December 28, 2005

Addiction.

By chance, two of my favorite bloggers are talking about addiction today. Hog on Ice is fed up with his sister's I'm-an-addict antics. And RLC, left on his own to plunge into addictive behavior, analyzes why he doesn't.

10 comments:

Dave said...

Hog on Ice sounds like one bitter man.

I suppose I can't really blame him, but still...

jim said...

Steve H. of Hog on Ice sounds spot on. A number of us have a similar family situation and he addresses the problem honestly and with remarkable insight. Perhaps it is cathartic for him to write about it, but it also is extremely helpful to others when he shares his experience and conclusions. Good for him!

StrangerInTheseParts said...

Yeah - Hog on Ice sounds like he's got that situation pegged. A lot of people can relate to what he's talking about.

RLC ascetisism week is a cute post. My friends and I used to have 'money fasts' where we would just not spend money for 48 hours. Really teaches you a lot about yourself and your environment. It's kind of fun. And then breaking the fast is so cool. Everything has regained a sense of worth and value.

Elizabeth said...

Hog on Ice penned one of those rare pieces that has the effect of making me exclaim "Exactly!" This could be the story of anyone with an addict in the family or their circle of friends. He did not strike me as bitter at all; he's angry, but his judgment and analysis of his sister's strategies are clear, and his most important observation is accurate: an addict who has not taken responsibility is not in recovery.

nunzio said...

It's fascinating that Hog on Ice actually read the book his sister gave him (along with the 9-page "note"), succumbing, even briefly, to her "Trojan Horse."

So his protestation that he's "excited about life" is really undone by his hyperbole of the "tar baby" "poisoned apple," and "Trojan Horse" (which he's already fallen for).

I don't mean to be mean here, but Hog on Ice is no more self-aware than his sister, though he wants to be. It seems they "threw her out in the street" before, but don't plan too anytime soon.

It seems he doesn't want to take responsibility for the guilt because it's easier to deal with his sister and condemn her than it is to cut her out of his life and live with the guilt.

Or perhaps Hog on Ice is addicted to the superior feelings his sister arouses in him, as addiction runs in families.

jim said...

Or perhaps Hog on Ice is addicted to the superior feelings his sister arouses in him, as addiction runs in families?

Could be some commenters are addicted to the superior feelings that bloggers arouse in them when they make strong and very personal posts. Should we thank Nunzio for the declarative, definitive and damning arm-chair analysis from afar about another's self-deception, unresolved issues and hyperbole, or wonder whether the commenter is simply projecting and really had himself in mind?

Heck, no need to pussy-foot around, apparently. I'll just come out and declare with complete confidence and smugness that some commenters project their own inadequacies and display scarcely submerged hostilities when they psychoanalyze bloggers' personal revelations in such blundering, arrogant ways. Happy New Year, and you're welcome for the insights!

Good thing I'm not being mean here, either.

nunzio said...

Thanks, Jim, that was amusing, even arousing . . .

Anyway, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings by picking on Hog on Ice, just don't share your view that Hog on Ice addressed the problem with "remarkable insight."

But thanks for wishing me a Happy New Year. Happy New Year to you too.

Bruce Hayden said...

I think Richard is going too far the other way right now. I need some passion in my life, and that often translates into exuberance. I don't consider eating an entire pint of ice cream at one sitting an addiction, when I only do it once a year or so. And ditto for that third or fourth beer. Or, indeed, getting on my downhill skiis (got some of those curvy downhill poles for Christmas to go with) and being the first down a just groomed run. Just occasionally, I need to be passionate. I need to let loose, whether it is in eating the pint of ice cream, drinking that fourth beer, or skiing much too fast for someone in his mid 50s.

That said, I do deal with addicts too often. Nothing drives me crazier than that they absolutely refuse to take any responsibility for anything. A friend recently lost a job because he was looking at porn on the Internet at work. His excuse? His evil stepmother got his inheritance. Never mind that he has probably gotten stoned every day for years, and, by now, is too disfunctional to work for anyone else for very long.

Bane said...

Well said, Jim. Several times. And spot on.

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