Althouse: "Evelyn, half-Native American and half-Black, with curly, sandy brown hair, felt internally broken as the weight of unmet expectations..."

April 7, 2024

"Evelyn, half-Native American and half-Black, with curly, sandy brown hair, felt internally broken as the weight of unmet expectations..."

"... and the fear of the unknown seemed to overtake her when she accidentally became pregnant. While Evelyn struggled academically, Whiteman had degrees, a community of friends, and a supportive, boisterous Grenadian family. But after struggling to find a Black sperm donor, she would stand in the entryway of the empty guest bedroom in her newly constructed home, praying and longing for a baby. Now Evelyn and Whiteman were bound together, by a child...."

From "After abortion attempts, two women now bound by child" (WaPo)(free-access link, so you can discern the abortion and racial politics for yourself).

Background: "America has a Black sperm donor shortage. Black women are paying the price. Black men account for fewer than 2 percent of sperm donors at cryobanks. Their vials are gone in minutes."

63 comments:

effinayright said...: Aw fuck! Yet another bleat from wymyn about how they can't score the right kind of splooge.

And how they are "internally broken".

I have no more " don't give a shit"s to give.; 4/7/24, 12:28 PM
Mr Wibble said...: They were in their mid-40s when they adopted Evelyn at 3 weeks old.

This is why 40 year olds should have children, either their own or adopted. By the time your child is grown, you're so old that you're in no position to support them through the struggles that come with entering adulthood.; 4/7/24, 12:31 PM
Wince said...: America has a Black sperm donor shortage... Their vials are gone in minutes.

Or less...

"You look like a Kardashian."; 4/7/24, 12:37 PM
Joe Smith said...: Is this the most lefty story ever?

And Whiteman...really?

Use white sperm donors for black women and you'll have less racism over time as we all turn mocha.; 4/7/24, 12:44 PM
Mason G said...: "when she accidentally became pregnant."

Frank Costanza: It was a million to one shot, Doc. Million to one.; 4/7/24, 12:47 PM
Achilles said...: The premise of this article is really dumb and racist too.

It is not hard to find a black sperm donor.

This is just silly.

"After abortion attempts, two women now bound by child"

This is everything that is wrong with progressivism today. There is nothing "bounding" here except they bought into the Post-Modern feelings regime push by feminists and they refuse to take responsibility for their actions at multiple levels.

I could see these people finding it difficult to get a picture ID and may indeed be too stupid to do so.

This is a great example of people who if allowed to vote will do damage to our society out of shear ignorance and stupidity.

I think it is highly likely that the principle characters in this story do not actually exist and the WAPO made this up out of whole cloth.; 4/7/24, 12:50 PM
BarrySanders20 said...: There are literally millions of unmarried women who have children from black fathers. There is no black sperm donor shortage.; 4/7/24, 12:53 PM
mccullough said...: This writing is so bad it’s entertainining.; 4/7/24, 12:53 PM
Rabel said...: Accidentally:

"I ran out of gas. I had a flat tire. I didn’t have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn’t come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car. An earthquake. A terrible flood. Locusts. IT WASN’T MY FAULT!"

- Jake Blues or maybe Evelyn; 4/7/24, 12:57 PM
John henry said...: Any man would need to be crazy to be a sperms donor.

Black men get fucked around so much by black women they would need to be especially crazy.

To be fair, black women get fucked around pretty well by black men too.

I blame climate whatsit and white racism

John Henry; 4/7/24, 1:03 PM
Rabel said...: They could have written "unintentionally" but they wrote "accidentally" and set themselves up for ridicule.

Why?; 4/7/24, 1:07 PM
Kevin said...: Women want.

Men not providing.

News at 11.; 4/7/24, 1:12 PM
Paul said...: When registered sperm donors can be sued for child support... why would they donate?

And there are plenty of black males on the street who would oblige... and move on.; 4/7/24, 1:22 PM
walter said...: "The severe shortage is forcing Black women who need donor sperm into a painful choice: Choose a donor of another race and raise a biracial child or try to buy sperm from unregulated apps and online groups."
--
B/blackbirds singing in the dead of night...
Seems like they know how to get "donors" the old fashioned way. Or they could adopt. Or maybe it's not meant to be,...; 4/7/24, 1:33 PM
Mary Beth said...: And there are plenty of black males on the street who would oblige... and move on.

Probably not that many if the women just want the sperm and not the sex.; 4/7/24, 1:40 PM
Humperdink said...: Former NY Jets football player Antonio Cromartie certainly tried to fill the void. He had 14 children by 8 different women. He owed so much child support the Jets had to advance him $500K to cover past due support. Apparently his paintings didn't sell well.; 4/7/24, 1:51 PM
ga6 said...: Hot Saturday night in Chicago, 63rd an Cottage Grove, she can get all she wants in any shade from light tan to darkest oak.; 4/7/24, 2:00 PM
Tomcc said...: Admittedly, I won't read the article. The premise is absurd to 99.8% of the population in this country and 100% of the population in the rest of the world.; 4/7/24, 2:03 PM
Oligonicella said...: Don't want the burden of family.
Don't want the pregnancy(ies).
Don't need no man (except as a forgotten donor).
Now wants kid.
Men are now wise to the male family court trap.
Figures out a way to shop for a kid.

That about it?; 4/7/24, 2:04 PM
tommyesq said...: My understanding is there are plenty of donors if you are willing to obtain the sample in person.; 4/7/24, 2:14 PM
JAORE said...: So a major criteria for who will raise your child is someone "ready to give the child everything".

Apparently a father in the house was a non-factor.

One story line for me was this was a woman floating through life. Things just "happened" to her. The she ran into an issue that someone else could not fix for her. Eventually she considered options and acted.

Things improved from that point forward.

Imagine that.; 4/7/24, 2:39 PM
walter said...: Maybe the newly hitched D-Lemon would contribute.
Apparently he owes the romance to Trump.
"Lemon adds that “at the end we jump over a broom.” This, Lemon and Malone say, pays respect to the once symbolic way for enslaved people in the American South to recognize their marriages, noting that today this tradition is a way to honor those who did it before them. "
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" “We had our first date at the Polo Bar,” Malone says. “It was election night in 2016. We had gone to a viewing party downtown.”
“Isn’t that where you tipped a table over?” Lemon asks, to which Malone replies with a laugh, "Yes!"
“So, that night we went to this party at Cipriani,” Lemon continues, "and all these fancy people were there, stars, Martha Stewart. They put these plywood pieces on the table to make them bigger. And when Tim sat down, he hit the edge, and flipped the entire table. All the glassware, all the candles, everything went flying. And I was like, ‘Alright, well that’s our first date right there.' "
At that point in the evening, Malone and Lemon remember, it seemed clear Hillary Clinton was going to win. “I looked at my CNN email. I was like, ‘Let's get out of here. It's not going to be pretty,' " Lemon shares. "And so we went uptown to the Polo Bar.”
The restaurant is subterranean, "so we were sort of in a bunker,” Lemon says. He recalls being given the night off as his primetime slot had been taken over by election coverage.
“I was kind of glad because it would've been a surreal thing to watch [on camera]," he adds.
Throughout the meal, he and Malone got intermittent updates via spotty cell service and other diners. “Tim and I looked at each other and I said to him, ‘I don't want to be alone tonight.’ It was so weird. We went back to my apartment in Harlem and then he never left.”
https://people.com/don-lemon-marries-tim-malone-wedding-exclusive-8624572; 4/7/24, 3:00 PM
B. said...: Evelyn never heard of birth control? Maybe not genes that need to be reproduced.; 4/7/24, 3:02 PM
gspencer said...: The real shortage - responsible black people.

Same applies for whites.; 4/7/24, 3:09 PM
Temujin said...: I had two thoughts on this:

1) I wonder if I could sell mine as black market Black sperm. I could have a label put onto the frozen sealed vial. The label with a smiling Approved Black Man showing a thumbs up! And an identity marker giving the regional 'flavor' of the prize: "Alluring Aruban", "Gorgeous Ghanian" "Burly Bostonian". Something for all...er...tastes. Of course, I'm older now and production may not be what it once was. But as a start up, you have to bear down and put in that extra time.

2) Or, we could just, as a society start focusing on men being men and becoming fathers who are present. Marrying women. Women marrying men. Family structure growing again. We could try that. I mean...it actually worked for a couple thousand years or so. Until recent decades when we got so sophisticated we sophisticated ourselves right out of existence.; 4/7/24, 3:13 PM
n.n said...: Enslaved by fetus... baby... child.

Black sperm donor a.k.a. black... person of black... person of color male with a heterosexual fetish and a predilection for black... color diversity.

What is a black hole... whore h/t NAACP to do.; 4/7/24, 3:15 PM
Aggie said...: She got 'accidentally' pregnant? 'Yes doctor, I tripped and fell on a penis?' No - the human reproductive equipment worked as intended. That's not fitting the definition of an accident. And then we're presented with the trauma of two 'failed attempts' at abortion. But they weren't failed attempts at abortion - she timed herself out in the first case by lying to her family and trying to hide it, yeah, putting it off, that's a reasonable approach. Then she didn't follow instructions for the 'morning after' type abortion, and screwed that up by ignoring advice to follow up with a doctor.

Such hardship. So many obstacles to the easy life. So many bothersome consequences. DAMN those Conservatives and their abortion rules !

I guess the adoptive mother didn't want to be profiled. Is she a single mom now?; 4/7/24, 3:18 PM
Rocco said...: "Evelyn, half-Native American and half-Black..."

If that's what she believes, she's in for some surprises if she ever gets a DNA test.; 4/7/24, 3:20 PM
Joe Smith said...: Everyone wants sperm donors until the men are contributing next to the playground.

Then it's cops this and pervert that.

Can't win...; 4/7/24, 3:26 PM
Eric the Fruit Bat said...: Evelyn felt internally broken and that's a terrible thing and I can relate. It was the day after I got an oil change at Walmart that I started up the Olds Calais and it went CAA-LUNK!!!!. And that was all she wrote.; 4/7/24, 3:27 PM
NorthOfTheOneOhOne said...: So she's having slight regrets about giving her baby up for adoption, but a year earlier she was ok will killing it.

Kind of hard to understand which way WaPo's going with the hand wringing here....; 4/7/24, 3:42 PM
Rocco said...: JAORE said...
"Apparently a father in the house was a non-factor."

This is what matriarchy looks like.; 4/7/24, 3:46 PM
Dude1394 said...: Black guys are smart, keeping supply short and demand high. You have to get it the old fashioned way.; 4/7/24, 4:03 PM
Rocco said...: Temujin said...
"I wonder if I could sell mine as black market Black sperm. I could have a label put onto the frozen sealed vial. The label with a smiling Approved Black Man showing a thumbs up! And an identity marker giving the regional 'flavor' of the prize: "Alluring Aruban", "Gorgeous Ghanian" "Burly Bostonian"."

Some other suggestions:
- Tantalizing Temujin
- Ample Althousesian
- Detroit Diesel
- Mississippi Delta King
- Furious Foreman: Any child conceived is contractually obligated to be named George.
- Cutie Cromartie: Just looking at it gets you pregnant.; 4/7/24, 4:31 PM
gilbar said...: serious question:
What happens to MOST black pregnancies in NYC?; 4/7/24, 4:40 PM
gilbar said...: what is better (for the child)?
be raised by a single black mother? or a white couple?
Is a white father better than NOT having a black father?; 4/7/24, 5:09 PM
gilbar said...: NorthOfTheOneOhOne said...
So she's having slight regrets about giving her baby up for adoption, but a year earlier she was ok will killing it.

a year earlier, she hadn't even had an ultrasound.. The baby was JUST excess weight.
Now that it has teeth, and can crawl around.. she'll be looking for a lawyer so to sue for custody; 4/7/24, 5:12 PM
Joanne Jacobs said...: I think most people will read this as an anti-abortion, pro-adoption story. This young woman tried to abort her pregnancy, but is now happy to be the (non-parenting) mother of a healthy child, who is being raised by a mature mother. I was surprised the Post ran it.; 4/7/24, 5:51 PM
effinayright said...: Let's face it: there's no surplus for black sperm, and no real market for it, because black men are happy to deposit their stuff exactly where its supposed to deposited.

They just use their women as sexual spittoons and move on afterward.

But the wymyn are remain happy to call them "baby-daddies", even though we taxpayers are the real "breadwinners" providing their welfare checks and free services.

I mean, what if you are a low-IQ person and someone offered you this deal. Wouldn't you take it, and then demand it as your due for the rest of your life?; 4/7/24, 6:13 PM
Randomizer said...: That article gives the impression that Black women are inept complainers, but I think it's just the authors.

The cryobanks gave Brooks a chance at motherhood, but they couldn’t provide what she wanted: a Black sperm donor who could give her a child who looked like her and shared her culture.

Why does Brook think an anonymous sperm donor would share her culture, and why would she care? Culture isn't genetic, and the child will never meet the daddy.

Black women between the ages of 35 and 45 are far more likely to remain unmarried than women from other racial groups, according to the latest census data, with 44 percent of non-Hispanic Black women unmarried, compared with 16 percent of White women.

Whose problem is that? Not being married isn't stopping Black women from having a higher fertility rate.

If there is a demand for Black sperm, (I'm skeptical), sperm banks can charge more and pay the donors more. Problem solved, and nobody is a racist.

“The doctor was like, ‘Listen, I don’t want to be harsh, but this is on a time frame and, like, sperm is sperm,’ ” Lino recounted.

Lino may have recounted that, but does anyone believe that a doctor said that "sperm is sperm"?; 4/7/24, 6:35 PM
typingtalker said...: I think we need a scientific paper of the sort, "A study of households comprised of one adult and one or more children vs. households comprised of two or more adults and one or more children."

Or maybe a PBS series " ... where we follow six families having various numbers of parents and children and a range of family incomes."; 4/7/24, 7:13 PM
Bunkypotatohead said...: Once you go black...
You'll be an unwed mother the rest of your life.; 4/7/24, 7:14 PM
Christopher B said...: a Black sperm donor who could give her a child who looked like her and shared her culture.

Race is just a social construct, until it isn't.; 4/7/24, 7:50 PM
Ralph L said...: There were articles several decades ago about the trend of black women trying to have lighter-skinned babies. I guess that's no longer fashionable, but naturally, they still want high-quality sperm donors. Would that they all did.; 4/7/24, 8:37 PM
JaimeRoberto said...: Given the percentage of black kids born out of wedlock I'd say there is no shortage of sperm donors.; 4/7/24, 8:47 PM
Rocco said...: typingtalker said...
“I think we need a scientific paper of the sort, ‘A study of households comprised of one adult and one or more children vs. households comprised of two or more adults and one or more children.’ “

And control for for the gender of the children in the study. And the gender of the parent, for that matter.; 4/7/24, 8:51 PM
Zev said...: "accidentally became pregnant"
how could this have happened? it's a mystery; 4/7/24, 9:28 PM
wildswan said...: It wasn't the laws that made trouble, it was wishing for a baby while being single and uncredentialed and a liberal. She ended up deeply, deeply ambivalent, first about the pregnancy, then about the abortion, then about the adoption. She could easily have gotten the early abortion by working out a date that fitted the six-week limit or the late abortion by getting in before the twenty-four week limit. All those mistakes were ambivalence. Now she seems to me to be breaking or perhaps, broken-hearted. "I have straight A's but my baby is gone. Am I living the right way?"; 4/7/24, 9:51 PM
chickelit said...: Fake news.; 4/7/24, 10:14 PM
B. said...: Nick Cannon will be glad to help.
https://people.com/parents/all-about-nick-cannon-kids/; 4/7/24, 10:18 PM
Quaestor said...: That sperm donor article should have been published last week.; 4/7/24, 11:33 PM
typingtalker said...: "Their vials are gone in minutes."

First time through I read that as, "Their vitals are gone in minutes."; 4/8/24, 9:11 AM
Yinzer said...: I see that I am way too late to the conversation to make a joke about the 'accidental' pregnancy. Dammit! But kudos to those that beat me to it and did it so well!; 4/8/24, 12:08 PM
RigelDog said...: Boy that article made me sad. To look at that little girl and to think that her mother was desperate to kill her even at the point in her pregnancy when her daughter could have survived outside the womb. Then, mere weeks later, her baby was born and she fell in love--of course she did.

What has to go wrong that one week a woman regards the living, moving baby inside of her as just a thing, and the next week as she holds that child, she sees that it's not a thing, a tumor, a catastrophe--but a person?; 4/8/24, 1:21 PM
RigelDog said...: (((
I think it is highly likely that the principle characters in this story do not actually exist and the WAPO made this up out of whole cloth.)))

I have a little skepticism about the claim that at each abortion clinic there were screaming protesters. Could be the case, of course, but it's very much on-the-nose, yes?; 4/8/24, 1:24 PM
gilbar said...: serious, and Very SAD question..
would YOU WANT a child, whose mom was SO STUPID, that she botched TWO abortions on the child?

She seems to be The Shining Example of: STUPID DITZY WHORE.. And someone PAID good money for her child; 4/8/24, 2:32 PM
Shaihulud said...: How about a White sperm donor who 'identifies' as Black? Or a Black man who 'identifies' as a woman, yet delivers in the old fashioned way? uhhh... I'm starting to understand why so many Wokesters are seeing therapists and are self-medicating.; 4/8/24, 2:57 PM
Rosalyn C. said...: "you can discern the abortion and racial politics for yourself"

The abortion politics: I came away from reading the article with the conclusion that the mother, or women in general, are so idiotic, irresponsible and incapable of following simple instructions there should be abortion facilities everywhere and made as easy to obtain as possible.

The racial politics: I read the article and looked at the photos of the baby being held by the adoptive mother. I assumed her issue about wanting a Black sperm donor is that she wanted a child who looks like her, at least looks like a Black person. But the baby is so much lighter she could have had a white sperm donor after all. Is that a racist thing if I notice? (Should we ask Meghan, Duchess of Sussex if noticing is racist?) It's not racist if Blacks do it?

The birth mother claims to be half African American and half American Indian, and we don't know the racial background of the birth father or accidental sperm donor, and "the average African-American genome is 73.2% African, 24% European, and 0.8% Native American,"(https://www.science.org/content/article/genetic-study-reveals-surprising-ancestry-many-americans) so the baby already potentially had a lot of white DNA. The adoptive mother is Grenadian, which is a place with a lot of racial mixtures, so a baby with her DNA and a White donor could have been at least as Black or White as the baby she adopted, without the complications. I'm being kind of clinical here because I actually found myself getting judgmental about this whole situation.

What I'm really thinking is how potentially dangerous this arrangement of emotional bonding with the birth mother could be. It isn't something I would ever do. I hope it works out. And maybe the adoptive mother doesn't mind the complications she has invited into her life.; 4/8/24, 3:19 PM
Rocco said...: "I think it is highly likely that the principal characters in this story do not actually exist and the WAPO made this up out of whole cloth."

Janet Cooke wrote about 8 year-old heroin addict Jimmy in WaPo. Got a Pulitzer, too. Only it was taken away when she admitted Jimmy was made up. Not the first; not the last.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Janet_Cooke; 4/8/24, 4:02 PM
Rob C said...: Don't forget the convenient denial of agency:
"when she accidentally became pregnant"

Shouldn't we tut-tut and say "she should have kept it out of her pants"?; 4/8/24, 7:52 PM
effinayright said...: Shaihulud said...
How about a White sperm donor who 'identifies' as Black? Or a Black man who 'identifies' as a woman, yet delivers in the old fashioned way? uhhh... I'm starting to understand why so many Wokesters are seeing therapists and are self-medicating.
****************
Stop making sense!!!; 4/9/24, 12:04 AM
Lee Moore said...: This is obviously a Titania McGrath story not a real one - the blizzard of idiocy is too relentless for real life.

Apart from the items that have already been remarked upon, we are offered the "career woman" who is tragically unable to start a family....at 40 - who could possibly have predicted that ? And the same career woman (that would be the same one that is desperately late to the game) who absolutely cannot contemplate anything other than a black sperm donor....who adopts a half black child.

But as it's Titania, we have a happy ending. Like the Terminator, bullets can't kill this kid, nor even mifepristone :); 4/9/24, 3:32 AM
Mind your own business said...: The number of single mother households in the black community would suggest the central thesis given here is disproven.; 4/10/24, 10:44 AM