There has been an evolution in the American family. You know-- and I think what we have to be as a society is accepting of what couples decide to do for themselves. There are some people who want to lean in, there are some people who want to lean back and be on a rocking chair drinking a mint julep. Whatever works for every couple is what we should respect…So right off, Navarro is portraying the home-based partner as lazy! The old image was lying on the sofa eating bonbons. She's got the sofa replaced by a rocking chair and an alcoholic beverage in place of the box of chocolates. Gregory breaks in with a wisecrack — "Enough about your Sunday afternoon" — and this prompts Navarro — the Republican — to double down on her idea that the stay-at-home spouse is a sponge:
When I say in my house that I want to be a kept woman, the answer I get back is well, I want to be a kept man. So, you know, that’s not working-- it’s not working in my house.Kept woman! This isn't as bad as Rush Limbaugh's notorious equation of free birth control and prostitution. It's actually kind of worse. Limbaugh intended to malign the demand for free birth control. He meant to say that the general public shouldn't have to pay for a particular person's sexual activities. He found a notoriously crude way to say I don't want to pay for you to have sex (i.e., if someone pays you to have sex, you're a prostitute). But aside from the crudeness, the opinion that the group shouldn't pay for the individual to have sex isn't offensive. It's just economics and ideology.
Navarro claimed "Whatever works for every couple is what we should respect," but she said — twice, quite clearly — that the stay-at-home partner isn't contributing. The first image was of someone loafing and drinking alcohol during the day. The second image was of a "kept woman" — that is, a woman who doesn't take care of the house and the children or do anything helpful other than to provide sex! If that "works for" you, that that's something that deserves respect — she asserts — but it wouldn't work at her house, and if she were to suggest that for herself, her husband would say that's what he wants. Obviously, the idea is that the nonbreadwinner spouse is goofing off. So where's the respect? At most, she says, if some other couple finds that this "works," then we should accept that they make their own decisions. Navarro goes on to say:
But I think, you know-- I think, we-- women that work need to be not judgmental of women who don’t.But your judgment leaked out all over the place!
I think men who are mister moms need to be accepted by those who are the alpha male breadwinners. So, I think it’s got to be whatever works-- different folks…Mr. Mom... alpha male... the disrespect is plain, even as you keep insisting you are tolerant.