Which way did body hair go?
While acne
has been destigmatized to some degree by bold stickers, and body hair appears in ads plastered across buses and trains, chewed up fingers have failed to capture that same cache of authenticity.
"Cache"?! They mean "cachet." A "cache" is a group of hidden things, like a "cache of weapons." Unless you have a box of chewed-up fingers stowed away somewhere, you mean "cachet" — which is prestige or high status.
But anyway, my question is answered. Body hair has gone public, plastered across buses and trains. So this is an article arguing for acceptance of bitten fingernails:
To escape a beauty culture that relies on pretending everything’s always under control, we have to become comfortable showing the tiniest parts of ourselves that are not. "Sit with those nails," [said Dawnn Karen, a former psychology professor at the Fashion Institute of Technology]. "Walk around for a week or two. Don’t get them done. Go through all of the feelings — embarrassment, shame, cringe. Let them pass."
Can we do the feeling where "done" nails seem embarrassing and shameful and — I hate to say it — cringe?
Speaking of words, I see that word up there — "authenticity" (in "that same cache of authenticity"). Just 2 days ago, I had a post "What authenticity means these days," with 4 examples from the current news. That makes me want to do a Friday "authenticity" check. I've already got one — the insane "cache of authenticity" — so 3 more are desirable:
1. "How ‘Fawning’ Is Ruining Your Relationships/Excessive people pleasing can trap you in a cycle of insecurity. Here’s how to break the habit" (NYT): "'When we’re fawning... the fearful part of ourselves chooses dishonest harmony over deep, authentic connection.'... The next time you have the urge to fawn... give yourself an authenticity check: Do I really mean what I’m about to say? Am I saying something I don’t mean to try to appease the other person?"
2. "When a Close Relationship Becomes ‘Enmeshment’/If you’ve lost yourself in a relationship, it may be time to untangle your identities and establish clearer boundaries" (NYT): "An enmeshed relationship has a lack of clear boundaries, leading to blurred individual identities.... [P]eople in these relationships become disconnected from their authentic selves. 'You get to a point where you don’t even know who you are'.... Is this your emotion, or are you co-opting someone else’s?..."
3. "The Authenticity Paradox/How 'Being Real' Became Performance" (Philosopheasy): "The paradox inherent in Rousseau's ideal of authenticity lies in its dual nature: while it encourages individuals to be true to themselves, it simultaneously demands recognition from others, thus complicating the pursuit of genuine self-expression.... Cultural critics argue that the rise of a 'culture of authenticity' can lead to societal tensions.... The expectation to present a genuine self in every context can feel burdensome... in an increasingly artificial world...."