Says someone in the subreddit r/offmychest.
There are 374 comments there right now, and nearly every one is "same" or a variation on "same." Some of the "same"s add that they have a spouse who is their best friend, but other than that, absolutely no friends.
There's also the variation that sounds like a line from the Police song "Message in a Bottle": Seems I'm not alone at being alone.
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For all the increased interaction of "social media," including here, it does tend to detract from forming and having real personal relationships with people you can see and do things with. People you might need in an emergency to assist you or simply to maintain some sanity and go out and do things with.
SWM ISO open minded person for new experiences.
No freaks.
COVID has accentuated the worrisome trend of disconnect from a community in America. In the 1960’s we used to discuss social anomie, the breakdown of social bonds between the individual and society. Social media has made the problem much worse even before COVID. The Left is worst on this which is why their calls for collective actions seem to reflect more of a personal need to connect than a rational case that collective action will improve lives. If Kamala Harris wants to understand root causes of problems in America, this would be a good place to start.
Twitter banned dr Malone says we’re experiencing “mass formation psychosis”. One of the necessary conditions for this to happen is the disconnectedness of isolation, making people primed to do as they are told.
Joe Rogan clip 👉🏽 https://youtu.be/9eJSwigON0k
Don't worry. Your Government will be your friend going forward. All will be well. They will take care of you, feed you, school you, entertain you, in all of the approved methods. You'll not need to worry about anything anymore.
I can relate to this. When I moved from Omaha to Kansas in 2016 I lost most of my friends due to geography, and because I quit my Omaha job before I moved. I am not working now so I have very little social contact with anyone, except for going to the bar with my husband to play pool (where we have a very diverse circle of friends, although we are not really "close" to any of them).
I have also lost most contact with my family members here due to some very unfortunate misunderstandings. This has been very painful for me.
Try Meetup, at first selecting activities you already enjoy and then expand to include new activities that pique your curiosity. The other Meetup members signing up for such activities already share an interest with you and as such are more likely candidates for striking up a friendship with.
Bernie Sanders is like Ernie from Sesame street. He can be your friend.
Much to say about loneliness. Too depressing to say it.
January 6th is Trudie Styler's (Mrs. Sting's) birthday.
Pelosi has Schiff and Swalwell looking into that.
Covid actually helped me make tons of new friends here in the heart of New England where the Spirit of America lives on. These friendships centered around a common need for vigorous outdoor physical activity coupled with intelligent conversation. Instead of lounging on the couch and decrying the lockdown and mask mandates, we decided to swim ponds, ride bikes on rail trails and hike up mountain trails. After burning calories, we go out to eat at restaurants. Of course, this turns out to be the appropriate healthy response to the pandemic. But you people continue to wallow in your self indulgent stew of miserable complaining about the end of the world.
I moved to be "closer to family" at the very end of 2018. They are terrified of the virus, so we only see each other occasionally when it's comfortable out-of-doors. Fortunately, my neighbors are older people who have decided not to let the virus dictate what they do, so I have a little sense of community that way. And then I walk my dog several times a day, so I know a lot of people without knowing their last names. I think I've been in five houses, including my own, in the last two years.
Between my wife and I, we probably have 20 people (~50/50) that are true friends, especially if something comes up that we need help with. Over the course of a month we'll pretty-much see all of them at least one time or another. That, coupled with family, seems enough. I suppose more would be better, but we're good.
It is a good thing to have some people, at least one, in the near vicinity whom you see now and then that can check on you so that after you have some fatal stroke or heart attack they can find your body before the neighbors start smelling you.
As a beguiling Jewish sometime-lesbian I find that lonely men are inevitably drawn to me.
I do my best to gently disabuse them of such notions, but lonely men seem hardwired by our culture to yearn for their Manic Pixie Dream Girl.
Now, I don't see myself as manic -- I would say the word 'sensual' more accurately applies -- but the lonely heart sees what it wants to see.
Indeed, the lonely sometimes are quixotically lonely for what they cannot have, and otherwise shut doors to others who might be waiting on the other side. This, of course, is a trope also, but that doesn't make it less true.
Groucho Marx once said something akin to "I don’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member", and, sadly, some people take this to heart: self-loathing is often found in the mirrors that are other people.
As I said, I try to be gentle with my woebegotten admirers, but sometimes the world is less "Message in a Bottle" by the Police and more "Creep" by Radiohead.
I would include a photograph of my supple thighs as a possible explanation, but this venue does not accept pictures.
-Loren
Nothing can be more 80s to me than this video.
At the time, I did not know my future wife and the artist known as Sting would share the same birthdate. There was a lot more than that I did not know at the time. I did know that I had true friends though, as they had become more family to me than my own family at the time.
I did not have a computer, though. I now have many, but I'm happy to say I still have more true friends than computers. The years that see true friends die are really hard, though.
I hope this year is easier than the previous three have been, on that account.
The pandemic has been especially hard on those annoying extroverts. Those who always have to have someone around. Who speak into people's face (now spreading virus), who can't social distance or who loath being solitary. The worst vaccine mandaters are those who blame the unvaccinated because they can't go out or travel like they used to do.
Introverts were living the pandemic lifestyle before the pandemic lifestyle was cool. Now with the added bonus of not having to go into the office, able to beg out of "plans", etc.
I've been told that I'm a bit of an aspie, and I'm also more extrovert so the past two years have been hell. I don't fully "get" people on the best days, but all my normal social outlets were basically killed off. I used to dance swing and argentine tango, and both communities shut down. Metalworking and woodworking classes as well. Now that they've started up again, I'm seeing a lot of mask and vax requirements which are a no-go for me. It's sad, really, because I moved out to the DC area specifically because my hobbies were popular out here. Instead I've spent another year stuck at home.
As a Bavarian-Irish-Hetrosexual introvert, I find making friends easy, although its difficult to interact with them on a constant basis. I can only take so much socializing, before I need to get away, be by myself and/or my family and recharge my batteries.
Just do what you like to do, as long as it is outside of your house.
Join a service club, play golf, go bowling, walk in the park, join a square dance club, volunteer, whatever. Find others with similar interests as your own.
You have to put yourself out there. How many people have knocked on your door asking to be your friend?
The Grateful Dead sang "Get out of the door and light out and look all around". You won't find friends on Redditt.
C#sus2 for the win!!
One word—Church
“we decided to swim ponds”
And here all this time I thought scum could only float. Thanks, Howee!
If you’ve found the right mate, you’ve found your best friend.
The One that really matters.
I hadn’t been to a big church since way before the pandemic. So I was a little surprised to see heavy armed security at the church entrances this morning. My sister reminded me there have been church shootings, (schools get more coverage, unless it’s racial) so churches had to adapt. They had both guns and tasers. My mischievous mind said, say taser taser taser to him. Of course I did no such thing. I was supposed to be there to worship.
Lauren, thanks for the LOL!
---Instead of lounging on the couch and decrying the lockdown and mask mandates, we decided to swim ponds, ride bikes on rail trails and hike up mountain trails. After burning calories, we go out to eat at restaurants. Of course, this turns out to be the appropriate healthy response to the pandemic.
Great, Howard! So your trolling posts are squeezed in during rest stops only?
---But you people continue to wallow in your self indulgent stew of miserable complaining about the end of the world.
The "you people" stuff is wearing out, though. There are things to observe, and also things to complain about in this damn world esp right now. I am sometimes puzzled that you don't notice them.
Twitter banned dr Malone says we’re experiencing “mass formation psychosis”.
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Ipcress file as how-to book >>> process called "Induction of Psycho-neuroses by Conditioned REflex with Stress" (IPCRESS) to brainwash the VIPs into loyalty ...
When do you find time to troll, Kayaker? Between bouts of Fox News? Observe and Complain all you want, these days, it's perfectly appropriate for you to openly embrace your feminine side. Nannyakker
Meetups are a good way to find friends and those with similar interests.
Here are several in the capital city region:
https://www.meetup.com/Washarea-Discovery-Hikes/
https://www.meetup.com/arlingtonrepublicanpartymeetup/
I do volunteer work with the elderly and I see this a lot. Last week I took a lady in her 80's to a local farm. She said wanted to see the animals. So that's what we did. Her husband died a few years ago. Her kids and grandkids don't live near by and rarely visit. She told me she had no friends and no longer has a car to go places. I think she mostly wanted somebody to talk to.
I'll bet that, as a generality, there is an inverse correlation between how much time someone spends on their phone or computer and the number of IRL friends they have.
So of course this new generation - who live on their phones - lack friends.
That drummer for the Police deserved an Oscar, maybe even a Nobel.
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