4. Focus on the leave-behinds not the take-aways: The best communicators are not only skilled at learning and gathering information while communicating, they are also adept at transferring ideas, aligning expectations, inspiring action, and spreading their vision. The key is to approach each interaction with a servant’s heart. When you truly focus on contributing more than receiving you will have accomplished the goal. Even though this may seem counter-intuitive, by intensely focusing on the other party’s wants, needs & desires, you’ll learn far more than you ever would by focusing on your agenda.
April 7, 2012
"10 Communication Secrets of Great Leaders."
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Resonance is key: link.
Dissonance is deadly.
When you truly focus on contributing more than receiving you will have accomplished the goal.
It's like capitalism.
You can only improve your situation in life by improving somebody else's situation in life.
As opposed to socialism, where you hit the guy on the head and take his stuff.
Something to listen to, since Radio Derbyshire seems to be unposted this week, perhaps never to be posted again over at NRO: Richard Epstein on Happiness.
link page.
Epstein at econtalk.org is a thousand times better than Epstein in print.
In audio he covers everything in so few sentences, rapidfire.
When he writing he goes all latinate.
Louis Armstrong was a great advocate of "leaving it all behind". He often handed out promotional material for the laxative Swiss Kriss, which he consumed every day.
"It's like capitalism.
You can only improve your situation in life by improving somebody else's situation in life.
As opposed to socialism, where you hit the guy on the head and take his stuff."
Neither capitalism nor socialism means what you are trying to make it mean here.
Please try learning what these words actually mean.
Note that the people who DO hit other people & "take their stuff" in real life perennially refer to this activity as "Free Enterprise" or "profit." The wittier among them may very well joke about fresh dividends or the success of their latest hostile takeovers.
But fear not - surely a mere cursory glimpse at the world's infamous socialist hell-holes of mayhem, crime & slaughter (like Denmark or Finland) will refute my vapid blather.
The key is to approach each interaction with a servant’s heart. When you truly focus on contributing more than receiving you will have accomplished the goal. Even though this may seem counter-intuitive, by intensely focusing on the other party’s wants, needs & desires, you’ll learn far more than you ever would by focusing on your agenda.
So why is this counter intuitive? You don't learn much of anything by just focusing on your own agenda. Isn't this why Congress is so dysfunctional? It's a lack of respect for others and their point of view. Obama has the same problem. I watched his televised health care "summit" with horror. He had no interest in learning from the Republicans, especially Paul Ryan. He was clearly infuriated that Ryan and others dared to treat him as an equal in the discussion.
On the "it's like capitalism" theme: Consider the notion (first stated by Justice Holmes) that free speech rights are about "free trade" in the "marketplace of ideas."
"But when men have realized that time has upset many fighting faiths, they may come to believe even more than they believe the very foundations of their own conduct that the ultimate good desired is better reached by free trade in ideas -- that the best test of truth is the power of the thought to get itself accepted in the competition of the market, and that truth is the only ground upon which their wishes safely can be carried out. That, at any rate, is the theory of our Constitution.."
http://www.law.cornell.edu/supct/html/historics/USSC_CR_0250_0616_ZD.html
1, 3, 7, and 9 seem to be the biggies - be honest and be right. Understanding that you know what people want and need is important.
As to 10, the Demos have been getting away with breaking that one for 50 years, but it may have something to do with the intellectual and educational levels of the audience.
the success of their latest hostile takeovers.
You obviously don't know what that means. A takeover can be hostile, that is, unwanted by current management, but it can't be done against the will of the majority of owners (except for the NY Times), so it usually significantly improves their condition.
More importantly, it creates the incentive for all managements to shape up or be replaced, which again helps stockholders and customers alike.
I wish more wingnut politicians would explain the Invisible Hand and stress the value of voluntary transactions, as opposed to the mandated ones you like.
A true leader is not needed by his followers. The paradox is that the true leader is first and foremost an exemplar, one who inspires. And once what he embodies has been received his actual presence is no longer required. The same can be said of a true friend.
Note that the people who DO hit other people & "take their stuff" in real life perennially refer to this activity as "Free Enterprise" or "profit."
Quote one.
I've found that leaders aren't necessarily giving more than they take. They most often popularize others ideas.
Second point:
When you truly focus on contributing more than receiving you will have accomplished the goal.
It's like capitalism.
Define "Capitalism." Even the "Free exchange of goods" may not be enough in a capitalist system to of private property and ownership of ideas to make a win win situation. How different is Capitalism from Kings and Queens, who own all the property?
To me, the necessary element in Capitalism is "No Sharks," which is to say evolution of corporations, individuals, and GOVERNMENTS, that have so much power they can not be challenged.
Third point:
Due to massive brainwashing, many have become polarized. They think the massive accumulation of power by the government means that massive accumulation of power by other entities isn't also bad. Massive accumulations of power are anti-growth. Just ask the shark, never changing, merely a parasite on life. Probably impeding new life forms, and not encouraging them in any meaningful way.
Lot of lefty brain short circuiting tonite when considering that a free exchange of goods and value is moral. Especially when the OWS free stuff army is on the march trailing vandalism, theft and sexual assault. Hmm isn't that the real war on amen?
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