I haven't read Frantzen's post yet. I'll get to that. I'm just amused by this idea — which I saw somewhere else recently too — that gay men are presumed to be female-friendly. I remember when gay men were presumed to hate women. When did that flip?
I got to that first link via Instapundit, who observes that "it’s often the gay men who are leading the way." The way... where?
Out of whatever this "feminist fog" is, I guess. I'm going to have to read Frantzen's post....
Frantzen uses the term to refer to "the sour mix of victimization and privilege that makes up modern feminism and that feminists use to intimidate and exploit men." So it's not feminism, per se, but the form it has taken recently and the way it's currently being used. Ironically, Frantzen is assuming the victim position to fight his purported oppressors, the sad new substitute for fighting fire with fire.
Men today live in femfog, a thick mist of anti-male propaganda.Help! I'm trapped in a mist!
The man has visualized the oppressor as a low-hanging cloud.
Many men don’t know how to fight it and some don’t even realize that they are fogged up.You know, I take metaphor seriously. In my mind, fighting a cloud looks very silly.
And you know, it's rather pathetic to be drawing a salary as an academic and not even able to tell you are living inside propaganda.
But, sure, everybody, especially very smart people getting paid to be smart, should know how to detect propaganda and feel highly motivated to work through it and get to the truth.
If you're working with colleagues who actually believe that what you call propaganda is the truth, then you need to interact with real people. The idea that you are fighting their fog is hardly the best approach to collegiality.
And you ought to be wary of creating propaganda of your own:
Femfog keeps men in the dark or at least in the murk, and keeps men on the defensive. Feminists want us to stand back and hold the door so that they can walk in and eat our lunch. That is what’s happening.To be fair: Frantzen is retired. And he's blogging.
He can choose to be on the outside, not a colleague anymore, but a blogger, speaking in new ways, using humor and hyperbole, stirring things up. I get that.
I refer to men who are shrouded in this fog as FUMs, fogged up men; other terms come to mind. They may might [sic] not be feminists but as they wander through the mist of politics and polemic about women, they feel like they should be feminists. They think feminism is good for everybody and they want to be nice to women. Life in femfog is the price a man pays for women’s acceptance and approval....By the way, real feminists don't want this superficial acceptance and niceness. It's cheap and shallow and not about understanding anything true. It's collegiality. Etiquette. Nongay men have a bigger stake in appeasing women, and I appreciate Frantzen's tweaking of heterosexual men whose feminism is something of a second-rate sexual strategy.
ADDED: The "Old Man Yells At Cloud" meme (from "The Simpsons"), was inserted in the text above after it was linked in the comments by TerriW. Thanks, TerriW! That's one of my favorite commenter contributions ever.