September 7, 2018

"I miss her terribly. Even now, it’s hard on me. I don’t know why I was so stupid. Men are like that, you know. You find the perfect person, and then you do everything you can to screw it up."

Said Burt Reynolds.
Reynolds had wives either side of his relationship with Field; He was married to Judy Carne from 1963 to 1965, and to Loni Anderson from 1988 to 1993.... Field also had a spouse either side of the relationship; she was married to Steve Craig from 1968 to 1975; and to Alan Greisman from 1984 to 1993.
Sally Field, on hearing of the death of Burt Reynolds, said:
There are times in your life that are so indelible, they never fade away. They stay alive, even 40 years later... My years with Burt never leave my mind. He will be in my history and my heart, for as long as I live. Rest, Buddy.
He said she was the perfect person. She said she doesn't forget him, even though 40 years have passed. But who would forget a big love affair just because 40 years passed? Her statement about him is so much weaker that his about her. And she had the additional push to say good things that is his death.

I'm not going to research how they broke up. I must have followed their relationship at the time, however, because from 1973 to 1975, I workd at a market research firm where my job was reading dozens of magazines every month — including all the news magazines and women's magazines — and I must have read hundreds of articles about that love affair. But their story is not indelible in my mind. It wasn't my love affair. What were the other celebrity love affairs of those years? All I can think of is Patty Hearst and General Field Marshal Cinque.

With a little research: John and Yoko, Barbara Streisand and Elliot Gould, Jane Fonda and Donald Sutherland, Carly Simon and James Taylor, Steve McQueen and Ali MacGraw, Jack Nicholson and Anjelica Huston, Liz Taylor and Richard Burton, Farrah Fawcett and Lee Majors, Jerry Hall and Mick Jagger, Diane Keaton and Warren Beatty.

That actually does seem much grander than what we have today, at least from the perspective of someone who was in her 20s in the 1970s.

Let's go back:

57 comments:

Ralph L said...

Sally's statement is all about her, just like Cher's eulogy of Sonny (they broke up in '74 I think).

You left out David Cassidy and David Cassidy.

Ralph L said...

Am I the only one who remembers Burt and cougar crooner Dinah Shore?
It was kinda scandalous at the time, because she had a wholesome image and he didn't.

Wince said...

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward always seemed the most real and everlasting Hollywood couple.

Henry said...

Natalie Wood and Robert Wagner.

rhhardin said...

Actors are morons and offered every temptation, so not great real life role models.

For the public, their characters get married so it's always so surprising it doesn't last.

Expat(ish) said...

@Ralph - Dinah was a bit before my time, but I've often wondered about that - Burt's biography was ... elliptical on her. Lots of fondness and regret, but not a ton of detail, except about her early life.

She does not have a good in-print biography.

In the lesbian community it is an act of faith that Dinah was gay.

-XC

PS - Listen to Burt read his biography, it is too badly written to actually read. Plus he's great to listen to in his old age.

Ann Althouse said...

"Sally's statement is all about her, just like Cher's eulogy of Sonny (they broke up in '74 I think)."

I think in both cases, it was the man who cheated on the woman, so it makes sense for the woman to come out of it with some self-affirming lesson about survival and strength.

Reynolds admits he was the one who screwed it up.

Hunter said...

I mean, you can kind of tell who dumped whom.

tcrosse said...

In the lesbian community it is an act of faith that Dinah was gay.

It was also rumored that Dinah had a touch of the old tar-brush.

Bay Area Guy said...

My memory of the cultural 70s, was that Burt Reynolds and Clint Eastwood were the two biggies, until Star Wars came and dominated. I never thought much of Sally Field, but we all loved Burt.

William said...

Liz and Richard had the most entertainment value. John and Yoko were the most aggravating........Burt Reynolds was a bigger star, but Sally Firlds has had a far more durable career.

Heartless Aztec said...
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Heartless Aztec said...

Blogger surfed said...
Life was bigger back then because there was less imminent and insistent media to trivialize it 24/7/365.

tim maguire said...

He blames himself for screwing up the relationship. Assuming he's right (or mostly right), it makes sense that he would look back on those days with more longing for what was lost.

Big Mike said...

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward always seemed the most real and everlasting Hollywood couple.

Newman was asked whether he had ever had an affair. His response belongs in the Hall of Fame: “Why go out for hamburgers when I have a steak at home?”

Bob Boyd said...

According to the speedometer they were going 110 kph, only 70 mph.
That clip must have come from a copy that had been dubbed into Canadian.

William said...

i don't think the Warren Beatty/Diane Keaton affair was the signature affair for either one of them. Diane Keaton will forever be linked with Woody Allen. Diane and Mia. The ying and yang of love affairs......John/Yoko and Liz/Richard were the signature affairs of those parties, but the other affairs were transient. I always thought Jane Fonda and Robert Blake would have made a nice couple, I didn't even know she had a thing for Donald Sutherland.

richlb said...

If Sally had felt the same way about the missed opportunity, she could have rectified it. She didn't, so she didn't. And she has nice things to say, but not extreme regret.

Otto said...

"That actually does seem much grander " - you fool.

William said...

I don't think Paul Newman and Jimmy Stewart were typical Hollywood stars.

Ralph L said...

Lee Majors was an also-ran to Ryan O'Neil.
And Bianca was big (and married) before Jerry Hall.

robinintn said...

Dinah Shore and Sly Stone!

rehajm said...

“Why go out for hamburgers when I have a steak at home?”

There are some really good looking hamburgers out there.

Known Unknown said...

"Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward always seemed the most real and everlasting Hollywood couple."

Not living in Hollywood helped I'm sure.

Known Unknown said...

"According to the speedometer they were going 110 kph, only 70 mph.
That clip must have come from a copy that had been dubbed into Canadian."

I think that's part of the joke that Field doesn't understand the speedometer.

Rick.T. said...

Paul Crewe: What's his name?

Caretaker: Indian.

Paul Crewe: That makes sense.

Caretaker: Now don't go making any ethnic jokes.

[They meet the Indian]

Paul Crewe: Paul Crewe. Heard you played some football.

The Indian: Yeah.

Paul Crewe: Where?

The Indian: Oklahoma State.

Paul Crewe: Oklahoma State U?

The Indian: Prison

From The Longest Yard. Always makes me chuckle.

Kevin said...

Hey we have Noah Cyrus and Lil Xan. That's a big deal!

Bill Peschel said...

It's emblamatic of the culture that actors, comedians, and celebutards make up the majority of our role models. Most of them are damaged people (especially comedians), who get into show business because it gives them free rein to indulge their bestial natures, or to sooth their damaged psyches.

We used to admire and emulate people with real accomplishments.

chickelit said...

I liked it better when Dinah Shore was Burt’s love of his life. Sally Fields tanked her own reputation as a human being and she drags Reynolds down with her.

Fernandinande said...

Awww. Hollywood actors don't feel pain like we do because their hearts are so big.

So, did they reproduce?

DanTheMan said...

>> “Why go out for hamburgers when I have a steak at home?”

He referred to a woman as a piece of meat! How triggering!!! Where is my safe space?

Ken B said...

From her tweets, she's a most unpleasant person.

frenchy said...

Going back to the 50s it was pretty much accepted lore in Hollywood that Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward was another one of those studio-arranged marriages for two gay people, the deal being their respective careers would be promoted, and they would become big stars, but they in exchange had to maintain the outward image of marital bliss and have children. In actuality the love of his life was A.E. Hotchner, who ran the salad dressing empire, and who lived nearby in Westport, CT, and the love of Joanne's life was actress Sandy Dennis, who died in 1992.

RobinGoodfellow said...

Blogger Bob Boyd said...
According to the speedometer they were going 110 kph, only 70 mph.
That clip must have come from a copy that had been dubbed into Canadian.


My wife and I watched Smokey and the Bandit last night. First time I had seen it in probably decades. I noticed that same thing. While the needle is hovering above the 100 mark it’s clearly kph, not mph. IIRC, at that time speedometers with kilometers per hour were a pretty new thing (the US was going to be all metric by 1981!!) so they probably thought no one would notice.

Bob Boyd said...

"they probably thought no one would notice."

I saw that movie more than once and I never noticed before.
Known Unknown is probably right, it was a part of the joke for those who pick up on it.

FullMoon said...
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rcocean said...

It was "grander" back in the 70s (or 80s) because we saw much less of celebrities and film actors - and knew much less about them. Plus, you rarely saw anyone in the press taking pot-shots at them.

Now, we know what weird freaks most of them are. Not to mention their contempt for average people, along with their goofy views on religion, politics, child rearing, etc.

rcocean said...

Holy Moley, Sally Fields is only 72. I thought she was the same age as Burt.

Meanwhile, 88 y/o Clint Eastwood keeps chugging along.

Seeing Red said...

I remember he hurt her terribly but I don’t think it was ever said what he did.

Smokey was on last week.

Seeing Red said...

We were laughing, remember this days when you couldn’t get Colorado koolaid east of the Mississippi?

buwaya said...

My wife put "Smokey" on last night.

Sally Field was a fine actress and I think that "Smokey" was the best of her career.
It may also be the closest read on her, there is an edge and twist in her character in that thing that makes it clear she would have been difficult to live with.

It may have been a throwaway, trivial movie when made, but in retrospect it seems like much more than that. Its a slice of Americana of the sort that really does reveal the national character, in its many faces, using and making fun of the very idea of myth. Or the national character as it was at the time.

The bit where Field and Reynolds try to find something in common, and fail - thats more than a little prophetic, if you think about it, and maybe it was real to them personally as well. The seeds of the great national divorce were planted long ago.

Deliberately serious movies fail because they are often overdesigned. This one reveals everything casually, in passing, with automobile stunts.

Yancey Ward said...

Well, the difference between Field and Reynolds is that he seems to be saying that he was the cause of the break-up- I am assuming from the quote that he cheated.

Most celebrity deaths just wash over me like nothing, but I do feel a bit of sadness at the Reynolds' death. I can't tell you how many times I and the friends I grew up with watched movies like Smokey and the Bandit, Cannonball Run, and even Hooper. He was an Hollywood icon for the kids who grew up in the late 70s to early 80s, especially those of us who grew up in the South.

Earnest Prole said...

Maybe Reynolds screwed up the perfect relationship because Fields is one of the most irritating human beings on earth.

Ralph L said...

I watched probably every episode of "The Flying Nun" but couldn't tell you a single plot to save my life.

n.n said...

Men? Some men. Men are not diverse, social classification notwithstanding.

FullMoon said...

My wife put "Smokey" on last night.

Sally Field was a fine actress and I think that "Smokey" was the best of her career.


I think absence of Malice was a better movie. She was pretty good.

rcocean said...

Most actresses are 10 kinds of crazy off-screen.

You can only deal with that shit for so long.

rcocean said...

Smokey and the Bandit is good. So, is Cannonball Run.

Darrell said...

Gidget was meant to be a mash-up of girl and midget.


It takes all kinds.

dreams said...

My memory of their time together was that it was a lot more important for her than it was for him and he was the one who ended it so I can understand her comment. I can remember her going on the tonight show and basically professing her love for him while talking to Johnny Carson and just shortly after that he broke up with her. That had to hurt.

tcrosse said...
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tcrosse said...

I can remember her going on the tonight show and basically professing her love for him while talking to Johnny Carson and just shortly after that he broke up with her.

Then she dated Johnny for a while.

Humperdink said...

"Then she dated Johnny for a while."

Who didn't?

William said...

They call it acting. You don't know the truth about an actor until years after his death. I was vaguely reassured to learn that Laurence Olivier and Danny Kaye did not have a torrid love affair. So some scandalous rumors are false. But a lot are true. There's a fair possibility that Spencer Tracy hired male companions. .....Burt Reynolds is in a good place. He outlived his stardom. There won't be a lot of interest in pursuing the salacious stories.....I never heard about Dinah Shore being a lesbian. She's been dead for years. Wouldn't it have come out by now?

Ingachuck'stoothlessARM said...

"Smeechy & The Perloiner" was the original version

Mark said...

Her statement about him is so much weaker that his about her.

Sad for you that you should think so.

traditionalguy said...

Smokey and the Bandit was filmed south of Atlanta in Jonesboro and on the roads from Jonesboro to Fayetteville. That fits, because the Bandit character is the epitome of the white southern dare devil of that time.