June 14, 2023

"This acceptance of the value of cosmetic work is not limited to zoomers. When I brought up this story... hands flew to necks, foreheads and eyes."

"Fingers pinched at sags, wrinkles and droops. Their owners — people in their late 20s to their 50s, mostly women, but some men, too — made clear-eyed assertions about all the things they planned to change as they got older or when they had more money and time to spare. At no point in these conversations did anyone suggest that we were fine the way we were, or that aging was a privilege instead of a humiliating process of degradation that is to be resisted at all costs. These were, as [one Gen Z influencer] puts it, 'supportive' conversations: We were supporting each other’s aesthetic aspirations. Supporting our bodily autonomy. Supporting our right to use our time and money to bend reality to our will."

And yet, for all our enthusiasm about cosmetic procedures, Americans still seem confused about how to discuss their relative philosophical merits: It’s empowering to do what you want with your body, but it’s not empowering to feel the need to conform to conventional beauty standards; no one owes anyone information about their body and medical history, but don’t lie about what you’ve had done; and you should love yourself just as you are, unless you don’t, then you should change it. Gen Z is perhaps even more tangled up in this discourse than any other generation.... 
They were told to accept themselves just as they are, then shown all the ways in which they should change.... Transparency... serves as a loophole of sorts: a way to comply with cultural beauty standards while at the same time undermining them.... 

How does it undermine beauty standards to be willing to go through so much pain and bother and expense to pursue them? That you're not ashamed of your effort or trying to pass yourself off as a natural exemplar of conventional beauty?

Anyway, the main point here is that Gen Zers are making TikTok videos about all the work they're having done.

Even the most complex, potentially dangerous procedures look easy, breezy and fast when they’re collapsed into a 30-second time-lapse video set to Kay P’s “Never Dat!” — a popular accompaniment to breast augmentation videos. (Lyrics: “She ain’t like her titties, f--- it, get her new boobs.”) In her boobaversary video, [TikTok star Alix] Earle said she was surprised at just how surgical breast augmentation turned out to be. “No one tells you that they’re just going to like walk you into this cold, refrigerated room, and there’s like a table, and then next to it is just, like, a tray with like knives and slicers. And you’re sitting there, just like, ‘Oh my God, I’m about to get cut open.’... This is also not me convincing anyone to get a boob job. You should love yourself. But if there is something you want do for yourself, then do it.”...

It seems key to believe that the reason you are doing all this is for yourself. Does that mean that you want large breasts because the real you is a large-breasted woman and you want to become the person with whom you truly identify? Or does it mean you understand the effect of large breasts on others and you want what you can get from others for yourself? (That's also for yourself.)

In 1991, Canadian feminist philosopher Kathryn Pauly Morgan published a paper titled “Women and the Knife: Cosmetic Surgery and the Colonization of Women’s Bodies.” In it, she wrote that elective cosmetic surgery “is becoming the norm.” She posited that, as a result, women who elect not to go under the knife would “increasingly be stigmatized and seen as deviant.” A little melodramatic.... 

Is it? 

24 comments:

Leland said...

How can they afford all this "work" done when they are revenge traveling and vacationing? It is like they have an excess of money just given to them to do anything.

Heartless Aztec said...

Cosmetic surgery is, after a fashion, lying. As a culture we impute the cute to be astute. It's not and they're not. It's eye easing lying but still a prevarication. My last gf spent $50K to look 38 instead of 58. Pleasant to look at but overweening as a result.

M Jordan said...

My sister-in-law works in a plastic surgery clinic in B.C. In Canada. She tells us many tales but one of the most common is, once these women have one fix-it, they want more. Sometimes the doctors counsel them to stop. It never works.

It’s a mental illness, of course, but what isn’t? Religion is a mental illness. Political activism is a mental illness. Incel behavior is a mental illness. Jesus said he came as the Great Physician but only the sick need a physician. His point was we’re all sick. It’s the ability to recognize it that changes us.

I sympathize with anyone so unhappy with their looks they are willing to go under the knife. But the knife they really need is one that cleaves the soul from the spirit, as mentioned in Hebrews 4:12. Then again, my saying that is just an indicator of my own mental illness so take my words with a grain of salt.

RideSpaceMountain said...

At this rate, by 2100 you won't be considered young unless you're perpetually striving to give off that 14 and a half year old jailbait lolicon vibe in your 40s.

Just look at Madonna. If she could hire someone to unfuse her skull so she can relive her infancy, she would.

Kate said...

Gen Z plastic surgery is not to lift sagging skin. They're not old enough for that. I wish the article didn't conflate the issue.

I don't like seeing young women who've chosen to change their face shape to fit a regimented beauty standard. The before pictures often show a lovely individual. I do think it's sad that a pretty face is being defined so generically.

Aging is different. It absolutely is a degrading slide. How do we come to terms with the mirror? And what will the choices for these old Gen Zers be after they've already moved their skin about?

Aggie said...

When you think about it, this is a lot like the Pride movement - it's all about me, and you have to pay rapt attention to my story and cheer at all the most important moments. I'll tell you when they are, and how to cheer. Because I'm the most important thing evah~

No sense of gratitude or contribution.

CJinPA said...

Reflect on the trajectory of Botox. It went from a late night comedy slur to Empowering Women ads in about two decades.

She posited that, as a result, women who elect not to go under the knife would “increasingly be stigmatized and seen as deviant.” A little melodramatic....

They might be judged harshly, or judged approvingly, but, as always, they would be judged. As always, by other women.

Temujin said...

I think it's inside the person, their self-esteem, confidence. Many feel like it'll make them appear better to themselves, not just to others. I won't make judgements on them because so many do it. I will only say that in my world, I love my wife just as she is. If she ever did anything cosmetic, it would be less of the person I love. I don't want her to touch a thing. I don't want her to remove any of her.

That said, I'm not sure she would say the same thing about me. Maybe it's the image of George Clooney as the wallpaper on her iPhone. I dunno. Should I be worried?

Night Owl said...

There's a Twilight Zone episode that comes to mind. I believe it was "Number 12 looks just like you".

Aggie said...

I do know at least 1 Gen Z'r that has botox injections. It's infrequent. She has also had breast work, but that was to correct a birth defect. Her aunt has regular work. She's in her 50's now, and as with all overly-vain women that do this as a kind of annual thing, the aggregate effect of all this work has begun to show its own signature signs.

That's the real problem. Certain people, mostly women, get unusually tied to their visual perceptions of themselves, and their imagination goes to work projecting onto how others see them. But past a certain age, plastic surgery and enhancements no longer convey a picture of youth and voluptuousness. The miles you trade in with a boob job are returned with a new set of miles - frozen faces and jutting boobs, with a sagging neck and ass, and wobbly arms. Ugh. They don't look any younger, they're just an older-model car with a new hood ornament and hub caps.

Ice Nine said...

These stupid young women want - and get - "Instagram Face" and end up with some pathetic version of the cloned face of "Instagram Face" Patient Zero, Kim Kardashian. Or worse, that of her perpetually CFM look-faced sister, Kylie Jenner.

The mind boggles; the stomach wambles.

Anthony said...

I'm not opposed to people having "some work done", a nip here and a tuck there to keep the signs of aging muted, or a bit of improvement on an area you don't like. It's when they either look like burn victims, or the same puffy-lipped, cat-eyed, big-boobed, huge-butted 23-year old pop star look that I start to think "mental illness".

I mean, I've gone to the gym every day for 30+ years to make me look different/better than what I ordinarily would*.

* But mostly for functional reasons.

Tom T. said...

Plenty of us had braces on our teeth. We may say we don't care about our appearance, but few of us cut our own hair.

Michael said...

"...to bend reality to our will..."

This seems to be the aspiration - should even be the campaign slogan - of Progressive America. But ultimately, whether in economics, politics, psychology or otherwise, reality bites. Attempts to stave it off eventually (and probably sooner) come to ruin.

Mountain Maven said...

The more I know how much God loves me as I am, a spiritual image of him, the more peace I have about everything.

n.n said...

Social contagion... dissonance is a progressive condition.

Free Manure While You Wait! said...

"Cosmetic surgery is, after a fashion, lying."

Chris Rock on this issue:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJfFGgzhfhY

Free Manure While You Wait! said...

"Aging is different. It absolutely is a degrading slide. How do we come to terms with the mirror?"

Stop looking into it?

Free Manure While You Wait! said...

"Aging is different. It absolutely is a degrading slide. How do we come to terms with the mirror?"

Stop looking into it?

If only Melanie Griffith had considered that option.

Lucien said...

How funny if the same people intent on pretending that morbidly obese people are healthy and beautiful are themselves running off to get gratuitous cosmetic surgeries to meet some bizarre beauty standards.

Will Cate said...

The surgically-permanent smiles I see on the faces of so many young women these days are really kinda creepy.

bflat879 said...

Hopefully they've improved on the implants they use for boob jobs. When all of this started, some of the implants would harden up like a softball inside the implantee. They didn't look good and they didn't feel good. I guess it's just like anything, you get what you pay for.

As an aside, my brother gets his eyelids treated because they sag and limit his vision. Apparently, it's covered by Medicare.

Mark B. said...

Then again, should people allow themselves to go to fat, or is there nothing wrong with working out daily to keep looking good? And what's up with all that makeup women use to cover their aging skin? Not every case is that of the cartoonish Insta-face.

RigelDog said...

I am in my sixties and admit that I want some major work done. I was aiming towards that at 60 and then Covid stopped everything for me. Gained 20 lbs, aged quickly. People always thought I was ten years younger or more but not now. Yes it’s going to be a big chunk of change…I view it as all the traveling we were going to be doing but didn’t because of Covid. For starters, I am having eyes done. Insurance will cover the uppers because I have hooded eyes that are now at the point where my field of vision is considered to be obstructed. It’s another 4,500 to get the lower lids/eyes done and my doctor is certified in both ophthalmology and plastic surgery.