April 11, 2022

"I once believed that I would be more successful finding love as a woman than as a man, but in truth, few straight men are interested..."

"... in having a physical relationship with a person who was born the same sex as them. In high school, when I experienced crushes on my male classmates, I believed that the only way those feelings could be requited was if I altered my body. It turned out that several of those crushes were also gay. If I had confessed my interest, what might have developed? Alas, the rampant homophobia in my school during the AIDS crisis smothered any such notions. Today, I have resigned myself to never finding a partner.... From the day of my surgery, I became a medical patient and will remain one for the rest of my life.... I was still a virgin when I went in for surgery.... I chose an irreversible change before I’d even begun to understand my sexuality. The surgeon deemed my operation a good outcome, but intercourse never became pleasurable.... The prospect of sex can be intimidating. But sex is essential in healthy relationships. Give it a chance before permanently altering your body."

From "What I wish I’d known when I was 19 and had sex reassignment surgery" by Corinna Cohn, who is now 50. The article is — surprisingly — in The Washington Post.

ADDED: Cohn writes "It turned out that several of those crushes were also gay." Also gay? That would seem to need to mean that Cohn is/was a gay man and not transgender at all. The warning is: You'd better make absolutely sure you're not gay.

76 comments:

Sebastian said...

"I chose an irreversible change before I’d even begun to understand my sexuality."

This is the essential cruelty of the trans craze as it affects young people.

"Give it a chance before permanently altering your body."

Well, yeah. But that means resisting the prog vanguard and their attack on your body for ideological purposes.

Readering said...

Seems like a product of her receding time. Homophobia not vanished, but not a block to finding same sex partner. Maybe not in school, but in wider US. I have contemporaries who grew up and remained closeted, but I find it hard to imagine that still the case for the young except in some religious/immigrant communities.

Michael K said...

He was always gay. I wonder who got him on the trannie track?

Jupiter said...

"Alas, the rampant homophobia in my school during the AIDS crisis smothered any such notions."

This person is talking about the early 90's, presumably in a town where there was no problem finding a surgeon willing to cut his balls off and turn his dick inside out. Which means that this person has always been completely divorced from reality.

rhhardin said...

Drama club was historically the gay mecca.

traditionalguy said...

Reality struck back hard. But he understood too late that it was all a scam by medical con artists to make money.

MadisonMan said...

I once believed that I would be more successful finding love as a woman than as a man...
The grass is greener over there. Let me just hop this fence and my life will be so easy!
I wonder what circumstances led his young self to think he was so unloveable.

Mr. Majestyk said...

I hate the term "sex reassignment." One's sex is not arbitrarily "assigned" at birth. One's status as male or female is an objective fact rooted in one's biological makeup. (Even Looney Tunes soon-to-be Justice Jackson recognizes as much.)

jpg said...

JFC! How could anyone believe that he could turn himself into a woman and a straight man would want that?

Lem the artificially intelligent said...

The solution has to come from some kind of ethical agreement by the medical profession. Legislation would certainly make the now not so major problem much worse.

Krumhorn said...

Yeah, I always get a real nice boner when I'm around a fah-reek who is looking for luv. There are no beer googles opaque enough to make that work.

- Krumhorn

WK said...

“I was a better man with you as a woman than I ever was with a woman as a man” - Tootsie

It’s always the single mom that seems to move children down the transsexual path.

Jupiter said...

I am still continually astonished, not that surgeons can be found who will perform this butchery, but that they are not behind bars. He prescribed ivermectin? Pull his license, he's a menace to his patients! Oh, wait, it was prescribed as post-surgery treatment, after hacking the healthy genitalia off the patient's body? Well, I guess that's OK then.

Wince said...

Direct intervention by activists working in the schools is not likely to help the suffering of people like Cohn.

gilbar said...

wait! i have response to that! (here it comes).. Ha Ha, SUCKER!!!
You cut your dick off!! You cunt your dick off!! HAHAHAHAHAHAH

gilbar said...

I'm sorry to be laughing at people's Mental Illnesses.. But it's either that or cry

Dude1394 said...

I wonder who groomed the poor person.

Being in the Washington post I have to assume the democrat jornolist is thinking about mitigating some of the grooming political damage they are taking.

JPS said...

"Today, I have resigned myself to never finding a partner."

That's sad. This was a thoughtful piece. I think it was offered in the hope of helping other people find happiness, or at least acceptance by themselves and others. So I hope Cohn turns out to be wrong.

The Godfather said...

How sad. We have an unhappy young man, a gay young man, who wasn't able to find an agreeable relationship, so he is led, somehow, by someone(s?), to believe that if he "became" a woman, he would find the relationship he wanted. With a straight man?

I am ambivalent about capital punishment, but I wouldn't strongly object to it for any physician who performed such an "operation" under such circumstances.

Mason G said...

"(Even Looney Tunes soon-to-be Justice Jackson recognizes as much.)"

Of course she does. She just couldn't say so because if she answered the question honestly, she wouldn't be welcome to sit at the cool kids' table at lunch anymore.

Anyone this emotionally stunted has no business on the Supreme Court.

Flat Tire said...

What a sickening tragedy. I can't access the article but I think it took a lot of courage to write it. I fear the WaPo comments will be horrifying.

Narayanan said...

Soon to come schools near >>> sex-equity resource officer/counselor

Bunkypotatohead said...

Of the few homos and trannies I've met, their sexual confusion was just a small part of their overall mental disfunction. Decision making doesn't come easily when you're disconnected from the reality of nature.

n.n said...

I wonder who groomed the poor person.

First, there was social liberalism and the accompanying sexual revolution. They groomed girls to be appointed, available, and taxable, with a wicked fallback solution, and encouraged boys to indulge masculinism. There were trans/homo males present in positions of authority at churches, schools, Boy Scouts, social clubs, etc. to groom their Posterity. Then came the social justice-mongers who offered to profit from the corruption and dysfunction that they had progressed. They think that they can abort the baby, cannibalize her profitable parts, sequester her carbon pollutants, and have her, too. A neat trick, if they can pull it off by choice, Choice, or force, and there are diverse precedents that justify their forward-looking optimism. Time will tell, if it will happen again, and again, and again, here. That said, be wary of anyone who exercises liberal license to indulge diversity [dogma] (i.e. color judgment, class-based bigotry) in order to judge, paint, cancel, or otherwise deny individual dignity, individual conscience, and intrinsic value.

stephen cooper said...

I am constantly amazed at the cruelty and unkindness that stories like this trigger on comment sections.

Anyway, the author writes a lot on the internet, and there are some details not in the Washington Post column...

Basically, this was an awkward young male gay person with absolutely no experience of dating, or romantic relationships, who thought, after being introduced in his late teens (in the early 90s) to the 'trans world' in internet chat rooms (run, unfortunately, mostly by 'transitioning' middle aged men with wives and children, who were a very different type of transexual than the author) that he would be healthy and have a good chance at finding love with a man if he transitioned to female. The author now knows, looking back, that the experience of hormones and reassignment surgery, seen from the viewpoint of 30 years in the past, led to an adult life almost completely lacking in romantic or sexual relationships (the lack of romantic relationships is not explained, but probably had a lot to do with low SMV - sexual marketplace value and no desire to settle for someone with a similar low SMV value - and the lack of sexual relationships was explained by an unsuccessful vaginoplasty(from what the author calls the 'pleasure' point of view - but this cannot be a full explanation).

The author also notes that, after sex reassignment surgery, follow-on surgeries (for example, to make the face look less masculine), were declined. The author also seems to express some gratitude he did not die from AIDS (the author was never a promiscuous homosexual).
Leaving aside the surgery, and the details that are not all that common - declining further surgeries that are less drastic than vaginoplasty, growing up with a fear of AIDS - the story is now a typical one for lots of unmarried 50 year olds who were young people in the 90s - who can remember hopeful days in their 20s when love seemed around the corner, and not only love but a happy family and a secure, comfortable life. Well, that happens for many people - probably happens for most people who have a normal modicum of physical health and are not mentally ill - but we all know that, often - maybe almost half the time - it does not happen.

The details vary, but the fact remains that for many people, their joy in this world simply cannot depend on having an attractive spouse and a prospering family, because those good and wonderful things simply are not available to many people - never were, in fact (and even when people are fortunate enough to have those things, there are other problems, and also the realization that good fortune in this world does not last forever). In this case, a bad vaginoplasty, an inability to attract a man into a romantic relationship are the stated reasons for a lonely life - but a lonely life, at 50, with all the accompanying regrets - is far from unusual, even if most people don't have a bad vaginoplasty to blame.
In sum, there has to be something more in this world to make us not unhappy than ... than whatever it is the author is complaining about having missed out on (as many un-partnered, and many partnered, people know!). Well, God loves us all, and there's that - to put it in context.

William said...

Some incidental facts I've run across....The British surgeons during the Crimean War resisted the introduction of chloroform. They thought that the pain and shock of amputations in some way aided the patient's recovery....The "science" of phrenology was discovered by the preeminent neurologist of that era....Psychoanalysis does not cure mental illness... Joseph Kennedy had access to the best doctors of his day, and he wanted to do the right thing for his daughter. So frontal lobotomy it was....People can be well meaning and well informed and do the wrong thing. I get the feeling that there are better ways to treat obesity than bariatric surgery and better ways to handle non-binary sexuality than by cutting of one's penis.

M said...

So he didn’t believe he was a woman, he wanted to be able to attract heterosexual men which for women odd reason is a big fantasy with gay men in general. How many trans are gay guys who think they could get more guys if they were women?

c365 said...

Someone else is always to blame. But of course it has to be the people who hold traditional values at fault, not those who sold false ideas of happiness that are entirely dependent on medical delusion.

Enigma said...

This was an issue from the very early days of sex reassignment surgery. The trouble is that those fixated on personal issues demand change to test solutions. Without receiving or accepting critical feedback, they'll literally die before giving up. Zealots will be zealots. Radicals will be radicals.

"In 1979, SBCU Chair Jon Meyer conducted a study comparing 29 patients who had the surgery and 21 who didn’t, and concluded that those who had the surgery were not more adjusted to society than those who did not have the surgery. Meyer told The New York Times in 1979: “My personal feeling is that surgery is not proper treatment for a psychiatric disorder, and it’s clear to me that these patients have severe psychological problems that don’t go away following surgery.”

https://www.jhunewsletter.com/article/2014/05/hopkins-hospital-a-history-of-sex-reassignment-76004/

farmgirl said...

So- let me get this straight. A young gay man kept getting crushes on young men who were not gay- expecting reciprocated attention and when that didn’t happen- ever- he figured he would get what he wanted by transitioning.
I don’t think they’re teaching biology any more in school. Maybe they should push tried and true SCIENCE SCIENCE SCIENCE more vigorously in school.

I thought “above my pay grade” was the most condescending phrase to hear.
Now, “I don’t know, I’m not a biologist” is giving it a run for it’s money, Sister.

I hope this person finds healing in truth.

wendybar said...

Yet the media (Chris Hayes) is crying about the child abuse Texas is committing, by stopping this from happening to CHILDREN. NOTHING should be done to change their bodies UNTIL they are adults and can pay for it themselves. Then and only then. Leave the KIDS alone.

Quaestor said...

Alas, the rampant homophobia in my school during the AIDS crisis smothered any such notions.

How odd. Not very probable is it, a school plagued by an irrational fear of sameness?

My god, this pencil is functionally identical to that pencil. Aieeeeee! Run for the hills!

Painfully obvious joke set aside, I, too, am perplexed by the number of surgeons who are willing to excise healthy tissue, not for any truly defensible medical reason, but for money. Let's be honest, if not for Obama-Care's robbery of the working poor to supply cock-removal services for the comfortable and indolent there wouldn't be a small army of surgeons performing "sex reassignment procedures" pro bono, would there? To my mind, this puts physicians a couple rungs lower than tattoo artists on the ascending ladder of ethical soundness -- a least a tattoo isn't a permanently unhealed wound.

I must tar the medical profession generally with the same brush because this insanity could be curtailed if the AMA had the balls to face the wrath of the tiny minority of Americans who are comfortable with this mutilation mania. But no, they'd rather have the second home in Aspen and the Maserati. German medicos did little or nothing to resist Hitler's T4 euthanasia program, either, so this isn't a new phenomenon, just the fever swamp at the foot of the slippery slope.

Amadeus 48 said...

Mid-twenties, minimum, for a "transition".

Watchful waiting should be the order of the day for younger people.

West TX Intermediate Crude said...

Better to be delusional than delusional and mutilated.

West TX Intermediate Crude said...

Better to be delusional than delusional and mutilated.

exhelodrvr1 said...

Someone is about to be canceled.

BUMBLE BEE said...

Bunkypotatohead... Copy that! I know a gay who goes out of his way to counsel "Trannys" about their circumstances. He has to limit himself because "they're really fucked up". His evaluation is that their sexuality is the least of their problems. Lotta suicides post op.

What's emanating from your penumbra said...

Where are the incentives to resist the impulses of your own mental illness in this pathetic utopian culture progressives and Democrats are hoisting on us? Incentives matter.

Christopher B said...

Homophobia is real even if it is underground. 'Trans' is mostly socially acceptable homophobia in post-modern Western society.

gilbar said...

Quaestor hits the nail on the head, when he said...
..perplexed by the number of surgeons who are willing to excise healthy tissue, not for any truly defensible medical reason, but for money. Let's be honest, if not for Obama-Care's robbery of the working poor to supply cock-removal services for the comfortable and indolent there wouldn't be a small army of surgeons performing "sex reassignment procedures" pro bono, would there?

WHEN did "sex changes" start? 50 years ago or so?
WHEN did the number of "sex changes" EXPLODE? When O'Bama-Care odered insurance to PAY for them

If your 12 year old "boy" wants 'top-surgery' and you Want 'him' to get it; WHY AREN'T YOU paying for it?

IF YOU as a 'doctor' Really think this surgery is 'necessary', Why aren't YOU paying for it?

Does O'Bama care cover boob jobs for XX'ers? Then WHY does it for XY'ers?
Does O'Bama care cover penile enlargements for XY'ers? Then WHY does it for XX'ers?
Cosmetic Surgery is Cosmetic, NOT medical

Rory said...

"Today, I have resigned myself to never finding a partner."

George Costanza: "My dream is to become hopeless. When you're hopeless, you don't care, and when you don't care, that indifference makes you attractive."

Jim said...

Stephen Cooper, if I could heart your comment I would. I’m glad that the gay friends that I grew up with were not persuaded that they were really women. It seems like every young person has a bumpy path to adulthood. Sex is just one piece of that puzzle.

Lurker21 said...

I remember Time magazine's first 50 Leaders for the Future issue back in the 1970s. Some lady from NOW was quoted as saying something like "I don't believe that gender should be a very big part of how individuals relate to society." What happened to that idea? Today, it seems, gender is everything. It's the transgender moment and the T has knocked the G and the poor Ls, Bs, Qs and Qs off the front page.

At the bottom of a lot of this, IMHO, is that some men are more "masculine" and some less and some women are more "feminine" and some less. Hormones may have much to do with that. There's more to biology than just chromosomes. But rather than address that and expand our notions of what males and females are or can be, society seems to have bought into the idea that those more stereotypical ideas of masculinity and femininity are the norm and that the many outliers are somehow misgendered and belong to the opposite sex or have yet another gender or no gender at all.

If you were "assigned male" and grew up in the Robert/Rachel Levine, Mark Milley generation you probably had to put up with a lot of (what I would call) stupid bullshit: Boy Scouts, football, hockey, Playboy, shop class, maybe ROTC, maybe a fraternity. If you thought all that was stupid too it could have taken you a lot of time and trouble to figure out who you really were, but I doubt that who you were was really a woman.

I am going through my late brother's papers. I'm finding a lot of (to me boring and stupid bullshit) stuff about ultrasonic spectroanalysis and titanium alloys and a lot of (to me) interesting observations about his life and times. Possibly, I'm hanging on to a lot of banal personal notes and throwing out a Nobel-winning scientific thesis -- I don't think so. Anyway a lot of people are "misgendered" in the sense that they were forced into a narrower conception of who they are or what they can be. That doesn't mean that they are actually of the opposite gender.

Mike (MJB Wolf) said...

Transmania is a mass hysteria at this point and the more articles and publicity that people like this public are necessary to rein in the madness. One cannot know mid-puberty what exactly one will think and feel in adulthood. Trading in God-given parts for man made ones means never knowing what they should feel like. Most of these people who undergo surgery never experience an orgasm. WTF ever happened to the Hippocratic Oath, “first do no harm”?

Mike (MJB Wolf) said...

The political push for transmania is a separate more recent issue and worse than indulging confusion teens. Progressives have organized to purposely destroy the family unit in the guise of education, which is the only reason the so-called “don’t say gay” law is prompting such hysteria among educators and groomers like Disney. If these Marxist creeps can’t drive a wedge between the little kids using CRT and CGT (gender theory) then they risk losing the cultural conflict raging since the 1960s.

Critter said...

Society will look back at the trans push and wonder how we could be so careless about confused people with psychological problems. We rail against big pharma and other for-profit enterprises that prey on the weak and vulnerable but not for the growing trans industry? All the technology in the world does not buy wisdom.

tolkein said...

But the surgeon and doctors got paid. They're happy. And the activists. Too bad about the casualties. Can't make omelettes without a few broken eggs, after all.

The serious point is that gender transition shouldn't be rushed and that adolescents, who are not mature adults, are not qualified to make such life changing decisions without a lot of critical counselling.

ConradBibby said...

There are a couple of major delusions at issue here that don't get enough attention. The first is that trans people transition from male to female or female to male. The reality is that the transition is from male or female to "trans." The victims of this movement think they're changing to the opposite sex, but they instead get mired in a third category that nobody sets out for as an end result. (I think that anyone who identifies as a TRANS-male or TRANS-female as much admits this reality. If the transition were successful and complete, the "TRANS" part of that label would be redundant.)

The second big delusion is that normal (non-dysmorphic) people can be goaded/guilted into accepting trans people as romantic partners by casting it as a civil rights issue, or as just something that decent people should do. Obviously, when it comes to selecting one's own romantic partner, people don't make decisions based on notions of the greater societal good. If they're turned off by the fact that someone was born XX or XY, or for any other reason, that's pretty much it, and no amount of positive media messaging around trans people is going to change that.

Jefferson's Revenge said...

I have always found the concept of looking for true love to be self defeating and sad. A proactive attempt to find love usually leads to serious compromises, like the 35 yr. old single female who wants a husband to start a family and who basically hopes for the best. I tried to tell a nephew once that he should live a full life and then love will find him rather than look for love and forget about giving a full life. Cart before horse. Make yourself worth loving as best that you can.

Joe Smith said...

'It turned out that several of those crushes were also gay.'

So good gaydar.

This person is not very astute if they thought having surgery to mimic the look of a woman would attract heterosexual male partners.

In what universe?

They should have just been happy to be a gay man. Would have saved a lot of physical pain at least...

MayBee said...

Also gay? That would seem to need to mean that Cohn is/was a gay man and not transgender at all. The warning is: You'd better make absolutely sure you're not gay.

Isn't that the whole problem? How in the world do you know if you are transgender? You don't know how other people feel, let alone how it feels to be a different gender. You only know what is in your own head.

I'm sure he thought women could find more love because, as a man (boy) around other men (boys) he knew how driven men are to find a sexual partner. How easy it would be to find love as a woman, when men lust after women all the time! But when you are a woman, you know that not to be true. You know it can be really hard to find someone to love you.

Before Transparent got really awful, there was an amazing scene with Moira at a bar, kind of hitting on an attractive man. Before Moira transitioned, he had been a successful upper middle class professional man, so although not incredibly handsome, he could still attract younger attractive women.
But as a woman, he was not attractive at all. Being an upper middle class, professional, dowdy woman did not have the same results with men. It was really eye opening to him, and heart wrenching and hard.

It's why I can't abide by talk about "gender confirmation" surgery. It isn't that. It's a choice someone makes, and while I absolutely believe they have the feelings they have, they can't actually know what their experience in a new body, as a new gender will be. They will still have the same brain, and the same feelings, and they won't ever know if their thoughts and emotions match their current body presentation or not.

Craig Howard said...

This is, with a couple exceptions, the nastiest comment thread I have ever read on this blog.

The boy’s story of growing up gay but unable to accept it because of peer pressure is heart-breaking in itself. And then his subsequent “solution” of trying to become a woman to appear correct for society and realizing too late it was a mistake is terrifying.

I, like most of the commenters here am disgusted by the modern trans lobby. But to pour that disgust onto its victims is unusually cruel.

robother said...

Once again, I am amazed at the projection on the part of the Left. "Don't say gay" is a perfect characterization of the system that entrapped this gay man into thinking transitioning to a woman was the only way to deal with his sexuality. (Isn't forced transitioning the Islamic solution to gayness too?) But the Left (with its echo chamber of the MSM) insists that Florida's laws seeking to prevent the very brainwashing this young boy went through is "Don't Say Gay."

RoseAnne said...

Between 1955 and 1975 nearly 60K American men died in the Vietnam War. What happens in one generation impacts succeeding generations. Someone's "one true love" may have died 10 years before they started looking as a 19 year-old draftee.

Gravel said...

"The warning is: You'd better make absolutely sure you're not gay."

Stipulated. Now just think how much more critical that warning is when you're dealing with children.

I don't give a rat fart in a hurricane what fully grown adults decide to do (as long as they don't ask me to participate), but the chemical castration and surgical mutilation of children is, to borrow a biblical term, an abomination. The parents, physicians, and politicians who enable and participate in this horror deserve ... very serious punishment. Maybe even biblical.

Joe Smith said...

'Homophobia is real even if it is underground.'

I don't think many people are actually afraid of homosexuals.

Although I do get a bit anxious when I have to walk through that part of the city controlled by the Paul Lynde gang.

They might want to give me an unwanted makeover.

PM said...

30 years ago. An OG. Not Jorgensen level, but still a bold, albeit sad, move.

Freeman Hunt said...

I think anyone who performs sex reassignment surgery on a 19-year-old should be in jail. That's way too young.

Tina Trent said...

It's in WaPo because it's clickbait for asking for subscribers.

I get it: it's throw a bone day.

Tina Trent said...

Craig: do you see what they say about women regularly in the comments? Grow a thicker skin. You haven't chosen to speak out about cruelty in general. Picking and choosing your outrage is also low behavior.

Interested Bystander said...

One would think a competent doctor would screen for things like, oh I don't know, is the patient really gay and not trans at all. It would have saved this poor person a lot of pain and money. There should be at least a two year waiting period between the time a patient asks for sex reassignment surgery and when it happens. Doesn't need to be a law. It could just be part of the medical protocol that docs agree on. I suspect a lot of them are just in it for the money. If you don't operate you don't get paid.

Two-eyed Jack said...

There was a time, up to the late 90's, I'd say, when trans-women were quite rare. It was possible to pass without being seen as trans. Most people just didn't have the category in their heads, so there was nothing to slot that not-entirely-feminine look into. Young men really could disappear into a trans identity.

Today everyone knows "the look," it is on TV and in the workplace, so there are not going to be any more "Lola, L-O-L-A, Lola" moments. (Similarly, it is now impossible not to see breast implants. Human perception is quite trainable.)

rcocean said...

the Left cries "I'm the victim" as it strikes you.

The Cracker Emcee Refulgent said...

"In high school, when I experienced crushes on my male classmates, I believed that the only way those feelings could be requited was if I altered my body."

Biff isn't into me. Maybe if I mutilate myself, Biff will be into me. Biff still isn't into me.

And they say it isn't a mental illness. Tragic and criminal.

The Cracker Emcee Refulgent said...


"This is, with a couple exceptions, the nastiest comment thread I have ever read on this blog."

I don't think the nastiness is actually aimed at the victim here, Craig. But rather at his criminally stupid and viciously indifferent enablers, who care only for their vanity.

Narayanan said...

If you don't operate you don't get paid.
=========
for such surgeries to proceed >>> done in hospitals or private clinics with mortgage/investors to pay?

and paid for by?

Interested Bystander said...

Blogger William said...
Some incidental facts I've run across....The British surgeons during the Crimean War resisted the introduction of chloroform. They thought that the pain and shock of amputations in some way aided the patient's recovery....The "science" of phrenology was discovered by the preeminent neurologist of that era....Psychoanalysis does not cure mental illness... Joseph Kennedy had access to the best doctors of his day, and he wanted to do the right thing for his daughter. So frontal lobotomy it was....People can be well meaning and well informed and do the wrong thing. I get the feeling that there are better ways to treat obesity than bariatric surgery and better ways to handle non-binary sexuality than by cutting of one's penis.

4/12/22, 12:23 AM


It is sad that like most other disciplines, there are fads in medicine. Right now with the vigorous push from Human Rights Campaign and other radical gay organizations, pushing sexually confused young people toward transexualism is the hot new thing. Who cares if it's exactly the worst thing that could happend to someone. So many young girls enter puberty wishing they could have the sexual freedom and social privelige they think boys have so they convince themselves life would be better as a man. They see what they want to see and seem blind to the challenges of growing up male. The natural male competitiveness, the constant fear of being branded gay, the constant fear of being bullied.

William, above, listed several of the fads that medicine has gone through. We could add low fat diets, low sodium diets, avoidance of caffiene, cannabis causes birth defects, caffiene causes birth defects. Hell, back before we knew for a fact that tobacco causes cancer docs would suggest taking up smoking to lose some weight or smoking to calm one's nerves. Or more recently, going from one extreme to the other and back again on prescribing opiates for pain. They didn't give enough. Then they gave too much. Then they swing back to not giving enough because too many people couldn't control their cravings and got addicted so now the peope with real chronic pain have to suffer.

Doctors are like the rest of us. They jump on the latest fad because that's what their peers are doing and don't do enough personal research to find the truth. It's not good for us as individuals or as a society.

One more quick comment. Those of you who are so quick to say cruel and heartless things about gay people and trans people, you probably know gay people in your circle and aren't even aware they're gay. No one wakes up one morning and says, "You know, I think my life would be better if I were gay." It's not the easy way to go and I believe most gay people don't choose to be gay. It's just something they happen to be.

ccscientist said...

As I have said before, children and even teens do now know about sex. A teen who is a virgin and has had no lasting romantic relationships cannot be sure about this stuff. It is criminal to do surgery and hormones for them. For children it is even worse--they have not the slightest idea what man or woman means or who they are attracted to. If a man is attracted to men it certainly does not mean he is really a woman. There is a category for this.
As this poor sap found out, most men and certainly gay men do not want sex with a artificial woman.

Lloyd W. Robertson said...

Now get 8-year-olds weighing these choices, and corresponding issues about relationships and one's future. Make sure to give them plenty of homework. What could possibly go wrong?

Skeptical Voter said...

Well the decision is a big one--fraught with irreversible consequences. And while I appreciate Stephen Cooper's comments and additional information re the writer---the decision is still a big one. And I seriously question why folks believe that it's appropriate for a child to make the trans decision.

The Cracker Emcee Refulgent said...

“for such surgeries to proceed >>> done in hospitals or private clinics with mortgage/investors to pay?”

Of course, that’s going to be peanuts compared to the massive lawsuits which are inevitably coming in a few years. Nothing rips up a narrative like a high-stakes lawsuit.

Rollo said...

Sad story. Gay men certainly won't want you more if you become a woman. Neither will straight men. You're better off not having such expectations.

Something will break the current confusion. Maybe a return to traditional conceptions of gender and sex. Maybe pansexualism. Maybe growing asexuality.

farmgirl said...

But MayBee- if transgenders use hormones to alter their bodies, these hormones also play a number on their brains, emotions and the expressions thereof. It no longer remains the “same” brain. In my opinion. The same for the nervous wiring of the body- mapped out uniquely and individually by G*d. One cut of the knife through this wiring and it’s never the same.

Self mutilation.
That would most likely kill me.
Or, make me wish I was dead.

farmgirl said...

Watch the full episode - https://youtu.be/psmPAXGGHoU

Claire Lehmann and talk about the success of Quillette magazine, left-wing authoritarianism, gender dysphoria, mentorship, stereotypes, social media, ingroup preference, moral reasoning, aggressive empathy, and more.

Peterson :0)

Robert Marshall said...

"The warning is: You'd better make absolutely sure you're not gay."

What does it mean to be "sure you're not gay" if you are a man who wants to become a woman, so that you can attract straight men for romantic and sexual relationships?

That sounds like 'gay' to me, but it is also obviously deluded. Straight men are unlikely to be attracted to a surgically and hormonally modified male, a proposition so plainly obvious that even a 19-year-old should recognize it. If they don't, that's a sign of mental incapacity or disorder that their medical providers should recognize. Going ahead with surgery and hormones on the basis of that sort of uninformed consent seems to me to be malpractice. Unfortunately for this victim, recognition of the problem comes well after expiration of the statute of limitations.

Zev said...

"who was born the same sex as them"

who IS the same sex as them

"The warning is: You'd better make absolutely sure you're not gay."

These are children. They are not equipped to make sure of anything.