"I miss that — that voluptuousness — being able to, you know, lean up next to her and feel her — for lack of a better word — draping over me. That's no longer an option. Now it's, it's cuddling and it's cuddling as tight and closely as we can — or as I can. And that's, that's the extent of the intimacy. I'm at a loss for why there's no physical intimacy. There hasn't been any...."
Said a man who's wife lost a lot of weight on Ozempic, in "Marriage and Sex in the Age of Ozempic: An Update," today's episode of the NYT podcast "The Daily." (Link goes to audio and transcript at Podscribe.)
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Scramble those around a little and cap them off with "death" and you've described life.
The alternative is fitness without the side-effects. Same complaint.
I guess there might be a couple men out there who like fat women.
Almost all men if they are being honest do not want fat women.
The real question I have is why does the NYTs want women to be fat? Do fat women vote for democrats more?
His misery is precious
Huh. My wife lost 30 pounds on the stuff and looks ravishing and says she hasn't felt so good in years. We are both even more eager than before to spend time in each others' arms.
Now that she's skinny and attractive, she's banging the guy at work. Another Ozempic success story! so the amount of sex hasn't decreased, it's just been redistributed.
Dude is a Chubby Chaser who prefers women unattractive to other men because it makes her dependent on him. If she is thin, she doesn't need him. She feels more confident and attractive and therefore no longer needs validation from this man. That's why there's no intimacy. The relationship was cynical to begin with, and now that is exposed.
He misses his heating pad.
Complain complain and complain. At least he has a wife.
As the ladies man would say Yeah, well that’s disgustin…
The side effects of these GLP-1 weight loss drugs can surprise people, and we still don't know about the long term. A tennis friend of mine has lost 30-35 pounds in 8 months. He's lost both muscle and fat, and he's also lost some of his hunger for life. But he looks much better.
I was always the thin kid, so my metabolism hasn't put me in an unhealthy place.
Priest: I would be remiss in my duty, if I did not tell you, that the idea of... intercourse - the fact of your firm, young... body... commingling with the... withered flesh... sagging breasts... and flabby b-b-buttocks... makes me want... to vomit
…might have to watch Harold and Maude later…
Do fat women vote for democrats more?
Indirectly, yes. The Dems want to rule over a nation of lonely, isolated, dependent, single "Julias" in poorly paid dead-end jobs, who consider the government to have taken the place of a husband or boyfriend, and can be counted upon to vote for its perpetual aggrandizement and enrichment.
The very last thing the Democrats want is happy, prosperous, independent, intact families who resent extortionate taxes and officious government busybodies ordering them around.
To the extent that fat women are less likely ever to get married, the Democrats are more likely to win elections and have more money available for graft and corruption as in Mogadishu-on-the-Mississippi.
Not being a man, perhaps I'm not equipped to make this comment, but from knowing and listening to men all my life I do want to point out that they also don't prefer stick-thin women either. Ariana Grande is right out.
I will be battling the bulge in the new year again. Since my knee replacement back in September, and a depressing development of more than just arthritis pain in the other knee since then, I haven't been able to exercise as vigorously or for as long as I had been - and our still-new nomadic habit of life is taking a toll as well by taking us to places where we have lots of friends and family (hence lots of restaurant eating and overindulgence). I've put on probably six or eight pounds in the three months since all this happened. Sigh.
It turns out that if you treat retirement like a constant party, there is a price to be paid.
Bullshit. As phony as the letters to their advice columnists.
’Ariana Grande is right out.’
Yeah, scary. I’ve dated women on the normal to thin side, but too skinny is tantamount to frail, and that’s no bueno.
Yeah you don't want too skinny either. Also, Ariana Grande is waay on the crazy side of the Hot/Crazy matrix.
Some guys like fat chicks. There are meet-ups where chubby chicks rent out a hall or ballroom to meet men, and almost all the dudes are skinny little motherfuckers, or so I've been told. The real problem is that there are no women who are into skinny little motherfuckers.
Fat Bottom Girls, you make the rockin’ world go round! Woo! CC, JSM
I read through the transcript and it's not the guy's issue. It's the woman who didn't want to have sex. I do think she's going to end up leaving him.
Get on yer bikes and ride! CC, JSM
Hey, I'm a skinny little motherfucker, and I've never lacked for available women!
Big Bottom, by Spinal Tap
The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin
That's what I said
The looser the waistband, the deeper the quicksand
Or so I have read
My baby fits me like a flesh tuxedo
I like to sink her with my pink torpedo
Big bottom, big bottom
Talk about bum cakes, my girl's got 'em
Big bottom, drive me out of my mind
How could I leave this behind?
I met her on Monday, it was my lucky fun day
You know what I mean
I love her each weekday, each velvety cheekday
You know what I mean
My love gun's loaded and she's in my sights
Big game is waiting there inside her tights
Big bottom, big bottom
Talk about mudflaps, my girl's got 'em
Big bottom, drive me out of my mind
How could I leave this behind?
My baby fits me like a flesh tuxedo
I like to sink her with my pink torpedo
Big bottom, big bottom
Talk about bum cakes, my girl's got 'em
Big bottom, drive me out of my mind
How could I leave this behind?
“She sacrificed comfort in bed with a man to look elegant in clothes.” - Enderby
Not sure I remember that quote exactly.
zaftig? Sign me up.
I was just a skinny lad
Didn’t know my good from bad
But I knew life before I left the library…
Left alone with Professor Ann,
She made me into a man,
Law blog woman, you made a rightie outta me!
Ohhh won’t you take me home tonight,
Ohhh right down beside your blue screen light,
Ohhh when you let the ideas out,
Law Blogger Woman, you make the rockin world go round!
Woo!
I've been singing with my band
Cross the water, across the land
I've seen every blue eyed floozy on the way, hey
But their beauty and their style
Went kind of smooth after a while
Take me to them blogger ladies every time
Come on!
Ohh won’t you take me home tonight &c,
Now, I got mortgages on homes
I got stiffness in my bones
Ain't no draggy queens in this locality, I tell you
Oh, but I still get my pleasure
Still got my greatest treasure
Law blogger woman, you gonna make a lawman of me
Get on your (e)bikes and ride!
Ohhh, &c
CC, JSM
My in-laws went on ozempic about a year ago. The wife is a total success story—lost over 70 lbs, eats better, looks great, and leads an active life. The husband is not. He continued to eat poorly and apparently you can get sick if you do that, so he went off the ozempic and quickly regained what weight he lost.
Right now, she is in Hawaii with their son hiking the volcanoes while he is at home because his (almost entirely weight-related) back problems leave him unable to travel by plane.
I'm overweight. I'll risk it.
Even Althouse having trouble with "whose," "a man who's wife..."
This guy would also miss her if she died 15-20 years earlier than she would have otherwise from diabetes, high blood pressure, artery buildup, general organ strain, etc. The other side of her being fat.
john mosby
killed it again
at 12:19
I lost 15 pounds with Manjauro or whatever and I stopped taking it 6 months ago, but it changed my eating and hasn’t worn off, still slowly losing weight with a minimal expenditure of willpower, it says on the packaging that this might happen. I have to be careful to eat well though, not taking in a lot of calories.
Old and slow said...
Hey, I'm a skinny little motherfucker, and I've never lacked for available women!
12/26/25, 12:08 PM
There are exceptions to every rule.
There’s a real marketing oppy here. Ozempic and other weight-loss drugs are a couples intimacy enhancer. Be honest with each other and get back to when you met. The joizz of seggs!
How much does the husband weigh?
Full Moon: thanks! CC, JSM
I haven't heard much about saggy skin surgeries.
A lot of these people could lose just as much weight by doing the choreography from the Jardiance commercials, every day.
You try dancing and singing at the same time...burns a lot of calories! CC, JSM
One thing my wife has said, and this is backed up by her doctor, the new semaglutide weight loss/diabetes treatments just crush your enjoyment of alcohol. She was never much of a drinker anyways, but now she doesn't have more than a glass or two of wine per month.
It's not like Antabuse, which hopeless drunks are sometimes encouraged or even forced to take, and which causes severe nausea and vomiting if they "fall off the wagon". There is no pain or feeling of sickness involved. It merely kills any desire for booze and attenuates the pleasurable sensations that a few drinks elicit for most of us. Her doctor says there are ongoing studies aimed at optimizing this effect for treatment of alcoholics.
Right now, she is in Hawaii with their son hiking the volcanoes
Lucky them. This year Kilauea has been having the most spectacular eruptions since the invention of cinematography.
Plenty of big women still around for fatty chasers, which
The description makes him, or her, sound like...
Just saying.
Baby HAD back…
maguire and hassayamper: "Right now, she is in Hawaii with their son hiking the volcanoes" - "Lucky them. This year Kilauea has been having the most spectacular eruptions since the invention of cinematography."
Hmm. Could this be about something other than weight loss? Sounds like the intro to a Dateline NBC ep. CC, JSM
Smooth, Mr. Mosby!
And baghdadbob!
Our pastor has counseled many couples when they are having “troubles”. It’s been his experience when women lose weight rapidly and become somewhat more attractive, they are more likely to fly the coup.
A friend of mine used to say, about the advantages of being with a plus-sized woman, "They keep you warm in the winter and shady in the summer." But he married someone slender.
Those glp-1 one drugs are peptides, which apparently have been around a while but are now finding new uses. Odd lots had a pretty good podcast about all the Chinese ones that are being imported. https://pca.st/episode/ddc48ce7-3492-4618-a42d-78a5faa4a95e
Transfataphobia is a clear and progressive problem. Fitness over fatness without the highs and lows, too.
Iman: Thanks! CC, JSM
Baghdad Bob for the win! If you hadn't already posted "Big Bottom," I would have!
States should provide Girth Affirmation Therapy. Protect the transfatties with body dysmirphia.
A Russian friend of mine said they did a poll of Russian men and found that 90% of them love fat women. The other 10% love really fat women.
1. Had'em chubby, had'em skinny, loved them all, all were exciting and exotic to me, but then I'm a guy.
2. Down East, it's 'Shade in the Summah, Wahmth in the Wintah'.
3. Hoagy Carmichael: 'Huggin' and Chalkin'; look it up.
Chest Rockwell said...
Those glp-1 one drugs are peptides, which apparently have been around a while but are now finding new uses. Odd lots had a pretty good podcast about all the Chinese ones that are being imported. https://pca.st/episode/ddc48ce7-3492-4618-a42d-78a5faa4a95e
Semaglutide
Tirzepatide
Liraglutide
Dulaglutide
Exenatide
Retatrutide
Orforglipron
Cagrilintide
Bless his heart. Someone has to take them home so they don't block my view.
Apparently, a pill form has just been approved. No more needles!
I expect to see a lot more folks losing weight.
There is a photo that I wish I had taken, at the Musee d’Orsay in Paris there is a reclining statue of a large woman, and standing over it, studying it, was a tiny Chinese lady.
Anybody ever seen the movie, Summer Catch?
Sample size = 1?
Even Althouse having trouble with "whose," "a man who's wife
…and her, a language prefect…
Artificial Intimation perchance Inducement (AI)... trust but verify. It may be a hallucination.
As some said, roll them in flour so you can find the wet spot. Or the song about huggin and a chalkin. Where you make a chalk mark and go huggin and a chalking around the girth until you reach your original mark, but it fell when he found another guy huggin and a chalking from the other direction.
My gals a corker she’s a New Yorker, I buy her everything to keep her in style. She had a pair of hips just like two battleships, see boys that’s where my money goes.
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Fat bottom girls, you make the bloggin' world go round.
"Chubby Chaser's" wife may not have been obese, but just filled out in a way that he found attractive.
There's a subtle self-mockery in the lyrics of Spinal Tap's "Big Bottom" that always cracks me up.
The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'
That's what I said
The looser the waistband, the deeper the quicksand
Or, so I've read.
Being rock stars typically means having had the opportunity to explore every sexual curiosity you've ever imagined. That even when it comes to having sex with a random fat woman you need to consult a book to impart the experience speaks volumes about never having made it as a rock star.
Or, in the gunnery sergeant Hartman vibe, it would require the whole monthly output of the Levi Strauss fabric division to produce the back pockets of those jeans!
If statistics are true, then the majority of the commentators here are morbidly obese. But why should we worry? They just drive up our health care costs.
My God, lj. Are you so uninformed? Statistics are not true or false. We only accept or reject the null hypothesis at a given level of significance, given certain assumptions, conditional on the data.
The number 1 cause of death in America and the number one cause of heath care expenses in the US is not cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or any other disease. It's fat people. Obesity is the cause. But nobody wants to talk about it, because most of those people are obese and don't want to admit it. Until we come to grips with this nothing will change. It's time we engage in more fat shaming. I mean it. Seriously.
"One day, I was a-huggin' and a-chalkin' and a-beggin' her to be my bride,
When I met another man, with some chalk in his hand, comin' around the other side,
Over the mountains, and over the great divide...."
Lj, I dont think you can find a single paper that supports your hypothesis, if you have one ref it. Causality is difficult. Just say it is your opinion.
Neither I nor my wife are active, athletic, always-on-the-move types, and have spent most of our lives a bit or a lot overweight. (I was tall and skinny until college; she has never been either.)
But we managed to have quite ample amounts of satisfactory sex with each other, and neither of us needs a new drug.
Sounds like he's one of the innumerable "baby daddy s" in the most prevalent black communities?
“Aggie said...
"One day, I was a-huggin' and a-chalkin' and a-beggin' her to be my bride,”
Whoop!
I’ve lost that lovin squeezen now it’s gone gone gone, who o who o.
“Teh juice ain’t worth teh squeeze…”
Jelly… jelly… jelly
Jelly stays on muh mind…
I’ll have to admit that I’ve always preferred hard and boney to overstuffed plush, but I won’t go against the crowd.
Last night we watched the 1947 film "Possessed" with Joan Crawford. Not really my thing as it's more of a chick flick, but I noticed that those old movies somehow keep me awake the whole way through, which is a challenge for most newer stuff. A couple times women got slapped by "good guys" just for acting up, and I thought about how that just couldn't happen today. It was a little shocking even to this ancient mind. Still, it seemed to resolve conflict immediately with the slapee exiting the scene. I had to ponder if that would still work such magic.
More NYT themed "men are such selfish pricks" digital slop? Whatever. Their readership eats it up instead of food. Fuck those peoplanyway.
I too like my woman to be prediabetic.
"the majority of the commentators here are morbidly obese. "
Whatever you need to believe to get that little frisson of imagined superiority you seem to live for.
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