/cynic]
On any given day I am happy and unhappy, even ecstatic and miserable; and so are most others.
There is no "being happy," there are just moments of happiness, which come and go.
What I've just said is obvious, not brilliant. So why do so many not see it, and make themselves more unhappy than would otherwise be the case, by chasing happiness?
Meh. Happiness is easy.
Try being useful some time.
Happiness comes from within- accepting who you are inside and loving yourself first. A lot of people took for worldly "things" to satisfy them. They look for money, cars, social acceptance to prove that they are happy or successful- they take joy and pleasure in those things. Yet, at the end of the day, most are still unhappy. I believe a happy person loves him/herself and radiates that joy into his/her life. It is enjoying every moment and realizing the greatness of each new day.
Holly,
Are you sure that's not mania?
I had a dream last night I was back home sitting on the sofa, except my first girlfriend was straddling me (wonderfully) and my much-despised father was sitting right next to us, oblivious to it all as he watched television separated by a little pile of throw pillows.
It was weird.
I was happy.
The point is, Holly P just might be onto something, there.
I think I get your point, Bissage. Enjoying each present moment is an action which we can choose to take or to not take - sort of like choosing to put pillows of comfort, support, and boundary between ourselves and those elements in our lives that suck.
And I realize that we can also give gifts to others that lead to happiness if we choose to seize the moments when they present themselves. For example, at the beginning of what turned out to be a long painful divorce, my former mother-in-law called me just to tell me "thank you for having been a loving caring husband to [her daughter] for the last 25 years and for trying to make her happy."
What a gift that call was and it continues to give me a sense of happiness every time I choose to remember it.
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