Writes Charles Murray in The Wall Street Journal, dispensing 5 rules for a happy life, beginning with "Consider Marrying Young." Just consider, note. There are, of course, also many reasons to consider not marrying your college sweetheart. For one thing, marriage entails only 2 parties, is intended to last for a human lifetime and tends to include children. So it's not like mergers and startups, which can last for short or long periods of time — whatever works — and involve multiple entities coming and going as suits the needs of whoever wields more economic power. It's a really bad analogy.
Anyway, Murray doesn't much draw on the analogy when he says what might be good about marrying young:
[Y]ou will both have memories of your life together when it was all still up in the air. You'll have fun remembering the years when you went from being scared newcomers to the point at which you realized you were going to make it.Well, only if you do make it! And what if you're less likely to make it? What if you didn't pay enough attention to each other because you had to work so hard trying to make it? What if one took a more supportive role toward the other, boosted his/her success, then found herself/himself rejected by a high-flying spouse who thinks she/he isn't interesting or glamorous enough for him/her anymore? There are so many possible scenarios. It's naive to pick one and say that sounds fun. It might not be fun at all. (That doesn't mean that not marrying will be fun.)
Murray seems to go on to concede that the young-marrying couple might not make it economically, but he still won't mention that you might not make it emotionally:
Even more important, you and your spouse will have made your way together. Whatever happens, you will have shared the experience. And each of you will know that you wouldn't have become the person you are without the other.Whatever you've shared is always sinking into the past, and not everyone stays together for the value of being able to share the memories. There might be some painful memories. Poverty and struggle may be satisfying in shared memory form, but what about the interpersonal cruelties and slights? What about all he/she did for him and how little she/he did for him/her? And if she/he is what she/he is because of him/her, what if she/he is unhappy with what she/he is? She/he might decide it's time to cash out and reinvest.