tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post2752998227627410361..comments2024-03-29T03:05:05.850-05:00Comments on Althouse: "Ms. Petro said she and her husband still make time for sex, even if it’s just, say, every third Sunday. 'I shove thoughts of chores undone out of my mind...'"Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-52053691793061678362020-12-28T20:47:02.162-06:002020-12-28T20:47:02.162-06:00Geez, woman...you're in a different season. ...Geez, woman...you're in a different season. Granted, the only power you ever had was through sex. That's over. It's a different season. Let it go.Hercules, not that one thoughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13741704032573869808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-15905272388808929132020-12-27T23:09:43.518-06:002020-12-27T23:09:43.518-06:00Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves...<i>Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves "how mentally exciting" is "the sexual stimulus" that is YOU.</i><br /><br />Thank you to our esteemed host! From my own experience and conversations with friends, and therefore anecdotally, it seems that some partners are either better or trying harder at presenting mentally exciting sexual stimulus - which includes paying attention to what appears to get us going, because "call me a dirty girl" doesn't work for all of us.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00623031374944444521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-83335005368161464862020-12-27T19:00:52.291-06:002020-12-27T19:00:52.291-06:00YoungHegelian said...
Some of the commenters here ... YoungHegelian said...<br />Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves "how mentally exciting" is "the sexual stimulus" that is YOU.<br /><br />I'll have you know that my wife found my upper buttockal area so aesthetically pleasing that she thought I missed my calling by not becoming a plumber!<br /><br />** If you crack a woman up the door usually opens.5M - Eckstinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034898380962280447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-62582159527806192522020-12-27T19:00:19.640-06:002020-12-27T19:00:19.640-06:00Dear NYT,
I can't believe this happened to me...<i>Dear NYT,<br /><br />I can't believe this happened to me, but it did. </i><br /><br />Name and address withheld by request.<br />madAsHellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01149940549262340795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-67018108769300913182020-12-27T17:29:35.254-06:002020-12-27T17:29:35.254-06:00Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves...<i>Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves "how mentally exciting" is "the sexual stimulus" that is YOU.</i><br /><br />I'll have you know that my wife found my upper buttockal area so aesthetically pleasing that she thought I missed my calling by not becoming a plumber!YoungHegelianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02723316130501823658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-56443519345473440482020-12-27T17:14:28.864-06:002020-12-27T17:14:28.864-06:00That said, I have a good female friend who claims ...That said, I have a good female friend who claims she could never have sex with a man with whom she was intellectually incompatible. mockturtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507310332014103437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-19928199832202008312020-12-27T17:12:06.647-06:002020-12-27T17:12:06.647-06:00IMO, the main difference between men and women reg...IMO, the main difference between men and women regarding sexual desire is that women [most women, anyway] won't go to bed with just anyone, where quite a few men would if the circumstance were right.<br /> <br />When I was young, in the middle of the day, I once saw my mother pass a folded up note to my father. Shortly after, they retired to their bedroom. In my marriage [of forty years], the horny one would suggest a 'nap'. Surely, certain thoughts, sights even smells can trigger horniness but it can also happen spontaneously. mockturtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507310332014103437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-90207004201982462762020-12-27T16:25:40.686-06:002020-12-27T16:25:40.686-06:00I don't know what your definition of "hor...<b>I don't know what your definition of "horny" is, but if it includes responding to what the other person is doing, then your statement is wrong (because that's not what the doctor is saying).</b><br /><br />Nope, AH. Horny is having a nagging sexual craving for no apparent reason. mockturtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507310332014103437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-19923572467452828012020-12-27T16:08:46.265-06:002020-12-27T16:08:46.265-06:00Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves...Some of the commenters here need to ask themselves "how mentally exciting" is "the sexual stimulus" that is YOU.Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-39539930044763244202020-12-27T16:06:20.917-06:002020-12-27T16:06:20.917-06:00"I resisted the article because NYT but I mus..."I resisted the article because NYT but I must protest the supposed fact that only 15% of women experience spontaneous desire. That's saying women don't get horny."<br /><br />The article links <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0029784401014521" rel="nofollow">here</a> in making the point about "spontaneous" as opposed to "responsive" desire, so you could read that. I don't know what your definition of "horny" is, but if it includes responding to what the other person is doing, then your statement is wrong (because that's not what the doctor is saying).<br /><br />At the new link:<br /><br />"A large component of women’s sexual desire is responsive rather than spontaneous. Therefore, women’s motivation and ability to find and respond to sexual stimuli to experience sexual arousal and subsequent sexual desire is crucial, but complex. In ongoing relationships, a woman’s motivation appears to be largely influenced by her emotional intimacy with her partner and her wish to enhance it. Drugs (including androgen replacement therapy) aimed at increasing women’s spontaneous sexual wanting (less characteristic of women in long-term relationships) or their arousability may have a role if other psychologic factors affecting arousability are addressed in tandem. A woman’s sexual arousal is composite and complex, correlating well with how mentally exciting she finds the sexual stimulus and its context and poorly with objective genital blood flow changes. Drugs aimed at increasing the latter, including phosphodiesterase inhibitors, may have a role if there is prior careful enquiry as to whether genital engorgement is present but not attended to or is physically absent. Psychophysiologic studies to date suggest the former is common in women presenting with arousal disorder."Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-52304096765457123902020-12-27T16:01:09.598-06:002020-12-27T16:01:09.598-06:00"Responsive sex is a dissolute erotic event h..."Responsive sex is a dissolute erotic event happening on time every third Thursday..."<br /><br />Notice that the doctor I quoted is making an important distinction between spontaneous desire and responsive desire.Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-80128277367907707922020-12-27T15:59:45.683-06:002020-12-27T15:59:45.683-06:00"Every third Sunday? I’d divorce her!"
..."Every third Sunday? I’d divorce her!"<br /><br />It's not like she's refusing him the rest of the time! This is a couple that's fallen into lack of interest, though they're still interested enough to see it as a problem. He's part of the problem. "I’d divorce her!" is a really ugly thing to say. Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-34330260412729081572020-12-27T13:45:09.387-06:002020-12-27T13:45:09.387-06:00Of course the goal is different. Men its sex. Wome...<b>Of course the goal is different. Men its sex. Women its romance.</b><br /><br />Nonsense.mockturtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507310332014103437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-89897177493149104852020-12-27T13:43:50.646-06:002020-12-27T13:43:50.646-06:00I resisted the article because NYT but I must prot...I resisted the article because NYT but I must protest the supposed fact that only 15% of women experience spontaneous desire. That's saying women don't get horny. That is absolute nonsense. While there may be some women who don't, most women do.mockturtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507310332014103437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-21680937879050969082020-12-27T13:13:56.426-06:002020-12-27T13:13:56.426-06:00Do lets remember that this is the newspaper which ...Do lets remember that this is the newspaper which said that sex was better under communism. https://reason.com/2017/08/15/life-under-communism-was-no-liberation-f/ so there's that...Arlington Quidnunchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03361946448092048828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-8402520597663624132020-12-27T12:42:20.942-06:002020-12-27T12:42:20.942-06:00The article is pretty funny. The experts overlooke...The article is pretty funny. The experts overlooked the panicdemic induced drunken wife problem exposed in NYT(?) and relayed here yesterday.<br /><br /><br /><br />FullMoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07541560904252155570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-44960196796409691672020-12-27T12:20:23.279-06:002020-12-27T12:20:23.279-06:0085% of women never think of sex is bullshit too. 85% of women never think of sex is bullshit too. Leorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14855141178189188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-37120372178083180542020-12-27T12:12:59.155-06:002020-12-27T12:12:59.155-06:00Why is the NY Times turning into a sex advice sour...Why is the NY Times turning into a sex advice source? I don't think personal relationships are among the strengths of their staff. Leorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14855141178189188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-41840471007030511892020-12-27T12:11:19.053-06:002020-12-27T12:11:19.053-06:00"Why read the NY Times when you could read Co...<i>"Why read the NY Times when you could read Cosmopolitan instead?"</i><br /><br />Dear NYT,<br /><br />I can't believe this happened to me, but it did. <br /><br />I was helping my girlfriend's mom move some furniture and it was a really hot and humid day, so I took my shirt off...Joe Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691714715049323034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-74321060613544418762020-12-27T12:10:43.206-06:002020-12-27T12:10:43.206-06:00Why so uptight? Loosen up, baby. Why so uptight? Loosen up, baby. Earnest Prolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07784404737843553158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-39166321432658293732020-12-27T11:44:47.074-06:002020-12-27T11:44:47.074-06:00Why read the NY Times when you could read Cosmopol...Why read the NY Times when you could read Cosmopolitan instead?chuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15164145672293455823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-52610767894609151862020-12-27T11:42:11.093-06:002020-12-27T11:42:11.093-06:00"Ms. Petro said she and her husband still mak...<i>"Ms. Petro said she and her husband still make time for sex, even if it’s just, say, every third Sunday. 'I shove thoughts of chores undone out of my mind...'"</i><br /><br />Are you sure that wasn't "I shove the thoughts of <b>the other</b> undone chores out of my mind ..."?Lurker21https://www.blogger.com/profile/05692740653467688670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-4138785100187735932020-12-27T11:17:11.119-06:002020-12-27T11:17:11.119-06:00First question on a date--Do you read the NYT?First question on a date--Do you read the NYT?Darrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11277966379512526469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-63916500158468423582020-12-27T11:08:11.585-06:002020-12-27T11:08:11.585-06:00"Nothing or nobody says sex like Slim Whitman...<i>"Nothing or nobody says sex like Slim Whitman."</i><br /><br />Does he yodel during the climactic moments?<br /><br />Dozens of housewives want to know : )Joe Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691714715049323034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-40923854722452934162020-12-27T11:05:45.377-06:002020-12-27T11:05:45.377-06:00Him: Sunday at 2?
Her: Can't do Sunday. Monda...Him: Sunday at 2?<br /><br />Her: Can't do Sunday. Monday works but only after dinner.<br /><br />Him: Lights on? You know I like the lights on.<br /><br />Her: Wellll, I have been missing my spin classes so...OK, but only under the covers.<br /><br />Him: But then I won't see...<br /><br />Her: Take it or leave it. And no butt stuff this time.<br /><br />Him: (Dejectedly) OK...I guess.<br /><br />Her: Good. I'll call Bertram and have him send over the contract.Joe Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691714715049323034noreply@blogger.com