Rather than compete directly with an identity another sibling is already known for, siblings proactively claim a unique perceptual psychological space in the minds of parents... In other words, if your brother was already seen as the “smart one,” you may have claimed the territory of the “funny one.” If your sister established her role as the “athlete,” you may have fashioned yourself the “artist.” And if your sister or brother was always praised for being the “good girl/boy,” you may have reveled in your role as the “rebel,” “free spirit,” or “changemaker.”
२४ ऑगस्ट, २०२५
"I’m cracking up just picturing the laughter around the Sunday dinner table if I had declared myself the family’s 'changemaker'!"
८ जुलै, २०२५
१ डिसेंबर, २०२४
"It’s clear from this election that there are many voters, especially those hardest hit by rising prices, those who experienced the pandemic-era financial support slipping away, who voted primarily on the economy."
From "Wisconsin Democratic Chair Says He Is the One to Revive a Distressed Party/Ben Wikler, who has led the Wisconsin Democratic Party since 2019, announced a bid to be national party chair with a platform to 'unite, fight, win'" (NYT)(free-access link).
Then I got a text from Meade: "Pills/Bad transcription by NYT."I googled it when I was writing the post, and I considered elaborating on this figure of speech. I couldn't find any example of "break pearls in half" as a figurative expression. I did find out that pearls are *cut* in half for some purposes, but these were real, not metaphorical, pearls. What did Ben mean? All I can think of is Mickey Mouse, starving, and cutting one bean into slices.
For more laughs, here's Mickey:
२५ ऑक्टोबर, २०२४
All this likening of Trump to Hitler has got me looking back to my 2011 posts, when Wisconsinites likened Governor Scott Walker to Hitler.
From February 17, 2011: "Scott Walker compared to Hitler" (with video of Meade questioning a woman who is carrying a sign portraying showing Walker with a Hitler mustache).

९ ऑक्टोबर, २०२४
The NYT creates a multicolored diagram of a Trump rally speech.

६ ऑक्टोबर, २०२४
१६ सप्टेंबर, २०२४
Who wrote this headline?! What would taking it to 11 mean in this context?
The influence of the phrase "up to eleven" is such that it has been used outside of music; in 2016, for example, astronomer Krzysztof Stanek described the then brightest-known object in the universe, ASASSN-15lh, as being "as if nature took everything we know about magnetars and turned it up to 11".
२ ऑगस्ट, २०२४
"Democrats need a dad?"
It's an episode of "The Ezra Klein Show." From the transcript, here's the "dad" part:
KLEIN: Let me ask you about political geography. There’s a sense of, particularly, the Midwest as “That’s where people are normal. Then they get weirder on the coast.” You’re a former Army guy, right? You’re a former football coach. You’ve got real good Midwestern dad vibes. And so you can talk about the weirdness of Trump and Vance in a way that I think a lot of Democrats would not feel they could and also in a way that they’re like, “Oh, right, maybe we’re not the weird ones.” But I always think this is a very unhealthy dimension of our politics, a sense that there are sort of “real” Americans here, not “real” Americans there, beyond the coast. I’m curious how you think about this, both from the perspective of what it’s allowed you to say — maybe that would not have landed coming from others — and also just, like, what you do about it.
The emphasis there is on the geography, the "Midwestern" part of "Midwestern dad." I wanted the "dad" part, but I'll soldier on:
१४ जून, २०२४
A Flag Day post, by Meade, on X.
— Laurence Meade (@laurmeade) June 14, 2024
१३ ऑक्टोबर, २०२३
"So I don’t want to say anything off the cuff but I respect where you’re coming from."
Said Pete Buttigieg, quoted in "Climate protesters crash Buttigieg interview, chanting 'stop Petro Pete'" (The Hill).
As I was playing that video out loud, Meade said, "Why doesn't a Cabinet Secretary have better security?" And that made me think perhaps the interruption was considered desirable — by Buttigieg, by the Biden administration/campaign. It isn't hard to generate ideas about why getting interrupted by extreme and rude climate activists might be advantageous.Breaking: we just chased Secretary Pete Buttigieg off the stage at the Meyerhoff Symphony.
— Climate Defiance (@ClimateDefiance) October 10, 2023
Petro Pete is a coward. As we write he is ramming down our throats the Sea Port and GulfLink oil terminals - each worse than Keystone.
We must resist him with all we've got. And we will. pic.twitter.com/aVKeCre5eH
२५ सप्टेंबर, २०२३
"Mrs. Clinton projects about projection."
Mrs. Clinton projects about projection.
— Laurence Meade (@laurmeade) September 25, 2023
१ जून, २०२३
"Clay is the opposite of the cellphone. This stuff is real, takes up space, it’s dirty. There’s just this physicality..."
Said D. Wayne Higby, director of Ceramic Art Museum at Alfred University, quoted in "Get Lost in Clay, Even if It’s Just for the Weekend/Pottery workshops like those at the Watershed Center for Ceramic Arts in Maine are filling up with people who want to connect with others instead of screens" (NYT).
२८ ऑगस्ट, २०२२
२२ ऑगस्ट, २०२२
The lanternfly and the unborn baby.
People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals offered a less than full-throated defense of the lanternfly. The advocacy group did advise people, however, to carefully consider their actions if it involves “killing any living being, no matter how small or unfamiliar,” said Catie Cryar, a PETA spokeswoman.... and says:
"Killing any living being, no matter how small or unfamiliar"Like an unborn living human being?
The bugs “didn’t ask to be invasive, they are just living their own life,” [said Catherine Bonner, 22, a Temple University student in Philadelphia]. “I would be bummed if I suddenly started existing somewhere I wasn’t supposed to exist and everyone started killing me for it.”... and says:
Like suddenly existing somewhere like your mother’s body?
११ ऑगस्ट, २०२२
"When manual transmissions were the norm... shifting gears became imbued with meaning."
From "The End of Manual Transmission/Stick shifts are dying. When they go, something bigger than driving will be lost" by Ian Bogost (The Atlantic).
९ ऑगस्ट, २०२२
It's primary day in Wisconsin. What have the GOP candidates for Governor said about the raid on Mar-a-Lago?
There's this at 10:58 from Timonthy Ramthun:First 87,000 new IRS agents, now this? The FBI’s raid this afternoon seems more like a political witch hunt than anything else. Republicans in Wisconsin are far too familiar with overzealous prosecutors. Elections have consequences. Vote. https://t.co/PGNOHlCCL2
— Tim Michels (@michelsforgov) August 9, 2022
११ जुलै, २०२२
Why should any man becumber himself with a cucumber?
becumber v.
, ,Hear pronunciation/biˈkəmbər/1550 M. Coverdale tr. O. Werdmueller Spyrytuall & Precyouse Pearle xxi. sig. Hvjv Why shulde any man..becomber hym selfe about that thing?
I had blogged a quote that referred to "the spectacle of bepenised straight heterosexual males." Quite aside from the context — go back to that post if you care about context — there was some clamor over the word "bepenised."
My dear husband Meade commented:
To bepenised or not to bepenised…
Bespectacled. Bepenised. Bemused.And now, I'm very proud and happy to present one of my newest and nicest friends:
१४ जून, २०२२
I'm trying to read this Slate article about Greg Gutfeld, but I can't get past the performative garnering.
This morning Meade sends me the link to "A Fox News Host’s Strange Backstory Shows How Liberals Lost Comedy/Conservatives now have one of the most popular shows in late night" — and I run into this:
Gutfeld has long demonstrated an obvious knack for garnering attention through what would now be described as trolling. Developing a highly performative, occasionally over-the-top style of comedic presentation....
Speaking of trolling... I don't want to be paranoid... but I feel... summoned. Who does a garner/performative one-two like that?
Anyway, here's a passage from the article, in case you're hankering for the substantive:
१८ जून, २०२१
What's this bird?

Photographed yesterday by Lake Mendota (in Madison, Wisconsin). I tried various "What is this bird?" websites, but I couldn't figure it out. I asked Meade, and he said "A penguin."
IN THE COMMENTS: The most frequent suggestion is Eastern Kingbird, which was one of the options I saw, using bird identification websites, but I saw some differences. One reader, Bart, sent a picture of an Eastern Kingbird, the head of which I will juxtapose to my bird. I think the head shape is different (or maybe Bart's bird is ruffling its feathers and mine is a cooler character):
ADDED: With my photo cut off at the chest, Meade's "penguin" ID becomes entrancingly apt!
९ जून, २०२१
"New York Times editorial board member Mara Gay's comments on MSNBC have been irresponsibly taken out of context."
"Her argument was that Trump and many of his supporters have politicized the American flag. The attacks on her today are ill-informed and grounded in bad-faith."
Tweets NYTimes Communications/@NYTimesPR.
That's about the controversy we were talking about yesterday, here. I said: "I think this is an honest revelation: American flags really do disturb Mara Gay." And: "This is a pretty standard aversion to the flag. It made me think of Katha Pollitt's famous reaction to flag displays after the 9/11 attacks...."
The NYT tweet came out yesterday, so I guess what I wrote is within the category "attacks on her today" and my circumspect and considered remarks have been denounced as "ill-informed and grounded in bad-faith."
So I'm going to say that tweet is ill-informed and grounded in bad-faith! What a ridiculous blanket statement with no regard for the individuals who listened to Gay and made our own interpretations and expressed our opinions.
It's so hypocritical to obsessively protect her while attacking all her critics with broad-brush insults!
IN THE COMMENTS: You can see email, along with responses from me, on the subject of
whether the American left has an aversion to displays of the American flag. I am reminded of this photograph of mine that I posted on the 4th of July in 2005:
At the time, I wrote: "In my family, this is known as my 'most right wing photo' and jokes have been made along the lines of: 'What if you put that on your office door? What would people think? What would they say?'"
There were a lot of comments at the time, including one from a colleague who said: "I quite like the photo and resist the idea that the right owns the flag. " I was motivated to post what I called "my most left-wing flag photo, from the Kerry rally here in Madison last fall":