That's a favorite tag of mine and I've even blogged about the tag.
In 2014, I said: "I feel that I've found the psychic key to my favorite tag: 'unsaid things.'... Did you know that before I started blogging I believed myself to be a person without political opinions? I used to read the New York Times every day and feel that I had no opinion. It was such a distinctive feeling — no opinion was my opinion — that for a while, to counteract it, I challenged myself, upon reading at least one article a day, to arrive at an opinion. What do I think of that? In blogging, early on, I had to tell myself to stop before moving to the next item and write one more sentence. You have to say something about that. I had to make it a discipline: To write one more thing...."
And in another 2014 post, I wrote: "Unsaid things is one of my favorite topics, and things that fall into this category are things that, aptly enough, most people would leave unsaid. There's a convention in human society not to outline the secret motives of others. As long as someone hasn't actually said something, you ought not to act as though you know what that thing is. But I'm here to transgress on that convention. I think I can and should do it...." (7 reasons why are said at the link but I will leave them unrepeated here.)So naturally, I'm powerfully drawn to this article by Ariana Eunjung Cha in The Washington Post: "The 'Gen Z stare' — and the decline of saying things out loud/We’re speaking fewer words every year. Scientists worry what that’s doing to our brains" (gift link).
You know, Phaedrus, that is the strange thing about writing, which makes it truly correspond to painting. The painter’s products stand before us as though they were alive. But if you question them, they maintain a most majestic silence. It is the same with written words. They seem to talk to you as though they were intelligent, but if you ask them anything about what they say from a desire to be instructed they go on telling just the same thing forever.
That's the ultimate in unsaid things: a book.

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After an Omaha Public Power District Board meeting, I tried to engage in a merits debate with Creighton undergrads about CAGW and the need to close OPPD's North Omaha coal-fired power plant. Their response was, "I won't engage."
They certainly got that from their Leftist professor.
So, college students who are supposed to be living in the world of ideas won't debate. They have their strongly held opinions and won't change them.
For me, a big part of college was about debate and exploring new ideas. That's not the case today. Indoctrination is the game.
One of the most annoying things at work since 2022 is people are addicting to texting aka IMs. I'm known as "odd old guy" at work because I'm constantly calling people up and demanding to talk.
The youngsters would rather spend 5 minutes texting about a subject than have a 1 minute phone call.
My family has always been champions of not saying things. After my brief youthful first marriage, though, my parents prevailed on me to go to therapy (CBT, thank goodness, though I don't know if they researched the therapist's philosophy of treatment first or just got lucky), and I became the family scold, more or less, insisting on talking about all the things we'd always left unsaid.
I still do it, and it still makes my mother uncomfortable. I have at least toned down both my language choices and my volume.
..college students who are supposed to be living in the world of ideas won't debate. They have their strongly held opinions and won't change them..
You cannot reason someone out of something he or she was not reasoned into.
Think i'm kidding?
try to reason a tiktoker out of "Lindsay didn't do it!"
try to reason rcola out of "The JOOZE!! THE JOOZE!! THE JOOZE!"
BTW, a lot of IM programs are slow - our is. So, you wait there while the computer screen says "So and so is typing" - its like torture. That's probably why young people pause, they're used to slowly, very slowly, expressing their thoughts. Or waiting for the IM Program to show what's been said.
"First, I don't like the focus on the number of words. What matters is the number (and substance) of thoughts expressed."
There was a brief time about a decade ago when the NYT was trying to make the "word deficit" the next Racial Disparity to Worry About -- black children were exposed to many fewer words at home than white children and it affected their cognitive development.
One response was NYC schools sending staff to homes to assess and address these situations.
So, some folks out there are focusing on the number of words.
What parent hasn't been sitting together with their teens and their friends, seeing them engrossed in their phones and slowly realizing that they're texting back and forth about you?
Smart phones have allowed us to disengage selectively, self-isolate at will. The blank stare is a sign of unrecognized rudeness, some of it not even recognized by the offending person. It's not as if it's just unintentional, it's a case of it not even occurring to them that it's rude. That part is unsaid, too.
100 years ago we would have called them 'slack-jawed yokels', or maybe just a dozen years ago, on The Simpsons.
True motivations that are left unsaid and not pointed out. Well, that sounds like American politicians. Who knew until Tucker came along that Ted Cruz's true motivation for being a Senator was to "help israel"?
I wonder if that's why Romney ran for POTUS. How many knew that he was a great personal friend of Netenyahu and they worked for the same hedge fund? When Oct 7th happened Romney flew to Israel and gave Netanyahu some sympathy and dougnuts (or something equally dumb).
"The youngsters would rather spend 5 minutes texting about a subject than have a 1 minute phone call."
They have a record of what was said. That can be useful, if their work is questioned or if they have a problem with you.
Of course, the left are the masters of disguising their true motivations. Pretty much everything they do is fake and designed to gain and keep power. Or they're using the "salami technique". Back in the 90s it was "Why we're not in favor of open borders, why we just want to be fair to the immigrants". And now they've dropped the mask, and are demanding no enforcement of the immigration laws and for illegals being allowed to vote.
"They have a record of what was said. That can be useful, if their work is questioned or if they have a problem with you."
You probably don't look at TikTok but you should get up to speed with what George Stern is talking about: https://www.tiktok.com/@georgesternleadership
"What parent hasn't been sitting together with their teens and their friends, seeing them engrossed in their phones and slowly realizing that they're texting back and forth about you?"
Ha ha. Back in the old days, we had ESP for that.
"They have a record of what was said. That can be useful, if their work is questioned or if they have a problem with you."
They must have been talking to you. That's their excuse. But they're college educated professionals, and they should be able to remember a 1 minute conversation. And if its truly important i will draft up a Record of discussion and send it to them.
"There was a brief time about a decade ago when the NYT was trying to make the "word deficit" the next Racial Disparity to Worry About -- black children were exposed to many fewer words at home than white children and it affected their cognitive development."
Dwarfing of the soft variables.
I think lots of kids are hearing mindless chitter chatter. The same fewer words over and over in short simple sentences and fragments. Silence would be better.
"There was a brief time about a decade ago when the NYT was trying to make the "word deficit" the next Racial Disparity to Worry About"
I was thinking about that study - the "million-word gap," about children's exposure to books from birth to age 5. I just stuck it into Google and this (in part) is what came out:
"Never read to: ~4,662 words
1–2 times per week: ~63,570 words
3–5 times per week: ~169,520 words
Daily: ~296,660 words
Five books a day: ~1,483,300 words"
Gemini did not mention the racial disparity, but I remember its being a primary focus when these stats first came out.
The remedy was supposed to be increased access to children's books (I'm morally certain that Dolly's Imagination Library was at least influenced by this study) and home visits to assess mothers' (ok, parents') habits of reading and talking to their infants. Of course it doesn't scale. Also of course, it didn't disentangle things like hearing the same hundred words (including expletives) constantly, reading the same books constantly (which most very young children love), what the difference is between direct parental engagement with a child and plunking the child down in front of Blue's Clues and its ilk for hours a day (or, these days, handing a 2-year-old a screen with Miss Rachel on it - did I get that right?)...
I used to keep up a line of patter to all my kids from birth onward, whatever I was doing, wherever we were - in the grocery store, in the car, cleaning the kitchen. I don't see a lot of parents of babies talking to their babies in public these days.
Huh. It seems I was on the same general page as our host.
If you are a reader, and you are reading someone who cues things up, but then doesn't write that last sentence...it's fun to say to yourself, "And I know what your next sentence would have said, if you had typed it up." You feel like you know, but you're not quite sure. I like being in that state of some puzzlement.
Isn't this frustration with a book's refusal to answer the basis of tradition in the West anyhow. We read the Iliad and we say: Don't you feel sorry for the people of Troy facing you, O man-killing Achilles, those people watching their city burn, becoming exiles? But Achilles just does it again.
But then Virgil writes a sequel which says all the unsaids. We hear the sadness of the exiles, then we see them finding a new home and, incredibly, they found the Eternal City, Rome. For a thousand years people read these two books. But what does it mean to read a book and then read the unsaids? Virgil never says until Dante, lost in a dark savage place, finds Virgil by his side offering to be his guide. "Are you that poet who expanded what we can find words for and showed me how to write in a beautiful way, in a way beyond mere useful accounting. O, save me from the beasts that keep from my heart's desire." Virgil says: "You cannot climb the beautiful mountain that seem so close. You must take another way; and I will go with you and be your guide through the land of ancient lamentation, through the land where souls learn to struggle for the right, to the land of heart's desire." And Dante, having read Virgil believes this incredible offer and walks with Virgil right in through a door clearly labelled: " Abandon all hope you who enter here." And later gets to Heaven and comes back to describe it.
A consecutive literary tradition says the unsaid. You have to ask what are the unsaids in the American tradition as of today? Are we more threatened by China, by Big Banks, by AI demons, or by pridefully ignorant, hate-filled fools who have destroyed the teaching of our own traditions?
Scientists Worry
Meh. I am unpersuaded by worry-worts.
..and let me add: I, too, enjoy listening to George Stern take down bad Managers!
Judge people by the content, not quantity of their words, the amplitude of their speech.
"That takes more brain work than just saying more words."
What did Leonidas say to Mardonius at Thermopylae? Molon labe?
While I probably prefer written communication (more care can go into making it clear and so easier to understand, plus it provides a written record), I agree we lose something when relying on it to a high degree, not only cognitively, but emotionally. Plus, there have been occasions where I have read a transcript but later realized after listening to the passage in the speaker's voice that their basic point is not what I thought from just reading the transcript.
My latest book is "Unsaid Things." All of the pages are blank. Use the link to buy from Amazon.
Lazarus, your book is entirely plagiarized from "Famous Italian War Heroes"
"If you are a reader, and you are reading someone who cues things up, but then doesn't write that last sentence...it's fun to say to yourself, "And I know what your next sentence would have said, if you had typed it up." You feel like you know, but you're not quite sure. I like being in that state of some puzzlement."
Another way that can play out is that the reader feels that HE has generated an additional idea and feels good about himself.
From the standpoint of the writer, I often feel that to write one more sentence is to sledgehammer the idea that has already been conveyed and that's it's better to leave it unsaid so the reader can have the feeling of thinking it.
That can be a sly trick of the propagandist!
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