In a tribute to feminism, the obit waits until the 6th paragraph to tell us how she looked: "With her willowy physique, her fashionable miniskirts and her straight, parted hair, she brought glamour as well as passion to her work, challenging the popular perception of feminists as bra-burning radicals."
Paragraph 8: "Ms. Steinem burst to the fore in the 1960s not as an activist, but as a high-flying freelance journalist for publications including Esquire, Cosmopolitan and Vogue. She experienced firsthand the sexism that she would later fight on behalf of other women. Ms. Steinem recalled a taxicab conversation between the renowned writers Gay Talese and Saul Bellow, in which she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"
Here's the NYT obituary: "Gloria Steinem, Personification of the Women’s Movement, Dies at 92/She challenged sexist assumptions, helping women develop a sense of self-worth and gain a measure of equality at work, at home and in society at large" (gift link).
The NYT tells us how she looked in paragraph 4: "For more than half a century, she personified the women’s movement and became its most enduring symbol; her tinted aviator glasses and curtain of streaked-blond hair parted in the center made her one of the most recognizable women in the world."
That's only about her glasses and her hairstyle. It doesn't inform us that she was prettier than other girls. The next paragraph is: "She was an unlikely revolutionary. Growing up a transient in the Midwest, she was 10 when her parents divorced and she was left to mother her mentally anguished mother — a formative experience that reverberated throughout her life. She had scant formal education until sixth grade; her big dream, as a budding tap dancer, was to become a Rockette."
She was less fortunate than other girls.
At paragraph 13-12: "Despite her fearless public persona, Ms. Steinem was somewhat diffident, initially terrified of speaking in public and wrestled with a lack of self-esteem. She was also insecure about her looks. She said in an interview for this obituary in January 2026 that she wore her large aviator glasses and cloak of long hair partly to hide her face. 'What I felt like inside,' she wrote in 'Revolution From Within,' her 1992 book about self-esteem, 'was a plump brunette from Toledo, too tall and much too pudding faced.'"
She was less fortunate than other girls.
At paragraph 13-12: "Despite her fearless public persona, Ms. Steinem was somewhat diffident, initially terrified of speaking in public and wrestled with a lack of self-esteem. She was also insecure about her looks. She said in an interview for this obituary in January 2026 that she wore her large aviator glasses and cloak of long hair partly to hide her face. 'What I felt like inside,' she wrote in 'Revolution From Within,' her 1992 book about self-esteem, 'was a plump brunette from Toledo, too tall and much too pudding faced.'"
Whatever she thought about how she looked, didn't it help her? "When she was first job-hunting in New York, an editor at Life turned her away. 'We need a reporter,' he told her, 'not a pretty girl.' An editor at The New York Times Magazine propositioned her, she said. Clay Felker, the editor of New York magazine and Ms. Steinem’s mentor, said he gave her an assignment because she had 'great legs.'"
Here's what she did on that assignment: "A Bunny Tale."

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Steinem probably saw what women are currently doing with her life's work and her soul couldn't take it anymore.
Happily married. Congrats.
I read about her childhood. Horrible!
What do you say when a successful enemy dies?
RIP.
“She had scant formal education until sixth grade”
…raised by wolves until middle school?
…even if it is commentary it’s fitting irony another self proclaimed feminist focuses on her appearance….I think she was harmful to women and humanity but will wait to say so…
…I’ve been fly fishing abound the world. Trout like places to rest away from predators just off the flow where they can rest while food floats by. I once fished a stream where there weren’t boulders, logs, etc. but there was a small dump where people disposed of heavy stuff and there was a rusted bicycle deep in the water where a stack of fish were finning and feeding…
“ The Equal Rights Amendment, prohibiting discrimination on account of sex, was belatedly ratified but is still not part of the Constitution.”
Omitted from this sentence is the fact that the states only had seven years to ratify.
More deception by the NYT.
Wasnt she cias girl in vienna
She seemed like a nice person. I’d like to have a beer with her. We could talk about her son-in-law.
rehajm said...
"…I’ve been fly fishing abound the world. Trout like places to rest away from predators just off the flow where they can rest while food floats by. I once fished a stream where there weren’t boulders, logs, etc. but there was a small dump where people disposed of heavy stuff and there was a rusted bicycle deep in the water where a stack of fish were finning and feeding…"
So a Fish DOES need a bicycle!
Do you mean a step-son-inlaw? Because Steinem famously chose not to have kids. When she married Bale in 2000, he did have grown children.
Ms won''t be missed.
Yeah, Christian Bale.
Meh
She lived a full life and had an impact. She probably annoyed me when I was younger, but I respect what she accomplished. Though...I have to wonder if the end product is what she had hoped for.
"she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"
He was treating her as an equal.
She went to Smith College, graduated magna cum laude, and phi beta kappa… Pretty and smart apparently.
She was outspoken re reproductive rights mostly, chastising patriarchal or domineering societies. From what I can tell she didn’t differentiate between Islamic, Christian, Jewish, or any other country rooted in some form of religion, no matter how remotely, deeming them all oppressive to women.
“What’s Hecuba to him, or he to Hecuba,
That he should weep for her?”
Wonder what she thought about Clancy…
Lodestar is wrong but then so would be influencer.
I just learned that Gay Talese is still kicking!
May Ms. Steinem rest in peace. Her thing was not my thing, or not entirely; I guess I did like some of it. But I don't think her activities "help[ed] women develop a sense of self-worth" - more often the opposite, it seems, as I look around me and as I consider my own struggle to feel relevant as a woman whose greatest ambition was to have and raise children.
My grandmothers had self-worth in spades; my mother was (and is) always her own person, whether working at a job, working in her vocation as a teacher, or working as a stay-at-home mother. Me? All my life, motherhood according to the zeitgeist sounded like a hobby at best, if not a high-security prison.
Was that Steinem's intent? Maybe, since that's what it was for her. The quotes from the article certainly make it sound as if her life's work had a very obvious wellspring. But now I'm wondering again about the interplay between Movement and Great (Wo)Man approaches to history: she was on the scene at the right moment, AND she had a background that (because she was a person with ambition) impelled her to seize that moment, it seems to me.
In the world of blue collar men working in heavy construction where death is not some long far away imagined prospect, when the journeymen openly criticize an apprentice to his face in front of everybody, is a sign that the apprentice is going to make a good hand.
Rather than an insult, the below comment in the taxi cab was the highest possible praise from a man.
***Ms. Steinem recalled a taxicab conversation between the renowned writers Gay Talese and Saul Bellow, in which she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"***
“her tinted aviator glasses and curtain of streaked-blond hair parted in the center made her one of the most recognizable women in the world.”
I’m old enough to remember how much that look was copied in the 1960s and well into the 1970s. With so many young women wanting to look like her, I’d like to argue that she disappeared into the crowd of Gloria Steinem wanna-bes.
Funny how the insult “pudding faced” came so quickly to her lips. I doubt she heard it from a man.
Shorter Howard: “The harder the slap, the better the artist.”
For a extremely well done historical drama mini-series about this topic. I highly recommend the show "Mrs. America" where Kate Blanchett plays Phyllis Schlafly and Rose Byrne plays Gloria Steinem.
It would have been nice to know what she thought about the state of women's affairs in the present day. It was always complicated, but I wonder if she was seeing any of the gains that her generation fought hard for, being squandered away. Clarity doesn't always bring the resolution you hoped for. R.I.P.
She was certainly an effective advocate for the causes she championed. The obit says she was "always" demonized by conservatives. I don't know if I'm a conservative, but I know I never demonized her. She deserved her success and I'm glad that some of the changes she fought for came about........I read a few articles by her, but I never read any of her books. I don't mean this as a slam, but I think she had more impact as a celebrity activist than as a writer.......She was good looking and that was part of her brand. So for that matter was Hemingway and that was part of his brand. She kept her good looks until late old age. I guess that reflects character and not vanity. Orwell said you don't have the face you deserve until you're past forty.......I thought more of Dolly Parton but I had far less thoughts about Dolly Parton than I did of Gloria Steinem.
Meh.
If Talese had tried to encourage her it might have come across as condescension, like a pat on the head. In any case, she rose to the challenge.
It's possible to agree that the feminist movement has developed numerous career alternative opportunities for women but at the same time has weakened the stability of the nuclear family as well as the level of self-satisfaction of women in America. It's not even arguable given the number of studies that confirm this. Even worse, it seems to have created a persistent sense of bitterness and open general hostility toward men in a significant percentage of women.
Is life in America better for having achieved the objectives of the feminist movement?
Was Talese entirely wrong? Steinem's looks probably did help her career, and it's not only women who cash in on their looks in the media. She didn't have a coven already in place in journalism, so she had to create her own and had an independent toughness that became less common as professions became more female-dominated.
Steinem's grandmother was a pioneering feminist and progressive. She passed away before Gloria was born. I'm wondering how much of feminism was a grassroots thing and how much was Smith women like Friedan and Steinem passing their own frustrations and grievances on to other women -- and how much was women's response to men's irresponsibility and abandonment.
I was a child during her peak celebrity. I mostly remember her as a talk show guest. Her looks were certainly a part of her success. Also, she must have had some charm to be such a frequent guest on television.
Well...
'Bye.
It strikes me that her look is still copied. The blonde, parted in the middle long hair look is still very popular among women of all ages.
The nattering nabobs of the manosphere would like a say. She was a large part of ushering in a world where women make more than men, but the financialization of the economy and shipment of traditional male jobs overseas certainly did not help, and women are now complaining about the lack of “good” men.
How do you make a woman unhappy? You give her what she says she wants.
""she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'" He was treating her as an equal."
Just to follow that line of reasoning, he was helping her, warning her not to coast or to imagine other people are out to help her get ahead.
Gay Talese is still alive. He's 94. I wonder how he feels seeing himself trashed in Gloria Steinem obits.
On one side, supporting the Equal Rights Amendment “were 90 percent majorities in both houses of Congress, every live American President and President’s wife, every major state governor except an ambivalent Ronald Reagan, all leading mayors, both political parties’ platforms and leadership, every major newspaper, magazine, and television network, the League of Women Voters, all the old-line Protestant denominations, the National and World Councils of Churches, several leading Catholic and Jewish organizations and publications, and huge majorities of the American public as registered by all public opinion polls.
On the other side was Phyllis Schlafly - and that was enough.”
I remember Schlafly used to bring home baked cookies to the state legislatures as they discussed the ERA. Drove the lefties crazy.
Phyllis Schlafly, one husband, six kids, earned a law degree while campaigning against the ERA to give her arguments added weight. She and the grass roots organizations she fostered finally defeated the ERA in 1982, three states short, even after Congress extended the deadline.
It was all but impossible for a man in the sixties to financially “abandon” his wife.
Gay Talese did say — a mere 10 years ago — that there weren't any women writers he liked: https://www.buzzfeed.com/jinamoore/women-gay-talese-should-read?utm_source=chatgpt.com
America may be better for having achieved some of the objectives, but as objectives are achieved, new objectives take their place. The movement becomes a business and the new objectives serve the people in the business. Then it becomes a racket.
Slightly OT-
As an early-mid Boomer, I lived through the various stages of feminism. I look at the status of women in Western Civilization today, and wonder if overall they are happier than women overall were in the 1950s. I'm not saying that women like our hostess have not benefited (obv she has), but the 1950s housewife is now the 2020s assistant retail manager who still has more than half of the responsibility of raising her children, even if she is fortunate to avoid the "single mom" place that so many of her cohort have fallen into.
I see men doing better and being happier once they figure out the new rules. Women? Not so much.
bye.
Gloria Steinem's fame and influence peaked during the height of Second Wave Feminism, which, very roughly, extended from the early 1960s to the late '80s/early '90s. I think some of the accomplishments of that wave were quite valuable (I know there's disagreement about that). I'm thinking of such things as broader access to birth control (which, as a young woman, born in 1961, I truly hoped would help forestall widespread, elective abortion), the ability of women to get credit in their own names (I remember when that happened!), broader access to jobs (the NYT itself didn't stop segregating its help wanted ads by sex until 1968), and so forth.
These are some examples of goals and accomplishments I supported, and they did actually benefit me and many others. I'm not a fan of Third Wave feminism or what some people call the Fourth Wave. I never got the sense that Steinem truly embraced all the values, performative action, goals, and complications of Third Wave, although she surely did embrace younger feminists and encouraged their involvement. It's sort of a mixed bag.
She did, of course, famously, at least by her actions, reject some of the Second Wave values of some hard-core activists at the time. For example, for a while there was this sense that women should refrain from adopting, or even outright reject, certain traditional values, such as caring about one's appearance or dressing in more feminine ways, etc. Steinem, by her own choices in her appearance, did not embrace this. In this way, she did foretell certain cultural aspects of Third Wave, which often exaggerated feminine, girly appearance with an edge. But I'm not seeing that she truly bought into the excesses and fringes of Third Wave.
She was an interesting cultural and political figure, and she often didn't fit into neat stereotypes.
I did not do any research for this comment, so I fully embrace any criticism if I'm broad brushing or being to0 general. It's a complicated subject. I'm just dumping out some thoughts for consideration.
AM, made me thing of Gloria.
I didn't hate her -- or love her or admire her -- but she did a lot to promote the idea of abortion as necessary to self-fulfillment and didn't question that idea.
Yeah, Christian Bale.
Batman's mother-in-law was Gloria Steinem? That's explains a lot.
I'm glad she married! I remember her saying, "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle." If everybody felt like that, the human race would die out.
For me, she was always the human face of feminism. That was a necessary ideology at the beginning of the 20th century. Less so at the end of the 20th century. And it's become a really awful ideology today. Is it fair to say that feminism has led us to the Lindsay Clancy brigade?
She said in an interview that she has an idea for her tombstone: "Here lies the slut from East Toledo."
That's not very nice. I hope nobody puts that on her tombstone.
She didn't believe in God. I think it would be fun to let atheists into heaven, just to see the look on their faces.
RIP, Gloria Steinem.
Sydney said...
It strikes me that her look is still copied. The blonde, parted in the middle long hair look is still very popular among women of all ages.
For example, Sydney Sweeney.
She was Christian Bale’s stepmother. No fucking in-law shit. She married his father, not the father of Christian’s wife.
That anecdote about Talese has become part of the lore. No way for me know the context or his intentions at the time. Maybe he was just being a dick and maybe the remark unintentionally helped solidify Steinem's determination. She still had yet to prove herself.
Maybe someone had once said in front of Gay Talese, 'You know every year there’s a bright young man who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Talese is this year’s bright young man' and it made him determined to prove them wrong.
To clarify, Steinem marrie david bale, Christian's father. in 1999, to keep him from being deported. He died shortly after, in 2003, from brain cancer.
Why Are Liberal White Women So Angry?
"About a year ago, out of curiosity, I watched a panel discussion with several feminist professors at a prestigious university. These academics were regaling a naïve and worshipful audience of mostly white women, plus a smattering of black women. The panel insisted that the new “civil rights movement” necessarily encompasses Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI), the LGBTQ movement, the plight of immigrants in the United States, the genocide in Gaza, undying support for the Palestinians, and Third Wave Feminism."
"They had nothing to say about what had been accomplished over the decades. Instead, they incessantly portrayed the United States as an irredeemable racist and oppressive nation founded on white patriarchy. These leftists claimed, to raucous applause, that white privilege and resultant oppression required speeding the process to transform American culture and society, all while failing to acknowledge the transformations their movement had already precipitated."
"The adoring and reverential expressions on the faces of the young women in the audience were priceless. It was as if they had suddenly discovered meaning and purpose in their apparently guilt-ridden, or cosseted, or rage-filled lives."
"They no doubt thought that the prospect of being swept up in a grand crusade of promoting all manner of “civil rights” in a heartless, capitalistic society would bring relevance to their lives. What they did not fathom was that they were being manipulated by playing on their emotions and the nation’s history of civil rights movements solely to bring about a socialist one-party oligarchy."
Gay Talese did say — a mere 10 years ago — that there weren't any women writers he liked
I was always an Agatha Christie man. She sucked at romance, emotional depth, all the feminine virtues. But oh my God, the intellectual puzzles? She's the queen of crime.
Rex Stout, also kind of a sexist, thought Jane Austen was the best writer in the world.
The current in vogue discrimination in the publishing industry is to shut out white males. It's profoundly stupid to discriminate in this way. Readers can't see the writers! Early feminists used to routinely pretend to be males to get their stuff published.
typo alert
I don't think female writers are discriminated against. The best selling author in the English language is Agatha Christie. Eat your heart out Dashiell Hammett.......I don't think Steinem's fame and success rested on her literary abilities. She knew how to write intelligibly and clearly, but she was no great literary stylist........I read the obit, and I wasn't moved to buy any of her books. You can't say, however, she was an unsuccessful writer. I don't think many people read Gertrude Stein, but she wasn't an unsuccessful writer.
As a female who cannot stand syrupy female emoting or fake syrupy female emoting (ie: eat pray love) - I agree with St. Croix on Agatha.
“ That's only about her glasses and her hairstyle. It doesn't inform us that she was prettier than other girls.”
She was OK, but let’s not get carried away. It’s not like she was Jane Fonda or something.
I read the Bunny Tale years later a few times; it's fun to revisit it.
I have to say I immediately laughed out loud (with actual amusement, not disparagement) when I hit the part about how one example of Bunnies' charitable and community involvement was handing out copies of Playboy at a Veterans hospital. So perfect for its time, don't you think?
Still working my way through my revisit to the entire article.
She was Christian Bale’s stepmother. No fucking in-law shit. She married his father, not the father of Christian’s wife.
Mother-in-law is funnier, I guess. Stepmom is more evil. Right? Scary woman archetypes. Mother-in-law gets the jokes and stepmom gets the horror stories.
Lawnerd: Thanks for the correction. I was being sloppy.
The bet here is that in fifty years time more people will remember Gloria Steinem than Gay Talese. Even money on whether posterity will have more to say about her than Norman Mailer.......Gertrude Stein is better remembered than Arnold Bennett..
'...The best selling author in the English language is Agatha Christie. ...'
Not to mention, J.K. Rowling.
"Gay Talese did say — a mere 10 years ago — that there weren't any women writers he liked"
Did he feel that way in 1960? And 10 years ago, did he really feel that way or was he just choosing to be provocative and transgressive to gain attention, like feminists often do.
My major criticism of feminism is that it's oblivious to female power. And it's been utterly shameful in regard to the one area where women have always had the power: how we treat our children.
"In a tribute to feminism, the obit waits until the 6th paragraph to tell us how she looked:"
We must be going backwards, because I doubt the Post described Andrea Dworkin's looks at all.
How different is the current version of feminism from the type that Ms. Steinem advocated? These women are still hostile to motherhood, resent children and view them as an obstacle to self-actualization. The ghouls advocating for "justice" for Lyndsay Clancy are the same sort of women who read Ms. magazine.
Nice article with Batman and his Nice Stepmom.
Mary Richards was the real version of Gloria Steinem.
Maybe he was just hitting on her with a “neg,” which is a well trodden approach to bagging a beautiful woman.
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