September 14, 2019

"Is this really true? Did you really pack up your mother-in-law's things and lock her out after she gave you the house? Umm yeah, YTA."

A clear response at r/AmItheAsshole.

I'm a big fan of r/AmItheAsshole and have read all the entries for the last few weeks. Usually, it's more of a conundrum or it's somebody who needs and deserves assurance that they are not the asshole. But this one takes the cake. I kind of especially enjoy when a true asshole posts with what looks like the expectation that they are not the asshole. I have a natural inclination to defend the absent party, so I like when someone who thinks they're right is met with a response that understands the other perspective and represents it well.

UPDATE: Reddit moderators have taken the post down and locked the comments over there. They explain:
You want assholes to post on this subreddit? How about next time you don't eviscerate OP in the comments. I don't care how much you think they're the worst, be fucking civil on this sub.

And in case you're one of those people wondering, "Why am I suppose to be civil in a sub about assholes?!" Read this.
From that:
I’m supposed to “Be Civil” in a sub about “assholes”?
  • Yes. For the purposes of this subreddit, “asshole” is not a bad word or an insult.
  • The purpose of this subreddit has always been to help people see where they may have been in the wrong. It’s not about calling someone “an asshole” it’s about finding who “the asshole” is in a situation.
  • The title of this subreddit is not an invitation for you to be cruel. Treat others with respect, no matter how big of an asshole they may be.
  • We are ALL "The Asshole" at one point or another in this lifetime. Please remember this when you comment here.

34 comments:

rcocean said...

Sounds like a Dragnet episode. I remember this from TV reruns in the 1980s. I guy had a blind Mother-in-law and villain had a moving van come in and take all her furniture and sell it. The guy also demanded everyone call him "Mister so-and-so" because he deserved the respect. Anyway Joe Friday has a zinger for him, but I forgot what it was.

Ornithophobe said...

I gave my son and his bride his childhood home when I remarried. They packed my stuff while I was on honeymoon and I returned to find them ready to move me out entirely. But she did a great job, only one item was broken in transit and I'm pretty sure it was meant to be helpful, not unkind. Daughter in law is a wonderful girl.

tim maguire said...

Without a third-party’s version of the events, there's no way to know who’s the asshole.

Matt Sablan said...

I could never respond without the caveat "assuming you're not lying,"

Earnest Prole said...

I love reddit, but I don’t take everything I read there as the honest-to-God truth.

Yancey Ward said...

This sounds like another literary creation to me.

Am I the asshole for not believing this story?

Shouting Thomas said...

Everybody's an asshole, which is another way of saying everybody is a sinner.

Accepting this is, despite the negative way people view it, a sound foundation on which to build friendships and business associations.

I expect the worst from people who tell me they are caring and compassionate saints.

FullMoon said...

A common sense comment from the link. Although the aita creative scenarios open up discussion about "what if.."
How about AITA for creating a false hockey stick graph in order to make myself seem like the top guy in my field and then refuse to share my research info with other scientists?
Now, that right there might elicit a few replies..

Is this really true?

OP's post screams of trolling.

I swear half the posts here are "I cured cancer and saved 100 puppies. AITA?" or something utterly vile.

"I committed genocide and in my downtime I gave kids cancer. AITA?"

Oso Negro said...

Hmmm. Balancing the NYT and WAPO with Reddit AITA? I guess at the NYT it's always "yes, YTA." At least at Reddit there is some doubt.

M Jordan said...

In most Assholian judgements, it’s not either/or. There’s a preponderance of assholianness. That mother-in-law, I’m guaranteeing, has at least 30% of the onus.

M Jordan said...

In most Assholian judgements, it’s not either/or. There’s a preponderance of assholianness. That mother-in-law, I’m guaranteeing, has at least 30% of the onus.

Ice Nine said...

Dear Abby 2019. Zzzzz...

Clyde said...

If you're poking along in the left lane and I have to pass you on the right, you're the asshole.

Josephbleau said...

When I go to the reddit link the screen is blanked out and it asks if I want to use chrome or the reddit app. I use duck duck go so my personal data won’t be tracked and they want me to use chrome or the app so they can sell my private data. Yes reddit is the asshole.

Josephbleau said...

When I go to the reddit link the screen is blanked out and it asks if I want to use chrome or the reddit app. I use duck duck go so my personal data won’t be tracked and they want me to use chrome or the app so they can sell my private data. Yes reddit is the asshole.

Christy said...

So an ad hom title where no ad hom comments are allowed. I like the discipline demanded but I have enough assholes around already. Not gonna invite more into my mindfulness.

Christy said...
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Christy said...

Sorry about the double post. Forgot moderation is on.

Jim at said...

Be fucking civil in a thread about assholes.

What a glorious time to be alive.

traditionalguy said...

Now we know why lawyers have job security.Many people love to be flaming assholes until stopped.

Kelly said...

Reminds me of story from a few years ago. An old man signed his house over to his daughter, I forget why. She then tried to evict him, sell the house and put the man in a nursing home. The Granddaughter moved in with him and raised funds to buy the house from her mother, but the mother refused to sell it back. It was really odd. The guy died not long after.

phantommut said...

That's a very reasonable explanation of why one should always at least attempt to be civil.

Ralph L said...

I don't care how much you think they're the worst, be fucking civil on this sub.

Isn't that special?

Suppose the OP likes it rough?

The Cracker Emcee Refulgent said...


“I don't care how much you think they're the worst, be fucking civil on this sub.
Isn't that special?
Suppose the OP likes it rough?”

Just so. Why would you post in a “Am I the Asshole” forum if you weren’t there to play? It’s not Ann Landers. And only a willfully naive asshole would think it might be.

Ice Nine said...

What an incredible waste of time that thing is. People asking if they are assholes! If you need to do that, you are in dire need of some fine tuning - nay, simple freakin' tuning. Do what you think is right and be done with it.

And if you are for some reason interested in observing those people who need that tuning puzzling over it and asking a bunch of NPCs on the internet whether or not they do need it, well...well I guess I won't complete that thought here.

ALP said...

I posted in AITA once. Results: about 50/50. Didn't help and I am still wondering AITA whenever the same situation presents itself. I guess the Wisdom of Reddit only goes so far.

Kevin said...

It’s not about calling someone “an asshole”

It’s not about virtue signaling.

Iman said...

Clowns to the left of me, assholes to the right, here I am
Stuck in the reddit with you

Iman said...

"If you're poking along in the left lane and I have to pass you on the right, you're the asshole."

Amen. And if you drive a Scion tC, it doesn't matter how well you are driving when you're within eyeshot, at some point in time you will drive like an asshole and be the sole cause of a bad accident.

cubanbob said...

If you are in a situation where you don't know who the asshole is, it's probably you.

Narr said...

I can't resist saying what M Jordan almost did: the mother-in-law bears some of the anus!

Narr
Assholier-than-thou!

AltStruck said...

Ok Ann, I said earlier on another post that I didn't think your recent fascination with Reddit was improving your blog; I freely admit this one amused me greatly and I am oh-so-thankful you are mining Reddit so I don't have to.

Eddie said...

The rules for that subreddit show uncommon wisdom.

JAORE said...

Where is the YTA for politicians?

Or will the percentage of "YES" votes doom the effort.