You want to be like, "Hey, want to get a drink sometime?" and then you don't because you're scared, and then a few days later she Tweets something about how much she likes Dane Cook or how much she hates abortion, and you're like "FUUUUUU," and then you just gestate sadly at your computer until the next person you sorta-know invites you out and you go girl-hunting once again.The link goes to a Jezebel item, which links to this NYT article.
By the way, there's a very extensive discussion about abortion in the comments to yesterday's post about Condoleeza Rice, including lots of participation by me (starting about halfway down).
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Something as simple as saying, "Hi", to the girl at the next desk (or cube) or striking up a chat with someone down the hall is better than sight unseen?
PS Maybe they gestate to a gestalt.
Gestate?
verb, intransitive: to secretly ponder pregnant thoughts while longing for real life conception.
God forbid everyone you have a casual drink with doesn't agree with every single one of your own ideas!
I could never be friends with anyone who likes Dane Cook. That is just wholly unreasonable.
Why are women so shallow?
Alternate title: Extremely closed-minded people have trouble making friends.
Of course it sounds less obvious when you frame it as a "female" problem.
I found the work cafeteria breakfast table does best.
Those are people who come in early and so mostly like the work.
Surprisingly, I'm friends with everyone at my job. It was effortless. Three of us went out for beers on Tuesday and had a great time.
Of course, I'm now in a job where you can get fuuuucked UP! if you're a (real not imagined) jerk, so it was likely to be that way.
I do fine when BS ain't allowed,...
Just to entertain the idea of a casual friendship with someone who doesn't agrees 100% with you? That's just crazy talk. Perhaps there could be a 1000 question survey they could fill out? No doubt the author is one of those tolerant people, so maybe just getting 97% would be high enough?
This is why guy friendships based on shared interest are easier to form than chick friendships based on shared secrets.
Guys friends actually consider doing stuff like getting up at 5:00AM to sit with a bird dog in a duck-blind in the freezing muck saying nary a word for hours on end to be not only FUN, but a bonding experience.
If you can bond through that, who gives a shit about political differences? I mean, as long as the guy doesn't steal your stuff or [bleep] your Mrs, it's cool.
which links to this NYT article.
Based on this and several other articles, it appears that New York City is full of insane people completely out of touch with reality.
The best way to meet people in a new city is to follow your own interests and join clubs and organizations where you will meet like-minded people (and it's not such a terrible thing to have a few friends who are not quite so like-minded). Doing volunteer work, whether charitable or political, is another path to forming friendships. In new locales, I formed most of my new friendships with people at work.
Oh, the angst. Just go have the damn drink.
Some of my best friends are political idiots. My brother, for example.
You know what? I've been reading variations of this story for 40 farking years! FORTY!!!
Farking women can't make friends?
What a load of crap.
As long as stories like this continue to treat women like children they will be children.
After reading this, anyone still want to argue women are more mature than men?
Definitely the best abortion discussion I've had in a long time. Too bad, as we learn form this advice piece, we must all never want to speak to each other again.
My husband and I try to find things we disagree about so as to hash them out. A perennial favorite is, "Can art that does not speak to truth ever be considered great art in the highest sense?"
Also, "Which one of us has morphed the most into Ned Flanders over the past ten years?"
Heavens, my bestie posts goddamn I Love Obama/Free the Oppressed shit all over her Facebook, and amazingly enough we love each other and have other things in common and can tolerate our differences.
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