tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post4307932136344422872..comments2024-03-28T12:16:16.190-05:00Comments on Althouse: Stay-at-Home-Dad complains about the special treatment he gets as the one dad amongst the moms at a library storytime.Ann Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630636239933008807noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-66658140219711186672010-10-07T19:06:58.371-05:002010-10-07T19:06:58.371-05:00Perhaps. It also could be that by changing the sto...<i>Perhaps. It also could be that by changing the stories and songs, the other participants were sending a subtle message that he wasn't welcome and should not return. </i><br /><br />I think you have to come into the situation with a bit of a chip on your shoulder to jump to this explanation rather than the other. <br /><br /><i>Paying him no special attention would have been the right way to make him feel welcome.</i><br /><br />So ignoring him is polite and welcoming him and thanking him for coming is rude? Got it! Seriously, the only reason I can someone being annoyed at getting rather mild, friendly attention is that they are painfully shy. I'm not sure if painfully shy people volunteer articles for the NYtimes about how shy they are, though. <br /><br />I have a feeling if it were the other way around, and the librarian just went along with a bunch of songs and books that referenced only mommy's, no daddy's, they would not have been applauded for that.Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-84590290041467449642010-10-07T18:41:06.371-05:002010-10-07T18:41:06.371-05:00Eh, I used to take my son to the library's sto...Eh, I used to take my son to the library's story time, and we used to add "daddy" to songs even though there were no dads present. I got the impression that the idea--since there were no dads present--was similar to the ideas behind the recent kids books that are father-focused. I'm not sure whether it's more to undo the tyrannical power of the mommy or to remind us as a culture that fathers are good. <br /><br />I have noticed a definite trend among NYT readers, among others, to immediately suspect any attempts at friendliness to have some kind of nefarious ulterior motive, though. I remember one gay blogger a while ago complaining that some fella who ran some small-town gas station was asking him where he came from and so on--the usual kinds of small-town small talk. He suspected that the guy was a homophobe and was out to get him or some such nonsense. Pity he didn't get to print his paranoia in the NYT, but to me, it's much the same.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14330485700488718138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-35137232386859700302010-10-07T18:40:40.067-05:002010-10-07T18:40:40.067-05:00Eh, I used to take my son to the library's sto...Eh, I used to take my son to the library's story time, and we used to add "daddy" to songs even though there were no dads present. I got the impression that the idea--since there were no dads present--was similar to the ideas behind the recent kids books that are father-focused. I'm not sure whether it's more to undo the tyrannical power of the mommy or to remind us as a culture that fathers are good. <br /><br />I have noticed a definite trend among NYT readers, among others, to immediately suspect any attempts at friendliness to have some kind of nefarious ulterior motive, though. I remember one gay blogger a while ago complaining that some fella who ran some small-town gas station was asking him where he came from and so on--the usual kinds of small-town small talk. He suspected that the guy was a homophobe and was out to get him or some such nonsense. Pity he didn't get to print his paranoia in the NYT, but to me, it's much the same.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14330485700488718138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-37587702165144277772010-10-07T18:33:59.980-05:002010-10-07T18:33:59.980-05:00In the song, "The Wheels on the Bus," th...In the song, "The Wheels on the Bus," there are some gender specific lyrics that are easily changed. <br /><br />"The mommies on the bus say 'Shh, shh, shh"<br /> <br />can become <br /><br />"The mommies and the daddies say 'Shh, shh, shh."<br /><br />It ain't rocket science. We were doing it 15 years ago.Peter Hohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06916196998855947137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-90980450797397157062010-10-07T17:59:25.398-05:002010-10-07T17:59:25.398-05:00People noticed that the stories and songs were gea...<i>People noticed that the stories and songs were geared towards mom's and they tried to include him.</i><br /><br />Perhaps. It also could be that by changing the stories and songs, the other participants were sending a subtle message that he wasn't welcome and should not return. Paying him no special attention would have been the right way to make him feel welcome.<br /><br />PeterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-81517007698318867462010-10-07T17:58:45.240-05:002010-10-07T17:58:45.240-05:00Sounds like he needs to listen to
The Most Interes...Sounds like he needs to listen to<br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZYslSzPdTg" rel="nofollow">The Most Interesting Man in the World</a>R.L. Hunterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600243823595295539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-12019234135780952112010-10-07T17:52:48.031-05:002010-10-07T17:52:48.031-05:00And NYT wonders why it has financial problems.And NYT wonders why it has financial problems.Peter V. Bellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209902525167395224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-46446936546596750192010-10-07T16:37:53.433-05:002010-10-07T16:37:53.433-05:00@Peter:
hah!@Peter:<br />hah!KCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-1248199794710970252010-10-07T15:34:00.735-05:002010-10-07T15:34:00.735-05:00FLS, try this song instead.
There's somethin...FLS, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1bumOZENyI" rel="nofollow">try this song instead.</a> <br /><br />There's something for everyone, especially Pogo, RH, and Crack.Peter Hohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06916196998855947137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-11492467294182690202010-10-07T15:17:48.131-05:002010-10-07T15:17:48.131-05:00Yeah, I thought the 70s were going to last forever...Yeah, I thought the 70s were going to last forever, too. <br /><br />Nobody likes to be singled out because of some physical attribute. (Althouse's first day at the law firm: We have a female attorney now, lads. No more cursing and no more farting in the coffee room. ;) )<br /><br />But he should have just sucked it up and played along. Better yet, asked to sing his own song:<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzN0mMx-sJgformer law studenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15196697206046544350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-41087523397133684612010-10-07T15:06:24.082-05:002010-10-07T15:06:24.082-05:00Behind every successful woman is a man, behind him...Behind every successful woman is a man, behind him is her husband.Meadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00117933390338651739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-49586061025507407962010-10-07T14:54:12.646-05:002010-10-07T14:54:12.646-05:00So, all women agree that they don't agree?
P...<i>So, all women agree that they don't agree? </i><br /><br />Probably not all of them :)Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-80292796748386268682010-10-07T14:40:32.036-05:002010-10-07T14:40:32.036-05:00Also....do ALL women want the same thing?This last...<i>Also....do ALL women want the same thing?This last part is what is really annoying: the idea that 'women' are some part of a uniform block sharing the same ideas and goals. </i><br /><br /><b>Indeed! </b><br /><br />So, all women agree that they don't agree?blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430444326700437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-38247044662005589712010-10-07T14:36:01.264-05:002010-10-07T14:36:01.264-05:00UGH.
I made the mistake of giving the article ano...UGH.<br /><br />I made the mistake of giving the article another chance.<br /><br />I waited a spell and re-re-read it.<br /><br />The guy is a consummate Jackass.<br /><br />Really, just a smug and over-important jerk.<br /><br />Again I level my malice at the editors. This time the Times.<br /><br />UGH.<br /><br />A painful read, yuck.mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11571641888235183785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-19695176157600113342010-10-07T14:35:11.867-05:002010-10-07T14:35:11.867-05:00The new person at a kid event is often specially c...<i>The new person at a kid event is often specially catered to or looked at, man or woman. </i><br /><br />They probably would have chilled if he had bothered to come more than once. <br /><br /><i>Also....do ALL women want the same thing?This last part is what is really annoying: the idea that 'women' are some part of a uniform block sharing the same ideas and goals. </i><br /><br />Indeed!Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-45069023420632362762010-10-07T14:34:47.980-05:002010-10-07T14:34:47.980-05:00He's Iron John, post-chelation.
Flaccid John....He's Iron John, post-chelation.<br /><br />Flaccid John.KCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-3705410826250140612010-10-07T14:23:10.254-05:002010-10-07T14:23:10.254-05:00He was a novelty. People noticed that the stories...He was a novelty. People noticed that the stories and songs were geared towards mom's and they tried to include him. I don't see what's wrong with that (in fact it sounds rather nice of them), except maybe that he's shy and the attention bothered him. If he weren't shy, maybe he would have appreciated the attempts to include him.Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709594638793030086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-70518938134034295722010-10-07T14:09:59.360-05:002010-10-07T14:09:59.360-05:00Manpowerment: Because you were waaaay too butch wi...Manpowerment: Because you were waaaay too butch with that battleship gray fanny pack.blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430444326700437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-39815821357159835112010-10-07T14:09:52.848-05:002010-10-07T14:09:52.848-05:00Freeman's right.
Manpowerment = mansturbatio...Freeman's right.<br /><br />Manpowerment = mansturbationKCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-20085092873553339802010-10-07T14:07:44.482-05:002010-10-07T14:07:44.482-05:00"Manpowerment"?
"Domesticated"..."<i>Manpowerment"</i>?<br />"<i>Domesticated"</i>?<br />"<i>getting in touch with (his) feelings "</i>?<br /><br />Whaaa?!<br /><br />Won't someone <i>please</i> hit that man upside the haid?KCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-69104123261623287542010-10-07T14:05:12.921-05:002010-10-07T14:05:12.921-05:00Manpowerment: The surest way to cure your wife of ...Manpowerment: The surest way to cure your wife of her annoying sex drive.Freeman Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16202310075717963694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-84374170834074810082010-10-07T13:56:13.561-05:002010-10-07T13:56:13.561-05:00Does a manpowered man manstruate?Does a manpowered man manstruate?blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430444326700437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-5796980200350862092010-10-07T13:55:22.023-05:002010-10-07T13:55:22.023-05:00Say your husband tells you over breakfast that he&...Say your husband tells you over breakfast that he's going to start networking with other dudes to get in touch with their feelings and talk about their domesticated lives...Freeman Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16202310075717963694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-25991925926073586682010-10-07T13:44:15.544-05:002010-10-07T13:44:15.544-05:00Then again, I can see how one might be momentarily...<i>Then again, I can see how one might be momentarily annoyed enough to write a blog post about it, so he's probably not really a drama king.</i><br /><br />No, go with that. The larger question might be why the New York Times thought it was worth sharing.Drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777570055677374834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329595.post-19693905529895618612010-10-07T13:43:57.279-05:002010-10-07T13:43:57.279-05:00Nevermind, he used the word 'manpowerment'...Nevermind, he used the word 'manpowerment' in a positive way and defines it thusly, "the trend of stay-at-home dads like myself getting in touch with their feelings and blogging or conferencing about their domesticated lives." A million gag-me's in his direction.Freeman Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16202310075717963694noreply@blogger.com