February 2, 2015
"So why do people take umbrage at Facebook deserters?"
"Friending someone creates an unwritten social contract that two people agree to 'like' each other’s updates and shower each other with attention," according to somebody quoted in a Market Watch article titled "Your Facebook ‘cult’ won’t let you quit," which Meade — who's never joined Facebook — just texted me.
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This is why I don't do Facebook. I did join many years ago for the specific purpose of looking at the photos from a friend's vacation. I then got all these friend requests and I understood that I was going to be expected to read and comment on all of their posts. How exhausting. I dropped Facebook like a hot potato.
Facebook is a social hive. That's why. You leave the hive, you die.
I wish there was a way to "like" comments on althouse.blogspot.com the way you can on Facebook.
You (Ann) should consider replacing the stock Blogger comments with Livefyre, Disqus, or Intense Debate comments.
I spend a total of about 10 minutes per day on fb. I scroll down 10 or 15 posts and call it quits. A couple of people I know have quit fb, for reasons unknown. I am cool with that.
Hell, given how many times I have seen a "Are You Paying Attention To Me!!! Respond To This Or Else!!!" type of post, I am not sure the author has fb right. Also, I have seen countless complaints on how few responses people get on their posts from the fb friends. trust me, I don't get many either. If you are looking for attention fb, as far as I can tell, is not the place to get it.
This is kind of a made up problem.
Not everybody is as intense on facebook and you kind of get an idea who is and isn't. I can't see anybody getting mad about it. Although I was just having a discussion with a family member this weekend about another family member who posts 'poor pitiful me' kind of posts all the time and how we kind of ignore them on purpose. She has my number, if she wants to talk she can call.
"So why do people take umbrage at Facebook deserters?"
Because they're co-dependent.
"...that two people agree to 'like' each other’s updates and shower each other with attention,"
Umm, no.
Why? Because it's like one serving having the temerity to climb out of the cannibal pot just as things are getting fizzy.
No it doesn't.
I don't think anyone really cares if you're not active on Facebook. Some people comment on or "like" almost everything you post, others simply don't. And because your news feed varies based on your activity, it's also possible you're not seeing a lot of some people's posts.
Anyone caring a great deal about whether someone is paying attention to them on social media really has too much time on their hands. I'd suggest learning macrame or something.
Facebook "liking" is the way hairless monkeys pick nits out of each other's virtual fur.
My kids have quit facebook. Oh sure, they still have accounts on it -- all their friends do too. But no one is on it.
I deleted my account 3-4 years ago. It just seemed like...mental/social mutual masturbation, with far less satisfaction.
Not to mention, a total time-suck.
Apparently I'm ahead of the curve, I never joined FB. Or Twitter. Or any other social media. I'm so retro that I have become cutting edge.
I hate twitter, but I still do facebook because I have family members on it, I keep a little up with old friends who live elsewhere via pictures, and I have a friend that does invites to parties on it. I don't post much though.
I joined Facebook to post old family photos so my kids could all see them.
A few years ago, I cautioned my then-college student daughter about posting stuff about drinking and partying as it will be used by potential employers screening her. She relied that she was sorry she had "friended" me. I unfriended her and she was furious. Now, she is more cautious about what she posts and we are friends again.
She also graduated and got a job.
That maladjusted socially awkward misogynistic Zuckerberg dude created one sick puppy.
I like Facebook, but have kept my friends list small. I don't accept a lot of requests especially those coming from the Middle East and Africa. Seems those always ramp up after I leave a comment on the daily mail.
Clayton Hennesey said...
Why? Because it's like one serving having the temerity to climb out of the cannibal pot just as things are getting fizzy.
This sounds like what my Filipina wife describes as the "crab theory" of why Filipinos rarely prosper. When someone tries to become successful, the others will try to drag them back down to their level. Supposedly, if you put a bunch of live crabs in a pot, if one tries to climb out, the others will reach up and drag him back down.
Scott,
"You (Ann) should consider replacing the stock Blogger comments with Livefyre, Disqus, or Intense Debate comments"
No, no, a thousand DIS-likes no!
Blogger comments suck, I agree. It's just that they suck less than the alternatives.
Scott,
Further, what's the point of "Like" in a substantive comment section like Althouse's? If you have something of substance (or humor) to say regarding the OP or a comment, then just say it. Otherwise we don't need to go into AOL mode ("Me too!")
Kelly,
" I don't accept a lot of requests especially those coming from the Middle East and Africa."
Whoa. I don't know whether my friends list is large, medium, or small, but I do know this: it is composed almost entirely of people I know in Real Life™ and the few exceptions are either real-life friends of people I know well, or well-known figures in my local community.
Blogger comments suck, I agree. It's just that they suck less than the alternatives
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I'm always puzzled by a FB death or ill health announcement getting umpteen "Likes".
Craig: because in the context of Facebook LIKE == ACK.
(If it helps, think of it as "I appreciate being informed of this".)
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