Althouse: "For some reason, men hate to see a woman doing anything with her hands when talking to her."

April 21, 2013

"For some reason, men hate to see a woman doing anything with her hands when talking to her."

"Undivided attention is best."

20 comments:

kentuckyliz said...: I can think of one situation where that's not true. Especially if her hands are well lubricated.; 4/21/13, 8:29 AM
ricpic said...: Too easy. Not goin' there.; 4/21/13, 8:30 AM
TWM said...: "I can think of one situation where that's not true. Especially if her hands are well lubricated."

A thread-winner right out of the gate . . .; 4/21/13, 8:31 AM
Eric the Fruit Bat said...: These days, websites like Men's Fitness have articles with titles like "5 Ways to Use Porn to Turn Her On."

I never click.

It only encourages them.; 4/21/13, 8:37 AM
Matt Sablan said...: I don't like seeing anyone fiddling with things in their hands when we're talking, men or women. I hate when people start talking to me on the bus and try to have a conversation while listening to their iPods in one hand and juggling their phone and something else in the other. It's not rude if it is a totally stranger making idle conversation, but when someone comes to visit me or I visit them, I feel like I'm intruding on their time.; 4/21/13, 8:38 AM
Jason (the commenter) said...: Mary-Anne would disagree.; 4/21/13, 8:39 AM
dbp said...: This is true, especially if what she is doing with her hands is knitting. Makes me think she is either not paying attention or hatching schemes.; 4/21/13, 8:41 AM
ndspinelli said...: This is quite ironic because men are most open to talking about substantive things when doing something physical. When I could tell my son was troubled I would say, "Let's go play catch" and he would start talking after a few tosses.; 4/21/13, 8:49 AM
Ann Althouse said...: "A thread-winner right out of the gate . . ."

I think we were all thusly winning this thread in our minds the moment we read the quote.; 4/21/13, 8:50 AM
ndspinelli said...: kentucky, LOL! You pig.; 4/21/13, 8:50 AM
edutcher said...: Was the readership of Esquire in 1949 100% homosexual?

Women are forever fussing at things.; 4/21/13, 9:02 AM
Matt Sablan said...: It's a nervous tick; when I was an RA and people would come to me with problems, the first thing I would do was turn the monitor of my computer off and stand up so that my hands were away from anything that I could fidget with. It helped them know I was listening, even if I was listening when I was clicking a pen mindlessly.; 4/21/13, 9:04 AM
MadisonMan said...: especially if what she is doing with her hands is knitting.

The wife knits all the time while talking to people, men included.; 4/21/13, 9:17 AM
Astro said...: I took me a while to get used to my wife knitting when I'd be talking to her. Or sewing squares for her quilts. Or any other kind of needlework.
But she got used to me being able to read and talk at the same time, so it evened out.

When she would do other things (ahem) with her hands, I didn't do much talking. Unless you count involuntary gasping as talking.; 4/21/13, 9:20 AM
Mr. Forward said...: ""Undivided attention is best."

The warm glow of unconcealed admiration works too.; 4/21/13, 9:26 AM
Æthelflæd said...: Mr. Forward said...

"The warm glow of unconcealed admiration works too."

Too many women forget this after marriage, my younger self included. A wise older lady reminded me.; 4/21/13, 10:13 AM
AllenS said...: Justice Bradley had a bad habit of talking with her hands until Prosser grabbed her by the throat and made her stop.; 4/21/13, 10:20 AM
deborah said...: @dbp lol was that a Madame Defarge reference?; 4/21/13, 11:27 AM
traditionalguy said...: That makes sense. A woman using hands on tools sends the message that the the tool using man is no longer needed.

Famous line around here is, "honey the only tool you need to use use is your checkbook."; 4/21/13, 12:57 PM
Sam L. said...: kentuckyliz: You BAD, girl!; 4/21/13, 7:23 PM