Aberlin is quoted in "This Ohio Farm Community Is a Mecca for the ‘MAHA Mom’/In a neighborhood that appeals to people from both the right and the left, residents strive for a finely tuned state of political harmony" (NYT)(gift link).
Ms. Aberlin loves that so many “traditional wives,” as she calls stay-at-home moms, are raising their children in her community. While she brought up her two kids as a single mother, divorcing her ex-husband soon after her second baby was born, she calls herself a “boss woman by accident.” She believes women have been “sold a bag of goods” about the importance of a career, and are usually more fulfilled when they focus on their kids full time.
1. What's wrong with buying a bag of goods? She means sold a bill of goods. With a bag of goods, you've got the goods. They're in the bag. A bill of goods is a document that merely lists the goods. You just bought the piece of paper.
2. The real estate is real, but what about the mystique of the MAHA Mom? Buying a personal residence always comes with something intangible, the life you imagine for yourself in that house.
3. It's not a house, it's a home — Bob Dylan quote.
4. The home is never in the bag.
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Deconstruction 101 by Ann Althouse...
Women simply cannot accept that they were hoodwinked by a concerted effort after World War II ended to take their husbands jobs that they worked during the war permanently at 75 cents on the dollar.
Corporations and stockholders made trillions of dollars on this vast pool of stupid labor. Injecting 50% of new workers into the work economy so tilted the supply/demand mathematics that the result was the complete and utter destruction of the American family as we knew it.
Women were stupid. And now they can't just admit it. They're living empty, impoverished lives now rather than just admit they were idiots to ever fall for this line of utter bullshit.
That's how stubborn a woman is.
It's not like women didn't have jobs in the 1950s. They did. But they didn't COMPLETELY abandon their children to the care of complete strangers in order to work one.
Women today aren't worth spit, most of them. Which is why men have moved on and now they can't even get dates.
But other than that, FLC ... how's your morning going?
What the hell is Ann doing posting up this rage bait so early on a Monday morning?
#3 is a pet peeve of mine. Real estate agents sell houses. The people who buy them make them homes.
The comments there are SO tolerant.
"Mecca"?
More microaggression from the NYT.
1. What's wrong with buying a bag of goods? She means sold a bill of goods. With a bag of goods, you've got the goods. They're in the bag."
I think here it accidentally works. The single professional women I know have worked hard for their handbags, shoes, stairs sump cat
Uhg, typing on mobile... They have their tangible stuff. They have a bag of goods. What they lack is the intangible things they can't buy with their career.
Bag ladies have shopping carts.
Wise woman. And every woman knows it...whether they admit it or not.
Women were sold a bill of goods based on the politics of envy.
Not until I wrote this post had I ever thought about why it's bad to be "sold a bill of goods."
5. teh Hag is in the bag.
It is interesting what things we believe must have conformity when there are so many other things that don’t demand it. I don’t really care if a man or a woman wants a career, wants to raise a family, or do both (I’ve seen plenty easily handle both). I simply care that you do it with minimal burden to others, and I hope you do it with joy in your life.
Bill of goods, usually with 4 items.
Kids raised by working single parents don’t have a mother or a father. They are raised by the state.
The poor kids end up criminals and the rich kids end up racist nazi socialists.
Hippie natural living combined with boomer wealth. Not a bad combination. Yet the anti vax fails to understand that children used to die a lot before vaccines were developed. So Measles and polio are big threats . Thankfully small pox got eradicated.
Since my children were small the vaccines required have exploded. So many vaccines that I question whether they are needed
But in a larger, more circular sense, buying the bag of goods is no guarantee that you now own the contents. We worry about this because we are no longer a high trust society. We expect to be robbed and cheated. We don’t answer the phone if we see a strange number, we don’t like pulling out our wallets when we get on the bus afraid that someone will grab it and punch us in the face.
We have returned to the Savannah and are running from the lions.
“What's wrong with buying a bag of goods?”
Sometimes you could be buying a pig in a poke. Although that’s more a case of caveat emptor.
Tell me what's in the bag, and then we'll talk.
“We don’t answer the phone if we see a strange number…”
Well, 2, 3, 5, and 7 do pop up on my phone a lot.
#obscuremathjoke
Well..... it's a nice story, and I wish them every success in this wholesome endeavor, but that little film clip is shot with a very nice camera angle, to keep the interstate out of the picture. It's right there, and Cincinnati is only 30 miles away. Still, it does have similarities to where I live.
We have a lot of homes on big lots here, a lot of folks are raising gardens and chickens with their kids selling eggs, and one always sees and hears screaming kids having fun outdoors. A few weeks ago, they were over picking figs off our bush. Young families. Some are 'trad' wives, but a lot of them have home businesses, too. Most are churchgoers, and are active, not just pew sitters. I think these values have always been there, just not worthy of endorsement in the eyes of the NYT.
How the media fails us, every day. They've gone from the presumption of always being for the 'little guy', always being skeptical of power and authority, to now being in the bag for it. 'Punching down' instead of 'punching up', as Walter Kirn puts it. And so many, as the comments there show, have uncritically soaked it all up. There's not a single comment, in the few dozen I perused, that had something nice to say. All were derogatory, most assumed the worst of those people who made the choice and the sacrifices to raise their kids in this way. Heaven forbid we have safe wholesome communities - what those kids need are 'more shots', and no back talk.
@Rocco, that's Optimus Prime calling.
4. The home is never in the bag.
Well, the house hat is a home might be. You’ve never see a house being fumigated?
Where do the Mexicans live?
I think your analysis of "bill of goods" is too literal. As with a pig in poke, in which case you probably got something in a sack but it might not have been the porker as described, a bill of goods is something that does not live up to the description in the sale bill. It almost sounds this person was vaguely familiar with both phrases and mangled them together.
Or maybe just "no direction home".
Joe Bar said...
"The comments there are SO tolerant."
Aggie said...
"There's not a single comment, in the few dozen I perused, that had something nice to say."
I often wonder: do leftists not realize that the face they show the world is that of hate-filled condescension? Or do they simply revel in their abhorrence of any lifestyle or opinion other than their own? I think they are proud of their intolerance.
I could tell without looking, this article's authors are women: they never use a few words when a great many will do.
I think she was going for "Sold a bag of shit" but wanted to make it more family friendly. Or maybe not.
Sold a bill of goods, means you've bought the goods without seeing them. So yes, its similar to "Pig in a poke" or "led down the garden path". Misled. Lied to.
They can do what they want. But I was raised on a farm. There is a reason we pasteurize and homogenize milk. The pasteurization, in cane we have forgotten, came from Louis Pasteur, to kill listeria, E. Coli and salmonella. It is not sterilized, which would adversely affect the nutrients, but pasteurized to kill microbes. The homogenization is to make the milk into a solution, so it lasts longer and tastes better. I have had raw milk. It is better pasteurized. He also gave us vaccination for rabies and either typhoid or malaria, I forget which. I agree that today we have a vaccine problem, but eliminating all vaccines is not the answer. The extremists on both sides need to get on board with figuring out EXACTLY what we need to do going forward. The devil is always in the details.
So this the ideal NYT's "MAHA" mom is a single divorcee and "Girl Boss". How suprising. Its be interesting to go through the last 20 years of the NYT's and see how many positive and negative references there are to Christianity or White males there are.
This place probably the "home of the MAHA" movement because the NYT's editor knows someone there.
Anyway, this sounds like the "cruchy cons" that Ross Doughnut used to push. Or the "trad wives" fad. just the standard "Female American Dream version 1.O" - a house with a white picket fence and kids. As opposed to "Female Dream version 2.0" - single women in a big city, with an exciting job in XYZ, with numerous boyfriends, shopping, and travel.
Life is not so short... reconcile then commit then reconcile.
Bag of goods...as in a bag full of stuff you have not looked at or have knowledge of what is actually in there.
Bill of goods....a list of items you have bought, which you also haven't seen, evaluated and have no knowledge of what actually have.
In both cases...you are stuck with your purchase. Like it or not. The lesson/warning is that you should be more careful about what commitments you make. DO your own research and not depend on the snake oil salesman selling your the Bag or the Bill. It isn't his/her fault that you stupidly bought the bag/bill.
She believes women have been “sold a bag of goods” about the importance of a career,
Are women competent adults, or not? Women sold the bag of goods to other women who were eager to buy without asking questions. Men have not been pushing feminism for several decades.
For people who work in Cincinnati and have the means, Amberlin Springs sounds nice. With a Cincinnati councilwoman approving of the brutal beating of white people by a black mob, it wouldn't be safe to live too near the city.
Sheesh....proof read before posting. Need more coffee!
Any two baggers there?
MAVA #HateLovesAbortion
New Yorkers just hate to see happy people anywhere outside of New York.
Who cares how these people choose to live? And doesn't it seem nicer than living under Zohran Mamdani and his cult?
"Like, just get an epidural, it’s fine"
I get the rationales and agree with a fair amount of them for a lot of the natural living practices, especially with food. But I've never understood the rationale for avoiding an epidural during birth. What are moms' feeling they are missing out on by getting an epidural during birth?
Mama's got a brand new bag....
Convinced him, huh. Convinced her, really?
If you’re looking to Dylan for guidance (and who isn’t), try:
I can tell you fancy,
I can tell you plain:
You give something up
For every thing you gain
Sigh. I am so sick of the black/white, binary nature of the career vs mother debate. The life span of a female born today could be 95. Nearly 100 years. I think that's plenty of time to do BOTH. Can we please stop with the "gotta choose one over the other" bullshit? Also, my 'traditional, stay at home mom' was around to shape my thinking towards non compliance with society. I don't know if I'd be the contrarian I am today if it wasn't for my mother reinforcing that thinking in my head when I was a young girl. Traditional moms can raise girls to think in non traditional ways.
I've noticed a few articles, or online videos like this in the past few months. Ten years ago if you described a community like this, I think most people would have assumed that the residents were majority left-wing. I think articles like this are written for the purpose of inoculating left-wing women against practices like this. Natural living is appealing to a lot of left-wing women. I think there is a worry that this can lead a right-wing pipeline as it were. The tone of the article is clearly negative. It is trying paint the community and practices like this as bad, and outside the acceptable group. Just yesterday I saw a video critiquing a Tik-Tok that was trying to warn people about a natural farm store because since it carried Beef Tallow based lotion it's owners were probably Right-Wing. There was even a video that was trying to warn against the Kardashians as being right-wing because they apparently say it is good to have lots of children. Makes me wonder what the people who make these warnings are seeing? Maybe a fair amount of women that are unhappy with child-free girl boss lifestyle?
The premise for a flock of Hallmark movies is in there, if somebody can tease it out.
“We don’t answer the phone if we see a strange number…”
Neither do I. I also don't reply to texts from a strange number. Lately I'm getting a lot that say "Is this a good time to talk?" Not to you, anonymous person, not to you. But I only think that.
FLC
Show of hands. How many times have you driven past a construction sight and have seen women roofers? Siding installers? Concrete form installers? No?
Now you know why women make 75 cents.
Girl Bosses...
Seems like a lot of women expect they're going to be the boss and not a worker bee in a cubicle.
Crash Davis: "How come in former lifetimes, everybody is someone famous? I mean, how come nobody ever says they were Joe Schmo?"
What are moms' feeling they are missing out on by getting an epidural during birth?
Well, my first labor was induced after premature rupture of waters, and I endured as long as I could but ultimately got an epidural when the contractions had no breaks between them over something like six hours. My second and third were natural (and much shorter, so easier to endure), and the difference I noted was this: in each of the two non-epidural deliveries, I have never in my life experienced that kind of focus. It was surreal - what I imagine some find resulting from the use of psilocybin or something. My entire world narrowed to the size of a tennis ball and the duration of that one moment, then the next and the next.
It was certainly the greatest pain I'd ever felt (I can't assess whether it's the greatest pain it's possible to feel, of course). But there was also something otherworldly about feeling my body do this thing. I didn't feel the notorious "urge to push" in the first labor because of the epidural, but I did during the second and third, and WHOA, is THAT something.
I'm not evangelical about natural childbirth - I would encourage women to do what they want. But I wouldn't trade my experience for anything, simply because I can't imagine anything more unique.
Crash Davis: "How come in former lifetimes, everybody is someone famous? I mean, how come nobody ever says they were Joe Schmo?"
Actually, in our commentariat we have "Josephbleaux."
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