It seems to me that these men love their wives in their natural state, so they don't see a problem. The women are making it a problem, demanding critical judgment of their appearance, perhaps because they believe that someone else is judging them. Sad!
ADDED: All these women really need is an understanding that he won't post any photographs of her without first asking. That should be the default rule for everyone.
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It’s a skill. Did you give him lessons?
Most people don't like most photos of themselves. That's hardly news, even soft news.
I’m getting a Droste effect vibe where clicks are garnered by posting the bad pics then posting all the pics of garnering the pics. Will there be a ‘Making of…’ series complete with more pics of posting the pics?
The lesson here is, not everyone can be a Lawrence Meade.
I’m okay. You’re so-so…
"The women are making it a problem"
The digital version of "does this dress make me look fat?"
I get the impression this kind of shaming doesn’t have much impact on the guys, as if they’re the spouse of a comic that tells wife/husband jokes. If it works for the Instys or not meh whatever…
Should women be banned from social media? It doesn't seem to be helping them.
A man loves is wife and takes a photo so he can remember the moment, and she is miffed. She takes photos so she can post them on social media for validation from people who aren't a big part of her life.
Feeling loved is better than feeling cute.
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Remember that your face in the mirror (the one you see) is not the same as your face in the photo (the one others see). The former is reversed. For some people, when they see photos of themselves, this can be disconcerting.
As an article, that was thin gruel. It did feature the endlessly complaining black woman. And the overly entitled white girls who need a little real oppression in their lives to get some perspective back.
Randomizer: "Feeling loved is better than feeling cute."
For women, it's not about feeling loved, it's about feeling desired (or envied by other women).
These couples are just having fun. Cute article.
My best swim buddy is the most photogenic person I have ever met. I think because her heart is always bursting with joy love and awe, she constantly glows with beauty. What were seeing here are good looking women captured candidly with resting bitch face. Instead of blaming the photographer, maybe they look into their hearts and change their entitled stuck up. Always disappointed attitude towards life in general.
You mean women and men don't understand each other? Huh.
When everything in your society is AWFL...
Beautiful meritocracy.
There’s two skills involved, framing and posing. The first is on the photographer, the second is on the subject.
As Randomizer said modern women value validation from strangers more than feeling loved by a spouse. It doesn't matter if the spouse is a man or woman. You can see that in the divorce rates among lesbians.
Yesterday's 'Professional Grade' photos are today's 'Influencer Grade' photos.
that was a lot of work to see the Geico commercial. But worth it.
Bob Boyd said...The lesson here is, not everyone can be a Lawrence Meade.
Not with that attitude, Bob.
You guys don’t miss any opportunity to hate on women. Yikes.
Kai Akker: “ And the overly entitled white girls who need a little real oppression in their lives to get some perspective back.”
Yep, how about an ER photo of her with two black eyes and a split lip? “Remember this one, baby? That’s when you started being nice to me again!” CC, JSM
Wow. Immediately to 11.
Don’t worry. Just a bit of satire. CC, JSM
Boys and girls welcome meritocracy, striving in the opposite sex. Is there a third gender?
Most of those photos are what used to be called "snapshots" -- capturing someone looking real. They're more interesting, and arguably far more attractive, than curated glamour images whose only purpose is to highlight the subject's beauty.
No good deed goes unpublicized by the New York Times
Boys and girls who live together, strive together, thrive together.
Don't make my legs look short.
"No good deed goes unpublicized by the New York Times."
Did you mean "unpoliticized"?
Photos? I avoid mirrors.
You can tell Mosby knows the score.
Eva Marie, there is way too much whining and complaining from way too many women. The world's most favored people, in this society, and they can't seem to enjoy life. Wutsupwiddat?
Search "Do These Dachshunds Make My Butt Look Big?" on Instagram.
Classic.
All these women really need is an understanding that he won't post any photographs of her without first asking.
Relationship Secret: She values her public persona more than your relationship.
"These couples are just having fun. Cute article."
What if it's not in jest. Who's to say this isn't just one in a long list of gripes she's saving up. Grist for the Divorce Mill. These petty grievances are today's equivalent of he-squeezes-the-toothpaste-the-wrong-way. Some women just aren't happy unless they have something to complain about.
Kai Akker said...
“You can tell Mosby knows the score.”
You defend it. I find it disgusting. Difference of opinion.
Whenever I'm asked to take a picture of a person or group, I take a huge bunch of them, and then hand the phone over.
What shocks me is the use of filters. I see pictures of women that I know on Facebook and so on, and when you see them in person it's 'shock-and-awful'.
Honestly, who do they think is fooled, and how can it be this important to deceive complete strangers, while fooling none of the people that actually know and care about you?
My ex-wife invariably hated the photos I would make of her. It got to the point that she would ask a random stranger to make a photo instead of me. After we divorced, I dated young women for years and got complete instructions on how to make great selfies. With my current wife, I just keep hitting the button when she strikes a pose and then let her sort through the 50 or so image my fingers can manage.
Eva Marie! Good grief. JSMosby was kidding around, or trying to yank my chain with his original post. I was kidding around completely in my reply. Meanwhile, you ignored my serious question to you.
You've twice responded to comments I've posted and you have not only whiffed but you are turned around in the wrong direction.
Much like cooking steaks at home v going to whatever Prime, my wife prefers my photos over professionals. She is an artist and does live event stuff, primarily wedding receptions. She’s one of the OG’s and does weddings all over the country and works with some very high end planners and knows floral folks, photographers, DJ’s etc and she’s suggested I should take on some jobs.
I’ll do her and family but I don’t like to bother with humans if I can help it. Too critical of themselves especially since I’m filter free and try to use natural light where I can (I will take photos at some of her weddings as reference for her, tho. She’ll use in her studio to finish details she may not have gotten onsite). And I’m off the socials other than a pseudonymous Insty page for my photos. Non-human stuff only. For me although I have a few followers, mostly other photogs and some kinfolk.
Only one stipulation from my wife. She’s also a graphics designer and has her own Adobe Creative Suite. She gets the RAW photos. What she does with them, I don’t ask.
Just so I understand the rules:
when women kid around about bad photos
it’s “the endlessly complaining black woman. And the overly entitled white girls who need a little real oppression in their lives to get some perspective back.”
when guys say “how about an ER photo of her with two black eyes and a split lip? “Remember this one, baby? That’s when you started being nice to me again!”
then it’s “Good grief! We were kidding around!”
Got it.
Sometimes these women just ugly!
"No, it's not the dress. It's your fat that makes you look fat."
--- Got it.
Do you ever not get it. But that's your problem. I would start with this "rule." When you challenge a commenter about something, and he replies, answer his reply. It's simple.
On two different occasions, you have commented on my comments. You were 180 degrees wrong about the literal meaning of the first, which only required basic reading; and this one you are whatever you are here. No labels, no interest in it, but the tone escaped you. You still avoided answering my direct reply to you.
“You still avoided answering my direct reply to you.“
I’m assuming it’s this:
“there is way too much whining and complaining from way too many women. The world's most favored people, in this society, and they can't seem to enjoy life. Wutsupwiddat?”
Let’s say I did answer that with:
It’s because way too many men are [fill in the blank].
You do realize what a stupid conversation that would lead to, don’t you?
Don’t we all know both sides of this argument ad nauseam?
Here is Perplexity’s answer which is actually pretty good:
“Way too many men are quietly drowning in the same culture of grievance and fragility they complain about in women, they just express it as anger, cynicism, or checked‑out nihilism instead of open whining.
If women are supposedly “the most favored,” yet measures of anxiety and depression skew higher for them, that doesn’t prove unique oppression so much as it shows that modern comfort hasn’t delivered meaning—and that both sexes are being trained to treat normal friction as victimhood instead of a call to grow up and toughen up.”
I’m going to add my thoughts (180 degrees wrong, though they may be):
Perplexity wrote “both sexes are being trained . . .” I really do think that the constant enflaming of grievances in all of us (in terms of gender, race, religion, etc.) is purposeful. The more fragmented we are, the weaker we are.
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