"... but I remember seeing my nephew for the first time, back in 1997 — just recalling it makes me emotional — and feeling this tug, a real visceral knowing that I was related to this little human being, that we share a gene pool. I wanted the same with my own child. When I reached 50 I thought, ‘It’s now or never,’ and I really started looking into surrogacy seriously.... A couple of friends took a beat or two to respond when I told them about my plans. Another asked, 'Do you really want to be coping with a stroppy teenager when you’re in your seventies?' I think my parents, who are both in their eighties, and sister were concerned that, aged 50-plus, I didn’t realise the enormity of what I was letting myself in for.”
Said Simon Burrell, quoted in "What it’s like to be a single dad (with a child via surrogacy)/The frequency of single fathers having children through surrogacy has tripled. Simon Burrell tells Helen Carroll why he spent £200,000 on becoming one. Plus: I was the UK’s first solo surrogacy father" (London Times).

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I find this sad and weird. And its almost impossible to think this could happen anytime in human history prior to the 21st century.
I dont really this man cares about "Passing his genes along". He wants to have someone who'll love him as he gets old and dies. And someone he can mold in his own image. Its somewhat weird to grow up without a mother, but I suppose the kid will get plenty of $$ when "Dad" kicks the bucket.
Best of luck. As long as he’s rich fatherhood should be ok
I am worried for this child.
Why would a man want to raise a child without a woman to help him?
We should not promote raising children outside the optimal environment which is a man and a woman pair bonded raising children together.
This is just as bad as women who abuse children by raising them without their father.
So, unless he's grooming the child, this story is about a single, male guardian, and not a trans.
Surrogacy? A womb farm? A child saved from a planned parenthood?
If I was allowed to say that gopnik is a retard, I would say that he was.
Oh pity the fool! Wrong place to post and not allowed to erase.
EastEnders has a little girl who lost her mum to some disease, but has 3 dads, two of them gay. Dad 1: Her natural father, who slept with her mum before he admitted he was gay. Dad 2: her natural father's gay husband, after he realized he was gay. Dad 3: the man who married her mum. All three get along and are devoted to her.
But it's not all BBC Pride happy-clappy: there are lots of story arcs that make the situation more complex. Her natural dad is in prison (in addition to being gay, he is quite a gangsta - kind of like Ronnie Kray). Her straight stepfather got on the drugs for a while to deal with the mum's death, and right now is off somewhere finding himself. Her gay stepfather is raising her right now. She is a bit of a stroppy tween at this point, and the show implies it's at least partially due to her mum's passing and not having that alpha female energy to keep her in line.
Really some good writing from the EastEnders crew. CC, JSM
"I could have tried to adopt, though I think a single gay man would still be right at the back of the queue..."
At the back of the queue. You know: the hindquarters.
Where you can pump and pump into the same-sex-hindquarters, but you never move up in the childbearing queue. Naturally speaking, of course.
Hmmm.
Given rates of death to women in childbirth and otherwise throughout history, motherless infants were pretty common. What was done for the motherless infants varied.
so, we are Still on the weird graphs thing?
i mean: "the frequency has trippled"..
there used to be only one of these.. now there are three?
Yes, readering, we forget that 'blended families' aren't new. They used to be blended by death; now they're blended by divorce/remarriage, or not getting married in the first place.
One of my theories about Jesus's 'brothers' and 'sisters' is they might just be village orphans that Mary and Joseph took in and raised with him. CC, JSM
Poor kid.
GoFundMe closed down my campaign because legal defense of alleged violent crimes violates their TOS.
But looky here:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-david-secure-legal-representation-vdesk
Related to this story:
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/almost-100k-raised-for-gay-dads-legal-costs-after-punching-gotcha-right-wing-interviewer/ar-AA21t9Bv?ocid=msedgntp&pc=LCTS&cvid=69e964ced88c4b3ab6dc8c01c894d62d&ei=115
CC, JSM
This looks like a pitch for a new sitcom on Netflix.
He was a British, gay, uptight Dad,
She was a sassy, black nanny,
And Malcolm is stuck in the middle!
Stay Tuned for Laughter.
Or a sequel to Will and Grace where they agree to have a kid and live together, but otherwise lead their own lives. You'd think Burrell might have some female friends who would spring for such a deal. CC, JSM
This is unbelievable, King Solomon, go get your sword.
https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/florida-biological-parents-baby-ivf-embryo-identified-rcna341494
"Where you can pump and pump into the same-sex-hindquarters"
Sir Richard Pumpaloaf!
Cosby, your scenario would still be better for the child than a 50 year old single male narcissist raising a kid.
Mosby, that is. F#×ing autocorrect.
I wonder how many of you here have been single fathers besides me. My first wife discovered she preferred women and left our one-year-old son with me to live her best life. The eight years between that and wife number two were something, and provided substantial evidence that women are mostly interested in "blended" families if they are the ones providing the ingredients. The most realistic depiction of it I ever saw was "The Courtship of Eddie's Father" with Glenn Ford and Ron Howard.
"The number of men each year who follow a similar path to fatherhood as he did is still relatively low but tripled to 36" in a five year period.
Gawd I hate these kinds of numbers in the hands of "journalists". One reads about this new, exciting, interesting trend. Then finds out it is actually a small percent of a small percent. Negligible at best. Yet here we pretend there is a trend worth announcing from the rooftops.
Purchasing a child who is born motherless? What could go wrong? The important thing is the adult homosexual man is HAPPY.
So, "the freuency of single fathers having children through surrogacy has tripled." First, they are single men, not fathers, until the surrogacy has succeeded in making them fathers. Second, has the number gone from one to three, or one million to three million, which would kinda make a difference in the importance of the story? Are 0.001% of parents single fathers who obtained kids via surrogacy, or are 20% of children parented by single fathers, with even less than 0.001% of that parental subset consisting of surrogacy-provided parenthood?
In other words, the innumeracy of the title leads me to a corollary of an Instapundit law of headlines: If a headline has a question in it, the answer is NO. Here, if the headline has a huge increase of something without reference to baseline data, the increase is NOT huge.
And reading to the end of the post: "I was the UK's first solo surrogacy father." So yeah, congrats and all that, this is a story akin to one about the first (any other unusual group) x (any other activity). Notable most for the self-referential esteem involved.
What Achilles said.
I have no problem with gay adoption. If a child needs care and shelter and a gay couple step up to care for that child. That's great in my book.
But, to intentionally create a human (we are mammals, if you care about "the science.") Watch a documentary about the first few minutes of an infant's life. How they recognize their mother from the scent in her amniotic fluid. There is this innate bond. To intentionally create a person and deprive them of maternal love in unspeakably cruel and evil. It's treating babies like they come from a puppy mill.
Also, fuck Anderson Cooper.
"The important thing is the adult homosexual man is HAPPY."
Wait, I thought they just wanted to be free to marry the person they love and live in dignity. Or some such horseshit. People who aren't normal tend to abnormality. Often that includes enormity.
I suspect the family and friends were also worried he might ask them to become the child's caregivers in the event of his severe illness or death.
1. I asked several AIs the same question:
“How do the children of gay fathers do in comparison to other single parents.”
Typical answer:
“Research on children raised by gay fathers compared to those raised by heterosexual single parents indicates that children of gay fathers tend to do just as well, if not better, in various domains such as emotional health, academic performance, and social skills.”
2. Then I asked:
How do the children of gay fathers do in comparison to the children of heterosexual couples.
Typical answer:
Children raised by gay fathers generally fare as well as—or in several key domains, better than—those raised by heterosexual couples, according to the broad scholarly consensus from meta-analyses, longitudinal studies, and professional organizations like the American Psychological Association
3. Finally I asked: Are children of single gays more likely to be gay?
Typical answer:
“Research on the sexual orientation of children raised by gay parents, including gay fathers, suggests that there is no significant difference in the likelihood of these children identifying as gay compared to those raised by heterosexual parents.”
The word “significant” points to the fact that there is a difference and there is:
“Certain studies, often on lesbian mothers, find children (especially daughters) report higher same-sex attraction, non-heterosexual identities, or experiences”
My conclusion? The kid will do just fine. Congrats to the new dad.
Let me just add:
Singles who purposefully have children with the plan of raising them by themselves are often accused of being selfish - only thinking of their own happiness.
Isn’t that why heterosexual couples have kids?
“Yeah kids are going to make us miserable but we’re still gonna have them.” is not a sentiment I’ve ever heard.
Eva Marie, If we wanted to know what various chatbots have to say, we could ask them ourselves. The text strings they produce apparently have some emotional or symbolic significance to you, and aside from the waste of resources, there is really nothing wrong with that. But posting those text strings here, as comments, is rude. And I don't think you intended to be rude, so now you know.
You’re not actually responding to any of the points I made - snark isn’t an argument.
I quoted multiple AIs to show the actual facts on single gay dads. There’s a lot of hyperventilating on the subject, but it’s not supported by reality.
As a side note (not really a response to you but something that I thought of as I read the comments): Sometimes people act like choosing a different path is some kind of attack on their own choices. It’s not. It’s just a different path.
Recommend Winston Marshall's podcast from Apr 21 2026, interviewing Katie Faust on topic of children without their biological mother and father, particularly babies who are born as transactional product of contemporary world economy. She makes a lot of good points, noting personal fulfillment gained by commercially-aided parenthood failsto address long-term emotional damage to the acquired baby. There's also a tiktok video of two gay guys with their surrogate-acquired baby, baby crying for its "mama" while the big boys chuckle and reply "there's no mama!!"
Google "Adam Westbrook" + Wisconsin. A former Wisconsin municipal atttorney and city official, gay married man who volunteered at schools in Fox Valley area, Milwaukee group of drag-queen nuns, became father via adoption of a little toddler. Yes, "daddy" shared homemade child-porn videos. Westbrook was convicted on federal pornography charges, still awaiting sentencing.
I listened to the interview with Katie Faust. I found the interviewer more convincing than the interviewee.
Poor kid.
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