I wanted to recover my body. My real desire was to re-want having sex....She decided: "I will return to sexual activities when it is worth it — and it took more than ten years."
When her book — "The Art of Sleeping Alone" — came out, "a lot of people — a huge amount of people — began to say that they had the same experience." That was in France. It will be out here next week. Expect a lot of confessions from people who've gone without sex for a long time. If you've voluntarily gone for years, will you admit how long? It's nice of Fontanel to open the floodgates on this topic, which I think many people are embarrassed to talk about, afraid of looking pathetic or undesirable.
Here's her advice:
I recommend being true to yourself. If you are making love and you’re disappointed, then stop. Recover your freedom. Don’t be afraid of being single, and don’t be afraid of being single for a long time.... It’s very important to learn that it’s not a sin to be alone.Funny to get to the end of the article and see the word "sin." I think she's being humorous, not revealing secret religiosity. Obviously, I haven't read the book yet, but I suspect that she is saying that people have sex out of habit or to seem normal to themselves and others, and the sex is often worse than nothing.
You know my old aphorism: Better than nothing is a high standard.