१९ जुलै, २०१९

"Wearing matching 'Squad' pajamas with 11 bridesmaids I’d never met, for the sake of a perfectly filtered, faux candid photo of us throwing our heads back and laughing..."

"... didn’t seem worth what the room would cost. So how could I say no to a friend I’ve known since we were 16, without becoming persona non grata?... I was uninvited to the long bachelorette weekend in Spain, and told, via WhatsApp, that I was no longer a bridesmaid. This left me $675 in the hole for what I had already spent on a trip I was now banned from, including a nonrefundable airline ticket...."

From "Go Broke or Go Home Bachelorette Parties/What happens when friends are consumed by wanting their bachelorette parties to be picture perfect at any cost? Credit cards are maxed out and debt rises. Instagram wedding envy wins the day" by Rhiannon Picton-James, published in the NYT on July 16th.

Interesting to see the disparaging use of "Squad." On July 15th, I was asking about the origin of the term "squad" to refer to the set of Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez, Ilhan Omar, Rashida Tlaib, and Ayanna S. Pressley. It had popped into the national discourse through Nancy Pelosi, who'd seemed to be trying to get the group under control. In my effort to understand the term, I checked out Urban Dictionary and found 2 definitions that help understand the disparagement intended by Nancy Pelosi and Rhiannon Picton-James:
"Crew, posse, gang: an informal group of individuals with a common identity and a sense of solidarity. The term is a bit flashy and is more likely to be heard in hip-hop lyrics than in spoken conversation"/"A word overused by teenagers that think they're ghetto to describe their clique of friends"/"A dumb word only used by white middle schoolers in suburban areas to describe their group of friends and try to sound ghetto. It doesnt make them sound ghetto, but actually increases their whiteness."
And here's a piece from Vox on July 17th, "How 4 congresswomen came to be called 'the Squad'/The term is making headlines, but Reps. Ocasio-Cortez, Omar, Pressley, and Tlaib have their own definition."
Back in November, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, then a representative-elect from New York, posted a photo of herself with three progressive women of color who, like her, were soon to be members of Congress — Ilhan Omar (D-MN), Ayanna Pressley (D-MA), and Rashida Tlaib (D-MI). The caption: “Squad.”...
One photo caption doesn't mean we've become a group and this is our name. The question is how did that name stick and is it something they wanted or something that was used to disparage them?
But the term “the Squad” became more widespread in media earlier this month when New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd used it in an interview with House Speaker Nancy Pelosi, in which Pelosi took the four to task for voting against a border funding bill....
It's Pelosi who made "The Squad" happen — with a big assist from Maureen Dowd. Vox doesn't explain "How 4 congresswomen came to be called 'the Squad.'" There's a November data point and then we jump to July. What went on?!
The idea of Ocasio-Cortez, Omar, Pressley, and Tlaib as a “squad” unto themselves emerged slowly. When she Instagrammed a picture of herself with her four future colleagues shortly after the 2018 midterm elections, Ocasio-Cortez was using a common social media expression of friendship and solidarity that has its roots in hip-hop.

A squad is “a self-chosen group of people that you want to identify with,” whether you’re just going to the pool or doing civic activism, said Nadia Brown, an assistant professor of political science and African American studies who studies black women in politics....

Others didn’t necessarily use the word “squad” to refer to the congresswomen right away.... Then in early July, Pelosi called out the four to Dowd in the Times for voting against “our bill.” “All these people have their public whatever and their Twitter world,” Pelosi told Dowd. “But they didn’t have any following. They’re four people and that’s how many votes they got.”...

“Because this is a sort of term that has come from social media and pop culture,” Dittmar, the Center for American Women and Politics scholar, explained, “those who are in opposition try to use it to demean the seriousness of not only these women but also what they’re doing.”...

Some have criticized media use of “the squad” as infantilizing or sexist. It can also feel appropriative. “It’s just like, we’re going to take something that people of color have been using and try to claim it or use it as our own without understanding where it comes from,” [said Nadia Brown, an assistant professor of political science and African American studies who studies black women in politics].

It’s also worth noting that just because Ocasio-Cortez once captioned a picture “Squad” doesn’t mean that the four congresswomen see themselves as a separate group from others in Congress, or in America. That’s a separation that’s been imposed upon them, by Pelosi and then by Trump....

१२२ टिप्पण्या:

John henry म्हणाले...

This is a very strange post.

Someone the other day when we had this conversation posted links to a mid-November article in which AOC was quoted talking about her squad.

There is no mystery who started it with AOC at least. And the other 3.

John Henry

Achilles म्हणाले...

The squad is leading the democrat party.

And apparently defines stupid coddled groups of women who make poor decisions and suffer first world problems everywhere.

It is all just bad luck I suppose.

Ralph L म्हणाले...

You're making women look bad. We don't need a female face without a female voice.

The other bridemaids needed someone to turn on so they wouldn't turn on each other. I wish we knew how the trip turned out.

Ann Althouse म्हणाले...

"This is a very strange post. Someone the other day when we had this conversation posted links to a mid-November article in which AOC was quoted talking about her squad. There is no mystery who started it with AOC at least. And the other 3. "

Clearly you did not read the whole post! Why refer to "someone the other day" when this post contains that info and more and refutes your statement or at least mystifies it? There's a 7 month gap! I don't think the 4 women chose that term for themselves and wanted it to be the name for themselves as a group just because it was used once in a caption by ONE of the 4.

mccullough म्हणाले...

Squad is a racist dog whistle. Just like Owner

MayBee म्हणाले...

"the squad" makes them sound too cool.

The first time I heard young people refer to each other as "their squad" was the Twitter feeds of the kids at Marysville Pilchuck when Jaylen Fryberg shot his "squad" of friends. That's also where I first saw "bae".
Now I often see #squadgoals for things friends want to (look like they are) do(ing) together. It's young.

But I'm not really into the marketing of "AOC" and her "Squad".

rhhardin म्हणाले...

To escape its enemies, a squad emits black ink.

rehajm म्हणाले...

those who are in opposition try to use it to demean the seriousness of not only these women but also what they’re doing

...because they deserve to me mocked and demeaned. Also it seems to be politically effective based on all the button rubbing over it.

अनामित म्हणाले...

"Some have criticized media use of “the squad” as infantilizing or sexist. It can also feel appropriative. “It’s just like, we’re going to take something that people of color have been using and try to claim it or use it as our own without understanding where it comes from,” [said Nadia Brown, an assistant professor of political science and African American studies who studies black women in politics].

It’s also worth noting that just because Ocasio-Cortez once captioned a picture “Squad” doesn’t mean that the four congresswomen see themselves as a separate group from others in Congress, or in America. That’s a separation that’s been imposed upon them, by Pelosi and then by Trump...."


This self-parodic shite has lost its entertainment value. Does Vox publish any stuff that isn't written by people credentialed way beyond their intelligence?

FullMoon म्हणाले...

One of the peripherals has been to Bermuda, to Mexico, to Florida and to New York (maybe another)for these fancy bridal things. Each for middle class women in their twenties. What a waste of money.

mccullough म्हणाले...

Send like Pelosi’s use of the term was the reason Trump used it.

The origins of The Gashouse Gang for the 1930s St. Louis Cardinals is hard to pin down as well. Good work trying to get to the bottom of The Squad

mccullough म्हणाले...

Motley Crue was already taken.

FullMoon म्हणाले...

"Some have criticized media use of “the squad” as infantilizing or sexist. It can also feel appropriative. “It’s just like, we’re going to take something that people of color have been using and try to claim it or use it as our own without understanding where it comes from,” [said Nadia Brown, an assistant professor of political science and African American studies who studies black women in politics].

Ah! It's a black thing, you wouldn't understand.

rhhardin म्हणाले...

Women of cunt would be more inclusive. It gets the important part in. It's all about judging character.

It's not totally inclusive by modern dogma, but pretty much inclusive. You could use it on bathroom door signs. Put women of penis on the other door.

Dave Begley म्हणाले...

It is all about branding. Soon there will be all sorts of "The Squad" branded things you can buy. Shirts, short, mugs, PJ's, dishes, glasses, backpacks, action figures etc.

J. Farmer म्हणाले...

Bachelorette parties are merely one piece of the wedding industrial complex. You need the "save the dates," the invitations, the engagement party, the bridal shower, the rehearsal dinner, the welcome party, the ceremony, the reception, the farewell brunch. Oh, and Susie had a photo booth at her wedding, so we have to have that, too. And the seating chart is a real headache because Aunt Mary can't be seated anywhere near Cousin Betty. And the speeches. And the toasts. And signing the wedding book. I've actually been to weddings that last three fucking days. And of course they always want to "be a princess for a day." The entire wedding industry is a paean to modern female narcissism and self-obsession.

StephenFearby म्हणाले...

I left this comment on the Moon Landing thread. Maybe I would have received a chuckle acknowledgement if I knew how to create a html link in Word Press. I understand it isn't very hard, and I've tried several times to do this, but so far without success.

So, I'm recycling my comment on this more appropriate thread. If anyone bothers to do a cut and paste of the url in a different browser tab, I almost guarantee you'll get a chuckle:

The New Heroes of the Age.

Put your hands together to welcome the Jihad Squad!

http://ace.mu.nu/archives/jihad%20squad%2001.jpg

Brian McKim and/or Traci Skene म्हणाले...

On Oct. 5, 2017, NBC aired the first episode of the second (and last) season of "Great News," a very funny, well-written sitcom set in the cubicles of a network news magazine. It was entitled "Squad Feud," and a B-plot centered on Nicole Richie's character, Portia, and her "squad." The character of Portia, well-played by Richie, was complex, surprising at times, and was a parody of someone who would use the word "squad" unironically.

When I watched the episode in first run, I concluded that the term had jumped the shark. Its use by the Portia character was supposed to mark her has somewhat of a shallow person who placed too much emphasis on social media and partying. So, the term is coming up on (at least) its second anniversary of being outdated.

rhhardin म्हणाले...

Destination Wedding (2018) started out okay with the boy and girl guest hating each other but lacked motivation throughout. They were apart and now they're together all for no reason.

J. Farmer म्हणाले...

p.s. Average cost of a US wedding: $35,000

Hagar म्हणाले...

It is hard to see what these four have in common so I will accept that the group term was imposed from the outside. Now Trump has picked it up and I think the Trump campaign will work in any way it can to help "The Squad" get re-elected!

gspencer म्हणाले...

Count yourself lucky that it's only $675. Had you stayed with the program you'd be in for a whole lot more.

rhhardin म्हणाले...

Last Chance Harvey (2008) was great, for travelled-to daughter's wedding.

rehajm म्हणाले...

Count yourself lucky that it's only $675. Had you stayed with the program you'd be in for a whole lot more

Heh. Way to not fall victim to the sunk cost fallacy.

FullMoon म्हणाले...

If anyone bothers to do a cut and paste of the url in a different browser tab, I almost guarantee you'll get a chuckle:

The New Heroes of the Age.

Put your hands together to welcome the Jihad Squad!

http://ace.mu.nu/archives/jihad%20squad%2001.jpg


Or, highlight the link, right click/open link.

(learned it right here, from rhhardin)

Nonapod म्हणाले...

p.s. Average cost of a US wedding: $35,000

I suspect that average has been skewed somewhat by higher end weddings. But still, it's ridiculous sum for a young couple just starting out, especially since many likely still have student loans and not to mention a new mortgage to worry about too.

narciso म्हणाले...

from the people that put them on the cover:


https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/republicans-cant-explain-why-theyre-condemning-the-racism-of-trumps-supporters-but-not-trumps-860764/

Ralph L म्हणाले...
ही टिप्पणी लेखकाना हलविली आहे.
Ralph L म्हणाले...

fearbys link

Known Unknown म्हणाले...

"To escape its enemies, a squad emits black ink."

They're socialists. It's red ink.

Leland म्हणाले...

So I guess "buddies", "pals", "mates" are out. Why not "comrades"? That's what Trump should name them, the 4 comrades. Let Democrats start coming out saying they are comrades too, as they stand in solidarity with other comrades.

Ralph L म्हणाले...

I was uninvited to the long bachelorette weekend in Spain

I thought she declined the invitation. Losing a crappy friend like that is probably worth $675, plus she gets to skip the wedding (I sure hope she did) and keep the present.

rehajm म्हणाले...

plus she gets to skip the wedding (I sure hope she did) and keep the present

AND she gets to keep the party pecker straws they made her buy for the evening festivities.

traditionalguy म्हणाले...

Squad has always been a military term for a team of close combat soldiers with coordination and accepted roles to play. Which is perfect description for this 2018 Soros financed attack team. Next thing we know they will be taking Airborne training.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

Trump just said at least 6 times “You can’t speak that way about our country and Israel” “No body should be able to do that”.

So what about the 1st Amendment? What an idiot. Thanks Trump, good to know you think people should not be able to speak freely.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

Again, “They can’t, they can’t, they can’t...” say what they want, oh really?

What is he going to do to take away the right to free speech? Does he have any idea of what he’s saying?

Quaestor म्हणाले...

That’s a separation that’s been imposed upon them, by Pelosi and then by Trump....

Maureen Dowd — how she continues to "write" for a national forum is mysterious. How she ever got the job is equally mysterious.

Blowjobs performed on a Sulzberger most likely. She's so ancient it was probably the senior.

cf म्हणाले...

i would be curious and interested in what Kyrsten Sinema thinks about the "squad", she is the ONE Democrat that is standing apart and seeming to be actually thinking for herself.

Ralph L म्हणाले...

this 2018 Soros financed attack team

I didn't know he did weddings.

Darkisland म्हणाले...

Blogger Dave Begley said...

It is all about branding. Soon there will be all sorts of "The Squad" branded things you can buy. Shirts, short, mugs, PJ's, dishes, glasses, backpacks, action figures etc.

I suggested "Squadristi" and/or "Squadrisimo" tee-shirts and such the other day.

I'll buy one and wear it proudly if someone makes it available.

It works for both supporters and mockers of AOC and her squad.

John Henry

Wince म्हणाले...

How many times have you heard the admonishment "there is no place for..." ?

How exactly is that different than telling somebody, well, there is no place for you here?


Inga...Allie Oop said...
Trump just said at least 6 times “You can’t speak that way about our country and Israel” “No body should be able to do that”.

Not true. Google either quote.

Szoszolo म्हणाले...

I read somewhere that "Squad" originated with them being described as part of the Democrats' circular firing squad. Certainly fits.

narciso म्हणाले...

well I think carrying kitty Kelley's Sinatra garbage through the back door, helped a bit, but she also uncovered joe biden's plagiarism, something she forgot 20 years later,

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

“Inga...Allie Oop said...
Trump just said at least 6 times “You can’t speak that way about our country and Israel” “No body should be able to do that”.

“Not true. Google either quote.”

He, just minutes ago said it in a presser before he boarded his helicopter.

Seeing Red म्हणाले...

So what about the 1st Amendment? What an idiot. Thanks Trump, good to know you think people should not be able to speak freely.


Lololol


Every day is a new day.

cf म्हणाले...

The last time you posted this, "Firing Squad" made a good fit, and i return to that one this time, too.

i still like "firing squad" psychology as the best fit: for someone in such a group doing the firing of rifles, no single one will be held accountable in the act of the actual murder.

it is a masking of accountability that makes for more fearlessness and the possibility of brutality, cruelty and power-drunkenness.

antifa comes to mind as well. they perceive themselves personally inoculated from the brain-damage-evil they perpetrate because it "feels like" they are untouchable/invisible in their "squad".

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Abby Normal wrote: He, just minutes ago said it in a presser before he boarded his helicopter.

Translation: I didn't google those alleged quotes because mafeelz would be hurt.

Jim at म्हणाले...

The House runs a formal resolution calling the President racist and that he should essentially shut up.

Trump says a few brief words - off the cuff - and some people take that to mean he's eliminating the First Amendment.

Do you realize just how stupid you sound?

Jim at म्हणाले...

On the other hand, I disagree with Trump.

I think people who hate America should scream it from the hilltops. Give them a megaphone. Let everybody know exactly what you think.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

Listen and watch for yourself.

But your cult leader could say he’d tear up the Constitution and it would be OK with you people. You’ve lost your senses to Trump Cultism.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Jim wrote: Do you realize just how stupid you sound?

Do you realize that you're asking Abby Normal to realize how stupid she sounds?

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Abby Normal wrote: But your cult leader could say he’d tear up the Constitution and it would be OK with you people. You’ve lost your senses to Trump Cultism.

A newly minted visitor to Althouse would conclude from that solipsism that YOU had lost your senses to anti-Trump cultism.

However, those of us who read you before the current Administration have long known you have no senses to lose.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

Yet you Cultists love Trump’s daily stupidity.

Hahahahahahaaaaha! Cutlism makes ya stupid ya know. Your brain on Trump Cultism, like that egg in the frying pan.

Trump is the POTUS, not some reality show host. If you are ok with his stupidity that’s on you idiots, but the rest of us are not ok with it.

Seeing Red म्हणाले...

So what about the 1st Amendment? What an idiot. Thanks Trump, good to know you think people should not be able to speak freely.

Your cult leaders have been saying that for a long time.

Now you notice.

Lololol

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

Trump says today he was “happy with the chants” of “Send her back” after saying yesterday that “wasn’t happy” about it. He lies to your faces and you don’t care.

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with you morons? It’s more than just being stupid.

Lincolntf म्हणाले...

I was in Squad 3 in HQ platoon of HHB, 6/29 FA, 1st A.D. That's how the word "Squad" works.

john burger म्हणाले...

Wait. "Squad" is a hip hop term? Since when? In 1974, I was on the junior high JV football squad. Does that mean I was hip hop before hip hop was hip,hop?

jvb

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Abby Normal wrote: ...like that egg in the frying pan.

A weak and witness insult. Not even original. How pathetic. You remind me of the Viscount Valvert. Google that one.

traditionalguy म्हणाले...

Trump has to be Presidential, so the Jihadist in charge has to be Congressional. That’s all Trump said. And this Jew hater shamed America for being in the Congress. The President saying so is a good thing.

Now let’s see this replayed like Groundhog Day until Election Day.

traditionalguy म्हणाले...
ही टिप्पणी लेखकाना हलविली आहे.
FullMoon म्हणाले...

Listen and watch for yourself.

But your cult leader could say he’d tear up the Constitution and it would be OK with you people. You’ve lost your senses to Trump Cultism.


Recommended. Trump kills 'em again by expressing his displeasure with those who call America garbage and worse things. How many average people who work all day and do not follow this stuff like us are actually aware of the things the squad has said?

They finding out now, fo shure.

People like Inga(who, BTW, has a daughter in the Navy) who hate America naturally mis interpret but she is in a minority

FullMoon म्हणाले...


When they call our country garbage, I don't care about politics.....they say terrible things...they have first amendment rights....we have first amendment rights also"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8q2xg_kvRs&feature=youtu.be

FullMoon म्हणाले...

Abbey Normal?

Not on this list of "her" names someone compiled in the past.

Alexandria = 1
Allie = 36
Allie's Apple = 99
AllieOop = 1436
Angelica Dallas = 1
Apfelkuchen = 39
Atia of the Julii = 5
BenedictineM = 2
Bonfires OTV = 7
Dragon my ass = 1
Erica = 3
Evangeline = 1
Inga = 1334
Jay Blow = 1
Mauna Kea = 3
Mitochondri-Allie = 180
Mr. Ed = 2
Ms. Oopenheimer = 4
Ms.Oopenheimer = 22
OOOla = 2
Paeonia = 28
Perstephanie = 1
Phoebee = 2
Reign gtts = 1
Relympago = 2
Sandfordina = 2
Seven Palms = 1
SouthofFrance = 2
Tallahassee = 2
Waverly = 1
oola = 30

Browndog म्हणाले...

Inga is all over Trump like Nurse Ratchet hearing someone rattle the door handle on the emergency exit.

Jim at म्हणाले...

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with you morons? It’s more than just being stupid.

Here's a megaphone. Now go outside run your mouth.
Nobody's stopping you. Not even Trump.

Rosalyn C. म्हणाले...

I also took the challenge and listened to the Trump quote. When he says "You can't call the US garbage..." he isn't advocating for eliminating the 1st Amendment. That's beyond absurd to the paranoia. He's saying you can't say that without me hitting back strongly. I don't know if people are just pretending to be hysterical about Trump or they really are batty. TDS -- I think it's a choice.

stevew म्हणाले...

Here's what I'm thinking: AOC used the word Squad in a fun way to describe herself and her fellow, recently elected Reps. She wasn't assigning the group a nickname, just saying that they are similar in their politics and the circumstances of their election. She was excited that she won and that she had some kindred spirits in the House with her. Probably figured that was the end of it.

Along comes the Pelosi interview with Dowd and the resulting article, seven months or so later. During that time AOC and her self-named squad have caused a great amount trouble for Speaker Pelosi, so she uses the word AOC had chosen to refer to them, with disdain and derision.

And, so, here we are!

Seeing Red म्हणाले...

So some voted quite happily for “Change we can believe in.” The man who wanted to institute this “change” and “new normal” was a lawyer who said he didn’t like the Bill of Rights because it contains negative rights and he wanted to “help people.”

And we are accused of following someone who wants to shred the Constitution?

Again, projection and look in the mirror.

Birkel म्हणाले...

People with screwed up priorities.

Browndog म्हणाले...

"The squad" came from POTMC* Pressely, who used it twice in the press conference the 4 had following Trump's infamous "go back" tweet.

They were universally branded the "squad" by all media following that event.

*Person of the Most Color

Jim at म्हणाले...

That's beyond absurd to the paranoia.

That gibberish was written by the same person who couldn't bring herself to condemn Obama's massive fuck-up in Libya because of what Trump might do in the future.

But, yeah. We're the morons in the room. /rolls eyes

Night Owl म्हणाले...

"I also took the challenge and listened to the Trump quote. When he says "You can't call the US garbage..." he isn't advocating for eliminating the 1st Amendment. That's beyond absurd to the paranoia. He's saying you can't say that without me hitting back strongly."

The left is aggressively divisive and hateful and Trump is the first candidate opposing them with the guts to respond in kind. He becomes a mirror to them, and they can't handle it. The left deserves Trump and I hope they get him for another term. I'll vote for him just for the fun of watching their heads explode.

Francisco D म्हणाले...

The entire wedding industry is a paean to modern female narcissism and self-obsession.

My wife is probably the least self-obsessed and narcissistic person I know. We had a private church wedding last January and did not invite out-of-town relatives to forgo the hassle. To this day, her mother has neither sent a card nor congratulated us on the wedding. We since moved her into a senior community here in Tucson, yet she remains stubborn.

She is pissed off because she wanted to buy her mother-of-the-bride clothes and become the center of attention at a big wedding party. The wedding industry seems to be fueled by such narcissism, even when the bride isn't.

Caligula म्हणाले...

Perhaps there's a dual meaning of "squad" here, as in "squad car": they're here to police you, and if you don't know that now you'll learn fast if they ever get the power they seek. Do you even know how many things are wrong with what you say and what you think? They want you to care so badly they'll make you care. Even if they don't have the mannerisms of Nurse Ratched.


As for photo-perfect, if you want perfect photos you should get a copy of Photoshop. Photoshop software is obviously not free, but it's 'way cheaper than buying a matching set of squad clothing and taking it (and yourself) to Spain.

Browndog म्हणाले...

Trump: I'm the President of the United States. You can't bad mouth my country and get away with it. It's despicable, and I'll call you out.

Libs: OMG!! He's trying to take away 1st Amendment rights and deport them to concentration camps in foreign countries!!

John henry म्हणाले...

Nice try Ann but no cigar.

The vox article is from this month. It refers to a picture caption.

What I was remembering and would have posted if I'd not been beaten to it was AOC talking specifically about "my squad" in November or December.

John Henry

Browndog म्हणाले...

You'll notice the press only cared about the feelings of Precious and her cohorts and didn't give a rat's ass about Iran seizing oil tankers in the Strait of Hormuz, which would stop the presses and be declared a world-wide crisis in normal times.

pious agnostic म्हणाले...

Didn't Taylor Swift call her group of friends her "squad" and they were followed around by paparazzi and everybody wanted to be just like them?

Pretty sure that's where it came from.

wwww म्हणाले...

"We had a private church wedding last January and did not invite out-of-town relatives to forgo the hassle. To this day, her mother has neither sent a card nor congratulated us on the wedding."

Obviously she should be gracious and congratulate you all in person. However, etiquette-wise, I do not think it is indicated to send a card for an elopement. An elopement may indicate a wish to not receive cards/ gifts/ notifications of the event. It can be seen as a hassle to respond.

Someone we know eloped and we sent a present/ card that they loved. But they are flakes so we figured it wasn't a formal wish to not receive presents. I know people who get upset when they receive cards/ presents for events because they want it to be low key and not acknowledged.

& yeah crazy expensive parties before the wedding are over-the-top and tend to be frivolous.

Ann Althouse म्हणाले...

“The vox article is from this month. It refers to a picture caption. What I was remembering and would have posted if I'd not been beaten to it was AOC talking specifically about "my squad" in November or December. ”

Which is described in the Vox article and quoted in my post!

You really should read the post!

Achilles म्हणाले...

Inga...Allie Oop said...
Trump says today he was “happy with the chants” of “Send her back” after saying yesterday that “wasn’t happy” about it. He lies to your faces and you don’t care.

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with you morons? It’s more than just being stupid.


Good. Trump finally came around to the right view.

Leila Emli committed immigration fraud and perjury coming in.

She married her brother so he could get in.

She thinks US servicemen are servants of Satan.

She believes in sharia law.

She should have 2 choices:

1. Jail.

2. Get the fuck out.

Unknown म्हणाले...

Dems in less blue districts will have to show they are not part of Commie Squad

Anita म्हणाले...

This is what I get for quickly skimming over posts. I thought at first that some bride was requiring all of her bridesmaids to wear matching Squad pajama bottoms that had images of the 4 Congresswomen throwing their heads back in fits of laughter. The sane bridesmaid obviously objected to wearing such vile sleepwear.

But I guess that interpretation is as ridiculous as these destination bachelorette parties.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Abby Normal and the Squad do their civic duty.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Full Moon asked: Abbey Normal?

A secret identity.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Perstephanie, Queen of Gosh All Heck Donchaknow.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

“You can't bad mouth my country and get away with it. It's despicable, and I'll call you out.”

Except that’s not what he said. He just kept repeating “you can’t say that”. It’s heartwarming how you folks try to make what he says sensical. A POTUS says to Americans “You can’t say that”. WTF.

FullMoon म्हणाले...

When they call our country garbage, I don't care about politics.....they say terrible things...they have first amendment rights....we have first amendment rights also"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8q2xg_kvRs&feature=youtu.be

Quaestor म्हणाले...

I don't think the 4 women chose that term for themselves and wanted it to be the name for themselves as a group just because it was used once in a caption by ONE of the 4.

All four are extremely vocal and tweet relentlessly. I don't think anyone of the Squad has ever deleted a tweet out of remorse for a thoughtless burst of verbiage. AOC coined the name to cover herself and Tlaib, Pressley, and Omar (Or whoever the fuck she is, that matter is not settled.) collectively. None of them disavowed the label, ergo qui tacet consentire videtur. They ARE the Squad. No sense shutting that stable door.

Nichevo म्हणाले...

She should have 2 choices:

1. Jail.

2. Get the fuck out.


How about pithing? She's got the face for it.

Leslie Graves म्हणाले...

I, personally, identify as being in Gang Althouse. That’s my crew.

Browndog म्हणाले...

Inga...Allie Oop said...

Except that’s not what he said. He just kept repeating “you can’t say that”


And you keep repeating "he can't say that".

Catch a clue, already.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

I, personally, identify as being in Gang Althouse.

Ya gotta make your bones first, pisan.

narciso म्हणाले...

plagiarism and blameshifting are not good practices,


https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/opinion/the-ilhan-omar-marriage-story-isnt-baseless-but-it-doesnt-help-that-trump-alt-right-hacks-hijacked-it

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

“And you keep repeating "he can't say that".

Not once. Why do you lie? Does it make your point? He has the same right to speak as any other American. If he as he POTUS doesn’t know how utterly ridiculous he is to say that someone “Can’t say that” then expects others to not call him out on his ridiculousness he is a bigger fool than anyone thought. And so are you.

You want him to have the right to speak, but not those you/ he don’t agree with. It’s YOUR hypocrisy and your idiotic Cultism that I’m calling out. I keep asking you loons what is wrong with you, it’s not just a phrase, it’s a real question.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

OT but hilarious: https://www.cnn.com/2019/07/15/politics/who-are-the-squad/index.html has a popup pushing a CNN newsfeed which shows Anderson Cooper adrift in a canoe (Adrift as in no paddle, no floatation vest, just an idiot sitting too high as all idiots do when introduced that form of watercraft.) with his eyes turned upward as if scanning the high ground for a mountain rustic who'd like to hear him squeal like a pig.

Iman म्हणाले...

Squad? I prefer “the Pink Pu$$y Posse”... or maybe “the Gashhouse Gang”...

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Anderson Cooper longing for a paddle.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

“I'm unhappy with the fact that a congresswoman can hate our country. I'm unhappy with the fact that a congresswoman can say anti-Semitic things," Trump told reporters in the Oval Office.

"I'm unhappy when a congresswoman goes and said, 'I'm going to be the president's nightmare.' She's going to be 'the president's nightmare.' She's lucky to be where she is, let me tell you," he continued. "And the things that she has said are a disgrace to our country.”

Good, I’m glad she’s getting under his skin. I love the fact that they can say what they want and Trump can’t do anything to them. What he says about them means NOTHING. He lies as he breaths. Seems that she is his nightmare. Serves him right to get some of his own medicine. Oh boo hoo big baby Trump, the four mean girls say mean things about his policies and about him. Maybe he should’ve told himself to shut up when he spoke of “American Carnage”, doesn’t sound like a loving thing to say about one’s country. I love seeing him squirm under the words of these four women.

Ken B म्हणाले...

Earnest Prole gave a link to an AOC titled pic that was posted just a day or two after the election. Despite Althouse’s bizarre denial that is proof that the term originated with AOC, and originated within days of the election.

ken in tx म्हणाले...

In the Air Force,a Squad is a sub-division of a Flight. A Flight is a sub-division of a Squadron. In the Army, a Squad is a sub-division of a Platoon. A Platoon is a sub-division of a Company. Squad is a military term.

alanc709 म्हणाले...

Inga, the only squirming going on is the maggots in your brain trying to escape the devastation.

NYC JournoList म्हणाले...

They explain the origin of the term in an interview with CBS News. Starting at 30:10. AOC gets credit.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/gayle-king-interviews-the-squad-on-cbs-this-morning-how-to-watch-live-stream-today-2019-07-17/

ken in tx म्हणाले...

BTW, a Squad can be no less than four. If a group of troops is less than four, it is called a Detail.

Michael K म्हणाले...

I love seeing him squirm under the words of these four women.

Has anyone else noticed Inga's deterioration ?

wildswan म्हणाले...

Maybe what Althouse is getting at is that recently "squad" has acquired a new nuance of meaning which AOC was using. It doesn't just mean "4 soldiers" or "the whole football team" but to Millennials it has an additional though similar meaning. But what? Does "squad" in 2019 mean "we are all wanting to do a bachelorette party in Spain at great expense and if you don't want that you are out, O.U.T?" or "we all have the same bucket list, namely, to bring in the Commie agenda" or "we are a small group that thinks alike and enjoy each others company?" or "we are a small group that will not have any different and surprise ideas or actions that might endanger each others careers which is an issue in the Social Media Era?" Seinfeld's friends, I would venture, were not a squad. The men in Saving Private Ryan were not a squad, in the new meaning. Commenters here are decidedly not a squad of any kind. My family is somewhat Balkanized into small squads but of a shifting unstable nature. Well, I'm not a Millennial, I may never know.

narciso म्हणाले...

Yes they are an advance team:

https://pjmedia.com/trending/busted-twitchy-uncovers-deportmelania-used-by-known-democrats-and-journalists/

FullMoon म्हणाले...
ही टिप्पणी लेखकाना हलविली आहे.
Howard म्हणाले...

Blogger Michael K said...

I love seeing him squirm under the words of these four women.

Has anyone else noticed Inga's deterioration ?


You've been saying that for the ast 10-years. Shouldn't she be dead by now, Herr Doktor?

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Shouldn't she be dead by now, Herr Doktor?

Typical passive aggression.

You'd be getting better care than you deserve if a physician of Michael K's eminence deigned to give you an opinion.

Howard म्हणाले...

My dear Q, how do you know of his eminence front? Did Doc Mike remove a light bulb from your anus?

stevew म्हणाले...

"Has anyone else noticed Inga's deterioration?"

Yes, indeed, it is quite obvious. Perhaps she's been drinking.

Inga...Allie Oop म्हणाले...

“You've been saying that for the ast 10-years. Shouldn't she be dead by now, Herr Doktor?”

Hahahahaha! True! However I’ve noticed poor doc’s dementia growing worse every year.

Quaestor म्हणाले...

Did Doc Mike remove a light bulb from your anus?

Don't you remember? He removed my cock from your mouth.

Howard म्हणाले...

Thats right Q, Doc Mike is a famous micro-surgeon.

Francisco D म्हणाले...

Has anyone else noticed Inga's deterioration ?

I will ignore the fiasco with the Mueller report. It was utter devastation for her. Very sad.

Her more recent pattern of posting shows a desperate and pathetic attempt to attain the moral high ground. Unfortunately her ass is too fat to haul it up that hill.

Narayanan म्हणाले...

!? They already have movie coming !?

Charlie's Angels coming from around the globe to save the world.

Narayanan म्हणाले...

Nice try to catch up with Oriental Splendor.

https://www.beau-coup.com/indian-wedding-traditions.htm

DEEBEE म्हणाले...

‘That is, withholding approval doesn't mean you won't vote for Trump. It's hard to approve of Trump. He's not exactly approval-seeking. You might like the results he's getting and still feel you want distance from him. You might vote for him because you want more of the same or because you think his opponent will take away some of the things you like and still be able to say that you "disapprove" of the person known as Trump.’

A hole in one Ann. You spoke for all of us white wine and quiche lovers who see nothing but TDS in their environs.

gratefulgee म्हणाले...

https://youtu.be/1k0QI2QVcN4

When a squad was a squad.....

Fen म्हणाले...

"A hole in one Ann."

The idea was mine, not hers. She stole it from a comment I made a few days ago.

No biggie. I'll take the compliment in the spirit it was intended.

Unknown म्हणाले...

"The Squad" is too vague. I think they could be known as "The Prog Squad", since the key feature is that they're all Progressives.

But The Comrades is a pretty good idea also.