tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post4912815046825384171..comments2024-03-28T12:53:25.085-05:00Comments on Althouse: I hope if you're a loner, you're a true loner and not a pseudo-loner.Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-52287522989770412982010-02-27T10:20:05.381-06:002010-02-27T10:20:05.381-06:00You guys should say hi at my forum sometimes..You guys should say hi at <a href="http://www.loners-club.com" rel="nofollow">my forum </a>sometimes..Goth80shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14694638370616732613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-67318228864313569582010-02-27T10:17:50.583-06:002010-02-27T10:17:50.583-06:00Im happy reading this blog :) There are people who...Im happy reading this blog :) There are people who said they were loners but instead they were sad because they have no friends (??!) Loners are people who enjoy their life without accompany of others.Goth80shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14694638370616732613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-23024799511947021462008-11-09T19:53:00.000-06:002008-11-09T19:53:00.000-06:00PJ is onto something. I found that for a time I h...PJ is onto something. I found that for a time I had all these other people trying to get me involved in groups so I wouldn't be alone. Finally I realized that I had to matter to me first before I could worry about anyone else so I spent time getting my priorities together. Now I am perfectly happy to be alone or to be with small groups. Still do not like large gatherings. Cocktail parties are dead boring to me and the thought of something like New Year's Eve at Times Square makes we want to curl up in a fetal ball.dickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08976498133597991337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-38265160724592320132008-11-09T15:23:00.000-06:002008-11-09T15:23:00.000-06:00It's other people that provide the pressure. They ...It's other people that provide the pressure. They just won't believe you.lowercasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03005647523147840405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32394347383450671672008-11-09T12:43:00.000-06:002008-11-09T12:43:00.000-06:00Hi, Autonomous. I found your comment interesting a...Hi, Autonomous. I found your comment interesting and made a new post out of it. So go <A HREF="http://althouse.blogspot.com/2008/11/im-here-on-internet-and-i-cant-find-any.html" REL="nofollow">here</A> to see what people have to say.Ann Althousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-34749073223146651612008-11-09T11:34:00.000-06:002008-11-09T11:34:00.000-06:00Party of One has been a big realization for me. No...Party of One has been a big realization for me. Not because I didn't know I was a loner, but I certainly wasn't aware that anyone else understood it! It's an orientation, I agree. I just wish that more people would understand that it's a lifestyle, not a dysfunction. <BR/><BR/>I'm here on the internet and I can't find any communities for loners. I know loners aren't necessarily condusive to desiring community, but I'm so deeply put-off of people from my grueling experiences with extroverts and socialites. So, I'd like to get a chance to talk to my own kind a little. I know there are a lot of people who feel the same way as me... but I can't find a message board for them.Crusadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768613544131281792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-50818478011002138762008-10-28T11:24:00.000-05:002008-10-28T11:24:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Christopher Vallandinghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18276899575920155421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-31076837049433666562008-08-24T17:39:00.000-05:002008-08-24T17:39:00.000-05:00It seems odd to me to get into a discussion about ...It seems odd to me to get into a discussion about solitude.<BR/><BR/>Where some are energized by others, I find that contact depletes, as if friends were vampires. Interactions are shadows covering up the sun.<BR/><BR/>My work involves hearing people tell stories all day. Few are happy stories, most involve pain, and decay and the fear of death.<BR/><BR/>By dusk I am completely drained, and long not to see any other people at all. But they're goddamned everywhere, even in my house. <BR/><BR/>To me, hell isn't other people, but talking to them can be.KCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-83807279807871468872008-08-24T09:53:00.000-05:002008-08-24T09:53:00.000-05:00I'm just saying there's a gender divide on the mat...I'm just saying there's a gender divide on the matter.<BR/><BR/>It's what holds your interest.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-75020465997480009642008-08-24T09:33:00.000-05:002008-08-24T09:33:00.000-05:00God forbid there be frivolity in socializing.God forbid there be frivolity in socializing.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12824506338738265111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-65015469715686145072008-08-24T04:53:00.000-05:002008-08-24T04:53:00.000-05:00Which is to say, they're not really interested in ...Which is to say, they're not really interested in what you're interested in.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-8159078785191027212008-08-24T04:51:00.000-05:002008-08-24T04:51:00.000-05:00Female chemists are a dime a dozen. It's fallout ...Female chemists are a dime a dozen. It's fallout from dropping out of pre-med.<BR/><BR/>Qualified women hired into the math or physics departments wind up in charge of the ``women's workplace issues'' committee or organize conferences.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-84669142856633109652008-08-23T23:42:00.000-05:002008-08-23T23:42:00.000-05:00I'm a fierce loner, but still get lonely. I e...I'm a fierce loner, but still get lonely. I enjoy people but generally in small doses. You might think that loners could pal up with other loners, to find that balance. Hasn't happened for me. My big concern is should I become unable to live alone for any reason, how will I handle it? Foreseeing this problem, I indulge my fondness for cheeseburgers.<BR/><BR/>On a related topic, solitude, here's an awesome book by poet Kathleen Norris:<BR/><BR/>http://www.amazon.com/Dakota-Spiritual-Geography-Kathleen-Norris/dp/0618127240/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1219549822&sr=8-1Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00204706506025528522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-19149459307658162552008-08-23T23:35:00.000-05:002008-08-23T23:35:00.000-05:00Trooper, if you coulda choked more than one chicke...Trooper, if you coulda choked more than one chicken at a time, you'd have been the VP!Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12327563444009264980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32330224033633368312008-08-23T22:07:00.000-05:002008-08-23T22:07:00.000-05:00We have to hook up RH with Abby Sciuto from NCIS. ...We have to hook up RH with Abby Sciuto from NCIS. You know the funky punk rocker scientist chick. Now I know she has tattoos and weird clothes and all. But I have just two words for RH:<BR/><BR/>Chicken legs.Trooper Yorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978703998566102194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-11803310062797448632008-08-23T21:55:00.000-05:002008-08-23T21:55:00.000-05:00Rh, have you ever met a female physicist? Or chemi...Rh, have you ever met a female physicist? Or chemist, or seen a episode of Bones, for that matter? We're not exactly the type of women who go to the bathroom in pairs!lurker2209https://www.blogger.com/profile/12095806034772890177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-89789425485728951552008-08-23T21:49:00.000-05:002008-08-23T21:49:00.000-05:00rhhardin sorely needs to get laidrhhardin sorely needs to get laidRyanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13154974934179330668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-43434992553660245662008-08-23T20:33:00.000-05:002008-08-23T20:33:00.000-05:00RH you freak me out man.RH you freak me out man.Trooper Yorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978703998566102194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-32630131931733512512008-08-23T19:56:00.000-05:002008-08-23T19:56:00.000-05:00Here y'go, Troop. Find the hidden rooster.A math...<A HREF="http://www.flickr.com/photos/rhhardin/2790165689/sizes/o/" REL="nofollow">Here y'go</A>, Troop. Find the hidden rooster.<BR/><BR/>A mathematician (let that stand for a male with an interest that occupies him happily) has no trouble socializing. There has to be a reason, that's all.<BR/><BR/>Like (say) your mathematician has a Doberman because of an interest in langauge; he will very quickly say to a complete stranger with a Doberman, ``Can I meet your dog?''<BR/><BR/>A few sentences of actual mutual interest are likely to occur.<BR/><BR/>Compare that to the complete frivolity of a woman in the matter of socializing.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-83795596612467031932008-08-23T19:26:00.000-05:002008-08-23T19:26:00.000-05:00I don't think loners can be simply classified into...I don't think loners can be simply classified into those who want to be alone and those who hate and resent it. I've always been capable of entertaining myself. I was reaquainted with a step-aunt I hadn't seen since childhood at my Grandfather's funeral last week and upon determining that I was the oldest and my (taller) sister was younger, she commented, "O, you're the one who always had her nose in a book." <BR/><BR/>I develop patterns of alone behavior--solitary activities and amusements. But I find that on the occasion when I want to be around people, I haven't cultivated the skills or the friendships to be able to do so easily. It's awkward and uncomfortable. It takes a lot of solitude for me to reach a place where I'm unhappy alone, but I do reach it from time to time. I let my natural state of being become my only state of being. <BR/><BR/>We'll see how this changes. I'm getting a new apartment with a roommate, mostly for money issues. We both tend to be loners so I don't think the times I tend to hole up in my room with a book or laptop will bother her, but we'll each get a basic level of social interaction. Maybe that will be good for me, or maybe I'll have to make myself get used to it. It will be interesting.lurker2209https://www.blogger.com/profile/12095806034772890177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-44935914146649108652008-08-23T18:33:00.000-05:002008-08-23T18:33:00.000-05:00So my subscription to Crazed Lone Gunman magazine ...So my subscription to <I>Crazed Lone Gunman</I> magazine isn't a warning sign?blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430444326700437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-82226998712243963782008-08-23T18:14:00.000-05:002008-08-23T18:14:00.000-05:00It's okay, rh, I understand. Forget that mean Troo...It's okay, rh, I understand. Forget that mean Troop with his chicken fixation.ricpichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01321511130788764861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-65148443776085217032008-08-23T18:06:00.000-05:002008-08-23T18:06:00.000-05:00It's not a matter of introvert.It's a matter of ac...It's not a matter of introvert.<BR/><BR/>It's a matter of actually being interested in something.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-20074248598353999992008-08-23T18:05:00.000-05:002008-08-23T18:05:00.000-05:00How socially oriented women are is always surprisi...How socially oriented women are is always surprising.<BR/><BR/>``How can anybody be otherwise?'' they think.<BR/><BR/>They haven't a clue.rhhardinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901742898653890646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-82558960994236934672008-08-23T17:58:00.001-05:002008-08-23T17:58:00.001-05:00Yes, william. Yes.Yes, chip ahoy. Yes.Yes, william. Yes.<BR/><BR/>Yes, chip ahoy. Yes.Donna B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16771075314473811594noreply@blogger.com