"Resentment, arrogance, and deceit are, like,
the evil triad. But resentment is extremely useful because it only means one of two things if you're experiencing it. One is that you are being taken advantage of, and you have something to say and something to sort out. So that's one possibility. The other possibility is that you're immature and you're not shouldering your responsibility property.... So now then the question is, if you notice that you're resentful, which you should notice, and which is quite likely, if you're an agreeable and self-sacrificing person, then you have to think, okay, am I being irresponsible and immature or is too much being asked of me?... Resentment is unbelievably useful if you use it properly because it, it's a marker for when things are out of harmony.... If you're resentful, it could easily be that you're doing too much... and that emotion is a marker of that...."
Said Jordan Peterson, on his podcast —
audio and transcript —answering the question "What are some tangible ways to regulate your temper when dealing with young, especially young kids, and avoid feeling kind of resentful to them for the demands they make on your time and attention? "
The discussion at the link centers on childcare and resentment. I deliberately extracted the idea at a higher level of abstraction because it can be applied more broadly, notably to politics... especially if you add the arrogance and deceit to complete the dangerous "evil triad."
I'm sure Peterson has talked about this elsewhere. Ah, yes, I see —
via Grok — that it's Rule 11 in his "Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life": "Do not allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant":
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"Do not allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant"
Paging average democrats. Average democrats please call your office.
Chateaubriand says that malevolence and denigration are the chief characteristics of the French mind. Resentment is a modern emotion.
Chris "Mad Dog" Russo, sports show host on WFAN, to somebody arguing that he was Holocaust-offended by something an athlete did, "Holocaust Schmolocaust."
An Imus Holocaust resentment show here, Imus poking at various hosts trying to cause trouble over the matter.
Resentment is comedy material.
The The Evil Triad is a great name for a band, especially if you started out as The Benevolent Quartet but lost your lead singer to 'creative disputes'. "Resentful, Deceitful, & Arrogant" is a great name for your new band's first album.
Think of yourself as a death-metal hybrid of Rammstein, Gwar, and Nickelback (the world's most hated band).
My mother had "Irish Alzheimer's": she forgot everything but her resentments.
You can be resentful and vindictive if you do it coldly at arms length. Game theory approves of it. Just treat it as business.
Speaking of resentment, I just finished the book "On Her Game," about Caitlin Clark. Resentment seems to be the single motivating emotion of a lot of WNBA players, who apparently would rather play in front of 3,000 people than allow Caitlin to have any success (or credit for success).
Bressler:’ My mother had "Irish Alzheimer's"’
I thought that was when you genuinely forget to say goodbye when leaving a party.
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JSM
I knew that had to be JP before I finished the first sentence.
Nietzsche had a lot to say about resentment/ressentiment.
@hawkeyedjb, maybe someone is being put up by her adversaries to throw giant green kongs. Wouldn't be the first time mean girls have used dildos for other than their intended purpose.
Arrogance and resentment are at the heart of politics. Back in the 1950s and 1960s liberal professors saw resentment as their opponents' main motivation. That's because professors were the arrogant winners riding the wave of the future. Now that wave has broken, and it's the academics' turn to be resentful. If you're on the other side, try not to be arrogant now.
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I'm not sure "resentment" is useful. The "chip on the shoulder" is. That's the desire to prove others wrong about oneself. It's resentment converted into something positive, rather than allowed to stew in its own juices.
Josephbleau said...
“You can be resentful and vindictive if you do it coldly at arms length. Game theory approves of it. Just treat it as business.”
Tessio understood.
My personal experiences with resentment are that it is always my problem alone and I seriously doubt I am unique in this regard. You either grow to realize this or you don't- I know lots of both kinds of people.
Cultivating resentment is at the heart of the Left's politics. It has proven an enduring organizing principle, precisely because it is so self-reinforcing. All individual failure to achieve equality in results is proof of systemic racism, sexism, whatever. The deceit comes naturally: when you come to believe that "the Man", "the System" is dealing unfairly with you, that absolves you of any obligation to be truthful or candid. The arrogance seals the deal: contempt for those who are too stupid or evil to see that they are on the "wrong side of history."
You'd better support the status quo and those in power, or you're "resentful". You can see why the wealthy and powerful want everyone to think that way. Hey, don't get upset that I have a monopoly or used family connections to make my $Billions. that's just being resentment. LOL!
Oh and don't be an icky "Trumpist" or a "Populist". Don't be a "loser". Just accept and obey those currently in charge.
Resentment is "Indignation at being treated unfairly". That's a good emotion if you use it to correct injustice or demand you be treated fairly. The problem with average Americans is they should be saying: "I'm Mad as hell, and I'm not taking it anymore" and instead they're listening to frauds like Jordon Pederson.
Responding to ride space mountain. is nickelback really more hated than maroon 5? Who knew?
Jordan Peterson is a Quack
Resentment, arrogance, and deceit are toxic to any relationship (intimate or not), but can be overcome with good faith efforts. The really fatal emotion, I think, is contempt. No coming back from that. Kudos always to JP, though. He is not quite what he was before his health issues, but still a hero to me.
"Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life": "Do not allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant"
What mountaintop does JP go to for this stuff? Maybe he should try a higher one.
Perhaps you would be wise to pay attention to some of what JBP says and writes. Naw, that's not you.
Perhaps you would be wise to disregard all of what Jordon Peterson (JBP to his friends) says and writes. Naw, that's not you.
In the past, gentlemen had a code of duelo. An insult was made with the risk of a challenge of mortal combat. Shotguns at ten paces, I say.
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