September 4, 2025

"Of Hemingway’s three children, Patrick came closest to simulating, though hardly emulating, his father...."

"Hemingway’s first son, Jack, was an avid fly fisherman who fished in Europe between battles in World War II. He had difficulty finding a postwar career until he became Idaho’s fish and game commissioner in the 1970s. He died in 2000. Hemingway’s third child, Gloria Hemingway, was a physician who struggled with alcohol abuse. She wrote a memoir, 'Papa' (1976), before undergoing transition surgery later in life. She died in 2001."

From "Patrick Hemingway, Ernest’s Devoted Second Son, Is Dead at 97/Inspired by his parents’ travels, he spent much of his life in Africa and helped complete his father’s safari memoir. He also published a volume of father-son letters. He was Ernest Hemingway’s last surviving child" (NYT).

Transition surgery? I clicked on "She died in 2001" and got to the obituary "Gregory H. Hemingway, 69; Wrote a Memoir Called 'Papa.'" Excerpt:
Mr. Hemingway, who lived in Coconut Grove, Fla., had been arrested in nearby Key Biscayne for indecent exposure and resisting arrest without violence.... He was found dead in his cell at the Miami-Dade County Women's Detention Center at 5:45 a.m. on Monday, the paper said.

He was in the Women's Detention Center.

According to several news accounts yesterday, Mr. Hemingway often dressed as a woman, and was known among some friends as Gloria. He had undergone a sex change operation, according to Reuters.

Notice the different journalistic convention. The NYT stuck with what is now called a "dead name" and used the masculine pronoun, even for someone who'd had what today's obituary calls "transition surgery." It was "a sex change operation" back then. The NYT, in 2001, continued:

Gregory Hemingway was born in Kansas City, Mo., on Nov. 12, 1931.... Lorian Hemingway said her father had been living in Florida for more than 10 years. He was married four times, she said, but she did not know if he was married when he died. Lorian Hemingway, 49, said she was the oldest of Mr. Hemingway's eight children, all of whom survive him. He is also survived by a brother, Patrick Hemingway, of Bozeman, Mont.

It is Patrick who died 2 days ago.

From the Wikipedia article "Gloria Hemingway":

Throughout her life, Hemingway experienced gender dysphoria and wore women's clothes often, mostly privately and occasionally going out. When Hemingway was 12 years old, Ernest walked in on her dressed in her stepmother Martha Gellhorn's stockings, a near-daily activity at the time, and went berserk. A biographer Hemingway's, Donald Junkins, stated that when Hemingway was 60 years old, she told him that "[she] never got over it: the raging wrath of [her] father." However, a few days after the childhood encounter Ernest counseled "Gigi, we come from a strange tribe, you and I." 

In 1946 Ernest's wife Mary accused the maid of stealing her lingerie, but later discovered the items under 14-year-old Hemingway's mattress. When Ernest rebuked her for stealing from Mary years later, Hemingway responded, "The clothes business is something that I have never been able to control, understand basically very little, and I am terribly ashamed of. I have lied about it before, mainly to people I am fond of, because I was afraid they would not like me as much if they had found out."

28 comments:

Marcus Bressler said...

I don't know where to begin....

mccullough said...

I enjoyed this detour of one man’s obituary into the obituary of his brother who died 24 years ago.

Heartless Aztec said...

All so very sad. And now, I'll promptly forget it. They, like me, all belong in a past century even if we're only just now winding up our lives.

Narr said...

Weirdoes all.

Not to get all Freudesque or anything, but didn't Papa die with his father's shotgun in his mouth?

Aggie said...

A good example of what alcoholism does to families.

Ice Nine said...

>Gloria/Gregory Hemingway...had been arrested in nearby Key Biscayne for indecent exposure...<

Wow, hard to believe...

Jamie said...

This was very confusing. I'll have to reread.

Enigma said...

Into that world, director John Waters created the then-aburdist-1970s countercultural films "Female Trouble" and "Pink Flamingos." The very eccentric and very gay Mr. Waters made humor from inherent absurdity.

Just a couple generations later, the left took these as documentaries and guidebooks.

Left Bank of the Charles said...

Gregory might still have been Gloria’s legal name. We also don’t know about preferred pronoun. In any case, the death resulted in an inheritance dispute.

Gregory married Ida Mae Galliher in 1992, divorced Ida Mae in 1995, underwent a sex change operation, and remarried Ida Mae in 1997. Ida Mae claimed the widow’s share of the estate, but the children argued that the marriage was invalid because the couple were the same sex at the time of the remarriage (this was before Obergefell v. Hodges).

Lem Vibe Bandit said...

I don't know if it helps, but maybe the "dead naming" taboo has a caveat. It's not dead naming after you die... or something.

Dead men tell no tales. wait...

"Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Men Tell No Tales" is a 2017 fantasy film that follows Captain Jack Sparrow as he seeks the Trident of Poseidon while being pursued by ghostly pirates led by his old nemesis, Captain Salazar.

Spooky.

Rabel said...

Confusing story and writing.

Maybe this will help.

n.n said...

Simulant? Homosexual? Bisexual? Transgender spectrum.

Transvestite? Transsocial, a drag, perhaps.

Hassayamper said...

Confusing story and writing.

For at least the past ten years, every mainstream-media story touching on this mental illness has been confusing.

Skeptical Voter said...

Yeah I had trouble following--can't tell the players without a score card.

n.n said...

Same sex pair is a couplet. A couplet is politically congruent ("=") couple. A couplet is invariably bigendered, where one partner exhibits predominantly one or the other og Nature's gender roles.

Enigma said...

Accepting the left's "Dead Naming" rules involves efforts to comply with self-contradictory logic and requires cognitive dissonance. This is one reason why mental illness is 2x more common on the left.

"Who was the woman who starred in the film 'Hard Candy'?"

Wikipedia says "Elliot Page -- Credited as Ellen Page"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hard_Candy_(film)

Curious George said...

I got dizzy reading that.

n.n said...

Victor/Victoria... produced with a guffaw/giggle in gay delight.

Howard said...

Heartless Aztec: I think you mean winding down our lives. In any event speak for yourself. I continually wind up my life hoping that the springs will break catastrophically and not wind down slowly placing a burden on my family.

Ralph L said...

Classic autogynephilic behavior. What was he exposing indecently if he'd had surgery?
Did Ida Mae count as wife 3 and 4 or just 4?
Ernest counseled "Gigi, we come from a strange tribe, you and I."
Why Gloria and not Gigi? I can see Ernest as a repressed AGP, too. Maybe that was why he was so irate--he felt the urge.

Howard said...

I believe Earnest Hemingway's father committed suicide ~100-years ago

Lem Vibe Bandit said...

It's not dead naming after you die... because when you die "you are found"... I'm tempted to say after "you are found" that "you are born again". But Billy Preston song lyrics will just confuse things even more, if that's even posible.

"I was half, not whole, in step with no one
Reaching through this world, in need of one"

See what I mean?

Leland said...

I’m a fan of Jack’s daughter.

Leora said...

The fact that the NY Times cannot write clearly due to their attachment to portraying sexual exoticism as normal highlights their general untrustworthiness.

tcrosse said...

The late, great British humorist Alan Coren wrote a piece for Punch called The Short Happy Life of Margaux Hemingway. Unfortunately Harpers now owns it and it is only available to subscribers. It purports to be an interview of Margaux Hemingway about being a supermodel, in which she speaks parody bad Hemingway.

wild chicken said...

Gregory was a legit nut case. He hung around Missoula and I met him in a bar, or rather the guy he was wirh pointed him out and told me he was a doctor and Hemingway's son, because Gregory was busy twirling around the music.

Funny thing was he hung around at the motel owned by the grand dame of the Missoula GOP. They were quite close but she was kind of a maternal type anyway. We're so intolerant you know.

RIP Thelma.

Rabel said...

Here ya go, tc.

Lawnerd said...

When Gregory did the indecent exposure, was he exposing his gaping wound? Disgusting.

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