Althouse: "Luckily through the divorce process I had the opportunity to take over this shithole place.... Everything is for sale except the pink chandelier and the dog. Anyone is free to stop by at anytime."

October 5, 2019

"Luckily through the divorce process I had the opportunity to take over this shithole place.... Everything is for sale except the pink chandelier and the dog. Anyone is free to stop by at anytime."

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“My husband got involved with a younger woman at work. I was relaxed about it at first. He’s thirteen years younger than me, so I thought: ‘Shit happens.’ But then she got pregnant. Luckily through the divorce process I had the opportunity to take over this shithole place with no heating, which I've turned into an art studio. And now I’m living my best life. Everything is for sale except the pink chandelier and the dog. Anyone is free to stop by at anytime. You can eat or drink whatever you want. All the young people in the neighborhood love me. I’m the oldest person in our friend group. Everyone else is in their twenties or thirties. They call me Queen Mama. I call them my adopted kids. I always help them with their school projects and resumes and interviews. I only ask one thing in return. Each of them has to teach me one new thing every week: a piece of music, a trend, an idea. Just so I can stay up to date. Before you take the photograph, let me go inside and put on some make-up. We were out until 2 AM last night.” (Amsterdam, The Netherlands)
A post shared by Humans of New York (@humansofny) on Oct 3, 2019 at 7:34am PDT

41 comments:

mccullough said...: He’s your ex-husband, not your husband. And he started fucking a woman at work. Spare us the euphemisms. And get a real dog, not one of those cat-sized yappers. And get out of New York. It’s stultifying; 10/5/19, 9:01 AM
Phil 314 said...: But she’s NOT a “human of ny”!?; 10/5/19, 9:03 AM
Narayanan said...: Why would baby become deal breaker?; 10/5/19, 9:04 AM
Mark said...: Trying hard to fill the emptiness.; 10/5/19, 9:14 AM
gilbar said...: You married a boy that was thirteen years younger than you were
You never had kids, on account of because of the fact that you were old and dried up
He started fucking a girl where he worked; and you were "relaxed" about that: Shit happens

THEN?
You were surprised that:
A) she got pregnant (should i tell you a story, about the birds? and the bees?)?
B) that they wanted (HE wanted) to keep it?
C) that he filed for divorce?
D) that you were such a pathetic loser, that You Had to Pretend, that the divorce was YOUR idea?; 10/5/19, 9:16 AM
daskol said...: She’s got a great attitude.; 10/5/19, 9:21 AM
rcocean said...: Her husband is 13 years younger. Marcon has a older wife too. Those old Euro must have something going for them.; 10/5/19, 9:24 AM
Birches said...: I feel really sorry for her.; 10/5/19, 9:25 AM
Birches said...: I don't think she thinks I should. But I'm taking the long view. This is really sad.; 10/5/19, 9:26 AM
Wince said...: Look, divorce must be a kick in the pants or you have no soul.

What's wrong with taking stock of what's good in your life and making the best of it publicly?

I'd cut her some slack.; 10/5/19, 9:34 AM
Ray - SoCal said...: I think the Instagram person is in Amsterdam, and finds stories of interest in NY.

I hope the best for her, and her ex Husband.; 10/5/19, 9:38 AM
Ann Althouse said...: "And get out of New York."

Hard to do from Amsterdam.; 10/5/19, 9:39 AM
Oso Negro said...: With any luck at all she can snag another 20-something. Old-young isn’t just for men.; 10/5/19, 9:40 AM
Michael K said...: Is she a character in "The Big Lebowski?"; 10/5/19, 9:40 AM
Yancey Ward said...: I don't get "Humansofny"- this is the second story you have posted about that has nothing to do with New York.; 10/5/19, 9:46 AM
Yancey Ward said...: I feel sorry for her- that is my first reaction.; 10/5/19, 9:47 AM
pious agnostic said...: Ugh. I hate the feisty old lady characters.; 10/5/19, 9:50 AM
WWIII Joe Biden, Husk-Puppet + America's Putin said...: This IS related.

Thoughtful article on the social benefits of monogamy.

Fun reminders like this:
"So-called sexual freedom has given us 37 million global neighbors who are presently infected with HIV. The World Health Organization just announced that more than 1 million new cases of sexually transmitted infections occur every day. More than 1 million. Every day."; 10/5/19, 9:55 AM
Ann Althouse said...: "He’s your ex-husband, not your husband. And he started fucking a woman at work. Spare us the euphemisms..."

She was referring to what happened in the past, when he was her husband. If she'd said "ex-husband," it would sound like she objected to his sexual relationships that occurred after the marriage.; 10/5/19, 10:06 AM
Wince said...: Ann Althouse said...
"And get out of New York." Hard to do from Amsterdam.

"Amsterdam? I'm New York."; 10/5/19, 10:14 AM
Big Mike said...: The Dutch are weird. You ever hear them trying to pronounce the letter ‘G’?; 10/5/19, 10:43 AM
William said...: I wouldn't be a bit surprised if this woman is having more fun than me. Most people are. Still, that Queen Mama crap seems like a lot of bother. Does she have to listen to rap music or maybe get a tattoo to stay current? If similar statements were made by Jeffrey Epstein, we would look askance.; 10/5/19, 10:46 AM
Freeman Hunt said...: Why does anyone feel any animosity toward this woman? She found herself in a terrible situation that knocked her off the path through life she reasonably expected, so she's finding a new path for herself. Best wishes to her!; 10/5/19, 10:49 AM
gspencer said...: "Those old Euro[s] must have something going for them."

Not just old European women; all of them.

Many will be surprised to learn that the author of the following was Ben Franklin,

"The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advice_to_a_Friend_on_Choosing_a_Mistress; 10/5/19, 10:58 AM
Kelly said...: It’s odd, but I observed in Amsterdam that the men are kind of boys, kind of tall strapping Nordic boys. We were on a train going from Amsterdam to Brussels and a couple sitting next to us was an older, rather unattractive woman with bad teeth and a younger man-boy fawning over her. It was sweet how he hung on her every word and shared his sandwich. She ate the whole way and looked up the restaurant she decided they’d eat at when they arrived. That made me wonder if she was American. But hey, good for her. She’s definitely doing something right.

I can understand this woman’s need for change and to clear out all the memories of her ex.; 10/5/19, 11:19 AM
SDaly said...: Humans of New York.

Well, I refer to Amsterdam as "Old New York," so it fits.; 10/5/19, 11:27 AM
Ann Althouse said...: "Why does anyone feel any animosity toward this woman? She found herself in a terrible situation that knocked her off the path through life she reasonably expected, so she's finding a new path for herself. Best wishes to her!"

I know!

I put up the post because I thought she was great (and I was intrigued by the nerve of making your home an art shop open to the public with all your stuff for sale!).; 10/5/19, 11:29 AM
daskol said...: I suspect the animosity is because she’s managed to go through embittering circumstances without becoming personally embittered. People are either jealous or they don’t believe her.; 10/5/19, 11:56 AM
madAsHell said...: Wasn't this a Woody Allen movie in the 80's??; 10/5/19, 1:34 PM
Unknown said...: "Why does anyone feel any animosity toward this woman? She found herself in a terrible situation that knocked her off the path through life she reasonably expected, so she's finding a new path for herself. Best wishes to her!"

Because many of Althouse's regulars are rigid, sour, angry, frustrated, judgmental people who despise anyone who is not as pinched and resentful of life as they. Which is to say, they are, literally or figuratively, incels.; 10/5/19, 3:17 PM
Robert Cook said...: Oh, the "Unknown" at 3:17 PM is me. I didn't see I had not signed into my account.; 10/5/19, 3:32 PM
tim in vermont said...: I think she’s kind of hot. I have a weakness for Bohemian types. Especially the cute ones.; 10/5/19, 3:40 PM
tim in vermont said...: The Accidental Tourist is one of my favorite movies, if that tells you anything.; 10/5/19, 3:41 PM
Nichevo said...: rcocean said...
Her husband is 13 years younger. Marcon has a older wife too. Those old Euro must have something going for them.

10/5/19, 9:24 AM

Yes, men who go for that. It's one thing to have a fling when you're 18 and she's 30. But to be married when you are 48 and she's 60?; 10/5/19, 4:00 PM
Maillard Reactionary said...: Chick stuff. tl;dr; 10/5/19, 4:19 PM
Maillard Reactionary said...: The pink chandelier serves as a warning signal about what sort of art is displayed therein.

On the other hand, I can't argue that dogs aren't often better company than most humans, even though that's not my style of dog. Net-net she's better off, probably.

Everybody wins. (Unless you say something a Muslim doesn't like. Then you lose.); 10/5/19, 4:26 PM
Nichevo said...: Because many of Althouse's regulars are rigid, sour, angry, frustrated, judgmental people who despise anyone who is not as pinched and resentful of life as they. Which is to say, they are, literally or figuratively, incels.

D00d, you just described Althouse. No wonder you posted anon.; 10/5/19, 7:47 PM
Nichevo said...: Oh, Bob, that was you? Snorfle.; 10/5/19, 7:47 PM
D 2 said...: Why did you get on airplanes to Holland? Why did you bother eating, dancing, painting? Why does the human race need yet another painting? We have no future because of all your painting. All our energy and effort must be devoted to saving the planet for the children to come. Shame!
This is the Word of the Greta.

I'm not all that sour. I'm just dizzy with the inconsistency of what is to be lauded. The lens, it keeps spinning, it seems.
T.I. & Rihanna told us, a decade ago, to just live your life.
Why are some celebrated, and others told they must relent and change their old wrong headed ways?
Let this women do her thing. Well, Let others do too, as the French say, non?; 10/5/19, 9:49 PM
gadfly said...: Big Mike said...
The Dutch are weird. You ever hear them trying to pronounce the letter ‘G’?

How about The Cats Band from the Netherlands singing "Scarlet Ribbons" as in " I peeked in to say GOOD night . . . "

Not even an accent - Great version of a great song BTW.; 10/6/19, 1:25 AM
tim in vermont said...: Golden Earring was pretty good.

“One more radar lover gone!"; 10/6/19, 7:53 AM