November 26, 2013

"Lazy Men Are Responsible for the Great Orgasm Deficit."

A headline at Cosmopolitan. Excerpt:
These days, it feels like men are letting themselves off the hook for one-sided orgasms a little too easily.... "I know some women don't have orgasms every time. Don't worry about it." Now that he's framed it like you're the one who's being forgiven for your tricky, finicky genitals...
Framing. It's not just for politics.

And since the new study on the low rate of female orgasm has emerged, so have myriad response pieces (by women) about how sex feels good even without an orgasm, and how orgasms are almost besides the point.

Are they? Sure, it's true, to a point. But is this just a rationalization to continue letting men off the hook and Criss Angel Mindfreak women into thinking that their own orgasms aren't as important as the man's?
I had to look up Criss Angel Mindfreak. I thought it referred to some character who puts her all into pleasing men, but apparently it's the name of a reality TV show about a magician named Criss Angel. Mindfreak isn't part of the performer's name I was disappointed to learn.

That short Cosmo article used the phrase "off the hook" twice, and the about the new study — which went to another Cosmo article — is about the orgasm deficit in during "hookup" sex. Too many hooks!

And Cosmo math is terrible. The headline at that linked article says "Only Half of All Women Orgasm During Casual Sex," and the text says:
Today in ~*~*Duh, Science~*~*, research presented at the International Academy of Sex Research’s annual meeting reflects that women are half as likely to orgasm during oral or penetrative sex as a casual hookup versus either of those sex acts in a relationship.
~*~*Duh, Math~*~*

38 comments:

traditionalguy said...

Give Cosmo a break. What if you had to come up with their cover every month? Logic is irrelevant to a Cosmo writer's titillated young women readers.

SGT Ted said...

Women who can't achieve an orgasm during sex blame the man. Which seems to be the "go-to" scapegoat for anything women fail at.

Figures. They can't even accept responsibility for paying for their own BC. Why would the orgasm be any different?

Hey ladies, if your thang requires special instructions for manipulation, you had better let the guy know.

damikesc said...

It's not like guys never fake orgasms (condoms make that easy to pull off).

It's not like all women are just amazing in bed. Quite a few are openly terrible.

Feminism has ended up being, sexually, a Godsend for men. Women viewing whoring themselves out for little as empowerment is one of the most insane views of equality I've ever seen, but I've taken advantage of that mindset before I got married.

betamax3000 said...

Maybe some women have worn out their orgasm button.

tim in vermont said...

Of course the problem isn't casual sex for its own sake, it's the men!

betamax3000 said...

Men have more orgasms than women. Of course, most of these are solitary, so it all evens out.

rhhardin said...

ORGSYM, on the other hand, set the base for created symbols in IBM 7090 assembler.

Scott M said...

The entire thing has been a scam. Women can rub one out just as quickly as a man can.

Tell me, why is it when a woman can't have an orgasm, it's somehow the man's fault, but when the man can't get an erection, it's somehow the man's fault?

Shouting Thomas said...

Most women don't have a clue what works for them sexually, and feminism has made them exponentially more clueless than they were pre-feminist imposed stupidity.

The scolding that women do (Althouse is a prime example) is what most women think of as sexual play and romance.

White women are usually abject failures in bed. Filipinas, and Asian women in general, are taught something by their culture, and generally accept tradition as a guide.

The stupidity of feminism when it comes to sexuality is the built in punishment for the adherents to that ideology. The rejection of tradition extracts a price.

rhhardin said...

Cosmo cover suggestion : Coding tricks in 7090 assemberl.

Shouting Thomas said...

Fascinating to be in my mid-60s. The ratio of available women to men is already about 5 to 1. In five years, it'll be closer to 10 to 1.

Another one of those great advantages we men possess! We die a decade before the women.

I already have at least four old women (my age) who are fantasizing a sexual relationship with me so fervently that they sometimes imagine that that relationship exists. They are all white. One of them calls me one every six weeks or so to scold me because of my imaginary chase after her pussy.

I try to be sympathetic to the loss of companionship and sexual contact that is the bane of old age, but... There's an element of revenge satisfaction here that I can't deny. A lifetime of scoldings from white women is getting paid back.

I've tried to explain to the most attractive of these ladies how she might go about being a satisfactory mistress. First rule: don't rat me out to my girlfriend.

No go. She wants to be "completely honest." Already damned near ready to confess our non-relationship to my girlfriend, so besot is she by guilt.

White women are a mess.

Bob Boyd said...

An inequality women have always understood has now been demonstrated by scientific means.

Raising awareness is the first step, so if you care about sexual justice don't be afraid to bring this up at Thanksgiving dinner. Everybody has an Uncle Woody who thinks its just great that he gets off every time. Your family respects you for the way you use your pent up frustrations to tear into your loved ones during a holiday meal.
But be prepared. Visit OFA, Orgasms For America, and bone up on the issue!

betamax3000 said...

Men have the Constitutional right to abort a woman's orgasm. It is in the penumbra.

ironrailsironweights said...

I'll bet if more women remained in their flavorful natural states they would orgasm more easily.

Peter

TomHynes said...

rhhardin: Are you referring to the 7090 Fortran Assembler Program, or FAP?

EDH said...

Notice,

Men are "lazy".

Women are "disinterested".

In each case, it's the man's fault.

Joe said...

I suspect the "study" is largely bullshit, based on anecdote and a tiny sampling and selection bias.

The entire notion that most women don't orgasm during sex turns out to be nonsense as well--what the actually study found is that most women don't orgasm from penetrative sexual intercourse alone with no other stimulation. But who the hell has sex like that? Nobody.

And, BTW, isn't Cosmo one of the preachers of selfish sex--you are responsible for your own pleasure, not your partner--damn your partner and just get off.

(I recall reading an article by a former Cosmo writer who described how she made up, and was encouraged to make up, just about every article she wrote for the magazine. More than just about any magazine, Cosmo is there to sell ads, not content.)

Ron said...

Cosmo cover suggestion : Coding tricks in 7090 assemberl

A new definition for "bit twiddling"

Mark O said...

How does that old joke go?

rhhardin said...

Are you referring to the 7090 Fortran Assembler Program, or FAP?

Might have been the GMAP assembler on GE 600 machines, actually.

Historical research is required here.

The idea is that you leave off a macro parameter when it appears in a location field, and the assembler creates the symbol for the specific case. This controlled its name.

If you didn't have the created symbol, you'd get multiply defined errors after the first call.

rhhardin said...

I happen to have a FAP listing (go prev and following for full job printout), a student assignment.

William said...

I bet orgasmic sex burns more calories than polite, casual sex. That's what's behind women's craving for orgasmic sex. Orgasmic sex is like a chocolate diet food.

Bruce Hayden said...

Pretty pathetic that people here are arguing about 40 year old assemblers. I should note that my first computer was a GE time sharing computer circla 1970, followed by an early HP, which had my first assembler. Probably wrote assembler for maybe a dozen different systems in the next 20 years. About a decade later, was the patent attorney for the computer business that GE ultimately sold to Honneywell, which in turn sold it to Bull. I had the honor of finally shutting down the Multics OS, which arguably was part of the inspiration for UNIX. Still more of a programmer at heart than a patent attorney - which is a problem since the latter pays the bills.

Joe said...

I'm a programmer, but many days wonder whether I should have become a patent attorney.

Many years ago, I had a boss who worked on both Mac and Windows. One day I asked him which one he preferred. His answer; "Whatever one I'm NOT working on."

Bruce Hayden said...

I think that the hookup culture is a good part of the problem. One of the maybe unexpected consequences of female liberation is that fewer guys are having sex with more women, and those guys getting the most are the most jaded - a notch in their gun, and little more. Since many women no longer need a guy to support their (often non-existent) children, they more often tend to mate with the guys they view as alphas (though that is often more an image cultivated by the guys than reality). Plenty of guys who would be willing to help women climax, but they aren't the ones winning the hook-up lottery.

I have long had an interest in why some women climax easily, and for others, it is quite difficult, if not impossible. One thing may be that the more intellectual a woman is, the more she is separated from her body. Another may be that the more controlling she is, the harder it is to let loose. May be biased here, since I have tended over the last 40 years to spend more time with that sort of women. Still, been with enough women who had no problems in this area that I don't think the problem was on my end.

Fred Drinkwater said...

Old programmers (like me) Do It With Bits and Bytes.
I hated programming them, but Data General Novas did at least have a SEX instruction. Made them bigger and more powerful, it did.

damikesc said...

Reality is, women rebel against feminism all of the time, even "ardent feminists".

I've never met a woman who didn't want to be basically dominated (I don't like doing that, but will work on doing what they want for their sake). Not met one who didn't like being spanked (again, not my cup of tea, but I will do it if asked). All but one asked to be tied up. The wife wants to see me with another women, which is never going to happen for a multitude of reasons.

They know what they are supposed to watch, but are only willing to express their actual desires with somebody they trust.

Militant feminism knows less about women than the most clueless man on Earth.

Bushman of the Kohlrabi said...

I've certainly done my part to reduce the deficit.

rhhardin said...

14747 keyed into a PDP-11 at the top of memory and executed gives you a quick memory test.

mv -pc,-pc

if I remember correctly.

Smilin' Jack said...

And since the new study on the low rate of female orgasm has emerged, so have myriad response pieces (by women) about how sex feels good even without an orgasm, and how orgasms are almost besides the point.

Well, duh. The male orgasm is necessary for the continuance of the species. The female orgasm is about as relevant to reproduction as the male nipple.

Bart Hall (Kansas, USA) said...

Was it Leo Durocher who said "Nice guys finish last." ??

Howard said...

Let's see... can't get a white woman off and prefers Filipinas. We can all guess that Mr. Thom doesn't sport 13-triple E's. Only such a d-bag would ever brag about his Napoleonic complex.

Howard said...

Grinnin Jack-Ball:

If women didn't get off from sex, then men would be stuck with lubriderm and a box of Kleenex...

I hope that explains your predickament.

Inga said...

Shouting Thomas, maybe it's time to do some self reflection. White women perhaps don't find you irresistible.

Shouting Thomas said...

Inga, you're precisely the kind of confused, stupid cow I was referring to.

What a fucking mess you are!

Inga said...

Shouting Thomas, yes of course you have your head screwed on tightly, maybe too tightly, cutting off the circulation perhaps?

Smilin' Jack said...

Howard said...
Grinnin Jack-Ball:

If women didn't get off from sex, then men would be stuck with lubriderm and a box of Kleenex...


Unless they're like you. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

gerry said...

A new definition for "bit twiddling"

Half a byte is a nibble.

Interesting that a thread about female orgasms and Inga-drivel reminds me of my days with a GE 730...