"I live in Brooklyn, and my girlfriend and metamour live in Jersey City. Megan and I have been dating about nine months, and she and her boyfriend have been dating for about two and a half years. I was only going to spend a couple of nights here, but I’m feeling like we’re moving closer and closer to an actual shut down of New York City, and I don’t want to be stuck there if they close the bridges and tunnels. I have a car and I brought a bunch of stuff, so I am temporarily hunkering down here.... They have a two-bedroom apartment here, so I have been staying in the guest room.... But I am personally approaching everything with a lot of caution, and trying to be as polite as possible.... He’s kind of a somber, quiet fella, and I am ready to burst with energy at any moment.... There’s a small little urge in me that’s like, Oh, I want him to like me. I also want everyone to like me.... There’s a part of me that’s relieved that Megan has another person here, because then I don’t have to be everything to her. I don’t have to give her all the attention that’s needed... And... it is a relief to know that if I need to have alone time, she’s good with that..."
March 19, 2020
"What It’s Like to Isolate With Your Girlfriend and Her Other Boyfriend."
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It's a relief to see Althouse's obsession with perverts and deviants has been impacted by the flu.
I'm all for friends and being close friends with people of the opposite sex, but when you and others all have the same "benefits," that goes just a bit too far.
Well, another definition of social-distancing....
It sounds like a new sitcom, coming to ABC this fall.
People really like to make life complicated.
A situation where gun control might make a lot of sense.
I'll take "things that didn't happen for $100, Alex.
Virus bringing out the worst in some, best in others.
It sounds like a new sitcom, coming to ABC this fall.
Brother Wives
I don’t want to be stuck there if they close the bridges and tunnels.
Definitely a sitcom pitch.
I had to Google “metamour.”
I’m sorry I did.
It's a relief to see Althouse's obsession with perverts and deviants has been impacted by the flu.
Is that sentence untied? Missing a not?
I'll take "things that didn't happen for $100, Alex.
$100 is so 2001.
I will refer to my comment from the Beluga post.
You can count on New York magazine for bullshit stories like this.
Can I say "bullshit" here?
I just did.
Twice.
I don’t want to be stuck there if they close the bridges and tunnels.
"Oh you started a new garden out back while you were holed up, huh? Good idea. Hey, whatever happened to that noisy little guy that used to hang out with you and Megan? I haven't seen him since the quarantine."
"Oh...uh...I dunno...we kinda lost touch with him after they closed the bridges and stuff."
Covid-19 is probably not the only virus that people of this peculiar ilk have to worry about.
TW
Com'n, someone went through the Penthouse dumpster and came up with this from the Letters-Rejected file.
Reminds me of Jefferson Airplane’s “Triad.”
Why can’t we go on as three?
From “Crown of Creation” in 1968.
Sexual abandon and freedom from sexual jealousy are constantly recurring themes of youth in every generation.
Or, how about “Jules and Jim,” released in 1962? The French egghead version.
"Least Masculine Society In Human History Decides Masculinity Is A Growing Threat"
--Babylon Bee evergreen headline
People who are calling bullshit on this story are living some sheltered lives for sure. Oh what's this a telephone with no cord I don't believe it!
Yeah. It's long past time to leave. If others are using the tunnel, you don't want to be using it yourself.
I’m going to challenge the conventional wisdom of this board, probably in a way that will surprise you.
Humanity damned near exterminated itself in a nuclear firestorm in the last century, and you could argue that traditional male territoriality and sexual jealousy were the principle driving factors.
That, in my opinion, is what really accounts for the success of feminism and the desire to escape sexual conformity. Men have to stop taking so much pride in fighting over territory and pussy. We’ll commit suicide if we can’t.
I don’t think that the motives of people like those cited in this article are at all difficult to understand.
"Reminds me of Jefferson Airplane’s “Triad.”"
I blogged about that song in 2006.
Likely a fabricated story.
Hey, the second comment on my old 2006 post is Meade, and he says "Now if only I could remember where I left my semen. (sorry. old joke.)"
That has 2 links in it, which I think are necessary to understand the joke, and both links are dead.
Likely a fabricated story.
I think not, but then I lived in San Francisco during the hippie era.
Re: Bob Boyd @ 9:something:
I'm learning to be careful with my coffee when I read Bob's comments.
This fella's problem is that the tunnel is open to more than one.
Honestly, I found this sad. The impoverishment of our emotional commitments is far more dangerous (and certainly more damming) in the long term than the pandemic.
Good thing they are covering this infinitesimally small segment of society.
"I think not, but then I lived in San Francisco during the hippie era."
Well, I came of age in the 1980s and 1990s- the Free Love era was dead by then, unfortunately.
In Cali in the 60s.
"What's your sign?"
If your answer was in the sweet spot you got the sweet spot.
"Well, I came of age in the 1980s and 1990s- the Free Love era was dead by then, unfortunately."
Take my word for it, Yancey, I was there... it was neither free nor love.
Go on go on just walk away go on go on the choice is made
Go on go on and disappear go on go on away from here
And I know I was wrong when I said it was true
That it couldn’t be me and her in between ....without you.
Great song. Loved it as an adolescent. Maybe I danced a little more to Bizarre Love Triangle at the time, but hey, some things are eternal universal.
Shouting Thomas has a point. Or he is close to the one I see, or I see it in a different light.
For a very very very long time now humanity defined itself by who got what. (Be it man or woman, IMHO). It may even be hard wired into us for natural purposes, long before recorded history got around to recording it.
And in our getting it, perhaps we have always naturally looked around and thought: I am going to go get that, not HIM/HER, goddamnit.
Was a bit of my initial affections for X triggered by having “won” some of her attention, over suitor Y?
And did she fancy me a little more cause she was able to catch me, rather than Z getting a go at me, down the street?
Humanity damned near exterminated itself in a nuclear firestorm in the last century, and you could argue that traditional male territoriality and sexual jealousy were the principle driving factors.
ST, respectfully, this is maybe the emptiest thing you've ever said here.
She seems high maintenance.
Freud was right about penis envy, but this girl seems to want two.
And never mind the two guys. Women are gatekeepers in sexual matters, and if this is a trend, then today's ladies use sex to psychologically castrate.
It's really very simple.
He wants what he wants without commitment.
She gets what she wants.
The third guy? Who knows what he wants, but he doesn't want commitment either.
I used to think that way. But I'm happily married now, and I realize how bullshit this kind of thinking is. I also understand where it comes from, because I didn't know then what made for a great relationship, and I listened to the Playboy Philosophy and its poisonous kin that said sex was great without emotion and engagement. It's not.
It's just division of labor between Darryl & Darryl.
Nothing crazy like a "throuple".
C'mon, man!
"Even if I wasn’t sleeping with anyone in the house, I would still want to be polite about their space. But because there’s that extra dynamic, I also don’t want any romantic strains on anybody. They’ve also been going through some relationship difficulties themselves, and I don’t want to exacerbate that by being a dick, or being entitled."
Too late.
"Somber, quiet fella"..for now.
What an old fart medley of pious bullshit!
I can remember quite well being young and being up for anything. And having fun doing it!
Yeah, I talked a lot of BS about why I was doing it, but it was still fun.
You’re old now, and beat up and your body is fat and rotting. That’s why you’re not up for any fun anymore.
What bullshit!
I had a hell of a good time when I was young trying out just about everything. It was great. Didn’t have shit to do with the Playboy philosophy. Had some great playmates, too. Those were the days.
Polygamy without liability.
Yuck.
This guy sounds gay. What hetero man talks this way?
Not having to deal with these soibois is the best part of getting old. I’m Gen X but married a Boomer because I thought my generation’s males were too whiny and wimpy. Ha! It’s so much worse now. It’s like they all have vaginas to go with their man buns.
Here's Billy! ST's younger self?
@walter
The humor is appreciated.
What kind of tunnel was he worried about?
Heh. I was surprised the guy is real.
I wonder if this was a PR move to promote his podcast...make it go..err..viral.
"Her name is Dumpster. When one of us wants her attention, we call out, "Come, Dumpster."
WTAF?
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