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a "Modern Love" essay, by Preston Gyuwon So, in the NYT.
I was lucky that the sexuality gods, in minting a kinky Asian queer, anointed me with a fetish fun enough to give me an escape from the cruelty of this racist reality. Latex fetishism is a predilection for form-fitting rubber clothing that’s shiny, slippery, slithery, sultry....
But latex’s allure also comes from the naughty nirvana of consensual dehumanization: the desire to become featureless and faceless, to vanish into the bliss of latex’s skintight embrace....
I practiced seeing my skin as worthy, visible and perfect. I reclaimed my sexuality and my sexiness.
After my year of shunning latex, I now shine in it nearly every day once again, but only for me.... I no longer want to encase myself in a second skin of rubber to shroud my original skin. I take pride in both — biodegradable, sexy and essential to who I am....
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…you and Buffalo Bill…
I live outside Houston, and this subject is making me sweat. Thank you, God, for not afflicting me with - well, any fetish, but particularly not this one!
Preston, baby: Nobody cares.
If there is no God, all is permitted.
It's fascinating to hear someone talk about himself this way and to realize that HE thinks the reason people don't cotton to him is racism.
"I take pride in both — biodegradable, sexy and essential to who I am...."
Someone owns a vegan leather harness!
Did not read further- no desire to jump at the jump.
No. No- just… no!
Stories about latex [stretch to] fit to print.
"racist reality"? Is this about Harvard?
Poe's Law: ‘A parody of something extreme can be mistaken for the real thing, and if a real thing sounds extreme enough, it can be mistaken for a parody.’
Puerile. If the newspaper business was an office tower with the most elite publication occupying the penthouse suite and your favorite supermarket tabloid quartered in the basement, the Times is in the effluent.
Looking forward to a naughty nirvana of consensual dehumanization!
"Well, you must tell me, baby
How your head feels under somethin’ like that"
Silencing the Lamb yourself are you?
Its a full "safe sex" outfit from the bygone days of AIDS and bath houses.
People can put pretty rationalisations to anything they have decided they want to do already. This is all of course ludicrous, but people can't admit the truth to themselves so they concoct long, interesting sounding excuses instead.
"as a gay Korean American"
Atrocious. This drivel even fails as pornography, as humor it's outperformed by any knock-knock joke. Korean-Americans, straight and otherwise, ought to be humiliated by their soi-distant representative member. However, the more grievous offense was allowing it to stand as submitted. Are there any editors worthy of the task in New York City? I cast my net so wide because the dearth of decent prose in the NYT lately shows none are to be found working on Eight Avenue.
A new oppressed minority.
Latex can give you a fungal skin condition like intertrigo. Just saying.
A latex fetish is crazy enough, but the belief that being heterosexual and white carries "privilege" is the real insanity.
Of course, following the Althouse theorem, we don't need to assume that progs believe what they profess to believe.
Any writer that starts a statement with "As a" needs to be {redacted from Facebook for Coordinating Harm}.
“Racist” is a nasty word, but it sure gets tossed around lightly.
It is more clear every day.
We have been duped into giving protected status to approved sexual fetishes.
Gay, trans, bi....... all is nothing but people demanding their kinks MUST be accepted in society.
I'm not reading the essay because the NYT parade of degenerates is so tedious, but I'm certain it has nothing to do with "Modern Love". Deviancy is not a modern invention, and what's love got to do with it?
Being a Korean-American, I suppose Preston expects us to pretend like he's not wearing a rubber suit, and is actually normal.
Do you feel invested in this dispute?
Nope, none of my business. There are a few current shows I enjoy, but there are dozens of older shows available. I've never seen West Wing, The Sopranos, or a bunch of other well-regarded TV shows.
I appreciate that actors and writers have legitimate issues that must be resolved. It's easy to believe that people in upper management have made terrible decisions and don't value the talent because that seems to be happening in many of our industries.
Hollywood seems to be in trouble, and this will hasten the collapse. Fine, let's get it over with.
Another case of trying to get me to yum the yuk? The world is full of people, and statistically you will have people with unusual mental issues. On of my children is illogically afraid of caterpillars and I met someone at a summer camp who was afraid of butterflies. Let's do an expose on these people and how we should celebrate such diversity instead of getting all hung up on someone's sexual fetishes that should be left to personal revelations. Why do we need to be constantly barraged by sexual peccadillos?
It's sad that he has no one in his life to tell him how horrifying and embarrassing this all sounds.
The world would be a better place if the NYT would limit itself to this type of journalism.
All fetishes have their roots in comfort or fear, usually stemming from seemingly innocuous comfort/fear interactions (usually with family members) during childhood that the nascently pre-sexual adolescent brain doesn't know how to process and therefore obsesses over. Most fetishes stemming from innocuous interactions in childhood remain innocuous. For instance men being attracted to long legs or large breasts doesn't even seem like a fetish to most people.
Extreme fetishism occurs when other underlying psychological conditions exist, such as obsessive-compulsion or manic depression, that prevent the fetishist from being satisfied with the physical worlds natural presentation of their targeted obsession. For instance, when breast fetishism turns into the garish enlargement of breasts so massive they account for 25% of a woman's BMI, or in this case someone's poor (and probably life-long) self-esteem being amplified into a desire to be degraded, possibly even put in danger.
Most people wince or cringe when they see extreme fetishism, and this reaction is completely normal. When you see or hear about this the person is giving you a window to their psyche. They are literally telling you "Hi! I'm really fucked up and I'm hoping you're also fucked up so that we can be fucked up together!" They are long long past any interest in seeking help for the underlying cause of their fetishism, if they ever cared to begin with, and the end result of their obsession is a never-ending escalation to a constantly out-of-reach extreme.
They behave very similar to drug addicts. If you ever wanted to understand how a 63 year old fat man can twerk in a parade in his underwear in front of 7 year olds, now you know how he got there.
It must be sweep week for bloggers.
Okay, guy, sounds good.
Just don't stand in front of the TV when K-pop's on.
Quaestor @835--
'soi-disant,' only one t.
As a former editor, I fetishize spelling.
racists racists. everywhere racists.
I miss Titus.
Dear NYT: Why do we need to know gory details about people's sexual proclivities? Is it because of this man's claim that he was interested in a second skin because of anti-Asian "racism?"
Seems to me if this problem is real, we would have seen a lot of people everywhere in the world resorting to second skins if they live in countries where their skin color is in the minority.
“Modern Love” as a column moniker is trading on a long association of the term with the often amusing, wackadoodle mating rituals to which each generation of young people lend their imprint, from serenading outside a girl’s window to beach blanket bingo, dance marathons and cross country dating. Kids these days. However, the discussion at the NYT seems to have precious little to do with “Love” and ought to be called “Disembodied Self-Gratification in Modern Babylon.”
"We have been duped into giving protected status to approved sexual fetishes."
Next up, gay, Korean-American, latex fetish story time. The kids are gonna love it!
So..he puts this stuff on a clothesline to dry?
If only Buffalo Bill had discovered synthetics.
In the US, Koreans are even more racist than the Chinese.
Irish are the least racist.
Once again, Althouse's choice of posts send me running for the hills.
They should make this fuckbag work in a burn unit.
Sorry. There are real people suffering. I'm tired of our horrifically limited medical resources being wasted on fetishes. There's plenty of diverse porn out there to gratify your pathetic libido.
"the privilege of being heterosexual or white."
[citation needed]
Ryan said...
I miss Titus.
He's in hiding because he kept making what he thought were jokes but which were someone's life story, covered by the NYT the next week. Identifa got after him. When his identikit plastic surgery is finished, he'll emerge.
Put it back in the holster, Kinky Bill. Normal people don't GAS.
He in the administration?
I think his extreme narcissism will help pull him through.
It puts teh latex on…
https://time.com/6287536/harvard-medical-morgue-chief-charged-selling-body-parts/
Just saying.
Impetigo, maybe?
Who has the time for all this alternative crap?
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