"Within 23 days of posting, the video surpassed a million views.... Whatever machine learning was needed to push this onto the FYP of so many people, it seems to have worked as designed. Everyone I showed the video to in my real life couldn’t understand the controversy. But everyone leaving comments seemed willing to ignore any reasonable context to insist I must be a horrible person. 'You must be fun at parties,' commented LucyInTheSky. Lucy, I am fun at parties.... Some friends, understandably, suggested I just delete it. While that might seem like a quick escape from nuisance behavior, it doesn’t change the threat of this happening again. In order to speak freely on the internet, you have to take the haters for granted...."
April 13, 2026
"I hadn’t intended to offend anyone, but the B-roll I posted to an account with a scant 100 followers was evidently being promoted as rage bait for the masses — and still is."
Writes Tammy Teclemariam, in "'U Went Viral for the Wrong Reasons Honey'/After I posted a video of some garlic bread, TikTok took over" (NY Magazine). She's getting excoriated by commenters who are mad at her for saying, bossily, "You didn’t ask if you could do that," when her tablemate, who'd ordered the bread, started cutting into it with a spoon.
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I read the article and I still don't get it. But then the demogprahic that cared was female 25-44. Which isn't me. The Garlic Bread with sauce looks good.
blue sky losers. I'd bet.
Utensil dysphoria is a dietary ethical condition.
Here is a link to the original video if anyone is interested. Tik-Tok Link.
Most of the replies seemed tame. She should embrace the attention, as she seems to be a reviewer of some kind?
(Easy for me to say, I know.)
In order to speak freely on the internet, you have to take the haters for granted.
I want to tell her how her attitude is just like Trump's. That thought should get her mind off garlic bread. She sounded abrasive and rude too. Being a food reviewer isn't an excuse to be an ass.
The camera swaying back and forth was making me seasick.
Boring wordle today?
I think the online reaction to the video just reflects the current zeitgeist of people being very frustrated with pushy, entitled women. There is a reason that Karen took off organically as one of the new favored pejoratives over the last several years.
"Maybe this got shoved into empty-headed cheese-pull TikTok, which turns out to be quite racist.”
WTF? I'm not even sure I can parse this sentence, never mind understand it.
Before Karens we had "Nanny State" and before that we had "School Marms." Same mode, same mindset. Some women get into a "mother knows best" protector and teacher mode -- they then forget that adults are adults.
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So I put on a loud Hawaiian shirt, gained 200 lbs, and said 'See ? Nobody cares.....'
'You must be fun at parties,' commented LucyInTheSky. Lucy, I am fun at parties.
If you post a video, people have a right to assume that you are happy with how that video presents you. If you are upset that you are being judged by a momentary act, perhaps you shouldn't have put that momentary act before the public to be judged by.
I see it as her being a director who wants the scene to be right. I watched some of her other videos and people tend to wait until the time seems right to cut into food. In this case the woman across from her cut too quickly. Considering that she laughs after she says it and the woman across from her also laughs it would seem it was a lighter moment than is being perceived. The negative comments have a snowball effect - one perceives it as offensive and everyone piles on. In the real world it would be a quickly passing moment. Isolated in a TikTok video that plays on a loop it seems harsher. If anything it draws people to her other videos.
It's really weird how so many people have their mental filters turned off when commenting on the internet. They say things online that they never say to someone's face.
I saw a video last week where a content creator told a story about a guy he sold a car to. The content creator thought that the buyer was trying to rip him off. Suddenly, some of the subscribers found out who the guy was that bought the car was and started inappropriately harassing him both online and in the real world. (Though there was no face to face contact.) The car buyer turned around and sued the content creator for $10,000. On the day of the mediation, both the car buyer and the content creator came to an agreement after the content creator just let the car buyer vent about how terrible his life had been lately. So the suit was dropped, but it still cost the content creator several thousand dollars in expenses because the lawsuit had been filed in a different state.
I also have no idea why people were enraged by this because I took the tone as kind of a joke or teasing a friend . In other words saying, when you go out to dinner with somebody, shouldn’t they wait for you before they start eating, regardless if they ordered it or not?
I guess there really is a reason why they call it "food porn" ...
"It's really weird how so many people have their mental filters turned off when commenting on the internet. They say things online that they never say to someone's face."
See also Plato's Republic and the "Ring of Gyges" or the Disney cartoon ("Motor Mania") where Goofy is the mild mannered Mr Walker, friend to all mankind until he gets behind the wheel of a car and transforms into the hellish Mr Wheeler. Neither the car nor the internet grants true anonymity, but it feels like it.
She seems to understand how to keep those hits coming.
Joe Rogan claims to never read comments about podcast or comedic performances. Sound advice.
"loudogblog said...
It's really weird how so many people have their mental filters turned off when commenting on the internet. They say things online that they never say to someone's face."
"Social media made y'all way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it." -Mike Tyson
Within 23 days of posting, the video surpassed a million views.... Whatever machine learning was needed to push this onto the FYP of so many people, it seems to have worked as designed.
What the ML algorithm is noting is that the zeitgeist has unified against toxic female bullshit.
This woman acting like a nagging fuck cunt is guaranteed to generate angry engagement.
Women who act like disturbing coddled knowitall bitches can expect to be put on blast for the next decade or so.
Rosalyn C. said...
I also have no idea why people were enraged by this because I took the tone as kind of a joke or teasing a friend . In other words saying, when you go out to dinner with somebody, shouldn’t they wait for you before they start eating, regardless if they ordered it or not?
It isn't the event, it is the pattern.
As some have noted 99% of our problems in the US originate from 2 sources right now: People who act like 3rd world animals, and stupid over educated women who think they are smart enough to tell everyone what to do.
"Rosalyn C. said...
I also have no idea why people were enraged by this because I took the tone as kind of a joke or teasing a friend "
I took it as the speaker actually being angry her dinner guest touched the food and then tried to make a joke about it, but didn't fully cover her tone of irritation. The guest seemed to react as if the speaker really was upset.
To me, it seems like she was dining with a friend, who would know that she is a food critic/influencer/whatever, and would have seen her filming the plate, and she wanted to control when the bread was split and served for professional purposes.
Forgot to say grace
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