I remember it began: "I remember something made me read this old blog post of mine, from 2013, when I had a little project going where I'd take one sentence from 'The Great Gatsby' and present it for discussion.... The sentence of the day was 'I remember the fur coats of the girls returning from Miss This-or-That’s and the chatter of frozen breath and the hands waving overhead as we caught sight of old acquaintances, and the matchings of invitations: 'Are you going to the Ordways'? the Herseys'? the Schultzes'?' and the long green tickets clasped tight in our gloved hands.'"
I'm looking back at that post because I just did a search of my archive for "Brainard," because I'm reading a new article in The New Yorker, by Joshua Rothman, "What Do You Remember? The more you explore your own past, the more you find there" and it begins: "Last year, for my birthday, my wife gave me a copy of 'I Remember,' an unusual memoir by the artist Joe Brainard. It’s a tidy little book, less than two hundred pages long, made entirely from short, often single-sentence paragraphs beginning with the words 'I remember.'"
Ever since reading “I Remember,” I’ve been following the Brainardian approach in a file on my computer.... Like many people, I find that memory leads to memory. We can remember a lot, if we give ourselves the time and space to try.... Does it matter that your first watch was a Casio F-91W—a boxy, rubbery digital thing with tiny metal studs for buttons? That you used to be afraid of waves at the beach?... It doesn’t matter, and yet such memories can enlarge the scope of your past. They can increase your sense of temporal expansiveness, reminding you of just how much you’ve seen and done, of how long you’ve lived, of where you were and who you were. And so, strangely, random memories can become relevant to the expanded version of you that remembering creates. The more you remember, the deeper your sense of yourself becomes....
Of course, in writing “My Struggle,” [Karl Ove] Knausgaard remembered enough about his life to fill six volumes of autofiction. How did he do it? “I’ve developed a method, which is being in the present, sitting here, drinking some coffee, thinking of a memory,” he told me, after the final volume was published in English. “I would just start writing, and then I remember something, and then I write about that, and then I remember something else.” The hopscotch approach is important, he went on, “because then the moments will maybe not always be the important moments but could be the moments that are just beside the important ones. There’s a freedom in that.” Freedom from predictability, presumably, and from familiarity—but also freedom from the constraints imposed by who we are today....
That makes me think of another blog post I wrote a while back — here, also in 2021, January 2021: "How to write a book." It begins:
The "I" there is the comedian Fred Allen, and the book is "Much Ado About Me," a book I remember from a shelf in a house I lived in when I was a little child.
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Very interesting. Thanks.
A good balance of the general and specific makes good writing. It’s hard to sustain over hundreds of pages.
Salt-and-pepper hair competes for attention with a chin the size of a toddler’s kneecap
I read awhile back that our sense of smell triggers the clearest memories. But music has done it most for me.
I am 54 years old, and over the last few years, I have come to value my memories more than almost everything. If I think of a high school buddy's car that we took to prom, I can generate an hour or so of other memories tied to that time. Same with my college and Army years. It's like an album of tapes that I only access when I'm super bored or falling asleep. Bit of history of Alzheimer's in my family, so I go out of my way to search that "album" while I still can. These are memories vivid enough that I can discern what I would and would not have done if I had known what I know now.
People with early onset Alzheimer's remember the past a lot and tell you about it. I don't want to be a person who chases memories.
We are very different people @Kate. I chase new memories almost fanatically. Went to Bermuda last month on a whim, just to give me something "new" to remember. Same with mountain cabin weekends in the Smoky's that I would never have thought I'd enjoy years ago. Now I have memories of stingrays, and memories of black bears, and all the rest. In our defense, me and my wife have eschewed camera use on most trips. Do the thing, don't film the thing, they are different experiences.
a-mnesia a-mnesty
Also get memory words from any -mness, which are common in English
calmnesty dimnesty firmnesty glumnesty grimnesty humdrumesty primnesty randomnesty trimnesty warmnesty for various kinds of memory
You lost me somewhere in the middle. This isn't one of those free-form Andre Gregory-type stories, is it? Synchronicity.
Fred Allen was a hugely popular radio comedian (after a career in Vaudeville, Broadway and movies), but is barely thought of today. If anything, he's remembered for his long-running fake feud with his real-life friend Jack Benny. (Which begs the question, why is it so funny to hear two men insulting each other? It's the same kind of shtick that Steve Martin and Martin Short do today.)
Incidentally, he wrote two memoirs, and died before "Much Ado About Me" was published. I've read a lot of books by comedians from that era, and many were surprisingly great writers (despite often not having much formal education). (I recommend everything by Groucho Marx, and Harpo's autobiography is pretty good too.)
"Do the thing, don't film the thing." Yes!
My wife spends most of her time seeing the world through her phone when traveling . I spent ten days in Belgium last fall and didn't take a picture every day--and half of them were of my companions.
I made a list of when I first saw different flowers and knew their names. I remember my mother pointing out a crocus and naming it. Then I learned the yard flowers and the church flowers
forsythia
violet,
rose
honeysuckle
buttercups
dandelion
Bridal wreath
lilac
lily
poinsettia.
Then:
pine
moss
tiger lily
juniper
fern
That was New Hampshire
Then
tulips
That was Canada.
African Violets
shamrocks
That was living in cities with one plant on my table.
dahlias
chestnut
Osage orange
gingko
bleeding heart
forget-me-not
rose of sharon
lady's slipper
coneflowers
carnations
That was Leesburg, Virginia where there were dozens of old gardens.
hibiscus
orchid
Joshua Tree
That was California
Well, anyhow. I like to sit and just recall distinctly seeing the different flowers i really looked at.
And sometimes I remember seeing a real desert, the one near the San Andreas fault on the way to Barstow. I thought it was one of the strangest places I ever saw - nothing was growing there.
À la recherche du blogs perdu.
Althouse blog is my "Speak, Memory."
I remember makes me remember this song from when I was a kid about a couple of teenagers getting killed in a car crash...
I remember...
https://youtu.be/IB7CFCUS83k?si=0IFgAUf88euPt_8H
“They were careless people, Tom and Daisy -- they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made.”
Rarely has a quote been so applicable.
Tsk on you, Kakistocracy...here I was enjoying the interesting series of recollections and reactions to what I regarded as the innocent topic of the post. And then you had to make it political. And yet, tsk on me that I recognized your political jab at the Trump administration.
Kakapoodle. We know. Biden regime mob-cabal really did a number on us.
Interesting post. Now that I'm retired I do spend more time remembering things in my past. The downside is that you can also be remembering some really bad things that happened in your past, or past regrets, failures, etc. And going down those rabbit holes can cascade into a flood of very negative thoughts. Thankfully, this usually just happens to me at night when I can't sleep.
That Steinbeck advice sounds a lot like how this blog reads to me.
Tom and Daisy were singularly selfish and self centered. Gatsby was a captive and victim of his self-created dream.
April 10 was the 100th anniversary of the publication of The Great Gatsby. I reread it last week. It is startlingly contemporary, and it could have been written about America any time in the last century. Some things are so out of place that they snap you awake. For example, Meyer Wolfsheim's business is named Swastika Holding Company. History has not been good to the swastika as a symbol. At the end, Nick contemplates the carnage that enveloped Myrtle, Wilson, and Gatsby and says, "The holocaust was complete." The word holocaust applied to carnage on an industrial scale later in the century and is now used mostly used to refer to that.
Nick's final judgment of Gatsby rings true. Flawed as he was, he was worth the whole lot of them.
lonejustice--I spent the first 18 months after I retired being flooded of with memories of every foolish, stupid, thoughtless thing I had done in the course of my 40 year career. And then one day it stopped, and I remembered the successes as well as the follies. I guess I needed to account for myself to myself. Nobody is perfect.
Alas, memory is not a tape with pieces missing. Memories are actually created every time something is remembered. The brain has more or less details stored and and the reconstruction is more or less true. Then each reconstruction changes what is stored.
One of the uncomfortable things that happen when you hit your seventies is that you notice when a very clear and certain memory turns out not to be true. And you realize how many memories aren't even clear. You start saying things like, "I think I remember X" or "I seem to remember X happening but I may just be making it up."
Althouse, that article is in the New Yorker, not the Atlantic as your post reports. At least, that's where your link goes.
This post, and all of the conversations and memories it calls up, is a reminder of what a precious thing this blog is. Thank you so much, Althouse.
@Donatello Nobody
Thanks! This is my favorite kind of post to write but I can see that it gets fewer comments than most posts, so it means a lot to get your encouragement.
@Mom
Thanks. I corrected it.
For some reason, whenever I see the name Joshua Rothman, which I think is, in fact, always in The New Yorker, I think I'm seeing Jonathan Rauch, and I always remember him as the author of an article that appeared in The Atlantic all the way back in 2003, which is before this blog even began.
Speaking of memory.
The article, blogged more than once here, is "Caring for Your Introvert."
This post inspired me to look for "I Remember" at Barnes and Noble, where I had a $35 gift card. They didn't have it in stock, "but could order it". I said never mind, I would look around. I couldn't find a thing I wanted. I so prefer bookshops like the Strand in NYC or the Harvard Bookstore in Cambridge, where there are tables full of random remaindered and used books.
Althouse, a few more paragraphs and you've got the screenplay of Inception in your blog. Watch out for copyright piracy. You wouldn't download a car, would you?
lonejustice:
Remembrance
When the loud day for men who sow and reap
Grows still, and on the silence of the town
The unsubstantial veils of night and sleep,
The meed of the day's labour, settle down,
Then for me in the stillness of the night
The wasting, watchful hours drag on their course,
And in the idle darkness comes the bite
Of all the burning serpents of remorse;
Dreams seethe; and fretful infelicities
Are swarming in my over-burdened soul,
And Memory before my wakeful eyes
With noiseless hand unwinds her lengthy scroll.
Then, as with loathing I peruse the years,
I tremble, and I curse my natal day,
Wail bitterly, and bitterly shed tears,
But cannot wash the woeful script away.
-- A.S. Pushkin
Thanks Amadeus 48 and Lazarus for your posts. Bad memories of the past are some things that I often struggle with.
Are you ever going to do more of your "reviewing my father records" posts?
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