June 2, 2013

When a woman does something like this, it's supposed to be hilarious.

Like: good for her. But this is flagrant destruction of property and — as we say in tort law   the intentional infliction of emotional distress. It's not funny at all. It should not be encouraged, and it's not even pro-woman to celebrate it, because what is required to find this funny is a foundational belief that women are really too weak to actually hurt anyone seriously. Only men are dangerous. This insults men and women.

And I realize that I'm encouraging the encouragement by linking to that article. Sorry.

By the way, the other woman in this story could have been maliciously screwing up the relationship and deliberately provoking the tortfeasing woman's rage. The man, whom we're expected to believe the enraged woman had loved, was never given a chance to defend himself. His guilt is presumed. Depriving the male of self-defense is an element in classic female revenge scenarios where a man is attacked as he sleeps.

In this current story, the man's body isn't attacked at all, as the pusillanimous woman takes aim at his property. We're expected to laugh as we imagine him frantically searching for his valuable personal items — including his laptop — before somebody else takes them.

42 comments:

madAsHell said...

He hooked up with Keisi??
Does she have a sister named Latisha?
They play video games??....together?
His only possessions are a laptop, video games and clothes?

Is Jason Blair writing for the Daily Mail??

Mitchell the Bat said...

"And I realize that I'm encouraging the encouragement by linking to that article. Sorry."

No you're not.

Don't be a liar.

Capt. Schmoe said...

Psycho bitch. Nothing like taking out rage (though justified) on inanimate objects.

I wonder if this type of behavior has a historical factor. Back in the day, a physically smaller female could in no way be able to pull off a physical attack on the subject of her ire, so his stuff was the target.

Either way, psycho.

Darrell said...

Love is a battlefield.

Astro said...

Meh. Fake.

But I don't think the Glenn Close nipple bump is fake.

Darrell said...

We know the usual way to handle a breakup is to throw his stuff on the street from a third-story window. Except his Levi's 501 buttonflies--of course.

edutcher said...

Sorry, but stuff like this gets women shot.

Or found with over 100 stab wounds in their body.

The last thing you should do is celebrate it.

Bob Ellison said...

Need pics.

Darrell said...

Piling it on a little deep, aren't we Ed?

Astro said...

Btw, who quotes Burt Bacharach?

"Breaking up is so very hard to do goes the old Burt Bacharach song..." (The writer is referencing "Make it easy on yourself ".)

Why not quote the Neil Sedaka song, which has that as the title:
"Breaking Up Is Hard to Do" is a song recorded by Neil Sedaka, and co-written by Sedaka and Howard Greenfield. (-Wikipedia)

Illuninati said...

Althouse said:
"It's not funny at all. It should not be encouraged, and it's not even pro-woman to celebrate it, because what is required to find this funny is a foundational belief that women are really too weak to actually hurt anyone seriously. Only men are dangerous. This insults men and women."

Excellent! Well stated.


edutcher said...

Darrell said...

Piling it on a little deep, aren't we Ed?

There's a reason The Blonde still has a restraining order on her ex and the police department on speed dial 16 years after the divorce was made final.

Calypso Facto said...

We need a corollary of Fen's Law that states "It's only OK if woman does it."

Pogo said...
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Pogo said...

Another reason to use the Althouse Amazon portal and read The Sociopath Next Door.

A must-read before dating. And employment. And voting.

edutcher said...

Calypso Facto said...

We need a corollary of Fen's Law that states "It's only OK if woman does it."

Hell, that's been around since Mills College threw a hissy fit because they were going to allow men.

AprilApple said...

Cute. But it's still theft.

acm said...

I'm conflicted. The handwriting, the presence of the name Kelsi, and the term all the way, and the fact that Facebook is involved lead me to think that this is about a pair of fourteen-year-olds. I'm more concerned that these children are going all the way and being lumped in as "men" and "women" (even if they aren't chronologically 14, they ain't grownups) than about who left whose videogames where. Maybe if the laptop is stolen, her parents can hold her allowance to pay back his parents?

TomHynes said...

Would you like to make a federal case out of this? Glad you asked. Her note said "Guess who left his Facebook open on the computer". Assuming it was a shared computer and the Facebook page was just sitting there, no crime. However, if it was his computer or she clicked to open his Facebook page, isn't it unauthorized access to a computer?

Sam L. said...

That Mills College story--"Why do the students so adamantly oppose opening their school to the opposite sex? "The issue isn't men," insists student body president Robyn Fisher. "It's the value of women's education. Women don't have a place in society to speak out." "

Time has proven this statement wrong. Now, men are suppressed.

Saint Croix said...

The article is actually mocking both people.

Bunny boiler: One interpretation of the bizarre hand-written note is that the writer is displaying all the psychotic tendencies of Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction

That was actually my reaction. All the hostility in the letter is submerged under little hearts and exclamation points. Kinda freaky. If she goes psychokiller the press will call her The Smiley Face Killer.

It is kinda funny because it's so awkward and deranged. And even if he is innocent of cheating, he's still guilty of having a bad girlfriend.

Dude, you picked her. My sympathy is limited.

Saint Croix said...

The handwriting, the presence of the name Kelsi, and the term all the way, and the fact that Facebook is involved lead me to think that this is about a pair of fourteen-year-olds.

And the spiral notebook! There's definitely a lot of childish clues here.

But no way they're actually underage. If he's 14, she's breaking into his parent's house and stealing all their stuff. I don't get that vibe at all.

My guess is college age. And either they were living together or she had a key to his apartment.

Nomennovum said...

[A]s we say in tort law the intentional infliction of emotional distress.

I am sick and tired of this absurd "crime." All it is is a state-granted trump card for women. Don't let anyone fool you into thinking otherwise.

"Emotional" abuse is a tried-and-true method for a wife to get her husband out of the house in order to steal his home, separate him from his kids by force, and extract maximum child support payments (disguised, tax-free alimony).

Tell me why the filing of divorce under no-fault laws isn't prima facie evidence of emotional abuse by the filer.

Emotional abuse of an adult is a crock, nothing more than a way for women to rationalize their wanting out of a marriage. "He ignores me and yells at me!"

The Godfather said...

There's a Carrie Underwood song, "Before He Cheats", in which the wronged girl friend gets revenge by thrashing the guy's expensive car:

"I dug my key into the side
of his pretty little souped up 4 wheel drive,
carved my name into his leather seats...
I took a Louisville slugger to both headlights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires...
Maybe next time he'll think before he cheats."

A DJ on a country music station (maybe WMZQ in DC?) came up with a parody, in which the guy sings back that he's going to turn her over to the cops for malicious destruction of his car. I liked the original song, but the parody was "on point" as lawyers say.

Jake said...

I agree with you Ann, but my immediate reaction is, how did she get the T.V. in her ass?

Saint Croix said...

I think men are doomed to lose the Sex Wars since women are always teaming up and comparing notes and taking classes in Outrage 101.

Meanwhile, when a woman does some psycho shit to a man, we think it's funny.

Plus, they got all the sperm they need in a bank!

We're doomed. Worker bees, that's where we're headed.

bagoh20 said...

I think it's funny, and creative, and demonstrates initiative. I like her. This is what Lorena Bobbitt should have done instead of hiding John's penis. That was out of line.

bagoh20 said...

Nice one, Jake.

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bagoh20 said...

Althouse is missing the real effect. It is funny, always would be, and always will be if you're not the victim, and saying it shouldn't be is just another "Get off my lawn" windmill sword fight.

The important effect is that hearing these things that women do will cause men to avoid women who seem unbalanced and overly emotional. This is a good thing. Maybe then these women will reproduce less, and in the future, we can avoid electing "Lightworkers" to handle serious jobs.

Michael Haz said...

Taking things that belong to someone else is still a crime, isn't it? A more serious crime if those things are valued over $500.

I would have called the police.

Kirk Parker said...

Goodbye, Earl!

bagoh20 said...

"I would have called the police."

That would add to the funny, so yea. Insist on pressing charges, and damn, it gets hilarious.

There is no more important quality to look for in a woman than reasonableness and calm. This explains my never being married.

Carol said...

I agree with Astro, this smells fake, with a strong whiff of scenario-pimping.

Carl said...

The alpha response is to laugh at this woman. She's such a loser she thinks the man values his laptop and video games more than her pussy -- and the delicious irony is -- she's 100% right.

The confident woman who believes in her own sexual power doesn't demean herself by using her power over his chattels, like a greasy slum-lord faced with unpaid rent; she is fully confident that threatening to deprive him of herself is all the power she'll ever need. This broad is clearly a whiner and deeply insecure. Will probably address her loss by going shopping and gaining 10 pounds, rather than finding a much hotter guy and posting FB photos of the two of them in Speedos in Barbados. No wonder he prefers Kelsi.

He and Kelsi should have a good laugh at this. He can tell her she's definitely worth a laptop and video games, and she can laugh at the fact that her opponent has only a knife to bring to a gun fight.

Freeman Hunt said...

It would have been a lot less trouble for her to pack up his stuff, move the boxes to the porch, and change the locks.

I wonder if how bad this seems depends on where one lives. Here he'd be likely to recover all of his stuff.

Freeman Hunt said...

"... because what is required to find this funny is a foundational belief that women are really too weak to actually hurt anyone seriously."

But then, one must admit that that is true to a point. Unarmed, there is no way I could seriously hurt my husband or any similar man. I'm not insulted by that reality; it just is. I don't think it diminishes me.

For clarity's sake: I don't think this woman's note is hilarious. I think she was wrong to do it, and it made me find it unsurprising that her boyfriend was looking for a romantic escape route.

Anglelyne said...

When a woman does something like this, it's supposed to be hilarious.

Really? By whom? Do you have a lot of people in your social network who would think that this trailer-trash behavior was funny or cute or anything but "low class"?

I've known of women who did things like this (destroying ex's property, reading his mail/email, etc.), but only in that "sister of an acquaintance of a friend of a friend" sort of way. But no decent people thought they were anything but trash.

But I guess the world's been "defining trashiness down" at an accelerating rate since my socially formative years.

Joe said...

She's likely has borderline personality disorder and he should be glad he only lost a few things rather than his life.

(For those who think it's fake, try dealing with borderlines, or be married to one, and your opinion will change in a hurry.)

shirley elizabeth said...

What makes me think it's all fake is that she seems the type of person to post the note directly on his facebook wall.

Thorley Winston said...

Am I the only one who noticed that this story vent viral the same day President Obama said we need to have a “national conversation” about mental illness?


kentuckyliz said...

The DSM 5 is out. Borderline Personality Disorder is now Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder. These folks are rarely violent to others. Their hippocampus and amygdala are smaller and therefore they are hypersensitive to negative emotions, which last longer in their brains, and they are less bonded in relationship with others. They don't have the ability to deal with negative emotions but usually turn it inward to self injury, suicide attempts, or other self destructive impulsive behavior. It's not directed towards others and it's not a ploy for attention.

The Jodi Arias trial commentators include mental health professionals who should know better. They are perpetuating myths about violent BPD's that Hollywood puts out in its creepy movies.