tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post6489287928277941781..comments2024-03-28T03:13:37.212-05:00Comments on Althouse: "When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success..."Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger122125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-20634126898858806492011-06-08T00:02:08.521-05:002011-06-08T00:02:08.521-05:00every valentine's day, the gals in the office ...every valentine's day, the gals in the office will go on and on about what gifts they got. "that's great," i tell them...and what," i ask, "did you get him?" you've never seen a more blank stare of incomprehension than i get to that question...so 'dr'L has a point.<br />as for the sex stuff, what titus said.el polackohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13265451503377552500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-53351225638698946202011-06-07T17:33:43.995-05:002011-06-07T17:33:43.995-05:00I guess if I'm crossing the street and I get h...I guess if I'm crossing the street and I get hit by a car it is partially my fault.Claudya Martinezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034216831504207496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-80505628251552968452011-06-07T17:08:34.506-05:002011-06-07T17:08:34.506-05:00Actually the Laura and Matthews statements are pre...Actually the Laura and Matthews statements are pretty much opposite. Dr. Laura suggests that wives who lose their husbands' attention are oblivious women who gave up attention to their husbands first. They don't have any interest in attracting and pleasing their men because, well, maybe because they are feminists, or maybe because they are just selfish. But she was not talking about these women being enablers of bad behavior who know what is going on and fit their lives around it. <br />That is Oprah's gig. Everybody is a participant in every behavior around them. Matthews was being Oprah, not Laura.Alec Rawlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18106800937399442588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-61145257698807037012011-06-07T16:21:17.292-05:002011-06-07T16:21:17.292-05:00My wife told me I mattered. Until I didn't. An...<i>My wife told me I mattered. Until I didn't. And then she didn't either.</i><br /><br />You and me both, Crack.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04450897654318345683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-34623643046810813652011-06-07T15:51:23.210-05:002011-06-07T15:51:23.210-05:00Shouting Thomas, I can see why you are a sad and l...Shouting Thomas, I can see why you are a sad and lonely man. You are totally clueless about women and, it seems your own sex.<br /><br />It is totally possible to be in the dark about your husband's predilections. She loved him and chose to see the best in him. I believe that she is out the door, I would be. She is a smart, well educated woman who has little or no concern for "keeping up a front" or she would have been at the press conference, vociferously defending her husband.<br /><br />Mark my words, he will resign before the week is out. His career is over, he has lost the respect of all of us, me included. <br /><br />He is out of there. <br /><br /><br />Vicki from Pasadenavictoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02012834711635457733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-45130058977392079612011-06-07T15:15:04.946-05:002011-06-07T15:15:04.946-05:00Everything we know about Anthony Weiner and Huma A...<i>Everything we know about Anthony Weiner and Huma Abedin screams "marriage of convenience". Sex wasn't a part of the deal ever...at least not with each other.</i><br /><br />Weiner is amazed that this thing has blown up in his face. The marriage was to provide a "beard" for Hillary and Huma. There have been rumors for years about them. Maybe Hillary is thinking of a primary challenge to Obama and wanted the rumors squelched. Who knows?<br /><br />Weiner's part of the deal was that he could continue to have his wiener serviced without complaint. Now, the furor must be really inexplicable to him. Who cares about what Democrats do with their wieners ? He just didn't understand the new social media.<br /><br />Poor guy.Michael Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10330459176797654347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-44381858521295616592011-06-07T14:37:27.473-05:002011-06-07T14:37:27.473-05:00President Coolidge and his really hot wife once vi...President Coolidge and his really hot wife once visited a farm. She noticed the rooster servicing all the hens. She asked, 'How many times a day does he do that?' The response was '10 or 12 times a day.' She instructed them to 'Tell the President that.' They did.<br /><br />President Coolidge observed the rooster for a while, and asked, 'How many hens does that rooster service in a day?' The said '10 or 12 a day.' He said "Tell Mrs. Coolidge that." Hence, the Coolidge effect: the ability of males to be aroused by new females. A man might be able to have sex with a number of different women in one day, but probably wouldn't be able to have sex with the same woman that many times in one day.<br /><br />Just as rape is frequently a crime of violence and power, and not sex, so too with Representative Weiner. His behavior isn't so much about having sex as it is about engaging in self-destructive behavior, and that can not be laid at his wife's feet so early in the marriage. He had the baggage before he married her.Milwaukeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14830345164697669429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-67278998887331231182011-06-07T14:35:34.560-05:002011-06-07T14:35:34.560-05:00'Salamandyr said...
Titus,
I think &...'Salamandyr said...<br /><br /> Titus,<br /><br /> I think "submit" is the wrong word. Perhaps "join in the nasty fun" would be a better one.'<br /><br />Since his wife is 'muslim' it's the perfect wordAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-25175465403221728072011-06-07T14:14:41.062-05:002011-06-07T14:14:41.062-05:00No amount of sex with one's wife will satisfy ...No amount of sex with one's wife will satisfy the desire for other women—unless she is a swinger and introduces you to other women and has sex with them too. However it might prevent a man from acting on that desire. I am not unfaithful to my wife, but what I think about when I look at other women is none of her business. If a guy is unhappy with his sex life, he can get a divorce. It's not hard.ken in txhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14345764031059905578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-63958567501919151702011-06-07T12:38:13.722-05:002011-06-07T12:38:13.722-05:00After perusing the thread and checking the origina...After perusing the thread and checking the original Dr. Laura link I would add a few observations:<br /><br />1. Tony gets turned on by some stuff he wasn't getting at home (she knew about it).<br />2. Abedin married him to satisfy some need of her own; whether that included sexual surrender/satiation is anyone's guess (I've met few women who are actually turned on by honorable, well-meaning, truthful shlubs (I think one of the surprises for feminists is how their biology refuses to reconcile with their ideology)).<br />3. I suspect the long term survival of Tony's marriage has a lot more to do with his public status than it does his wiener status. If he really wanted what he wanted, he needed to pursue it with some more intelligence than he did (which may have meant not getting married).Night2nighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10604612427022912377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-60176952894818406922011-06-07T11:46:16.176-05:002011-06-07T11:46:16.176-05:00People who are commanding have a capacity to lead....<i>People who are commanding have a capacity to lead.</i><br /><br />Anyone that's previously been around someone with command bearing can see it on someone they've never met when that person walks silently into a room. It's blatantly obvious.Scott Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02459388007426664813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-78980763564570959632011-06-07T11:43:41.929-05:002011-06-07T11:43:41.929-05:00As someone pointed out today, Weiner has/had a pre...<em>As someone pointed out today, Weiner has/had a pretty commanding presence, knew he had it, and used it.</em><br /><br />Commanding?<br /><br />Anthony is agressive and overbearing but hardly commanding. He operates primarily by monopolization and intimidation. People who are commanding have a capacity to lead. When did Anthony ever show leadership?<br /><br />I can assure you that there are many Democrats who are delighted at the payback Anthony is getting, the nasty little Putz.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17424384180201600935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-23617730568337952902011-06-07T11:33:34.731-05:002011-06-07T11:33:34.731-05:00Titus,
I think "submit" is the wrong wo...Titus,<br /><br />I think "submit" is the wrong word. Perhaps "join in the nasty fun" would be a better one.<br /><br />But you can't expect someone to share <i>every</i> kink you have (especially if you're really kinky); some compromise needs to be reached on both sides.Salamandyrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11583377305614434681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-75979756361305204102011-06-07T11:24:34.469-05:002011-06-07T11:24:34.469-05:00Men or women for that matter sending pics of dicks...Men or women for that matter sending pics of dicks and cunts not a big deal. Welcome to 2011.<br /><br />But Weiner being a total liar is a big deal.<br /><br />Just as long as no minors were sent dick pics. That is very bad.<br /><br />As far as the marriage, who knows what goes on behind others closed doors. I don't really care.<br /><br />And spare me the wife being a victim.<br /><br />Men have been watching porn for many years now and expect their women do to all the funky dirty shit they see on porn. If the women won't oblige he will need to find it elsewhere.<br /><br />Women submit or leave.<br /><br />Sorry most men don't want to do just the missionary position.Titushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09505398901816313803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-37285697163325081452011-06-07T11:24:17.154-05:002011-06-07T11:24:17.154-05:00Shouting Thomas said...
Women have this tendency ...Shouting Thomas said...<br /><br /><i>Women have this tendency to assume some sort of virtue in women. Why?</i><br /><br />My mother always said, "Men get on with other men better than women get on with other women". She was right.<br /><br />What shout is quoting is the post 60s feminist sisterhood claptrap.edutcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15033144261502435196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-62447426023586536132011-06-07T11:17:34.462-05:002011-06-07T11:17:34.462-05:00The problem is, in our society right now, why shou...<i>The problem is, in our society right now, why should a woman do that?</i><br /><br />Some women want to make their marriage work. Some men want to make their marriage work. The ones that do are willing to work at it and the ones that dont are not.Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-82100499008776661652011-06-07T11:15:28.453-05:002011-06-07T11:15:28.453-05:00The problem is, in our society right now, why shou...<i>The problem is, in our society right now, why should a woman do that?</i><br /><br />In our society, right now, why should a man get married at all?Scott Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02459388007426664813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-22200681774100175582011-06-07T11:15:03.316-05:002011-06-07T11:15:03.316-05:00In that case, why would the woman even know about ...<i>In that case, why would the woman even know about it? </i><br /><br />I don't know how it would come up unless she was like "why are you following these women on twitter" or something. Of course, our only knowledge of her side and what he told her comes from Weiner, who is an admitted liar. My initial thought was that he told her he talked/flirted with some girls online before they got married and that was it. That part is not terribly uncommon and I don't put it much different than actual dating, which of course you do and are allowed to do before you get married but are supposed to stop when you are in a serious relationship. <br /><br />If he was talking to these women when they were together and she knew about it then she wasn't deceived and could have reasonably expected that to continue through marriage. But we don't know that. And he was single before so if he wanted to skeeve on girls on the internet he wasn't hurting anybody else, so I don't see how the mistress thing comes into play.Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-22788229178922107912011-06-07T11:13:30.863-05:002011-06-07T11:13:30.863-05:00Women have this tendency to assume some sort of vi...<i>Women have this tendency to assume some sort of virtue in women. Why?</i><br /><br />It is convenient, and it is useful.Bruce Haydenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10815293023158025662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-71759304956140718392011-06-07T11:12:00.628-05:002011-06-07T11:12:00.628-05:00""When the wife does not focus in on the...""<i>When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success...</i>""<br /><br />The problem is, in our society right now, why should a woman do that? If she doesn't make her man feel like a hero, and anything goes wrong, she can file for divorce, be in the right, at least with all their friends, and get the kids and money. So, why bother with "<i>be[ing] the woman</i>" as a GF of mine is want to say.Bruce Haydenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10815293023158025662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-47300024366149418292011-06-07T11:11:09.344-05:002011-06-07T11:11:09.344-05:00This email to Issa's press secretary mentioned...This email to Issa's press secretary mentioned by The Smoking Gun <a href="http://www.thesmokinggun.com/file/stack-wolfe-e-mails?page=0" rel="nofollow">concerns one of the underage minors</a> that Democrat Anthony Weiner was having an inappropriate online relationship with.<br /><br />Isn't it strange how the mass media is studiously ignoring any mention of this underage victim of the flashy Congressman?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-29364994108388035612011-06-07T10:58:47.890-05:002011-06-07T10:58:47.890-05:00And this scandal is bad because Anthony betrayed t...<i>And this scandal is bad because Anthony betrayed the promise of higher office. Spitzer and Sanford married their wives before they got famous, Abedin married a prince of the Democratic Party</i>.<br /><br />I can't help getting that feeling looking at pictures of her. <br /><br />I sometimes question myself when I stereotype people, but then step back and consider that it is something that we all do (unless maybe we are autistic or have AS) and mostly our filters are decently ok. <br /><br />So, I look at her and see an ice princess. In the wedding picture, Weiner was a prop for her. She seems much more alive and focused when with Hillary! <br /><br />As someone pointed out today, Weiner has/had a pretty commanding presence, knew he had it, and used it. She is enough better looking than he that he either got her because of that, or because he was that Democratic prince, or, more likely I think, because of both. Part of the reason that he was prince there was because of his presence and ability to push people around and to out talk anyone in the room. <br /><br />If Weiner had kept his shirt and pants on, and the camera turned off, while not with her, it might have been a perfect marriage. <br /><br />I voted that she would stick with her man, because I didn't see her being all that affected by this. But, I have now changed my mind, based on that idea. I agree that she married him most likely because he was a prince and she was a princess looking for a good consort. After this, is is much less likely that he will ascend to the heights that both of them dreamed he would, and for that, I think that she will do what so many women think is necessary in such a situation - cut her losses and start looking for her next prince. Probably not immediately, but within the next year. <br /><br />We shall see.Bruce Haydenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10815293023158025662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-49800257751380611382011-06-07T10:52:18.494-05:002011-06-07T10:52:18.494-05:00Scott M, my bad: Huma is leaving if Weiner is in ...Scott M, my bad: Huma is leaving if Weiner is in Political Siberia. That is my prediction. Political Sharia? That is an intriguing idea. <br /><br />Lem: <br /><br /> <i>Lem said...<br />If Huma is a Muslim, divorce is out of the question.<br /><br />At least I think that's right.<br /><br />6/7/11 9:50 AM</i><br /><br />Divorce is super easy in Islam: The husband only has to say "I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you." Hence the reason the man has to give his bride a wedding dowery as part of the marriage contract--that money is what she gets if she is divorced. Islam made divorce easy. And women can even demand divorce under Sharia. It is an option under some marriage contracts. <br /><br />That is one thing that I never got about some fundamentalist Christians, they claim the bible is infalible and critize Catholics for not following it, then allow divorce because some fat king in England wanted it.Fred4Preshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01574159710712259945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-86221364621310635032011-06-07T10:52:10.618-05:002011-06-07T10:52:10.618-05:00In that case, I think it is completely reasonable ...<i>In that case, I think it is completely reasonable to expect it to stop.</i><br /><br />In that case, why would the woman even know about it? Unless, of course, she was one of the lucky recipients of the behavior in the first place. If that were the case, though, Oscar Wilde comes to mind, ie, "A man who marries his mistress leaves a vacancy in that position".Scott Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02459388007426664813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-21525591955825783922011-06-07T10:50:10.588-05:002011-06-07T10:50:10.588-05:00I think Fred4Pres is very close here. I'm sur...I think Fred4Pres is very close here. I'm sure Weiner went through his formative years not being anyone's idea of a dream date, but now he finds himself in middle age as the object of female desire -- or at least the object if interest by females he has not met in person. He married a professional woman who has an intense job requiring lots of travel; she is not there very much, but the interested women are out there 24/7. Weiner is weak; he gave in to the temptation; he lied about it. It's not that complicated, and it has very little to do with the wife.GThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05359245929443878011noreply@blogger.com