tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post5647004077489383833..comments2024-03-19T08:07:28.854-05:00Comments on Althouse: "The new job that everyone wants is stay-at-home mom. This makes sense to me."Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger149125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-45954274453546572512014-06-12T11:03:47.834-05:002014-06-12T11:03:47.834-05:00Cashcrate is a site where you can earn free cash o...Cashcrate is a site where you can earn free cash online. If you are someone who needs more money and has some spare time, this site is perfect for you. You earn money by doing free offers, surveys, watching ads, shopping online, participating in live contests and referring your friends and family members to the site. Cashcrate is one of the most popular GPT sites having 990,000+ members.<br />Join to make a nice passive income on cash crate.<br />http://www.cashcrate.com/3626426John Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09512460075546662651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-28109740348205206302013-06-17T16:47:27.049-05:002013-06-17T16:47:27.049-05:00I am educated, love what i do, have had a successf...I am educated, love what i do, have had a successful 20+ years in my chosen field, and <b>I can say with absolute certainty, that the biggest heartache of my life was not being in a position (or not having a spouse that supported it) to be a stay-at-home mom.</b> <br /><br />I URGE all young men who are planning families to do whatever they can to assure that they do WHATEVER they can to encourage and empower their wives to be at home with your children if their hearts tell them to do so. SACRIFICE whatever you have to to make this happen for your children, for your family, for your life partner. I promise, you will never EVER regret it. You will be seen and regarded as NOBLE, VALIANT, AND LOVING and through it, your children will have an abundance of love and respect for you and will be better equipped to make a difference in this world as adults. Beautiful LEGACIES have been born from such bold and pointed decisions and efforts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-67345967190959835222013-05-11T14:48:34.046-05:002013-05-11T14:48:34.046-05:00HELLO to my friends out there i am testifying abou...HELLO to my friends out there i am testifying about the good work of a man who help me it has been hell from the day my husband left me i am a woman with two kids my problem stated when the father of my kids travel i never help he was living but as at two weeks i did not set my eye on my husband i try calling but he was not taken my call some week he call me telling me that he has found love some where easy at first i never take to be serous but day after he came to the house to pick his things that was the time i notice that things is going bad i help he will come back but things was going bad day by day i needed to talk to someone about it so i went to his friend but there was no help so i give it up on him month later i met on the the internet a spell caster i never believe on this but i needed my men back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it for doing sake but after three day my husband called me telling me that he his coming home i still do not believe but as at the six day the father to my kids came to the house asking me to for give him the spell work to said to my self from that day i was happy with my family thanks to the esango priest of (abamieghe)esango priest he his a great man you need to try him you can as well to tell him your problem so that he can be of help to you his content email is this esangopriest@gmail.com indeed you are a priest thank you for making my home a happy home again. remember his email is esangopriest@gmail.com<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-41134289088230427982013-02-08T12:41:38.099-06:002013-02-08T12:41:38.099-06:00the truth hurts doesnt it?
the truth hurts doesnt it?<br />Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211386709229488638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-50434851318656084482013-01-17T11:30:54.463-06:002013-01-17T11:30:54.463-06:00I have an education. I am a teacher. Currently, ...I have an education. I am a teacher. Currently, I am a stay at home mom. It is easier than to be a working mom on my husband and my kids. My kids get taken care of, my husband can work with little worry about the kids and he knows he shirts will be cleaned, dinner will be made and all he has to do is work. When I do work eventually, my husband knows he will have to clean bathrooms, do laundry and cook and we need to take turns and on top of it take turns taking kids to lessons and doing daddy and me and mommy and me time.tleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654883341135225394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-83357874565291977262013-01-17T11:28:05.946-06:002013-01-17T11:28:05.946-06:00I am a stay at home mom, I have teacher's coll...I am a stay at home mom, I have teacher's college etc. I do feel lucky that I am able to stay home. I think it is best for our two kids, it is easier on my husband to go to work everyday and know that I am at home, he gets dinner made, laundry done and knows the kids are in good hands. It is a team effort. But, I have education and we both know it is not forever and I will work. I want my kids to also be proud of me and have someone to model after. When that day comes, my husband knows he will have to clean washrooms, take turns cooking and take turns doing laundry and cleaning.tleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654883341135225394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-29338605701602891332013-01-17T11:27:43.520-06:002013-01-17T11:27:43.520-06:00I am a stay at home mom, I have teacher's coll...I am a stay at home mom, I have teacher's college etc. I do feel lucky that I am able to stay home. I think it is best for our two kids, it is easier on my husband to go to work everyday and know that I am at home, he gets dinner made, laundry done and knows the kids are in good hands. It is a team effort. But, I have education and we both know it is not forever and I will work. I want my kids to also be proud of me and have someone to model after. When that day comes, my husband knows he will have to clean washrooms, take turns cooking and take turns doing laundry and cleaning.tleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654883341135225394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-4080477259463056652013-01-01T06:04:02.199-06:002013-01-01T06:04:02.199-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211386709229488638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-48504890920622164412013-01-01T06:02:31.012-06:002013-01-01T06:02:31.012-06:00"More of the moocher mentality. I fear for wh..."More of the moocher mentality. I fear for where this country is going. Obama proudly campaigns as the pro-moocher President and he's winning handily." <br /><br />you are all a bunch of pathetic god diggers, manipulating the system so that you won't have to get a job.Thata the whole idea isn't it? It has nothing to do with whats best for your child and everything to do with your lazy, selfish mooching A!@#$es. So basically, the plan is, get married, have a meal ticket as soon as humanly possible and there's your sorry, goldigging excuse for mooching off someone elses back. you are all very very patheitc and I'm ashamed to be a woman because of people like you.I feel even worse for your clueless wallets..ummm husbands, who are really nothing more than a ticket to the gravy train.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211386709229488638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-77875199556015376012013-01-01T06:01:48.700-06:002013-01-01T06:01:48.700-06:00"More of the moocher mentality. I fear for wh..."More of the moocher mentality. I fear for where this country is going. Obama proudly campaigns as the pro-moocher President and he's winning handily." <br /><br />you are all a bunch of pathetic god diggers, manipulating the system so that you won't have to get a job.Thata the whole idea isn't it? It has nothing to do with whats best for your child and everything to do with your lazy, selfish mooching A!@#$es. So basically, the plan is, get married, have a meal ticket as soon as humanly possible and there's your sorry, goldigging excuse for mooching off someone elses back. you are all very very patheitc and I'm ashamed to be a woman because of people like you.I feel even worse for your clueless wallets..ummm husbands, who are really nothing more than a ticket to the gravy train.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211386709229488638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-20615650267581173412012-09-23T17:19:44.624-05:002012-09-23T17:19:44.624-05:00ruralcounsel:
IAAL, so I guess I'm fairly up ...ruralcounsel:<br /><br />IAAL, so I guess I'm fairly up to speed on the techniques. Of course it depends on the state. In Texas, it's a matter of declaring it separate property (by gift if necessary) and being consistent about it, using a trust if necessary to maintain its unambiguously separate status.<br /><br />But my husband (now of almost 30 years) and I never had to worry about it. This is a community property state, where it's obvious from the start that everything is 50/50 unless you take some care to make it otherwise. We worked all that out early on, so that it wouldn't be a dark undercurrent in every spat over the years. Marital power struggles are hard enough without adding the financial complication.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-24095100898450832022012-09-23T16:09:27.255-05:002012-09-23T16:09:27.255-05:00Texan99,
Just in case you didn't know, unless ...Texan99,<br />Just in case you didn't know, unless there is a realy good prenup and all finances were disclosed ahead of time, there is no such thing as "socked away savings in [your] own name" if you are married. Nothing will get you hit with contempt of court faster than trying to hide financial resources in the midst of a divorce's property settlement. Most family courts don't care a wit how property is titled.<br /><br />All,<br />I'm late to this party, but one aspect I haven't seen addressed well, was that life, and especially work and income, are not static or monotonically increasing anymore.<br /><br />Those decisions made jointly years ago about someone staying home from work don't hold up really well if the work-for-$ partner has a career that craters. Talk about resentment! The stay-at-home mom feels like you've breached the contract, and regardless of circumstances, she'll never really accept that it wasn't your fault.<br /><br />So tread carefully down this road. What you can afford now may not be what you can afford in the future.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />ruralcounselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09193188081686431709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-12895783336513731592012-09-23T11:04:53.612-05:002012-09-23T11:04:53.612-05:00I'm sorry if I misunderstood you, etendue. I ...I'm sorry if I misunderstood you, etendue. I thought you said you lived below your means before the divorce and were doing so even more now after the divorce. But at the same time you seemed to be describing a situation in which there was some kind of chronic fiscal deficit (i.e., the credit-card over-spending problem).<br /><br />So I thought you must be using the phrase in an unfamiliar way.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-74129184358756627942012-09-23T09:48:33.045-05:002012-09-23T09:48:33.045-05:00Meade and Ann are loafs leaching off the taxpayers...Meade and Ann are loafs leaching off the taxpayers if Wisconsin. Once written, twice...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10551607322231833310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-80574945709246187572012-09-23T09:45:40.565-05:002012-09-23T09:45:40.565-05:00Hi Texan99,
I understand exactly what was being s...Hi Texan99,<br /><br />I understand exactly what was being said previously here. I just needed the person who is potentially the one assigned to make the money to beware of what potential pitfalls lie ahead if the wife decides it's not a family thing many years down the road.<br /><br />As for living below my means, you should see where and how we lived before you "assume" what I am saying.<br /><br />It's hard to sock away money when the person not working chronically spends 500-1200/month on credit cards and refuses to stop.<br /><br />Look, as people have said above, you need to know your partner, but the person you knew may not be there 15 years later.etenduehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08736991650714691730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-60272450008017451882012-09-23T09:26:22.920-05:002012-09-23T09:26:22.920-05:00Etendue -- when you say "living below your me...Etendue -- when you say "living below your means," I get the idea that you're referring to something more like "living below your sense of where you'd like to be in life." The commenters here are talking about adjusting expenses downward so that there's money left over in each paycheck cycle for savings and emergency funds, instead of spending whatever is necessary to live a life like that of one's dual-income colleagues or neighbors.<br /><br />It's true that divorce will put a huge strain on any savings or retirement planning. It's always going to be more expensive to support two households. I have to say that, if I were to be a SAHM, I'd want savings socked away in my own name. The last thing you'd want is to have to sue your soon-to-be-ex for some share of what he always thought of as "his" money, while you were assuming that it was "family" money.<br /><br />The commenters above who talked about being in this together really nailed it.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-79576719459218528262012-09-23T09:14:17.081-05:002012-09-23T09:14:17.081-05:00Big WARNING to Dads on this one. Although it is g...Big WARNING to Dads on this one. Although it is great to have Mom or Dad stay at home with the kids, when the divorce comes 15 years down the line, whoever is working will be guilty and have to pay.<br /><br />My first wife stayed home with the kids despite my insistence that she should continue working. After seeing that it was great for the kids, each year she had the option of staying home or going to work. She chose to stay home.<br /><br />Then many years later, she decided she wanted a divorce, and of course I was responsible for her ruined career. She also claimed she was too old to establish a career now. Not only did I have to give her half of everything (including my retirement), she gets half of my net pay for many years now.<br /><br />I have nothing left and somehow have to manage to get the kids through college on top of it all.<br /><br />I would never let a woman stay at home to care for the kids again. They are simply going to have to work.<br /><br />One salary was never enough, but hay-- it is worth it for the kids right? All while Mom was staying home, it was depressing to go places and always see couples doing far better and having far better homes than we did. Now that single salary which barely paid for everyone living under one roof is split between two roofs and college. Retirement will never happen, and my half-dead smoldering financial carcass is laying by the roadside.<br /><br />Yeah, with Mom staying at home, we lived below our means, and now after the divorce, we live far below our means. Great plan, and it worked out really well. Instead of the kids looking back and being glad that one parent stayed home, they now just resent us for the divorce.<br /><br />Stay at home Moms and no-fault divorce is prescription for financial disaster down the road.etenduehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08736991650714691730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-13138187413859231892012-09-22T17:44:47.919-05:002012-09-22T17:44:47.919-05:00"She can't understand why he passes on so..."She can't understand why he passes on socializing with her friends."<br /><br />If someone snubbed my husband for any reason, he or she would be out of my life so fast there'd be a popping vacuum in the room.Texan99https://www.blogger.com/profile/10479561573903660086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32978131230496574762012-09-22T17:01:51.538-05:002012-09-22T17:01:51.538-05:00I am very thankful that I have been able to be a s...I am very thankful that I have been able to be a stay home wife and mom for 24 years and we live quite well off a very modest income. It can be done, it is worth it and most definitely we should respect our spouses as well as our children.Humble wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823200562312609670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-34830302380393119132012-09-22T16:54:58.705-05:002012-09-22T16:54:58.705-05:00Author John Ross, wrote a number of columns a whil...Author John Ross, wrote a number of columns a while back, one of which addressed this very issue:<br /><br />http://web.archive.org/web/20070108014754/http://www.john-ross.net/feminism.htm<br /><br />Here's an excerpt:<br /><br />"Which of the career paths listed below makes more sense?:<br /><br />1. Focus on career right out of school, have recreational sex with pleasant male companions your own age, be on the success track for 10-15 years, then panic when you realize you want children but you don't want to derail your career, your looks are starting to fade compared to the twentysomethings, there aren't any men that seem interested in marrying you, and in any event, you're running out of time,<br /><br />or<br /><br />2. After high school or during college, focus on finding a man about 10 years older who has established himself in the last decade and who wants a family. Use your youth, looks, and fertility to find the best possible man for the role of Husband and Father. Have children at a young age, soon after you finish your schooling, while you have lots of energy and your body will recover quickly. Be there for the kids when they need you, and let your husband do the financial lifting. Be good to both the kids and your husband, and be thinking about what your career dreams are while caring for your family. Talk to your husband about these dreams. Tell him you don't want to just sit around the house at age 40-45. Then go after your dream, once the kids are of majority age. You've still got a few good decades left, plenty of time for career success."<br /><br />There's lots more provocative suggestions in the essay and definitely food for thought.jHans Waltherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994776247629290244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-76892901104479688262012-09-22T16:08:57.972-05:002012-09-22T16:08:57.972-05:00It has been a pleasure to read the commentary here...It has been a pleasure to read the commentary here. I live in a college town where the tenure track professors often have included in their contracts a position for their spouse (usually the wife) that their department pays a portion of. A good friend of mine with kids in the elementary school recently landed one of those dream jobs - $22/hour, 20 hours/week with a state pension. She says she has to work because her husband, making over $120K/year, says they can't make it on his income, even in upstate NY. <br /><br />This says a lot about people and their attitude towards money. She says she wants to stay home, though I suspect not really, but she can't figure out how to cut costs. Since my husband brings in less than half and we are doing our best despite the ghastly gas and food prices, I laughed when she told me this.<br /><br />That's kind of terrible to laugh, but I did use the being on the same team analogy with her when explaining why we're doing what we're doing. Being at home with my kids is an absolute gift and I let my husband know I feel that way every single day. Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03680006892613882759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-55107327144185311662012-09-22T15:13:20.387-05:002012-09-22T15:13:20.387-05:00My spouse and I have 4 kids and she is a stay at h... My spouse and I have 4 kids and she is a stay at home mom. My wife keeps up with the kids (and I help quite a bit), and volunteers for two community groups that work with young kids. Because we have the work divied out, I am able to also volunteer for yet another community group that works specifically with young boys. The amount of happiness and fulfillment we receive being able to raise 4 kids and at the same time be a vital part of our community cannot be measured. I highly recommend it to anyone. It may cause the money situation to be a little bit tight, but you will find yourself abundant with joy. Much better than living in a big two story box of a house that you wish you didn't have to maintain and always feeling like life is passing you by.Tom DesJardinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10872255790783709872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-34619891123715427902012-09-22T14:05:42.019-05:002012-09-22T14:05:42.019-05:00Hanna Rosin wept.Hanna Rosin wept.Zorrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697007740322417096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-1142720241567522102012-09-22T14:00:33.310-05:002012-09-22T14:00:33.310-05:00The other thing, if you decide to stay home, is th...<i>The other thing, if you decide to stay home, is that you need to support your spouse like steel. You are a steel pillar of supportiveness that cannot be moved. That makes all the difference, I think.</i><br /><br />Progressives viewing this relationship from the outside would conclude that the stay-at-home is a mere dishrag for doing this. This is thanks to the spiritual etiolation wrought by years of proclaiming that "the personal is political".The Sanity Inspectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04808433661634318393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-89526367963140407382012-09-22T14:00:32.715-05:002012-09-22T14:00:32.715-05:00Q-What do you do all day?
A-Anything I want.Q-What do you do all day? <br />A-Anything I want.TheManagementhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01482927217325519041noreply@blogger.com