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The progress of polyamory in The New York Times.

March 11, 2023: "To Fix a Broken Marriage, an Experiment With Polyamory" ("The couple tried polyamory, which rekindled their passion, but it did not address their other issues...").

May 16, 2023: "Interested in Polyamory? Check Out These Places/Laws granting rights to people in polyamorous relationships are being recognized in more cities" ("We have a population that’s more open to these ideas, and many of these folks are either currently nonmonogamous or have tried nonmonogamy or at the very least know someone who’s polyamorous").

January 13, 2024: "How a Polyamorous Mom Had ‘a Big Sexual Adventure’ and Found Herself/In her memoir, 'More,' Molly Roden Winter recounts the highs and lows of juggling an open marriage with work and child care" ("I felt like there were no stories from the mainstream about it, and I felt very closeted.... It often feels like mothers are not supposed to be sexual beings").

January 19, 2024: "My Relationships Have No Clothes/I have no moral objection to infidelity. For me, sex is just sex" ("If I had to wait until he had no other partner, we would have missed out on this relationship, which is 90 percent TV jokes and 'Mad Men' quotes. We never would have the pride it brings each of us when we make the other laugh out loud").

April 15, 2024: "Lessons From a 20-Person Polycule/How they set boundaries, navigate jealousy, wingman their spouses and foster community" ("It’s not clear when the word ['polycule'] was coined, but it seems to have started catching on around 15 years ago to suggest an intricate structure formed of people with overlapping deep attachments: romantic, sexual, sensual, platonic").

May 9, 2024: "What Kind of Husband Behaves Like Donald Trump?" ("And as Ms. Daniels explained how Mr. Trump would call her 'honeybunch' when he phoned her, and tell her he missed her, I found myself wondering: Is this a man who is capable of missing anyone?")

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doctrev म्हणाले...

This is because they're idiotic hypocrites who will say ANYTHING on behalf of a cabal of child-abusing oligarchs. You know, the tribal cabal which pays off most corporate journalists in America.

Most sexual deviancy is used for blackmail purposes no matter how much the left celebrates it, and it's a testament to how well the real President gets along with his ex-wives that this tactic hasn't worked on him for at least a decade.

Aggie म्हणाले...

How dare you set the context so unfairly !

traditionalguy म्हणाले...

Doesn’t anybody do serial monogamy any more.

The lack of faithfulness has to eat at them. Knowing the other one is always looking to make a better deal must make them fear the next day. And STDs are probable.

Time to watch Sideways again.

Kevin म्हणाले...

Polyamory is acceptable because women find additional partners much more easily than men.

If the opposite were true, the NYT would be calling it "anti-woman" and creating a negative social stigma.

Witness म्हणाले...

I was going to check whether these different headlines tracked to the same person or if the NYT happens to have different people with different opinions on its staff, but I can't see the byline without creating an account so that's a bust...

Clyde म्हणाले...

Slutting around for me and thee, but not that terrible Donald Trump!

n.n म्हणाले...

Social liberalism: friendship with "benefits", aborted and sequestered "burdens" of evidence, back... black hole... whore h/t NAACP intercourse, casting couches, pornography, harems, rent-a-womb, not not sexual relations... take a knee. That said, keep women affordable, available, reusable, and taxable. Civil unions for all consenting adults. With social progress, pedophilia, sadomasochism, etc are sexual orientations, too. #NoJudgment #NoLabels

FullMoon म्हणाले...

Leave it to Trumps' behavior to screw up Liberal orgy acceptance. The Bastard

n.n म्हणाले...

if the opposite were true, the NYT would be calling it "anti-woman" and creating a negative social stigma.

Observe the progress of a trans/neo-feminine gender, rent-a-wombs, etc are misogynistic. Keep women affordable, available, reusable, and taxable in the modern family.

tommyesq म्हणाले...

90 percent TV jokes and 'Mad Men' quotes.

Sounds like a very deep, rich and fulfilling relationship. I wish them the absolute best of luck...

Kate म्हणाले...

The feelings are ephemeral and the loneliness will get stronger with each passing year.

All those polyamory "perks" are possible with monogamy; you have to commit to one person for life, though, to find them.

Dave Begley म्हणाले...

Nice post, Ann.

n.n म्हणाले...

Trump broke the first rule of social liberal club.

JK Brown म्हणाले...

Donald Trump was doing polyamory in the '80s before it was cool. Marla Maples, anyone, the 2nd Mrs. Donald Trump.

Howard म्हणाले...

It's not surprising at all that Donald Trump would find a deep and meaningful connection with the blackmailing gossip mongering pornstar Stormy.

I want a girl, just like the girl that married dear old Dad,
She was a pearl and the only girl that Daddy ever had,
A good old fashioned girl with heart so true,
One who loves nobody else but you,
I want a girl, just like the girl that married dear old Dad.

Sebastian म्हणाले...

"The couple tried polyamory, which rekindled their passion, but it did not address their other issues..."

LOL.

"It often feels like mothers are not supposed to be sexual beings"

Does it? Let's ask the dads. If the dads are around.

Anyway, this raises the meta-question: can progs hear themselves talk?

Nancy म्हणाले...

Ann, you are awesome.

Achilles म्हणाले...

March 11, 2023: "To Fix a Broken Marriage, an Experiment With Polyamory" ("The couple tried polyamory, which rekindled their passion, but it did not address their other issues...").

Failure rate of this experiment: 99.9999%

RideSpaceMountain म्हणाले...

My favorite thing about polyamory and polycules is the image they show in popular media never matches the reality of the image in real life. Real life polycules and polyamorists look like IHOP's 4s at the worst bar you've been to at 1:30am on a Thursday night.

RMc म्हणाले...

(fill in the blank) is OK for us, The Good People of the World (tm), but not for you, and certainly not for Donald Trump...!

Mr Wibble म्हणाले...

Those of us who opposed gay marriage predicted that they would push polygamy, and were mocked for it, but we knew because this shit has always been below the surface, for anyone willing to pay attention.

gilbar म्हणाले...

They tried polyamory, which rekindled their passion, but it did not address their other issues

F*cking other people Frequently rekindles passion.. but The Problem is, that passion is with OTHER people
funny how that works.
You'd think that being intimate with someone else would help you regain intimacy with your mate..
I mean.. You'd think that; if you were REALLY Stupid (or just a HUGE liar)

gilbar म्हणाले...

Kevin said...
Polyamory is acceptable because women find additional partners much more easily than men.

this is true.. For MOST men.

however, in today's Brave New World; MOST women* want to be with the guys that are 666
[6 figures, 6 foot tall+, 6 pack abs]
That is to say MOST women want to be with the guys that are 10's
and there just AREN'T that many of THOSE guys around. The New World Woman's GOAL is to be

side chick
Thus: Polyamory is acceptable because IT IS THE ONLY WAY WOMEN WILL GET THE HUNKS

MOST women* Now, someone HERE will post, saying:
"gilbar is Full of Crap! I've been married to my wife for 45 years, and she never strays!"
YES! as far as you old people know.. Your wife is NOT someone's side chick...
MAYBE, you MIGHT be able to REALIZE that we're talking about breeding age people.. NOT great grandparents

In today's Brave New World.. 30% of young men haven't had sex in the past year
Why So Many Young Males Are Single and Sexless
A recent Pew Research study suggests a tectonic shift in the dating and sex life of men. The study found that among men under 30 years old, over 60 percent are single, almost double that of women in the same age bracket

More than 60 percent of young men are single, nearly twice the rate of unattached young women, signaling a larger breakdown in the social, romantic and sexual life of the American male.
Men in their 20s are more likely than women in their 20s to be romantically uninvolved, sexually dormant, friendless and lonely

Young men commit suicide at four times the rate of young women.

Freeman Hunt म्हणाले...

They need this article:

"How to Get Normal People to Never Speak to You Again? Polyamory"

D.D. Driver म्हणाले...

Do we know that Melania approves? Seems like you are making a huge stretch with this one. Is the hush money in large part to keep secrets from his wife. Lot's of reasons (STIs being a big one) why it is TOTALLY different to compare "fully informed, consenting adults" to a piece of shit that fucks porn stars behind his wife's back.

Nancy Reyes म्हणाले...

Kevin in the comments says: Polyamory is acceptable because women find additional partners much more easily than men.

Really? You mean those purple haired fat girls who protest are finding partners (not a one night stand, since some men would sleep with a lamppost, but a partner who cares for her)?

And what about we old gals? Remember Franklin's quip to get an older mistress because they are so grateful? Things haven't changed since then, Kevin.

Joe Smith म्हणाले...

Guarantee they're all democrats...

Josephbleau म्हणाले...

Every group grope community thinks they invented mass sex. The community marriage Oneida Colony of 1840 did it, along with the hippies. Fetchen Gretchen rode the bus with Kesey and pals. It was great to grow up in the seventies, good times.

The 2010 kids loose on the pendulum swing.

Iman म्हणाले...

I’m waiting for a treatise on pimp/husband love. Must be quite a bond between Daniels and her pimp/spouse.

Achilles म्हणाले...

Howard said...

It's not surprising at all that Donald Trump would find a deep and meaningful connection with the blackmailing gossip mongering pornstar Stormy.

I want a girl, just like the girl that married dear old Dad,
She was a pearl and the only girl that Daddy ever had,
A good old fashioned girl with heart so true,
One who loves nobody else but you,
I want a girl, just like the girl that married dear old Dad.


9/10

Breezy म्हणाले...

One of these is not like the others.

Marcus Bressler म्हणाले...

There is no reason for young men today to marry. They'll lose at least half of everything, including their kids and be indebted the rest of their life to a faithless liar who made wedding "vows" to stay together forever, not just until they got bored.
So, Friends with Benefits it is.

Craig Mc म्हणाले...

"Polyamory" sounds so much more sophisticated than "f**king around".

Josephbleau म्हणाले...

"There is no reason for young men today to marry. They'll lose at least half of everything, including their kids and be indebted the rest of their life to a faithless liar who made wedding "vows" to stay together forever, not just until they got bored."

Yes, have a starter marriage. If you are male, pay the adulteress $30K per year for the rest of your godam life, and move on (one of the best investments I have ever made). At least you get to enjoy hearing about your exes shoddy ticky tacky slut life.

I ask myself, am I too bitter? My wonderful well educated second wife of 25 years says F the B.

Young marriages are for HS sweethearts who knew each other at 5 yo or college mates who have been supervised by both families.

Mikey NTH म्हणाले...

Gilbar: You need to mention The Wall and how that affects women.

Rocco म्हणाले...

To paraphrase the (not) Warhol quote: In the future, everyone will have sex with everyone else for 15 minutes.

Rocco म्हणाले...

Craig Mc said...
"Polyamory" sounds so much more sophisticated than "f**king around".

Thanks to the New York Times, we get to do the “Find Out” part.

NKP म्हणाले...

A woman is only a woman but a good cigar is a smoke.

Nice म्हणाले...

Nobody knows what Polyamory means. It could be anything.

Open Marriage is a lot less vague. Swingers, is fairly self-explanatory.



Tina Trent म्हणाले...

Well, you know, ever since David Brooks started dating his codpiece, it's all been downhill.

Christopher B म्हणाले...

Heh.

I'm betting that the Venn diagram of people who wonder why Melania doesn't divorce Donald and people who thought it was grand that Hillary stood by Bill is pretty close to a perfect circle.

n.n म्हणाले...

My wonderful well educated second wife of 25 years

If not for your trials.... who you would have missed. Totally worth it.

gilbar म्हणाले...

Mikey NTH said...
Gilbar: You need to mention The Wall and how that affects women.

exactly!
a 20something woman, can get laid.... WHEN EVER SHE WANTS TO
a 20something woman, can get a mate.. WHEN EVER SHE WANTS TO

a 30something woman, can get laid.. WHEN EVER SHE WANTS TO.. BUT!
a 30something woman, better get used to having cats.. She find, that ALL of the good ones are taken