Writes Ekta Sinha, in "Forget The Lonely Men Epidemic—The Performative Male Era Is Here, And We Need To Talk (And Run)/He knows his moon sign, wears thrifted clothes, and posts aesthetic carousels with captions about healing and self-love" (Elle India).
That's the best of a bunch of recent articles I found after noticing the term "performative male."
See also: "Crowds gather on Capitol Hill for pop-up 'Performative Male Contest' in Seattle" (Fox13 Seattle)("My best description of a performative male is a man who wears feminism and softness and certain music as a guy to allure women without actually knowing anything about what they’re putting on or talking about").
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No such men like this exist in Nebraska.
Pretty sure "allure" is not a verb. Media today sucks.
'lonely men epidemic' is performative language for 'depression'. Social media is the catalyst for those unfortunate fellows.
matcha lattes..
i guess i should have gone long on matcha yesterday, when they invented them
Progressive women appear to live on a clown planet.
I so ronery…
"You’ve heard of the 'loser' or 'lonely men' epidemic, where men disengage from relationships, accountability, and even basic hygiene..."
That's why Dude Wipes are such a marketing epiphany?
Women set the standard for men.
After reading that last sentence, I need another dose of BP med. Who writes that garbage? Who edits it?
Dude Wipes? You mean like what Hillary does to her computers?
This is all a bunch of bullshit trying to cover up for the failures of modern feminism.
These people will talk about anything and anyone as long as it covers up for the fact that modern college educated white women are a disaster doing massive damage to our society and making millions of people miserable.
Bob Boyd said, "Women set the standard for men."
I guess women are setting the standard for women then, and if Sydney Sweeney is the new standard, I am ok with that (Lizzo's not, but she's yesterday's jeans...).
"Dude Wipes? You mean like what Hillary does to her computers? "
You've given me an inspiration for a competing 'wipes' product: Bleach Bits
Twenty years ago these guys were the "metrosexuals" who had man-buns and skinny jeans.
Before that these were "androgynous men."
Before that they were hippies, or hippie adjacent.
Seventy years ago they were Bohemians.
In every generation, a notable percentage were gay or bisexual.
They sound like attractive men who are not foolish enough to date Ekta Sinha.
if Sydney Sweeney is the new standard, I am ok with that
100% The nation is starting to heal.
https://x.com/i/status/1952094179066093947
Men and women are equal in rights (on a religious or moral basis) and complementary in Nature. The former requires reconciliation and the latter is the cause for love, lust, and evolutionary fitness.
"You've heard of the 'loser' or 'lonely men' epidemic"
But have you heard about the Lonesome Loser?
https://youtu.be/1F4RjBZ2k-4?si=cqQ54_Q1k_CxhC50
RR
JSM
"No such men like this exist in Nebraska."
A lot of these kinds of men come from Nebraska and similar settings, moving to the coasts when old enough. A good percentage of the performative people i have known in SoCal are midwesterners trying to fit in to their new settings or prove to their family and friends how sophisticated they have become. If lucky they become self-aware and move back home.
The "lonely men" are performing the role that society has allotted them. Sure, they could take charge of their lives and make more of themselves, but society hasn't exactly been encouraging them to do so. The present has been female and filled with grrrl power and grrrl bosses. Were the lonely guys really to break out of their assigned roles, today's women's magazines wouldn't like that.
"Performative men" -- that seems like something we saw years ago. It's not really a thing anymore. Maybe it's something new in India. Maybe economic prosperity and political correctness are only reaching them now. Maybe the caste system encourages alphas and arrogance.
Bye, bye Mr. Metrosexual Guy
Drove his EV to the levee
But it started a fire
Now the manbun bois
Are drinkin' mattcha with soy
Singin “I'm a gender-fluid tranny who's bi!”
Sydney is rhe authentic female sex, feminine gender, and she can bring home the oil and change it in the pan. With a commitment, without competition, who needs other persons and things? She is the very model of a friend, a partner, a lover in a complementary and aesthetically pleasing package. Ah, but variety is the spice of life, some believe. Will AI provide the breadth and depth and Diversity we crave a la Matrix?
The next big thing will be Performative Authenticity. You heard it here first.
Gay. This is gay.
"The next big thing will be Performative Authenticity. You heard it here first."
I am already stealing that!!!!
Meade said...
Dude Wipes? You mean like what Hillary does to her computers?
No "like John Wick, with a f*cking pencil."
Gay as in merry and bright? Perhaps it's just a temporary, performative transition.
"This is all a bunch of bullshit trying to cover up for the failures of modern feminism.
This is the correct take. Women have badly priced themselves out of the relationship market. Alimony, child support, "maintenance" payments, keeps the house, can have sex with a drunk man and not be guilty of rape, etc. etc. The scales are so far tilted out of whack and all proportion that men have just said "fuck it. I'd rather OnlyFans. It's much less risky.
Not to mention that estimates say that around 35 million women in the US are unfuckable because they have VD.
Not putting my dick in there with these types of odds and risking my entire financial future (not to mention maybe going to jail if she decides she's too embarassed to admit she got wasted and laid).
It's simply too risky.
Performative as in enacting a performance. Pretend men. Fake person.
No thanks. Give me an authentic person, authentic man. Warts and all.
Relationships built on pretense and fakery are not going to last. I want the "what you see is what you get man/person". Like my husband of 35 years.
Cat futures gap up at the open once again today.
"Relationships built on pretense and fakery are not going to last."
"How dare you!" - Authentically Fierce Heterosexual Cory Booker (allegedly)
“ a man who wears feminism and softness and certain music as a guy to allure women.”
Similar to behavior in the animal kingdom where a nondominant male will insinuate himself with the opposite sex for reproductive purposes. They are labeled Sneaky Fuckers.
I'm so sad and lonely
Nearly everything is performative anymore. We've become a cosplay society.
"I was a STEM major so I'm a Scientist! Those Science 101 classes were great, and now I work in HR."
Ann Althouse said...
"Pretty sure "allure" is not a verb."
I wondered too, but it is. Has been since the 1500s, per OED."
Seems unnecessary, given "lure," but a lot of our words are unnecessary.
One of the reasons I took up guitar in 1966. To be performative. In front of chicks. Maybe pull a few. Get them to write poetry to my stylistic fretboard chords. Bell bottoms, love beads, VW vans and a surfboard. Long hair. Wallah! The performative male from the recent past.
@RideSpaceMountain
It is too hard to keep up the pretense. Too much work. Eventually the fake/pretending person will slip up and the mask will fall. Maybe what is behind the mask is acceptable, bu mostly not.
Also relationships based on the idea ...."I can change him (or her)". Spoiler alert...you really can't fundamentally change someone. Might be able to "train" a person...like put the damned toilet seat down...or hang up your clothes....maybe eventually it will happen.. But the fundamental character traits...nope.
Anthony said:
"I was a STEM major so I'm a Scientist! Those Science 101 classes were great, and now I work in HR."
LOL. I actually know that person!
Sounds transy.
"The next big thing will be Performative Authenticity. You heard it here first."
It's been around for years.
Ah, the lonely man. A dream I've had most of my life, but which has endlessly escaped my grip.
@Dust Bunny Queen, I like the way the author of Gone Girl, Gillian Flynn, put it: "So many relationships begin with lies and then end up as marriages where they've married a false representation of one another. Then the question becomes who can hold out on the 'lie' for the longest before cracking. It's miraculous that most marriages end in divorce instead of murder."
But have you heard about the Lonesome Loser?
The Queen of Hearts has never stopped complaining about the way he keeps on trying.
Performative Women attract Performative Men. Vice versa.
AI Marlin Perkins narrates the series.
Third instance of Labubu in two days
Men marry women they think will never change, but they do; women marry men they think will change, but they don't.
Bob Boyd said...
if Sydney Sweeney is the new standard, I am ok with that
100% The nation is starting to heal.
This isn’t healing, it is oscillation.
Women demanded more freedom. They got it. They ruined everything.
Now women are going to lose their freedom until they regain their virtue. We will be have virtuous women for a time and they will ask for freedom again. They will get freedom again and proceed to turn into greedy selfish whores.
This is a repetitive pattern.
Cap Hill is mega-Gay. I wouldn’t make any generalizations based on anything happening there. Other than the one I just made.
The main problem right now is not that many women are being greedy selfish whores although that is bad.
The main problem is that so many greedy selfish whores have found their way into positions of wealth and status in society.
This mirrors the selection process for male leaders in society. The process naturally selects for aggressive high testosterone men with below average moral development.
It should be no surprise that selection of female leaders is weighted towards low virtue women who will sleep with men to advance their status and who excel in female power struggles that involve passive aggressive dishonesty and self interested cruelty.
Similar to behavior in the animal kingdom where a nondominant male will insinuate himself with the opposite sex for reproductive purposes. They are labeled Sneaky Fuckers.
I avoided yoga classes for decades -- my 20's and 30's -- because yoga never appealed to me. And then one day I was like, "Holy shit, all the hot girls are in yoga classes."
So you can call me a sneaky fucker! But I prefer to think of myself as a marine in camouflage.
Also, yoga is very relaxing. I fell asleep one time. Another time, this hot girl put her leg behind her head. And I got an unexpected boner, which hasn't happened to me since my 20s or 30s.
You're a boner planner? Kinda like a party planner, but different.
The typical New Delhi male as viewed by the French. No wonder it sounds foreign. "Thrifted clothes" ?
I've heard of women looking down and saying, "I'm expecting", but never a guy : )
a man who wears feminism and softness and certain music as a guy to allure women
I think Obama writing a letter to his girlfriend claiming to have gay fantasies was a seduction technique he used for her.
I'm kind of lost here. Isn't this the kind of men modern women want?
Achilles said, "It should be no surprise that selection of female leaders is weighted towards low virtue women who will sleep with men to advance their status..."
"They're just my type!" - Willie Brown
You're a boner planner? Kinda like a party planner, but different.
ha ha
actual, I shop for rubbers
and I wash out my car
and clean up my apartment
so, boner planner, sure
Maybe I should have said, unwanted boner? Anyway, it was a little awkward, in the yoga class. It was an uninvited boner.
Women-splaining is as welcome as man-splaining as welcome as queer eye for the guy or gal.
The sincerest expression of namaste is one spoken with an impromptu boner....is what what I was taught.
"Also, yoga is very relaxing. I fell asleep one time. Another time, this hot girl put her leg behind her head. And I got an unexpected boner, "
No worries, St. Crow. Your Ghillie suit likely concealed the issue.
I know men described in this article. They are shallow and their losership is equal to that of the basement video player, many of them bite their nails. Women of quality want the man who resembles a Superman, a guy who embodies the best of humanity. Where is he?
Women of quality want the man who resembles a Superman, a guy who embodies the best of humanity. Where is he?
He got married a long time ago. Being a man of quality he is not interested in replacing the woman he loves, and who loves him.
"Women of quality want the man who resembles a Superman"
Perfectly reasonable standard...
It may perhaps come as a surprise to women (sarc!) but young men generally want to get laid, and will adopt whatever facade it takes to accomplish the goal.
It is believed that this tendency goes back to the first Australopithecines.
@Stunned, "Where is he?"
Traveling the world and dating non-Americans.
Ride space, I know it.
Walter, know you know what to strive for. Noble, hopeful, selfless, compassionate, optimistic, a person who believes in goodness.
Performative Male Contest? On Seattle's Capitol Hill?
That made me laugh out loud.
I kind of like Clairo and Laufey, and I'm 68; far too old to be "performative."
Superman: stand back, Lois.
Toxic masculinity.
Lois: save me, Superman.
Patriarchal propaganda.
Bullshit. Show up with money and the girls will come real quick
RideSoaceMountain said “Traveling the world and dating non-Americans.”. You’re goddamn right! And reproducing with them. There are maybe 20 American women worth talking to. How many can you name? And even Victoria’s Secret mannequins need Ozempic in this day and time
It would appear that, for at least some women, the male is a beast of which they know not much. Most guys aren't interesting in performing anything---well except maybe as young uns figuring out a way to get Susy in the sack. Once past that stage they are simply trying to make their way through life. If a woman wants one, it only takes a simple plan. Feed the guy, say nice things to him, be willing to have his children if he wants some--and you can probably keep him. As for performative males--well you have to scrub the fake off them first, then toss them back into the sea.
The funny thing about Superman is that he was working side by side with Lois, all those years, and she never noticed him.
The lesson there is to abandon fantasies and pay attention to realities.
Diana, too. In plain sight.
Saint Croix said...
The funny thing about Superman is that he was working side by side with Lois, all those years, and she never noticed him.
The lesson there is to abandon fantasies and pay attention to realities.Hoe_Math: The Standard Female Delusion Chart
Annoying. Blogger has trouble with tags.
The Standard Female Delusion Chart Link
Oh for fucks sake.
Sally Rooney books.
"The book represents a departure from Rooney's previous novels in its focus on male protagonists. While she had written male characters before, notably Connell in Normal People, this was her first time writing about relationships between men.
She noted that she had "never witnessed a conversation between two men in which a woman wasn't present", making this perspective a conscious step outside her social reality."
a lot of our words are unnecessary
Including about 90% of the words in the NYT.
@Big Mike: "It is believed that this tendency goes back to the first Australopithecines."
Sneaky male behavior evolved way, way, way, way before that! There are plenty of trickers in the animal world. I saw a documentary about male snakes behaving like females to dodge other males and get into a huddle with the girls. There's a reason why dominant adult male mammals such as deer, wolves, lions, and bears routinely kill off young males or drive them away from the females.
This results in 'gangs' of young males roaming around together as de facto highway bandits, and the strongest will one day knock off the Alpha Male who guard the females. Insert hopefully non-racist commentary about urban decay and youth violence here (this is a universal pattern).
Hey! That's hard work! Looking wistfully off in the distance while listening to hours of mind numbing Neil Young or some chick yammering about the Black Panthers in the hopes of scoring was not easy for grandpa!
I don't know about ozempic but some men on this blog need a laxative to help them pass their bullets out.
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