In a tribute to feminism, the obit waits until the 6th paragraph to tell us how she looked: "With her willowy physique, her fashionable miniskirts and her straight, parted hair, she brought glamour as well as passion to her work, challenging the popular perception of feminists as bra-burning radicals."
Paragraph 8: "Ms. Steinem burst to the fore in the 1960s not as an activist, but as a high-flying freelance journalist for publications including Esquire, Cosmopolitan and Vogue. She experienced firsthand the sexism that she would later fight on behalf of other women. Ms. Steinem recalled a taxicab conversation between the renowned writers Gay Talese and Saul Bellow, in which she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"
Here's the NYT obituary: "Gloria Steinem, Personification of the Women’s Movement, Dies at 92/She challenged sexist assumptions, helping women develop a sense of self-worth and gain a measure of equality at work, at home and in society at large" (gift link).
The NYT tells us how she looked in paragraph 4: "For more than half a century, she personified the women’s movement and became its most enduring symbol; her tinted aviator glasses and curtain of streaked-blond hair parted in the center made her one of the most recognizable women in the world."
That's only about her glasses and her hairstyle. It doesn't inform us that she was prettier than other girls. The next paragraph is: "She was an unlikely revolutionary. Growing up a transient in the Midwest, she was 10 when her parents divorced and she was left to mother her mentally anguished mother — a formative experience that reverberated throughout her life. She had scant formal education until sixth grade; her big dream, as a budding tap dancer, was to become a Rockette."
She was less fortunate than other girls.
At paragraph 13-12: "Despite her fearless public persona, Ms. Steinem was somewhat diffident, initially terrified of speaking in public and wrestled with a lack of self-esteem. She was also insecure about her looks. She said in an interview for this obituary in January 2026 that she wore her large aviator glasses and cloak of long hair partly to hide her face. 'What I felt like inside,' she wrote in 'Revolution From Within,' her 1992 book about self-esteem, 'was a plump brunette from Toledo, too tall and much too pudding faced.'"
She was less fortunate than other girls.
At paragraph 13-12: "Despite her fearless public persona, Ms. Steinem was somewhat diffident, initially terrified of speaking in public and wrestled with a lack of self-esteem. She was also insecure about her looks. She said in an interview for this obituary in January 2026 that she wore her large aviator glasses and cloak of long hair partly to hide her face. 'What I felt like inside,' she wrote in 'Revolution From Within,' her 1992 book about self-esteem, 'was a plump brunette from Toledo, too tall and much too pudding faced.'"
Whatever she thought about how she looked, didn't it help her? "When she was first job-hunting in New York, an editor at Life turned her away. 'We need a reporter,' he told her, 'not a pretty girl.' An editor at The New York Times Magazine propositioned her, she said. Clay Felker, the editor of New York magazine and Ms. Steinem’s mentor, said he gave her an assignment because she had 'great legs.'"
Here's what she did on that assignment: "A Bunny Tale."

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Steinem probably saw what women are currently doing with her life's work and her soul couldn't take it anymore.
Happily married. Congrats.
I read about her childhood. Horrible!
What do you say when a successful enemy dies?
RIP.
“She had scant formal education until sixth grade”
…raised by wolves until middle school?
…even if it is commentary it’s fitting irony another self proclaimed feminist focuses on her appearance….I think she was harmful to women and humanity but will wait to say so…
…I’ve been fly fishing abound the world. Trout like places to rest away from predators just off the flow where they can rest while food floats by. I once fished a stream where there weren’t boulders, logs, etc. but there was a small dump where people disposed of heavy stuff and there was a rusted bicycle deep in the water where a stack of fish were finning and feeding…
“ The Equal Rights Amendment, prohibiting discrimination on account of sex, was belatedly ratified but is still not part of the Constitution.”
Omitted from this sentence is the fact that the states only had seven years to ratify.
More deception by the NYT.
Wasnt she cias girl in vienna
She seemed like a nice person. I’d like to have a beer with her. We could talk about her son-in-law.
rehajm said...
"…I’ve been fly fishing abound the world. Trout like places to rest away from predators just off the flow where they can rest while food floats by. I once fished a stream where there weren’t boulders, logs, etc. but there was a small dump where people disposed of heavy stuff and there was a rusted bicycle deep in the water where a stack of fish were finning and feeding…"
So a Fish DOES need a bicycle!
Do you mean a step-son-inlaw? Because Steinem famously chose not to have kids. When she married Bale in 2000, he did have grown children.
Ms won''t be missed.
Yeah, Christian Bale.
Meh
She lived a full life and had an impact. She probably annoyed me when I was younger, but I respect what she accomplished. Though...I have to wonder if the end product is what she had hoped for.
"she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"
He was treating her as an equal.
She went to Smith College, graduated magna cum laude, and phi beta kappa… Pretty and smart apparently.
She was outspoken re reproductive rights mostly, chastising patriarchal or domineering societies. From what I can tell she didn’t differentiate between Islamic, Christian, Jewish, or any other country rooted in some form of religion, no matter how remotely, deeming them all oppressive to women.
“What’s Hecuba to him, or he to Hecuba,
That he should weep for her?”
Wonder what she thought about Clancy…
Lodestar is wrong but then so would be influencer.
I just learned that Gay Talese is still kicking!
May Ms. Steinem rest in peace. Her thing was not my thing, or not entirely; I guess I did like some of it. But I don't think her activities "help[ed] women develop a sense of self-worth" - more often the opposite, it seems, as I look around me and as I consider my own struggle to feel relevant as a woman whose greatest ambition was to have and raise children.
My grandmothers had self-worth in spades; my mother was (and is) always her own person, whether working at a job, working in her vocation as a teacher, or working as a stay-at-home mother. Me? All my life, motherhood according to the zeitgeist sounded like a hobby at best, if not a high-security prison.
Was that Steinem's intent? Maybe, since that's what it was for her. The quotes from the article certainly make it sound as if her life's work had a very obvious wellspring. But now I'm wondering again about the interplay between Movement and Great (Wo)Man approaches to history: she was on the scene at the right moment, AND she had a background that (because she was a person with ambition) impelled her to seize that moment, it seems to me.
In the world of blue collar men working in heavy construction where death is not some long far away imagined prospect, when the journeymen openly criticize an apprentice to his face in front of everybody, is a sign that the apprentice is going to make a good hand.
Rather than an insult, the below comment in the taxi cab was the highest possible praise from a man.
***Ms. Steinem recalled a taxicab conversation between the renowned writers Gay Talese and Saul Bellow, in which she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'"***
“her tinted aviator glasses and curtain of streaked-blond hair parted in the center made her one of the most recognizable women in the world.”
I’m old enough to remember how much that look was copied in the 1960s and well into the 1970s. With so many young women wanting to look like her, I’d like to argue that she disappeared into the crowd of Gloria Steinem wanna-bes.
Funny how the insult “pudding faced” came so quickly to her lips. I doubt she heard it from a man.
Shorter Howard: “The harder the slap, the better the artist.”
For a extremely well done historical drama mini-series about this topic. I highly recommend the show "Mrs. America" where Kate Blanchett plays Phyllis Schlafly and Rose Byrne plays Gloria Steinem.
It would have been nice to know what she thought about the state of women's affairs in the present day. It was always complicated, but I wonder if she was seeing any of the gains that her generation fought hard for, being squandered away. Clarity doesn't always bring the resolution you hoped for. R.I.P.
She was certainly an effective advocate for the causes she championed. The obit says she was "always" demonized by conservatives. I don't know if I'm a conservative, but I know I never demonized her. She deserved her success and I'm glad that some of the changes she fought for came about........I read a few articles by her, but I never read any of her books. I don't mean this as a slam, but I think she had more impact as a celebrity activist than as a writer.......She was good looking and that was part of her brand. So for that matter was Hemingway and that was part of his brand. She kept her good looks until late old age. I guess that reflects character and not vanity. Orwell said you don't have the face you deserve until you're past forty.......I thought more of Dolly Parton but I had far less thoughts about Dolly Parton than I did of Gloria Steinem.
Meh.
If Talese had tried to encourage her it might have come across as condescension, like a pat on the head. In any case, she rose to the challenge.
It's possible to agree that the feminist movement has developed numerous career alternative opportunities for women but at the same time has weakened the stability of the nuclear family as well as the level of self-satisfaction of women in America. It's not even arguable given the number of studies that confirm this. Even worse, it seems to have created a persistent sense of bitterness and open general hostility toward men in a significant percentage of women.
Is life in America better for having achieved the objectives of the feminist movement?
Was Talese entirely wrong? Steinem's looks probably did help her career, and it's not only women who cash in on their looks in the media. She didn't have a coven already in place in journalism, so she had to create her own and had an independent toughness that became less common as professions became more female-dominated.
Steinem's grandmother was a pioneering feminist and progressive. She passed away before Gloria was born. I'm wondering how much of feminism was a grassroots thing and how much was Smith women like Friedan and Steinem passing their own frustrations and grievances on to other women -- and how much was women's response to men's irresponsibility and abandonment.
I was a child during her peak celebrity. I mostly remember her as a talk show guest. Her looks were certainly a part of her success. Also, she must have had some charm to be such a frequent guest on television.
Well...
'Bye.
It strikes me that her look is still copied. The blonde, parted in the middle long hair look is still very popular among women of all ages.
The nattering nabobs of the manosphere would like a say. She was a large part of ushering in a world where women make more than men, but the financialization of the economy and shipment of traditional male jobs overseas certainly did not help, and women are now complaining about the lack of “good” men.
How do you make a woman unhappy? You give her what she says she wants.
""she said Talese remarked in her presence, 'You know how every year there’s a pretty girl who comes to New York and pretends to be a writer? Well, Gloria is this year’s pretty girl.'" He was treating her as an equal."
Just to follow that line of reasoning, he was helping her, warning her not to coast or to imagine other people are out to help her get ahead.
Gay Talese is still alive. He's 94. I wonder how he feels seeing himself trashed in Gloria Steinem obits.
On one side, supporting the Equal Rights Amendment “were 90 percent majorities in both houses of Congress, every live American President and President’s wife, every major state governor except an ambivalent Ronald Reagan, all leading mayors, both political parties’ platforms and leadership, every major newspaper, magazine, and television network, the League of Women Voters, all the old-line Protestant denominations, the National and World Councils of Churches, several leading Catholic and Jewish organizations and publications, and huge majorities of the American public as registered by all public opinion polls.
On the other side was Phyllis Schlafly - and that was enough.”
I remember Schlafly used to bring home baked cookies to the state legislatures as they discussed the ERA. Drove the lefties crazy.
Phyllis Schlafly, one husband, six kids, earned a law degree while campaigning against the ERA to give her arguments added weight. She and the grass roots organizations she fostered finally defeated the ERA in 1982, three states short, even after Congress extended the deadline.
It was all but impossible for a man in the sixties to financially “abandon” his wife.
Gay Talese did say — a mere 10 years ago — that there weren't any women writers he liked: https://www.buzzfeed.com/jinamoore/women-gay-talese-should-read?utm_source=chatgpt.com
America may be better for having achieved some of the objectives, but as objectives are achieved, new objectives take their place. The movement becomes a business and the new objectives serve the people in the business. Then it becomes a racket.
Slightly OT-
As an early-mid Boomer, I lived through the various stages of feminism. I look at the status of women in Western Civilization today, and wonder if overall they are happier than women overall were in the 1950s. I'm not saying that women like our hostess have not benefited (obv she has), but the 1950s housewife is now the 2020s assistant retail manager who still has more than half of the responsibility of raising her children, even if she is fortunate to avoid the "single mom" place that so many of her cohort have fallen into.
I see men doing better and being happier once they figure out the new rules. Women? Not so much.
bye.
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