tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post5014566852538268367..comments2024-03-29T00:04:32.434-05:00Comments on Althouse: "I am saddened by my daughter’s ongoing disappointment because we could not afford to send her to her dream college."Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger119125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-4821412013379963012012-10-01T14:25:03.828-05:002012-10-01T14:25:03.828-05:00My word, was I naive back when I graduated from hi...My word, was I naive back when I graduated from high school. Not only was I given no money for college, I was not even inclined to ask - I knew there wasn't any. Nor did any of my brothers and sisters, yet eight out of nine of us managed to go to college and four out of nine have advance degrees. And the one who didn't went straight into business and has more money than any of the rest.<br /><br />By today's standard, I guess my Mom and Dad were total failures. Trashhaulerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738976179703348520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-12980417302208662082012-10-01T14:10:58.778-05:002012-10-01T14:10:58.778-05:00This girl shows she is really smart by realizing t...This girl shows she is really smart by realizing that exercising her sense of entitlement to a dream college is not the way to go. There is no sense getting what you want when you end up deep in debt and to be in that situation for twenty years. That will just make her a debt slave.<br /><br />Evelyn Guzman<br />http://www.debtchallenges.com (If you want to visit, just click but if it doesn’t work, copy and paste it onto your browser.) <br />Randeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01323089616888583745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-82717370043424359872012-10-01T14:10:29.289-05:002012-10-01T14:10:29.289-05:00This girl shows she is really smart by realizing t...This girl shows she is really smart by realizing that exercising her sense of entitlement to a dream college is not the way to go. There is no sense getting what you want when you end up deep in debt and to be in that situation for twenty years. That will just make her a debt slave.<br /><br />Evelyn Guzman<br />http://www.debtchallenges.com (If you want to visit, just click but if it doesn’t work, copy and paste it onto your browser.) Randeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01323089616888583745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-37726989750800271312012-10-01T10:29:33.105-05:002012-10-01T10:29:33.105-05:00I Callahan said...
EXACTLY how I did it
My orig...I Callahan said... <br /><br /><i>EXACTLY how I did it</i><br /><br />My original comment reflected my college career as well. I was full time at a state university for 2 years, 90% on parents dime, with a few part time jobs to fill in the short moments...I didn't whine, but I was a f-up. Grades sucked. Dad suggested, emphatically, that I would do better working full time and going to night school in Detroit, and that the money spent so far didn't grow on trees. I didn't complain and managed to graduate in 8 years total, 6 of them on my dime. I even fondly recall the apartment at 2nd & Forest. Even though I drive by now and think WTF?<br /><br />Sabinal said...<br /><br />Airdog said...<br /><br /><i>...preach it!</i><br /><br />Didn't measn to sound "preachy" :-) I had responsible parents who laid it out. This lil' bimbo needs some of the same medicine.<br /><br />Let me repeat a theme I suggested earlier: There are NO poor families who can send their kids to $26K per year schools and pay for it...and there are damn sure none who'd feel bad about it not being even better if they could. <br /><br />I wonder at times how crap like this sob story gets written.<br /><br />Aridoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18345930150667529742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32157065665235193172012-10-01T09:55:26.748-05:002012-10-01T09:55:26.748-05:00Airdog said...
What a load of manure. Poor little...Airdog said...<br /><br />What a load of manure. Poor little darling is unhappy with her full time state university and parents footing the entire bill?<br /><br />Clue to parents: bring her tender behind home, stop paying for everything, tell her to get a full time job, and then if she really wants an education, enroll in a state university closest to your hometown for night school, on her own dime. She will find herself in the company of others who have to produce to progress. No hand outs. What a concept. <br /><br />preach it! Sabinalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832307463831745196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-6402125765493174862012-10-01T09:52:15.412-05:002012-10-01T09:52:15.412-05:00The child sounds naive, like no other person in th...The child sounds naive, like no other person in the world had to sacrifice their college dreams. You make the best of it. End of storySabinalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832307463831745196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-33730222879030338032012-10-01T03:48:55.702-05:002012-10-01T03:48:55.702-05:00"She wanted a small school where professors k...<i>"She wanted a small school where professors know their students by name, not as a number. She is a good student but finds all the partying at this particular school distracting."</i><br /><br />Then, actually, as has been suggested by Rustling Leaves, she should have gone to a community college for her first two years. (And it's probably not too late to switch!) Small classes taught by profs rather than TAs, people who are there to learn (rather than running off to college to party for a few years), lower tuition, and no residence fees since she'd be living at home.<br /><br />After she gets her Associate's, <i>then</i> transfer to a four-year institution (possibly better than this state school, since she saved the money the first two years) for the last two years, which means upper-division courses with significantly smaller class sizes.Stevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138730966226244399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-74001126164225543512012-09-30T22:59:10.863-05:002012-09-30T22:59:10.863-05:00I went to Dartmouth. I can truly say that once I ...I went to Dartmouth. I can truly say that once I returned to Arizona, it was perfectly useless to me and has not advanced my career a single millimeter. My daughter will go to the U. of Arizona and save her money for grad school.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-70181659135280095082012-09-30T22:34:24.162-05:002012-09-30T22:34:24.162-05:00I can see myself in that young woman. I was much t...I can see myself in that young woman. I was much too impressed with how bright I was, my expectations were way too high, and I wasn't as sensitive as I should have been to my parents' other responsibilities. To make matters worse, I found out the hard way that I was unprepared for, and had little aptitude in, the area I thought I wanted to study. From reading the comments to this post, I feel ashamed of the me of 30 years ago.Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11953121679387977713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-22485397828004562642012-09-30T21:45:12.104-05:002012-09-30T21:45:12.104-05:00Barry,
One of my college friends did have a Ferra...Barry,<br /><br />One of my college friends did have a Ferrari.<br /><br />It was brand new. Of course it was the cheapest model (at the time), an F 355. OTOH, it was loaded, and it did still cost somewhere around $140,000, back then.<br /><br />Anywho, he had plenty of gals, though not Palmer's dancers.<br /><br />Sprezzaturahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14859397164637821056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-6426081955298576482012-09-30T21:24:05.872-05:002012-09-30T21:24:05.872-05:00And when I went to college, at a good but inexpens...And when I went to college, at a good but inexpensive in-state school (I got in just under the wire; it costs many times as much now), I was disappointed that I didn't have a Ferrari and Robert Palmer's dancers following me around.<br /><br />Boo-fucking-hoo.BarryDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08718280993291876400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-30314531202896348322012-09-30T21:06:42.675-05:002012-09-30T21:06:42.675-05:00bring her tender behind home, stop paying for ever...<i>bring her tender behind home, stop paying for everything, tell her to get a full time job, and then if she really wants an education, enroll in a state university closest to your hometown for night school, on her own dime.</i><br /><br />EXACTLY how I did it. Community college, then Walsh College of Accountancy and Business Administration (one of the best Accounting schools in the country - you can't even get in unless you already have 2 years of college).<br /><br />It took me 9 years part time (85-94), and I had 5 years real work experience when I got my degree. At the end, I owed no one anything. Not a single regret.<br /><br />If young people really want college and don't want the crushing debt, this is the way to do it.I Callahanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05685117264945267646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-85291114029807565662012-09-30T20:49:31.290-05:002012-09-30T20:49:31.290-05:00Did she consider working her ass off in high schoo...Did she consider working her ass off in high school in order to obtain a scholarship?<br /><br />How about attending a local college and getting an associates degree, working for a few years and then finishing up at the "dream" college?<br /><br />Incidentally, I paid for film school by working my ass off. Child #3 is attending a local university for $5000 a year--tuition is barely covered by grants. Child #4 is on target to get a full scholarship at the same school. For the bulk of undergrad degrees, it's a damn good school.<br />Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04450897654318345683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-54860527958614334542012-09-30T20:43:21.035-05:002012-09-30T20:43:21.035-05:00I am saddened by my ongoing disappointment because...I am saddened by my ongoing disappointment because I cannot afford to send myself on my dream vacation.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04450897654318345683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-67600584383649227152012-09-30T20:42:19.788-05:002012-09-30T20:42:19.788-05:00I'd like more backstory here. Where did this ...I'd like more backstory here. Where did this idea of the "dream college" come from? Without knowing that, it's hard to tell if the daughter is legitimately disappointed or just being whiny. Where was the mom when the daughter was developing this dream? Maybe the mom was part of it. Certainly it sounds like expectations weren't well-managed, though maybe their financial situation changed recently.<br /><br />My parents valued hard work, but refused to go into debt or allow me to do so, and I was told that without a scholarship they would not pay a dime towards my tuition. I knew this at 13. My dream college was whatever one would give me the most money to attend it. That path helped me earn three degrees (including a PhD) essentially for free, so I wonder how some of these "dreams" get started.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14309242815065299082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-15660048853824474002012-09-30T20:22:30.557-05:002012-09-30T20:22:30.557-05:00Would I be the butt of your jokes if I asked to bu...Would I be the butt of your jokes if I asked to bum a fag? Nichevohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12591460407621898458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32582549103728069122012-09-30T20:18:04.782-05:002012-09-30T20:18:04.782-05:00Ascent. Bass fishing. Rear-ended. Niggardly.
You ...Ascent. Bass fishing. Rear-ended. Niggardly.<br /><br />You really disappoint.Nichevohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12591460407621898458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-63020018741610860212012-09-30T19:49:50.722-05:002012-09-30T19:49:50.722-05:00It was going to cost us $20,000 a year to send our...It was going to cost us $20,000 a year to send our second child to Ohio State. He ended up going to an Ivy for $16,000 instead. <br /><br />That has never made sense to me, but OSU pays it's president and football coaches millions, so I guess they have to get that money from somewhere.Sydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17038514318463662024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-42827716149297017652012-09-30T19:02:11.686-05:002012-09-30T19:02:11.686-05:00"You choose words not just for their meaning ..."You choose words not just for their meaning but for their sound and connotations. "Rear" is unpleasant... it has a whiff of ass."<br /><br />The joke is that Greek boy hated to leave home because he didn't want to leave his brothers behind. "<br /><br />Is "behind" also out of bounds ?Michael Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18127450762129879267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-41890398749624762042012-09-30T18:57:46.230-05:002012-09-30T18:57:46.230-05:00"Rear" is unpleasant... it has a whiff o...<i> "Rear" is unpleasant... it has a whiff of ass.</i><br /><br />If there was video of someone saying that, how many times would Rush have to play it before it was obvious that Romney was a bigoted homophobe?<br /><br />Tom Spauldinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12659958976432044478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-88772540412699781462012-09-30T18:37:48.708-05:002012-09-30T18:37:48.708-05:00MadisonMan said...
As to why this woman is writi...MadisonMan said... <br /><br /><i>As to why this woman is writing to an Advice Columnist for such a White Person Problem ...</i><br /><br />Because she's not, really...it is scripted BS for the column. Reality TV meets advice columns, or vice versa. <br /><br />I fell for it on first read...and I am embarrassed that I did. Aridoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18345930150667529742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-88803686051876897042012-09-30T18:16:05.947-05:002012-09-30T18:16:05.947-05:00"$26K seems high for one year at a state scho..."$26K seems high for one year at a state schools, or is UW just cheap? It's $10K tuition for my daughter (I'm paying) plus room and board (she pays) which I think is way less than $10K."<br /><br />I think UC schools are approaching that level. I don't know because my middle daughter who went to UCLA graduated about 10 years ago. She is now at USC, the private U where the two oldest went, and I went, in a PhD program all expenses paid for five years including two in Spain. She has recently decided to take a LOA for a couple of years to take a job.<br /><br />U of Arizona is at $26,000 tuition for out of state students. UC is now limiting in-state students so it can take more out of states.<br /><br />The junior colleges, where my middle daughter went before she transferred to UCLA, are getting starved by the state financial woes. They were excellent when I took some computer science classes at the local one in 1995-98. I don't know about now.<br /><br />When I sent the older two to USC in the 1980s, the tuition and room and board was about $7500 a semester for both of them. They overlapped for part of the time. The middle daughter lived in an apartment but tuition then was about $7500.Michael Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18127450762129879267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-23249633194147425122012-09-30T18:12:38.943-05:002012-09-30T18:12:38.943-05:00When my children were small and came in from playi...When my children were small and came in from playing outside, all sweaty and hot, there was a definite smell of kid wafting off of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-49358288741134116482012-09-30T18:00:48.274-05:002012-09-30T18:00:48.274-05:00"Yes; and "rearing" children means ..."Yes; and "rearing" children means what it means. I'm sorry that you think the word is "unpleasant.""<br /><br />You choose words not just for their meaning but for their sound and connotations. "Rear" is unpleasant... it has a whiff of ass.Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-6241475183377671742012-09-30T17:41:32.081-05:002012-09-30T17:41:32.081-05:00And if you use that ream of paper with ESQUIRE beh...And if you use that ream of paper with ESQUIRE behind your name to help your friends and neighbors intimidate the shit out of those who did them "wrong" too?<br /><br />Hell, I think you're destined for politics!<br /><br /> Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02094488084214911115noreply@blogger.com