Says the second-most-liked comment on "I pass as cisgender. I worry what could happen if people realize I’m trans. I’m anxious that I’ll be recognized as trans and fearful about what that might mean for my girlfriend’s and my safety" (WaPo).
The most-liked comment is a simple objection to the word "cisgender": "Please stop calling people like me cisgender: I am just a heterosexual male."
No one seems to care about the special problem of someone who chooses to take on the gender role that entails more physical vulnerability. And by the way, the transgender woman does not have the very significant physical vulnerability that is the potential for pregnancy (and the generally weaker muscular power).
As another commenter says: "Welcome to my world. The way it's been for me now for 66 years. I'm a woman and like all women, I must be aware of my surroundings and ready to flee or fight at all times."
पोस्ट्स
७९ टिप्पण्या:
"However, from my experience as a female, I wonder anyone would want to disadvantage themselves by becoming a women, especially in today's anti-woman political climate."
Someday, this pro-woman political climate - unprecedented in human history - is going to end. When it does, you have to wonder if future women will look back like Charlton Heston in planet of the apes at some totem of the bygone golden age and scream "Damn it all! You stupid bitches! You blew it all up!"
"anti-woman political climate"
I want some of what they are smoking.
Have you seen recent TV commercials?
If you are suffer from a psychotic delusion, take sex hormones, and associate with like other people, you do have good reason to fear violence from those people. You are also much more likely to commit violence than sane people who aren’t taking sex hormones.
This is so neurotically overwrought. Virtually all violence against trans people is against black transwomen sex workers, and even including that they are subject to less violence than white women. Exclude that very particular demographic, and the violence rate is similar to other autistic white women living in rich communities outside SF.
This is so neurotically overwrought. Virtually all violence against trans people is against black transwomen sex workers, and even including that they are subject to less violence than white women. Exclude that very particular demographic, and the violence rate is similar to other autistic white women living in rich communities outside SF.
“ I'm a woman and like all women, I must be aware of my surroundings and ready to flee or fight at all times."
Okay, Althouse community women! True?
It's almost like... I can almost put my finger on it... You know, like if there were someone to protect a woman against males. You know, someone strong and capable of violence who would make sure men left her alone.
A BICYCLE!
Anti-woman? Anti-female sex?
Feminist/masculinist, cisgender/homosexual, transgender/bisexual, trans/social, Pro-Choice ethical?
And by the way, the transgender woman does not have the very significant physical vulnerability that is the potential for pregnancy (and the generally weaker muscular power)
Exactly this
Who knew Iranian women read the Washington Post?
I’m aware that, as a female woman (and a small one at that), there are a few times I’m more vulnerable and have to be careful in some ways that men don’t. But those are extremely easy to manage the vast majority of the time, and I’m also aware that I’m easily treated better and with more deference in many situations as well. But people who talk like this person seem to be living in a completely different world. Half the country is not internalizing trauma of always having to be watchful and wary. Maybe it’s different in whatever urban hellhole this person lives in, but I’m certainly not seeing an “anti-woman political climate” or anything even remotely close to it. And I highly resent people who seem so anxious to convince themselves that women can’t handle the (modern upper middle class 1st) world.
Maybe I should be more careful, but I don't ever anticipate being raped or murdered. I run a lot of trails so I will admit at being a bit more uneasy after that poor runner from Memphis was murdered, but I don't run at night or in the early morning. If I encounter anyone on the trail, they're usually a man. I don't worry they're going to abduct me. Why be nervous all the time?
Cry me a river. Most all trans women have been through male puberty, which gives them a big advantage.
The ones getting rolled are mostly ladyboys and transvistos in Brazil. Whose stats are used by WPATH to beat us over the head in the US.
All the T supps in the world won't give the same advantage to the little girls posing as trans men.
The transwoman has a super power ... the power of surprise!
MartyH said...
"Who knew Iranian women read the Washington Post?"
My thought exactly. You want real, honest-to-God misogyny? You need to leave this country.
"However, from my experience as a female, I wonder anyone would want to disadvantage themselves by becoming a women, especially in today's anti-woman political climate."
Yet, some males do want to "become female", so they must see some advantage to it.
1. They keep their male strength, so if they compete against natural females, they have a better chance of winning.
2. The political climate has been pro-woman for decades, obviously.
3. Because they keep male-level strength, they have no more to fear from men than they did when they identified as men.
serious question: Who is MORE Likely to be murdered? a man? or a woman? just asking
During the 19th century, one in eight women died in childbirth. Deaths during childbirth were generally more protracted and painful than anything Jack the Ripper inflicted on his victims. The reproductive process discriminates against women. Fortunately for transpeople, they escape such discrimination. They are, however, occasionally subject to hostile stares or insensitive remarks.
today's anti-woman political climate
Translation: women don’t yet hold EVERY advantage over men.
See also: inequality and patriarchy.
Anti-woman political climate?
WaPo seems to specialize in lefty emotional masturbation.
"I’m aware that, as a female woman (and a small one at that)..."
Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable.
If there is an anti-woman climate it emanates from the dudes pretending to be women.
When I was little I wanted to be a mail person…
Which gender is most likely to be the victim of a violent crime?
Self-pity is the new religion. All forms of economic,social, gender, climate, and political discomfort are vectored ruthlessly at poor little me. And I have a fundamental right to a life without discomfort. For these religionists, evil is pervasive, and salvation demands that the world be dismantled, as a preliminary to the far better world to come.
There were about 17,750 murder victims in the United States in 2020. About 14,150 of those victims were men. That's 80%.
The stats for some other types of violent crimes have less-extreme ratios, but murder/homicide has less of a problem with reporting rates than do other crimes.
It's hard to imagine a time in modern history when American women were safer, more supported, more *coddled* by both official/State policy and society/culture but half the articles you read in the paper have, at their bases, the idea that women are under attack and at great risk. Women's very EXISTENCE is an exercise in trauma--that's said in the comments on this one just as it was in the infamous She Hulk show clip--it's taken as self-evidently true despite the fact that it's objectively ridiculous.
You go, girl!
When I was 10 and 11 in the mid-'70s, I was in the Iowa City Girls' Choir. The founder and director also wrote some of our songs, generally in a kind of counterpoint with a barbershop feel - lots of accidentals and such, sounded old-timey. He (yes, he) wrote one called "I Really Like Being A Girl" that I still remember:
"Oh, I really like being a girl,
Yes, I really like being a girl!
There are so many things that I can do if I choose
So sit right back while I shout out the news..."
etc. The counterpoint line:
Oh, I wear ribbons and bows and powder my nose
And wear cute little shoes on my feet
And fancy lace and a pretty face,
They make me look so sweet.
Or I can be a grubby, rub-a-dub-dubby
Chompin' on my gum.
In my sloppiest clothes, anything goes,
I look just like a bum.
And when it comes to boys, I can make more noise
And beat 'em at any old game.
And why is a gent the President?
It really is a shame!
As you can see, I'm glad I'm me
And I wouldn't change for the world!
Oh, I really like being a girl!"
This was written by a man in his thirties in 1976 or so, in a midwestern (admittedly college) town, for 10yo girls. The language is obviously dated but the sentiment was very Helen Reddy. Somehow I don't think women have been all that downtrodden in some decades now.
In answer to - was it Dave B's question? No, I do not spend all my time in a soup of adrenalin, ready to fight or flee. I experience that sensation only at times when my husband also would (or does): when there is the genuine possibility of peril.
So, this article is something about being trans, right? All it's doing is reinforcing my belief that the poor folk who live with this malady are in fact suffering from a psychological problem, not an actual physical or chemical mismatch. It seems clear to me that they don't have the ability to distinguish accurately between reality and (dystopian) fantasy. It reads like paranoia.
Norah Vincent Dies By Assisted Suicide
Sad stuff; Norah first fell into serious depression after living as a man and being shocked at how unfriendly the world seemed.
Can I just state for the record that I am heartily fed up with these weak whimpering navel-gazing drama queens and the endless urgent imaginary threats they simply must tell the world about?
In plain English: get over yourselves. Stop making a professional career out of your mental illness. I. Don’t. Care.
"All that worry you have is standard for women"
My lord, it's Joyce Benenson's Warriors and Worriers. According to her, men had to defend the band (often from other men) so the ones who survived had predispositions that made them good warriors. Since only women gestated, gave birth, and lactated, they had to stay with the kids or the kids died and band died out. So women evolved to be especially sensitive to anything that might hurt them or their kids, i.e., they are predisposed to be worriers.
One of those books that actually changes the way you see the world.
Blogger Dave Begley said...
“ I'm a woman and like all women, I must be aware of my surroundings and ready to flee or fight at all times."
Okay, Althouse community women! True?
Absolutely. I practice situational awareness daily, but not obsessively. 90% of the time I find people (both male and female) being kinder than I would expect. About 9.5% I am ignored (which is fine by me) and .5% I get the hell out of there.
I'm over 65 now, but as a college girl would go out with friends to bars. I am astounded to see and hear young women drinking and talking about how much they drink when they are partying. We looked out for each other; you didn't let someone who was incapacitated go off with someone they just met.
"Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable."
But not more vulnerable than men, who have much lower life expectancy, being more likely to die or get injured on the job, or become a victim of violent crime (committed by other men usually).
"today's anti-woman political climate"
True, the trans cult has invaded women's domain and introduced unfair competition and danger, but other than that, modern society is set up up for the convenience of women. School, college, office jobs, online shopping, entitlements, contraception, safe childbirth, fashion and entertainment, plenty of leisure, longer lives, dirty work left to men--what's not to like?
Gilbar said: "Serious question: Who is MORE Likely to be murdered? A man? Or a woman? Just asking." I understand the odds are about four to one. Men over women, that is.
If you're a man who chooses to 'become' a woman, you are having your cake and eating it too.
If you could also actually change your skin color to black (were you white) you would be untouchable. Large companies would have bidding wars trying to hire you.
You are not disadvantaged, you are the the queen of the world...
William mentioned above at 0749 that 1 in 8 women died (slowly and painfully) in childbirth during the 19th century. Today, due to the progress made by the overwhelmingly male medical profession of the 20th century, deaths in childbirth are rare, less than .01% in western civilized society. Men did essentially all the suffering and dying due to the wars of the 19th and 20th century, partially if not primarily to protect women from what other men would do to them.
Now women have taken over the medical profession and this is unlikely to change, but if/when men tire of sacrificing themselves to protect women from other men, women will regret it greatly.
'Yet, some males do want to "become female", so they must see some advantage to it.'
Elizabeth Warren unavailable for comment...
Trans never pass in the real world. They like to have everyone else be a supporting cast member in their little dramas.
The person writing this WPo piece has no idea what real women experience.
https://wildfernswellness.com/meet-the-team/
But it's men, not women, that are more likely to be the victims of violent crimes. While women may feel more vulnerable, it is men who have to worry more. See e.g. https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/men-women-and-crime
Didn't click, Nobody Cares.
Althouse
I beg you not to adopt the term cisgender. Made up word as a synonym for normal. Use normal. More normal.
"serious question: Who is MORE Likely to be murdered? a man? or a woman? just asking"
You would probably not be surprised at how many people don't know the answer to this question.
I have to admit, crowing about inequality past the time that it is true has been berry,berry good for women.
"anti-woman political climate."
What is a woman again?
Sloping toward peak lunacy . . .
Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable.
"ciswomen" are smaller because they have been women since birth. "Transwomen" used to be men and had years of testosterone to help them get bigger.
What a ridiculous statement.
"... especially in today's anti-woman political climate."
Take a look at Kristi Noem, Riley Gaines, Tulsi Gabbard, Candace Owens, Amy Barrett, Condi Rice, Nikki Haley, to name a few who are widely admired by normal people.
Anti-woman sentiments reflect lefty hatred for conservative women and normals' disdain for woke women who kill their babies, support mutilating other's children, etc., and vote their absurd beliefs. Although, in fairness, we dislike men who support such things as well.
As for fear of attack, the weak have always feared attack by the strong. It's not exclusive to women.
Oh by the way, everyone should be situationally aware when out in public.
1. I would really hate to be a man;
and
2. I really hate being a woman.
Now, what are the odds that this person is ever going to be happy?
This person wants all of the good points of being each sex, and none of the disadvantages. Call me when you figure out how to do that.
As far as murder rates go, aren't most of the male victims criminals themselves? In other words, if a man is not involved in crime, gangs, or drug trafficking, is the murder rate he faces really that much higher than for women?
And women are more at risk for murder in domestic circumstances, I think.
Ann Althouse said...
"I’m aware that, as a female woman (and a small one at that)..."
Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable.
And therefor obviously more protected by society as proven by murder and violent crime victimization rates.
Not just society though. Women are more protected by Men. Cis men and specifically married men.
Not Trans men or trans women who clearly have a tendency to be predators. Not the unmarried men with children who have a clear tendency to being predators as well.
Out of all of these groups who does Althouse and the other women decide they are going to attack?
Everyone at this point should be able to see where this is going and what the left wants.
It's hard to imagine a time in modern history when American women were safer, more supported, more *coddled* by both official/State policy and society/culture
That's because there hasn't been a time or place in human history where women have had it better than they do in the United States today.
The ciswoman or same sexual is a transgender spectrum class, but not a bloc, lest we exercise liberal license to indulge DIEversity dogma of the modern model.
"I'm a woman and like all women, I must be aware of my surroundings and ready to flee or fight at all times."
I can accept that on average, women may be more conscious of this fact than men, but men likewise must be aware of their surroundings and be ready to flee or fight at all times. Men usually have the additional pressure of societal expectations to "do something" when others, especially women and children, are threatened.
I'd wager that nearly all men do a quick calculation when entering a room or turning a corner, at least sub-consciously: "I can take that guy and that guy, but I'm definitely steering clear of that one over there, and that other guy looks like he's up to no good." Sooner or later, the ones who don't do that calculation are likely to become known as "victims."
While we're on the subject, how do particularly small men experience the world? How about older men or frail men? I think one of the more interesting challenges of aging for strong men who have been able to "handle themselves" throughout their lives is adjusting the average from "I can take that guy, if necessary," to "I need to appear like I'd be more trouble than I'm worth," and then to "I shouldn't be here."
As with many bromides about differential experiences across groups today, the truth is not binary, i.e., not only women perceive threats, not only Black kids receive "the talk," not only women get interrupted when speaking, etc. There may indeed be differences between groups, but they tend to be qualitative, not different in kind.
Tom T. said:
"And women are more at risk for murder in domestic circumstances, I think."
And, men are more at risk for being emotionally and verbally abused to the point that they commit suicide, because that's how women roll.
If you expand the definition of "abuse" to include everything that is abusive, then I think you'd find that there's a hell of a lot more parity. You do not ever see men's death by suicide or deliberately risky behavior due to their domestic misery being counted as a "murder", but it's a freakin' killing nonetheless.
It's a cliche to say it, but men generally settle their conflicts physically. You impinge on my space, I'm going to hit you; that damn simple. Women? Oh, man... It's all the catty non-physical verbal and emotional attacks that they do between each other, inflicted on the men in their lives they have conflict with, and there's not a damn thing the male can do in those circumstances to answer those attacks. Sure, if he were a woman, he could respond the way another woman would, but the raw fact is, most men are not equipped to do that. Which is why whenever I hear the words "domestic abuse", I have to wonder just what the hell was actually going on in that household. It's not always undeserved, when she gets her ass beaten in. When a woman is dealing with a man who has been properly socialized not to get physical with those smaller and weaker, and then takes that as a license to verbally abuse and insult him constantly? Well... Darlin', I hate to tell you this, but you're entering into a situation wherein I have very, very little sympathy for you.
Men fight with fists; women fight with words. They're equally at a disadvantage on each other's arena.
Women seem to think men never feel threatened or vulnerable. I’ve got news for you. Boys growing up always have to be looking over their shoulder in case a bully or a gang thug decides to beat on him just because. As an adult many men are afraid to walk alone down a dark street or alley not because of rape but just because there are mean people out there who get off on hurting people. If you’re a smaller guy, wear glasses, are too skinny or too fat you know what I’m talking about.
Example of the above:
I had a friend in the service, who was a happy-go-lucky guy when I first met him and worked with him. He was single, then he "found someone". We parted ways for a couple of years, and then wound up at the same assignment again. Mr. Happy had turned into Mr. Morose-and-Bitter, totally different guy than the one I'd known. No idea what happened... At first.
Then, I spent some time around him with his wife and family, and the light dawned. Frankly, if I'd have had to deal with her constant attacks, whining, and all the rest? I'd have probably snapped after a year or two, then been sitting there waiting for the cops after I beat her ass to death. Prison would have been worth it. That woman single-handedly convinced me never to marry, simply because of how nasty and emasculating she was. Every word out of her mouth was a denigrating insult, no matter what the subject was. He bought her a new car that she'd picked out and then blamed him for everything that went wrong with it, to include it being "too small" for the kids and her. He was driving a 15 year-old truck that constantly broke down because he couldn't afford to fix it, due to all the money they took in going to household expenses. The word "harpy" didn't do this nasty piece of work justice; she was utterly and entirely unforgiveable with everything she did. I spent a day helping him around the yard, once; in the space of about six hours, she said or did about a dozen things that would have had me calling a divorce lawyer. One example? We went in the kitchen to get some lunch; she comes in, right behind him, and throws the sandwich he'd just made himself into the trash, right in front of him, and then bitched about him "making a mess" in her kitchen. Which wouldn't have been so bad, but she never did a bit of housework the entire time I was around them; he cooked, he cleaned, and all she did was sit around watching TV.
Other wives refused to be around her, which is usually a pretty good sign that there's a problem. If she got involved in some family support group thing, the entire effort would collapse because nobody wanted to be around her and would quit participating.
She'd shown no signs whatsoever of this when they were first dating, during which time I'd known the two of them as a couple.
So far as I know, he just kept on keeping on, miserable as hell. Never a sign of abuse, but... Man, if I'd ever gotten a call to deal with it, I'd have understood it completely. I don't know how many times we'd see the crap she pulled on him in public, and everyone else, including some women, who'd be saying things like "Man, I can't believe he didn't beat her ass for that..."
I'd like to say that the situation resolved itself, but as far as I know, it never did. I know guys who knew him in Iraq and Afghanistan who commented that he seemed a lot happier deployed, and they couldn't wrap their heads around the insouciant manner in which he faced danger; it was like he would have seen death as a relief. I remember one guy telling me about watching him during a mortar attack on their FOB, where he just casually walked out to where he'd left something on a berm, got it, and walked back in, cool and calm as a cucumber. They described it as bravery; I'd say he just didn't care anymore.
Had he been killed, his name would never have been counted as being due to domestic abuse, but there you go: Most men whose spouses kill them aren't actually killed directly. Their souls died years before.
Absolutely. I practice situational awareness daily
So do I! You are a fool not to.
The day is coming when 99% of every job and position that's non-manual will be women, and we'll still hear how they're disadvantaged.
If women are perpetually worried about being violently assaulted, why do so few of them get concealed carry permits?
Biff said,
And look for exits. Always know where the exits are and how close you are to them. Given a choice I prefer to leave.
"If women are perpetually worried about being violently assaulted, why do so few of them get concealed carry permits?"
Because they want someone else to do it for them. They want someone else to provide the 100% safety they believe they deserve and are entitled to. They want this while at best failing to acknowledge those creating their 99.5% safe society and at worst berating the providers (men) that they're "not doing enough" because it's not perfect.
Never ask an Upper East Side Becky about what she's doing herself for her safety...that's the doorman's job.
Ann Althouse said "Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable." Not true. All women are, in general, likely to be smaller. This has nothing to do with whether the radical alphabet people call them cis-gender, agender, bi, two-spirited, or one of the many other options they have invented over the last few years. It has everything to do with their XX chromosomes and the natural sexual dimorphism of home sapiens. Women who are 'trans' and passing as men will still on average be smaller. You can't get around that.
"Welcome to my world. The way it's been for me now for 66 years. I'm a woman and like all women, I must be aware of my surroundings and ready to flee or fight at all times."
You know we're no longer in the caveman era, right?
When people at Ivy League universities report sexual assault rates similar to high-crime areas in Brazil or Chad or other places around the world, honest people have questions.
Why would you volunteer to be in a place where there is a "1 in 4" chance you will be sexually assaulted?
I avoid bars where there is a "1 in 4" chance I will be sexually assaulted.
Innocent people avoid places where there's a significant threat of sexual assault.
The feminist statistics are massively inflated by drunken hook-ups where sober people have regrets. There is almost zero chance that sober women at Ivy League universities are at risk of violent sexual assault. It's exceedingly rare and I don't think feminism is helping or serving women by pretending like your first world existence is similar to what women around the world are facing.
All you Ivy League people are privileged as shit. Nobody feels like you are victims and your "victimhood" aggravates the shit out of people who have to work for a living.
One of the reasons men actively seek to avoid prison is that the likelihood of getting raped dramatically escalates in prison. I don't know what the number is and I don't need to know. "Avoid prison," is my motto.
Humanists who are upset about rape might do something to help all the men who are raped in prison. It might make you a nicer person to think about male victims and why female life expectancy is far higher than male life expectancy.
There's no question in my mind that men are more prone to violence than women, and in many ways are more dangerous than women. But women do a lot of violence too, although it's unrecognized in our feminist world. It's not men who have a "license to kill" unwanted babies. Women have that right, given to them by nine unelected male dictators. Smart feminists might think about that shit and wonder why terminating babies is where feminism should go.
Just saying, I am not a feminist, I am a humanist. (I got that from Meryl Streep, back before you mean bitches scared the shit out of her).
“Someday, this pro-woman political climate - unprecedented in human history - is going to end. When it does, you have to wonder if future women will look back like Charlton Heston in planet of the apes at some totem of the bygone golden age and scream "Damn it all! You stupid bitches! You blew it all up!"”
I see it happening already. Many guys no longer automatically hold the door for women. Or do it for attractive ones. I go the opposite ones - the older, infirm ones, or those with several kids in tow.
Or do it for attractive ones. I go the opposite ones - the older, infirm ones, or those with several kids in tow
I am an equal opportunity offender, and most women enjoy the gesture in the good faith it is offered. That said, I will not leave the door to close in anyone's face, and a helping hand in a humane gesture when it is called. In my estimation, both women and men respond generously, and do not assume an ulterior motive.
Someone above pointed out that women are much more the worriers than men are. We got into this discussion recently, when my partner was being eso ridiculous (in my view) about worrying about something that I didn’t think was worth worrying about. She has an exceedingly fast mind, and thinks quickly on her feet. I told her, that if the thing that she was worrying about came to pass, that she would do just like I would, which is to improvise and talk fast. I know, after. 20 years, when she is doing this - she actually does start speaking more quickly, and I know that when she speeds up like this, she is faking it. She is better than almost anyone I know at this, including me. So, why does she insist on worrying about it so much, causing her stomach pain and diarrhea? We have had our response, should it happen, planned out for almost six months.
The conversation then generalized from that. I asked her if my preference for worry warts as serious girl friends and wives, for the last half century was essentially because my mother was one. My type (which also includes straight As in college, etc). Previous GF told me that she was second in her class in HS, and swore that that would never happen again. I told her I understand exactly - that was my mother, graduating first in her class at U IL in 1945. I was never that driven, so wondered whether the worrying was tied to the drive my type of women exhibit. She gave the counter example of her daughter, who, while smart enough, was a lackadaisical student.
I don’t worry very much, or very often, and much is probably due to the difference in biological sex. As noted, women are worriers, esp, I think when they become mothers. One female friend of mine whom I have known for a half a century, told me of hitchhiking a lot in the early 1970s, before she had kids, of course. But the evolutionary programming for males is different. We need to be able to jump in and defend women and children, in a heartbeat, even if that means going to war. We are expendable. Why did the Mormons practice polygamy during much of the 19th Century? Because they had many more women than men. They probably attracted more female converts, but the big problem was the death toll of the men, who settled esp Utah, with Indians, little good water, etc. It’s easy to forget that they were decades ahead of much of the west being settled. And, the men brought their women with them, instead of being able to send back east, when things settled down. By the time they outlawed it (and gained statehood as a result), their sex ratio had normalized. In any case, I look back through my life, and there were many times when I did things that most women wouldn’t. It’s just the way we are wired. 5 boys, and we all did it. The probabilities came up with the youngest, senior at Dartmouth, Deans List, etc, and he died in a stupid climbing accident. It could have happened to any of us. The two oldest not only climbed and ski raced, but also drove our father’s car way too fast. Buried the (120 mph) speedometer frequently, Etc.
“I am an equal opportunity offender, and most women enjoy the gesture in the good faith it is offered. That said, I will not leave the door to close in anyone's face, and a helping hand in a humane gesture when it is called. In my estimation, both women and men respond generously, and do not assume an ulterior motive.”
Maybe I should be. But I am over 70, and young women should probably be opening the door for me, not me for them. I am cynical, in that I don’t think that, as a gender, they deserve it any more. Society has greatly advantaged women over men, in recent years. They have significant advantages all the way through school, and the imbalance is getting very problematic in college now. It’s almost always the boys who are drugged into female complacency in elementary school. With women so outnumbering men in college these days, many young women have to aggressive pursue men, very often using sex in the pursuit, but when the relationship ends, colleges seem to automatically side with the women. And in sexual harassment cases in businesses, it is never asked how provocatively the woman was dressed. The guy came onto her, but either it was the wrong guy, or she didn’t get the expected benefit. No matter - he is the guilty one.
These people are exhausting. They'd simply be boring if they left the rest of us alone. But they don't. And they won't.
I can't wait until this stupid fad has run its course.
"Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable." I see we are once again in the devaluation stage of the narcissistic abuse cycle that is the Althouse blog.
Like other women I practice situational awareness (no earbuds while on the street, being aware of who is walking behind me) but I'm not petrified 24/7 nor am I in flight/fight mode. As others have said, this "person" is just wallowing in drama and wants everyone else in the world to glom on. Their pretending is offensive.
Blastfax Kudos (great name!) was right on with his Charlton Heston-like quote. I'm so sick of these women and their constant bleating about things that just don't exist. But then, I don't really think women should be mixing it up in politics. It's not our realm. We are too emotional and latch on to issues/positions that are not logical, and which do nothing but cause more stress.
@Bruce Hayden: I see the intentional lack of deference to women (holding doors open, etc.) and don't blame men at all. It's too bad. But those of us who do act and dress in a more feminine manner still get treated nicely. It's amazing what a nice smile and a thank you will do!
“Yes, ciswomen are likely to be smaller and therefore more vulnerable.”
Heh. Meet CCW CisWoman!
Dear Bruce,
That was very personal and very sad.
"The probabilities came up with the youngest, senior at Dartmouth, Deans List, etc, and he died in a stupid climbing accident. It could have happened to any of us."
Men and women are very different. If your brother had been a sister that probably wouldn't have happened. That's reality. Men are generally risk takers, aggressive, like thrills involving adrenaline. Thats what we love about them until the bad things happen and then we are saddened beyond belief. It's the reason why men have a substantially lower lifespan. They are hard-lined that way. Women are generally kind, emotive, expressive but very careful. As mothers they nurture us and protect us. Their love is intense. That's what we love about them too. Ahh, yin vs yang.
I like the French approach to sexual differences, "Vive la difference!!" Depending on your perspective the opposite is so beautiful, attractive and intriguing but a little mysterious. A little mystery is always good. What say you Ann and Meade. I'm sure there is more than a little mystery. At least I hope so. "Vive la difference!!"
rrsafety said...
"The transwoman has a super power ... the power of surprise!"
Dude looked like a lady.
Most young people just want to fit in somewhere. If you weren't a jock in the 60s, you grew your hair long and fit in with the hippies. The same tribal urge to fit in is playing out today except the physical and mental costs are higher and deadlier.
If that scared, one could employ an "equalizer" of sorts. But then, probably voted against that..
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