২২ ডিসেম্বর, ২০২৪

"I’ve gotten so lazy with my youngest one, because there’s so many, that at night I put him in his clothes for the next day..."

"So, he has dinner, he takes his bath, but then I’ll be like, 'Hey, dude. It will save an extra five minutes if we get dressed now and then you can sleep later,' and I can sleep later, wink wink."

Said the celebrity Tori Spelling, quoted in "Tori Spelling Gets Backlash for Dressing Her Son for School the Night Before—But Should She?"

That's in Parents, last September, and I'm seeing it because it's linked in a new article in New York Magazine, "On the Internet, Everyone’s a Bad Mom."

This article goes into much more serious problems with "momfluencers" and the people who sic the authorities on them, but I just want to talk about the classic life-hack discovered by Tori Spelling and millions of other moms and dads: For young children, there is no real pajamas/playclothes distinction. The important thing is not to put the child in bed with dirty clothes, but if you've given the child a bath, you can dress him or her in clean clothing that is completely soft and comfortable, and the child can go to bed, sleep through the night, and get up fully dressed for the day. Just add shoes.

The trick is to find suitable clothing for this dual purpose and to put the clothes in the laundry after one day's use. The main reason not to do this is if you think the ritual of assembling one's outfit in the morning teaches valuable lessons. I'm giving this post my "laziness" tag only because Spelling said "lazy." I don't think it's lazy. I think it's smart.

৪৬টি মন্তব্য:

Wilbur বলেছেন...

I would've never thought of that.
Seems time-efficient but I'm sure there are people with objections of several sorts.

Roger Sweeny বলেছেন...

Certainly not lazy. But different clothes for bed and verticality provides a nice re-inforcement that in bed you're supposed to sleep and after you get up, you're supposed to stay awake.

rhhardin বলেছেন...

Sleeping in your clothes works if the dog has diarrhea and so asks to be taken out every hour or so. Just slip on shoes.

Dixcus বলেছেন...

Yes, she should get all the backlash. What a horrid mother.

Kate বলেছেন...

Spelling's life hack is predicated on the notion that a government agency should dictate when a child and parent wake, and that because it's such an early start time a hectic morning becomes the norm.

Kevin বলেছেন...

Biden's handlers take note!

reader বলেছেন...

I think this would be kid specific. My son was a very warm sleeper. He would get sweaty and his pajamas would be damp and oily. They would dry a little gritty from the salt in his sweat. I would not want him running around in those clothes after he woke up. He may still sleep this way. Even as an adult my sister sleeps this way.

Imagine wearing your gym clothes the rest of the day after a hard sweaty workout. That’s fine if you’re going to be alone but not if you’re going to be close contact with others.

Cappy বলেছেন...

Always take celebrity advice. /sarc

ronetc বলেছেন...

From my childhood, just go to bed washed and in underwear, dress next morning. Still only one clothing change.

Dave Begley বলেছেন...

She has 5 kids. I looked it up. Two are Goths.

Koot Katmandu বলেছেন...

Seems like a good Idea to me.

Aggie বলেছেন...

Maybe it's nobody else's business, but especially, mine.

gilbar বলেছেন...

the Key Takeaway is:
make Sure your parent is an important Film Exec, then YOU will get rolls.

David53 বলেছেন...

"For young children, there is no real pajamas/playclothes distinction."

Really? Her child is 7, probably in the second grade. I think there is a definite distinction.

Jamie বলেছেন...

As a child in Iowa, I used to sleep with the next day's clothes in bed with me in the winter, and dress under the covers in the morning. Much warmer!

n.n বলেছেন...

A wrinkle and time.

tim maguire বলেছেন...

Some kids at my daughter’s high school attend in their pyjamas and I judge them and their parents for it. But everybody sleeps in their day clothes sometimes and I don’t see any reason to object to making it a habit.

Mary Beth বলেছেন...

Some people, even at a young age, are prone to insomnia. Having a clear delineation between bedtime behaviors and clothing and waking behaviors and clothing can help develop good sleep habits and patterns.

Being dismissive when you clearly haven't given it much thought is telling. Just sayin'.

Peachy বলেছেন...

she too busy? wha? doing what? getting botox injections?

Peachy বলেছেন...

A story like this from a struggling single parent on a fixed income - then I'd buy it.

Peachy বলেছেন...
এই মন্তব্যটি লেখক দ্বারা সরানো হয়েছে।
Ice Nine বলেছেন...

Well, that's nice - the kid wears sweaty, wrinkled clothes all day. Wait, what did she say...to save five freakin' minutes in the morning?!

Lem Vibe Bandit বলেছেন...

What happened to Torry Spelling Consuela De La Morrela?

Did Trump get to her?

Lem Vibe Bandit বলেছেন...

In case you are wondering.

Mason G বলেছেন...

"It will save an extra five minutes if we get dressed now and then you can sleep later,' and I can sleep later, wink wink."

But it doesn't save five minutes. If you didn't dress him the night before, you could go to bed five minutes earlier.

john mosby বলেছেন...

Of course, Joey B saved parent-kid prep time with shared showers….

JSM

JaimeRoberto বলেছেন...

Of course it's also possible that she's joking.

Ficta বলেছেন...

Pioneering computer scientist Larry Wall said the three virtues of a great programmer were: Laziness, Impatience and Hubris

Rocco বলেছেন...

At age 7 he is old enough to know to automatically put his PJs on after his bath all on his own.

JaimeRoberto said...
"Of course it's also possible that she's joking."

Or that.

Leslie Graves বলেছেন...

This is why https://www.hannaandersson.com/ and its cheaper knockoffs exist, and why I shop there.

Lem Vibe Bandit বলেছেন...

Humor was a vax victim. Didn’t you hear?

Readering বলেছেন...

For me it would have meant wearing a tie to bed

Leora বলেছেন...

I tried to do this on my own when I was seven but my parents objected.

PM বলেছেন...

The high school kids where I live wear - what appears to be - pajama bottoms to class. So that's the downstream upshot.

MacMacConnell বলেছেন...

Remember the Ivy League girl toting a mattress to class? Ivy League, "best and the brightest"!

Deep State Reformer বলেছেন...

Well, THAT kid is going to have issues.

NotWhoIUsedtoBe বলেছেন...

I did it for the kid that took forever to get dressed. It's better than being late or yelling at your kid in the morning.

Joe Bar বলেছেন...

We used to do that in college. But I went to a military school where you had 5 minutes to formation.

Aught Severn বলেছেন...

This comment deserves to be AITA'd on reddit. I would be interested in the consensus.

Aught Severn বলেছেন...

We used to do that in college. But I went to a military school where you had 5 minutes to formation.

Amother great trick was to use shirt stays on your sheets under the mattress, then only sleep on top of them so you never had to actually make your bed, only fold the blanket...

Bruce Hayden বলেছেন...

Re: PJs in school

Daughter attended an expensive private school. One girl in her class often wore pajamas to school. A bunch of parents decided they wanted uniforms for their kids there. It was essentially vetoed by that one kid. Turns out that her father owned the local pro football team, had given Superbowl balls for fund raising, and their class got access to sky boxes and the like in the new stadium for events. She was his preferred successor (out of 7 kids from 2 marriages). Unfortunately, her half sisters and uncles disagreed with her succession, so the team was sold a year or two ago. Still funny though seeing her exquisitely turned out, in the papers, when so many times in esp middle school, and even high school, I saw her in her trademark pajamas.

Narayanan বলেছেন...

Not for FJB >> will need nappy change - unless open crotch pants??!!

Ann Althouse বলেছেন...

“This is why https://www.hannaandersson.com/ and its cheaper knockoffs exist, and why I shop there.”

Exactly! That’s where I got what I’m talking about in the 1980s.

Ann Althouse বলেছেন...

“This is why https://www.hannaandersson.com/ and its cheaper knockoffs exist, and why I shop there.”

Exactly! That’s where I got what I’m talking about in the 1980s.

Joe Bar বলেছেন...

Indeed, Aught Severn. I don't think I slept between the sheets for four years.

ThatsGoingToLeaveA বলেছেন...

Stupid people give her a hard time for this. I never forced my children to were pajamas. And, when we started sending them off to group school, they figured this trick out for themselves.