“I said I want your husband to sign the executive order,” Sturtz said. “Her husband could sign this order tonight and protect 22 percent of the work force in this country.”I get a whiff of sexism from the use of the word "fluster." That's a word that people have traditionally used — this is my observation — to portray a woman as incapable of standing her ground and dealing with emotional turmoil.
Sturtz said she paid $500 to attend the fundraiser, part of a protest cooked up by the gay rights group GetEqual, which gained notice in Obama’s first term for hectoring him during speeches and demanding more action on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender issues.
The (unlinkable) OED defines the transitive verb "to fluster" to mean "To flurry, confuse":
1785 A. Murphy Way to keep Him (new ed.) i. 26 Ma'am, if I was as you, I would not fluster myself about it.I find it arrogant and annoying for this protester to claim to have flustered the First Lady. The First Lady was angered (and justifiably).
1816 Scott Antiquary III. v. 112 The aged housekeeper was no less flustered and hurried in obeying the numerous..commands of her mistress.