८ डिसेंबर, २०१८

"I met men at hotels and at their homes in the hills. Then, I met a new guy at a bar in the Mission District, the perfect place to meet before a one-night stand. Except..."

"... I fell for him the moment he handed me a red Gerber daisy. I fell for the small gap between his teeth. I touched his hand by feigning interest in the ring he had made from a bicycle spoke. We loved the same obscure music. Days later, he waltzed with me on Berkeley Pier, my gloves arranged in his breast pocket like a kerchief. He created a rabbit out of a squeegee and a towel and made me laugh at its antics. The afternoon I chose to tell my husband, light streamed into our yellow kitchen. Our son was in his room, playing with Hogwarts toys...."

From "When a Boyfriend Joins the Marriage/They agreed she could have sex on the side as long as he didn’t have to know about it. Then she fell in love" (NYT).

८५ टिप्पण्या:

Earnest Prole म्हणाले...

Surely this is an Onion parody of the Bay Area.

Bay Area Guy म्हणाले...

"I bring them water. I kiss one good night but not the other. One is my boyfriend of 10 years. The other is my husband. My husband and I actually consider ourselves exes, but we never divorced. We still love each other, just not romantically."

Crazy
I'm crazy for feeling so lonely
I'm crazy
Crazy for feeling so blue
I knew
You'd love me as long as you wanted
And then some day
You'd leave me for somebody new.


"Crazy," Patsy Cline (1961)

If Harvey Weinstein has to deal with this type of crazy Upper West Side Manhattan Women, maybe the potted plant is not such a bad option.

Bay Area Guy म्हणाले...

Did I say New York women? I meant crazy SF women, but what's the difference.....

Yancey Ward म्हणाले...

I suppose the husband is a graduate of Evryman?

Saint Croix म्हणाले...

Althouse, your NYT links are awesome at the end of the month, when I can't fucking read them, and they are really, really shitty at the beginning of the month. And I click on them, and then I'm like, why the fuck did I click on that?

I have a half a mind to go back to late November and read that awesome shit I wanted to read, but couldn't. It's probably still relevant, right?

I have a little voice that says, how do you know it's good if you couldn't read it, maybe it's all shitty NYT all the time. And another little voice that says, no, the fucking late month clicks are awesome, I know this, I just got to train my brain not to click on this early month shit.

Anyway, don't bother clicking on the Playgirl G-rated free sex fantasy at the NYT. Hold off for, I don't know, December 19 or maybe even December 27. I'll bet the NYT free shit is amazing on December 27.

David Begley म्हणाले...

Wife, “Husband, I want you to help build the addition to the house with my boyfriend.”

Husband, “You mean kind of like the prisoner who builds his own gallows?”

Wife, “Not exactly. Your death will be nightly. Death by thousands of cuts.”

Sick.

Darrell म्हणाले...

Spread those gams, Babe.
I'm going to ball you silly.

A story as old as the hills.

gspencer म्हणाले...

Court to Ms Braithwaite, "And what is your occupation?"

"I am a barfly."

"And by that you mean you loiter in bars waiting for men you don't know to buy you drinks."

"That is correct, your honor."

Darrell म्हणाले...

Court to Ms Braithwaite, "Do you wear panties?"

n.n म्हणाले...

Friends with "benefits".

n.n म्हणाले...

Maso meet Sado. We're in lust and pleasure. Civil unions for consenting adults and we don't have to hear about their fetishes, weirdness, monotonic perspective, and extreme divergence. Well, at least not until their minority becomes political congruent.

Jess म्हणाले...

Well, it's less messy than a shooting, but in the end, there's really not much difference.

I Have Misplaced My Pants म्हणाले...

Not for me, thanks

Michael Fitzgerald म्हणाले...

This was written by Paul Ryan's wife, right?

Darrell म्हणाले...

AOS had a story about Cucksheds yesterday. Luxury sheds for your backyard where you wait for your wife's fucking to conclude. It's big with the GOPe crowd. Weakly Standard should cover it before it folds.

The Bergall म्हणाले...

The New York Times really prints some funny stuff these days! Can't make it up!

Oh wait......................./s

Michael The Magnificent म्हणाले...

Pathetic.

I have no sympathy for this idiot, nor the one who built a Cuckshack in his back yard so his wife could get it on with her boyfriend without him getting in the way.

mockturtle म्हणाले...

Disgusting.

Rob म्हणाले...

Is it wrong to hope that the boyfriend and the husband fall in love and the narcissist author becomes the odd (wo)man out?

Freeman Hunt म्हणाले...

What a sunny picture of a totally dysfunctional situation.

chickelit म्हणाले...

Dan Savage approves and calls her "monogamish."

Humperdink म्हणाले...

The husband needs a hobby. Say, watching every episode of Forensics Files.

Bill Peschel म्हणाले...

This is news?

Earnest Prole म्हणाले...

Drop the author’s name into google images for a special treat.

chickelit म्हणाले...

Drop the author’s name into google images for a special treat.

Now I pity the men.

rhhardin म्हणाले...

Always click on links with Open in Private Window, which first prevents cookies from a third party site and second gives you a zero-count read for the NYT.

gilbar म्हणाले...

does she realize that her boyfriend is a fag? (NTTIAWWT)

rhhardin म्हणाले...

Love is a feeling, to the NYT.

gilbar म्हणाले...

seriously, i'm assuming that the nest episode will be her OUTRAGE when she finds out that her boyfriend is leaving her for her husband

gilbar म्हणाले...

i'd look down my iowa nose at this, if i didn't Know three people back in Ames, with this Exact relationship

Earnest Prole म्हणाले...

The father chose poorly and is now trying to make the best of it.

Sebastian म्हणाले...

"The father chose poorly and is now trying to make the best of it."

This.

I have seen it, but without the postmod rationalization: that is new, soon to be another weapon in the culture war. The article is just a way to soften up the deplorables. That it's all "for the child" is the tell.

Dave Begley म्हणाले...

1. What does the son think of this arrangement?

2. You couldn’t pay me enough money to do that woman; with or without her hat.

Bill, Republic of Texas म्हणाले...

Is tonight's theme emasculated males?

Darrell म्हणाले...

The Secret Life of Farm Animals.
Ruby, Don't Take Your Love To Town.

OldManRick म्हणाले...

How would she feel if the husband's girlfriend joined the marriage? Why didn't she suggest he should find someone on the side for "equality"?

The human race is a very neurotic species. We see all kinds of selfish and/or neurotic behavior all the time. We see messiah complexes; we see body dysmorphia disorders such as anorexia; we see hysteria and derangement syndromes about lots of things.

Only the New York Times feels this should be celebrated.

The Crack Emcee म्हणाले...

This is how pimping gets started:

You charge the "boyfriend" money to sleep with the wife - and then get more wives.

Your first one was broken anyway....

The Cracker Emcee Refulgent म्हणाले...

The NYT as Cosmo. It pays the bills and our credibility was shot, anyway.

Mr Wibble म्हणाले...

I have seen it, but without the postmod rationalization: that is new, soon to be another weapon in the culture war. The article is just a way to soften up the deplorables. That it's all "for the child" is the tell.

Back when SCOTUS ruled on gay marriage, there were about four articles by my count within a month declaring that gays weren't monogamous, hence their marriages wouldn't be monogamous, and we straights needed to get over our expectation of monogamy.

One of those articles was in the NYTimes.

rcocean म्हणाले...

Now that the NYT published it, they'll rewrite it and sell it to "Lifetime TV".

Chest Rockwell म्हणाले...

Wealthy, liberal white people are a wellspring of moral degeneracy.

elkh1 म्हणाले...

Silly husband. If she made babies with her boyfriends, he would be stuck with supporting her boy friends' babies. They, however, could make babies with other married women ...

donald म्हणाले...

These creatures are not human.

RichardJohnson म्हणाले...

Tale from the '70s. Two high school friends decided to have open marriages. It ended in divorce. Wife of A fell in love with B.

Same old, same old.

Crack Emcee- interesting remark- another take on the dysfunctional nature of marriages that stray from monogamy.

Ralph L म्हणाले...

They're welcome to screw up their own lives, but that's a vile thing to do to young children.

FIDO म्हणाले...

Now, let's not be hasty in judging this husband.

1) He has shifted to the boyfriend a job that he no longer wants to do with his wife. Conversation, her emotional issues and sex are now no longer his problem.

2) Assuming the wife has any of her soul left (unlikely, I know), she now has a HUGE moral burden. So any game he wants to go to, any fishing trips he wants to make, any time he doesn't want to visit her whore of a mother...he has a get out of shit card that is platinum edition.

3) Can anyone say 'blackmail material'?

4) If he still has a sex drive, he can find someone on the side as well, but not be stupid enough to actually tell the wife. And if she finds out, she can't say shit.

5) If he doesn't mind, she doesn't matter. This feels like emotional oneupsmanship "Can you work with him? Can you watch us have sex? Can you clean me out?" She seems to be looking for SOME emotional connection with her husband and...zilch. If she wasn't so morally bankrupt, I would pity her.


6) Gentlemen...it takes time to accumulate a nest egg, shuffle finances around, emotionally disconnect, work out a transfer to another part of the state/country, and do all the little chores as a prelude to a male successful divorce.

Not Sure म्हणाले...

This story baffles me. SF always seems like a place where the ratio of straight women to straight men is at least 2:1. How does this well-past-her-prime woman reverse those odds? Seems like the two guys have gotta be bi. I mean, it's fucking SF!

Not Sure म्हणाले...

She sort-of blames this arrangement on her parents for getting divorced, but seems incurious about what form of weirdness the kid will bring to *his* future relationships after seeing what a sucker's game marriage can be.

Wince म्हणाले...

You don't have to guess what Maurice would would say.

Birkel म्हणाले...

Every relationship possibility has been tried by people before us. Very few options are stable.

This situation was destined to fail. It is an unstable state.

Henry म्हणाले...

Where do people find the time?

FIDO म्हणाले...

Every relationship possibility has been tried by people before us. Very few options are stable.


There is this bigotry in the young, that everyone who lived before them was a freaking idiot.

Churchy LaFemme: म्हणाले...

Originaly the husband would have shot the boyfriend.. and that is a bit much, but this is way too far the other way.

I think Hot Chocolate had it about right in 1976 with "Man To Man". A civilized discussion between two non-emasculated men with lots of consideration of "The Children". "If You really love her then you must love our children too".

Fernandinande म्हणाले...

Awww. Feelings are swell.

Browndog म्हणाले...

Oh, for fucks sake.

Romancing the decadence.

Ambrose म्हणाले...

She is brilliantly channeling Raymond Chandler for the 21st century.
l

sane_voter म्हणाले...

I didn't click the article but tracked down her photo at her business twitter.

https://twitter.com/SimplyCelebrate

Hooking up with a bunch of men in SF. If I was her husband I wouldn't touch her again, and wouldn't be her husband.

Matt म्हणाले...

We're reaching levels of degeneracy that would make the Weimar blush.

Nice work, feminists and pussy lib men.

David Begley म्हणाले...

She’s a happiness coach!

“10 totally true things about me:

I once scooped a fallen lemon birthday pie from the floor and turned it into lemon crumble. (My superhero talent is finding light in the dark.)
I live with my ex-husband who is wonderful, loving, and fun — and we are raising our son together.

My son’s middle name is Q and he is trying to teach me how to juggle.

I spent the first 25 years of my life wishing I were a gal who could wear hats. (Becoming who we are is a practice!)

When I first stepped foot in San Francisco, I knew I was home.

Three of my favorite non-hat accessories are my Quisp Cereal watch, pink furry coat, and orange dotted chiffon scarf.

I love hot air balloons and my beau once surprised me with a ride in one at daybreak.

I work in a beautiful studio in the backyard that was built with lots of sweat and love by my ex-husband and my beau of 10 years.

I’m teaching myself how to stop being matchy-matchy by wearing stripes with polka dots with hound’s-tooth.

I have a vintage black velvet cloak that I’ve made myself wear to the grocery store or library in order to practice not saving things for good. (If this were the last day of my life, I’d like to be wearing something fun and fancy. Wouldn’t you?!)”

LOON.

cronus titan म्हणाले...

Saw this article yesterday and was surprised Althouse did not post it. This is catnip for this blog . . .

I did see her picture and . . she looks exactly like you would expect.

Also, she spend a lot of her time on kindness. Be careful of people who lecture about kindness -- they are the most unkind people you will ever meet.

mockturtle म्हणाले...

Yeah, she looks like the flake she obviously is.

dreams म्हणाले...

We're so sophisticated that we can pretend that the song "Baby, it's cold outside" is harmful.

Luke Lea म्हणाले...

I propose a new tag: the Decadent New York Times

J Scott म्हणाले...

The actual subtext here is that housing in the Bay area is way too expensive.

DRP म्हणाले...

How incredibly selfish.

DRP म्हणाले...

If you can bring yourself to look, her Facebook feed is open and you can find some awkward pictures of her ex, her lover Ian, her son and the cuckshack.

traditionalguy म्हणाले...

The problem with the pure slut is that she falls in love with the seductive men. And there is an endless number of seductive men waiting for a chance at conquering her. Being married to that wife would be masochism that will never end.

n.n म्हणाले...

If it's polyamory, then #NoLabels #NoJudgment #LoveWins, yet it is not politically congruent ("=").

Ken B म्हणाले...

Birkel
I once knew a guy who talked about “modern sex”. He said people way back when had no idea of “modern” sex.

Jaq म्हणाले...

J Scott knows what this blog is about.

Jaq म्हणाले...

He had one rule, and she broke it and rammed it down his throat. He's a bigger cuckold than Paul Ryan.

Jaq म्हणाले...

I see the Ryan angle was covered upthread.

Leland म्हणाले...

The woman seems boring and selfish. Everything is about her feeling great about the things others do for her. The few other things she does is try to do trivial things that she thinks she is bad at doing, like wearing a hat or getting men to sleep with a promiscuous woman.

Tina Trent म्हणाले...

With three working adults, they can't afford a place big enough, but they can afford to meet in hotel rooms and go out repeatedly to bars?

And it's for the child that they spend their money this way?

Jaq म्हणाले...

The woman seems boring and selfish. Everything is about her feeling great about the things others do for her. The few other things she does is try to do trivial things that she thinks she is bad at doing, like wearing a hat or getting men to sleep with a promiscuous woman.

The very model of the modern marxist feminist.

rhhardin says that women don’t begin to realize that the selfishness that men indulge in them because they have pussies is unattractive until sometime in their thirties, when they begin to try to hide it. This article is just further proof that he is right.

Jaq म्हणाले...

How do you write women so well?

gilbar म्हणाले...

With three working adults, they can't afford a place big enough, because they can afford to meet in hotel rooms and go out repeatedly to bars?

fixed it for you :)

gilbar म्हणाले...

Tiv said "He had one rule, and she broke it and rammed it down his throat. "

well, the rule has to be cleaned off once it's pulled out of her, and the husband doesn't seem to mind (on account of because he's bi)

J2 म्हणाले...

What's a
Gerber daisy?

gilbar म्हणाले...

i wondered that too? i figured it was a new type of knife

Chris N म्हणाले...

She was working in Garden 7, near where the fire had been. I saw a few chunks of blackened wood amidst the green. Her elbows lifted methodically, delicately, and I saw that she still was good. She was radiant.

I wanted to go back. I would speak, or not speak. To lay with her again. The silence of the forest crept up to the corrugated metal of Pod 471, suspending us there.

My hands and face and vest and stunk of burnt oil.





Jaq म्हणाले...

it's pulled out of her, and the husband doesn't seem to mind (on account of because he's bi)

So the rule really was rammed down his throat.

ccscientist म्हणाले...

"open marriage" never works. If someone is cares about you so little that they are ok with you have sex with others, will they be there when you need them? ha. Are they really listening when you talk? I doubt it.

ccscientist म्हणाले...

My friend had his wife leave him for a woman. He was much more devastated that if she just divorced him, and was at a loss what to do about the kids.

Dan Truitt म्हणाले...

I read the NYT article. This made me slightly..sick. I'd like to talk to that son of hers in a couple decades. God, people are so screwed up sometimes.